“The strongest force in the human psyche is the need to remain consistent with our identity.”  So, what is your identity?  Is it helping you or hurting you?  Ask yourself, “Who am I?”  Do you see yourself as optimistic or pessimistic?  Worthy or not worthy?  Weak or strong?  Happy or unhappy?

If your identity is not aligned with who you want to be, then it’s time to make a shift.  In order to do so, you must follow these steps:

DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.  What does life mean to you?  What do you believe about yourself?  What is the story you tell yourself?  Get clear on who you are right now.  Chances are you have an inner whiner who is showing your limitations, holding you back, and preventing you from getting to where you want to be.  This negative voice shows you where you need to make a change.

MAKE A CONSCIOUS CHOICE TO DECIDE WHO YOU WANT TO BECOME.  What are your goals and dreams?  Ask yourself, “Who do I need to be to achieve these goals?”  Write it down in your journal.  In fact, take a few minutes and envision yourself in this new identity.  What are you like?  How do you speak?  What do you do?  Clarify the end goal so you know what you are working toward.

OWN YOUR POWER AND PUT IN THE WORK.  You have the power to shape your identity.  In order to make it happen, you must own this power and put in the work to make the change.  Create action steps to help you get there.  Write these down in your journal.  If you have a strong enough “why,” it will help you make the right choices and pull you forward in achieving your goals.

INCORPORATE INCANTATIONS.  Incantations are powerful tools.  Create several by asking yourself what feelings you want to feel.  Write them as if what you want to create already exists for yourself.  Some examples are:

“I am worthy of love.  I am perfect.  I am whole just as God created me.”

“Life is happening for me, not against me.”

Remember, your thoughts of today are paving the way for tomorrow’s thoughts.  Today’s reality is resulting from your thoughts from yesterday and the day before.  Start making a change today.  Find clarity about who you want to be and start to own that power.  What you want already exists—all you need to do is embrace it and put in the work to achieve it!