Podcaster, author and trainer Lara Currie, has 25 plus years experience as an investigative journalist, a private investigator, and a court-appointed child advocate in high conflict divorces. And now bosses whose success is dependent on their ability to communicate effectively hire her to help them create strong boundaries, recognize triggers, and identify responses that lead to conflict so that they are able to navigate and minimize those difficult situations with Grace. Lara specializes in working with those in high-stakes, high-stress, purpose driven fields.
"Listen to hear, not to respond.” Lara Summary: The simple act of listening can diffuse a tense situation. We’ve all experienced a conversation where the other person is just waiting to respond, not really listening. When it comes to conflict, it is almost always the case that the people involved are waiting to talk, to explain, to convince, to persuade, to justify, not to really listen and hear or understand. Empathetic listening is a gift. In today’s episode, I go through how to listen so that you can really hear what the other person is saying and experiencing. Open heart and nonjudgmental empathy Remember your body Eye contact - Listen for feelings as well as their perceived facts, try to picture what they are saying Dont try to solve it, even in your mind It’s okay to ask questions, to clarify, not to judge,  solve or justify. For example, ‘how did that make you feel’ It comes down to your intention, you have to want to listen,   Listen to hear, not to respond. Leave room for silence   You can say something like, I am sorry you are going through that, that must  be hard, or painful,   ‘I hear what you are saying,’ ‘That gives me a lot to think about’ thank you ‘Thank you for sharing that with me,’   What you’ll hear on today’s episode: What is active listening Why solving the problem isn’t the point Empathy is a muscle that needs exercising What my 12-year-old daughter taught me Non-verbal cues Pay attention to your body Making eye contact The importance of an apology   Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/ Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments   © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Alireza Attari on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone
We’ve come a long way baby… and there is farther to go. When it comes to gender equality, the pace of change is slow. If you are a woman in a male-dominated field, the pace of change can feel glacial, and at times, as if it will never come.  Anger has been the moral property of males when women are angry it is a warning of indignity, threat, insult, or harm.  Expressing this anger may get you dismissed or labeled as “hysterical”.  So what does a strong woman in a male-dominated field need in order to thrive? Tune into today’s episode and find out! "Empowered women, empower women.” What you’ll hear on today’s episode: Entitlement and action Subtle (and not so subtle) gender bias Stereotype driven expectations Self-doubt Expressing anger Peer support Mentorship Paying it forward Personal and Professional development Women in Leadership Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Work with Lara: Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Corporate Training Difficult Happens by Lara Currie Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/    Resources: Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments Mentioned in This Episode: Hilda Bryant Theresa B Smith © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Photo by Alexandra I. on Unsplash Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone
Divorce, changing jobs, shifting friendships, or even say a nasty virus. Hard times and change are inevitable, so how do you make it through and build resilience? When you are no stranger to dysfunction, trauma, manipulation tactics, and change, times of crises can seem almost calming. Lara Currie & Ameé Quiriconi talk about how good change can come from challenging times. The COVID pandemic has laid bare the shortcomings and the strengths of our leadership, people's emotions are raw and with that, fear will fill the vacuum. Building resilience and creating sweeping change takes time, like turning a cruise ship in open waters, it can seem, at times, like nothing at all is changing when in fact you (we, us) are headed in a whole different direction. From divorce to self-esteem, from nurses on the front line to historians from an earlier generation, we dive into it all. Join us for Coffee & Conversation aired live (to tape) on YouTube
Summary:   Sometimes avoiding a tough conversation is the way to go, the ones that involve issues that work themselves out with time. Most conversations don’t. They need to be addressed, confronted, or even involve a “carefrontation”.   How do you do this? How do you have a tough conversation that you have avoided or just plain don’t want to have?   It can feel a bit daunting, and always has a physical component (racing heart anyone?) Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered with this tip.   In today’s episode, what one thing you should do to make it through a tough conversation.     What you’ll hear on today’s episode: When you live from the outside in Why it’s important to live from the inside out The importance of having only one intention The importance of communication Stress is inevitable - do this Your body will react Honesty and openness How thinking about something is different than speaking it There will be an emotional and social component Take your power back   Watch the Bonus episode and Subscribe for video tips YouTube Work with Lara:   Apply for an On-air Coaching Call! Free Breakthrough Assessment Got a Question? Comment? Email Lara@difficulthappens.com Difficult Happens by Lara Currie                                                                     Difficulthappens.com/workwithme/   Resources: Join the Difficult Happens Facebook group  “Community Happens Group” Series on Manipulation Series on Assessments     © Lara Currie 2020 Show Intro music is Whispering Through by Asura Episode Photo by Listen for free on the go with any one of these players for both Android & iPhone
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Episode Count
135
Podcast Count
9
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2 days, 15 hours