Jessica Lahey is a teacher and writer who writes about education, parenting, and child welfare. She writes the bi-weekly "Parent-Teacher Conference" advice column for the New York Times, and is a regular contributor to the Atlantic. Lahey has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools. Her work has appeared in The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, The Washington Post, and the New York Times. Lahey's first book, "The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed," was published in 2015. Lahey received her B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts, and her J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law.
How do we equip kids with the tools they need to avoid substance abuse? How can we identify a teen who is at risk? And what can be done to prevent our young ones from developing dependency issues?Every parent is haunted by these questions, myself included. To get answers, I did what you do when you host a podcast—I turn to the experts. Meet Jessica Lahey.Returning for her second appearance on the show, Jess is a graduate of the University of Massachusetts with a J.D. concentrating on juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina. She’s an English and writing teacher, a commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. Best known as the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure—a non-negotiable must read for every parent and the focus of our first podcast (RRP #282)—Jess also co-hosts the popular #AmWriting podcast alongside fellow podcast alum KJ Dell’Antonia (RRP #396). But the primary focus of today’s discussion is her hot off the press second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence.This is a conversation about how to have those difficult conversations with your kids about alcoholism and drug addiction.It’s about how to effectively guide our young ones through the perils of substance exploration, dependency, and abuse.And most of all, it’s about arming parents with invaluable, evidence-based strategies and practical tools helpful in raising, supporting, and educating resilient, addiction-resistant children.To read more click here. You can also watch our exchange on YouTube. And as always, the podcast streams wild and free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.As someone who has done battle with the demons of alcoholism, and as a dad of four delicately parenting two teens, this terrain isn’t just a useful lens on developmental psychology, it’s of particular personal pertinence.Whether or not you’re a parent, chances are there’s at least one young person in your life currently in jeopardy for substance dependence. It’s thus incumbent upon all of us to better understand the nature of that risk—and how to effectively guide the young ones among us towards safe harbor.May this conversation serve that purpose—because Jess understands the delicate nature of this dynamic better than anyone I know.Peace + Plants,Listen, Watch & SubscribeApple Podcasts | YouTube | Spotify | Stitcher | Google PodcastsThanks to this week’s sponsorsCalm: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life with guided meditations, sleep stories, and more. Right now, my listeners can get a special limited-time promotion of 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at It includes unlimited access to ALL of Calm’s amazing content. Get started today!Blinkist: Unlimited access to read or listen to a massive library of condensed non-fiction books from self-help, to business, health, and history—all for one low price. Join me and 12 million others gleaning from the best and brightest. 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To reconnect with natural movement, go to and use the code RICHROLL to get 20% off your order.For a complete list of all RRP sponsors and their respective vanity url's and discount codes, visit my Resources page and click "Sponsors".SHOW NOTESConnect with Jessica: Website | Instagram | Twitter | FacebookPodcast: #AmWritingBook: The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of DependenceBook: The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can SucceedThe Wall Street Journal: How to Talk to Your Child About Drugs and AlcoholThe Atlantic: Stories by Jessica LaheyThe New York Times: How to Help Your Child Succeed at SchoolThe New York Times: Teenagers, Dealing With Addiction, on What Might Have HelpedThe Washington Post: Fewer teens are drinking. But a group of pediatricians is begging parents to be vigilant.The Washington Post: Back to school in a pandemic: A guide to all the factors keeping parents and educators up at nightThe Washington Post: My third-grader was remote learning in a pandemic. I wasn’t going to worry about a C- in PE.The Boston Globe: 4 ways families can find silver linings from this terrible pandemic yearFor 1000s of delicious, customized plant-based recipes & so much more, check out our Plantpower Meal PlannerHOW CAN I SUPPORT THE PODCAST?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Subscribe & Review:  iTunes | Spotify | Stitcher | Soundcloud | Google PodcastsDonate: Check out our Patreon accountSupport The Sponsors: One of the best ways to support the podcast is to support our sponsors. For a complete list of all RRP sponsors and their respective vanity url's and discount codes, visit my Resources page and click "Sponsors".Thank The Team: I do not do this alone. Send your love to Jason Camiolo for production, audio engineering and show notes; Margo Lubin and Blake Curtis for video, editing and graphics; portraits by Ali Rogers & Davy Greenberg; copywriting by Georgia Whaley; and theme music by Tyler Piatt. Trapper Piatt & Hari Mathis.*Disclosure: Books and products denoted with an asterisk are hyperlinked to an affiliate program. We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to and affiliated sites. See for privacy and opt-out information.
Jessica Lahey is an American teacher and author. She writes the bi-weekly 'Parent-Teacher Conference' advice column for the New York Times, is a regular contributor to the Atlantic and wrote the book, The Gift of Failure. Jessica chats with the Armchair Expert about the importance of childhood autonomy, the level of parental involvement to maximize childhood growth, and the profundity of the word 'yet' when engaging with children. Dax asks about the concept of "desirable difficulties" and Jessica explains why the internet hasn't replaced the need for learning facts. The two discuss loving your children for who they are; not who you want them to be, how to commit information to long term memory and allowing kids to have ownership of their knowledge.
Jessica Lahey, teacher, mom and bestselling author of The Gift of Failure, is here with tons of advice to help our kids become independent and thrive! We cover homework, bullying, rewards, parent/teacher relationships, the importance of free play and her surprise endorsement from Kristen Bell! Jessica also gives us a sneak peek at the fascinating subject of her next book. You can find Jessica Lahey on her website, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter, and find more info or purchase The Gift of Failure here. (I chose it as the inaugural pick of the This Mom Loves Virtual Book Club and we had some great discussions about it throughout this month! We're reading Woman on the Edge next - come join us!) Also in this episode: I made a big announcement about TML x HGBR, my first This Mom Loves product collaboration, with the gorgeous jewelry brand Hidden Gems By Raquel, launching March 1st! AND This Mom Loves logo t-shirts are now for sale! Order by February 7th to get in on the first batch! Thanks as always to my fantastic podcast editor Lukas Wojcicki!
On episode 42, Whitney and Kristen have the honor to sit down with author and New York Times bestselling author, Jessica Lahey. Jessica is the author of The Gift of Failure, a book dedicated to providing parents with solutions, targeted advice and a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their kids failures. She is a parenting guru and offers our listeners tangible advice for kids of all ages. On top of being a NYT best selling author, Jessica is a a mom, wife, teacher, podcast host, and new TV creator. This episode is a can't miss. On this episode we talk about: - the importance of giving your child space - the negative implications of over parenting - the #1 thing kids say they want their parents to know about them - how to encourage kids learning and set them up for adulthood - the importance of asking for your child's opinion and getting them involved in daily decisions Connect with Jessica Listen to Jessica's podcast, #AmWriting Connect with Jessica on Instagram Get her book, The Gift of Failure Follow along with @tglpodcast on Instagram: Get social using #tgltuesdays & don't forget to stalk your hosts: @kgrace01 and @positivelyposie
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