In episode 9 of the Ask Ezra Intimacy Coaching Podcast we talked with Raj (part 2) who is an asexual fart fetishist. We discuss with him how shame impacts attractiveness and how negative self-talk can prevent us from experiences. Other topics we discuss are: Asexuality, labels for communication, demi-sexual, sex of verse, a wider definition of sex to include BDSM, celebrating a sexuality, the power play of sex, sex as a service, acceptance as a resource for sexiness, how concealment or non-acceptance makes people suspicious, negative self talk, Beliefs and values, combating negative inner voices with contradictions, I'm hot s*** and people want me, submissive polyamorist masochist, fetish, fart, foot, face it in, Femme Dom, public masturbation, Junior High School, breath-play, dealing with prejudice at the dungeon, fetish Community, fart sniffers Anonymous Los Angeles shame dies in empathy, shame dies in community, recounting shameful memories as a way to minimize shames impact, pay for play, developing an intimate relationship with a pro, developing wants and needs list, anal without warming up, crossing your own boundaries, agency, powerless men, submissive men, content creation, roleplay, degradation, loss of agency, polyamory.