This was a very heavy, you-need-to-look-in-the-mirror-as-a-parent episode of the MEN series - it hit so close to home. Celeste and John begin by talking about how John remembers using "you're such a woman" as an insult to another boy as a kid, and how that was wrapped up in some desire to be perceived as masculine. Ben James then tells his parenting story about wanting so desperately to raise woke and tolerant kids, but realizing he can't force them to be anyone but who they're going to be. I've written about this many times - I have two boys, am raising them with an atmosphere of tolerance, and try to show them examples of how to accept people who are different from them and to value individual worth. But I will have to accept that I can't control them; I am only one influence in their lives, and society still has so many messages to boys and young men about what it means to be a "man." The worst is to be a mama's boy. But that has to change; I want to raise independent, strong individuals, but I also want them to realize people of any gender have valid feelings and emotions are critical to have, share, and work through. I guess I could write an entire essay on this topic (or at least a multi-page journal entry) but I just want to say - please listen to this series.