Eli Finkel, PhD is a social psychology professor who studies interpersonal attraction, marriage, and how our social relationships influence our goal achievement. He is the author of the bestselling book The All-Or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work and is a professor at Northwestern University, where he has appointments in the psychology department and the Kellogg School of Management. In his role as director of Northwestern’s Relationships and Motivation Lab (RAMLAB), he has published over150 scientific papers and is a contributor to the Op-Ed page of The New York Times.

Eli got our attention because his book points to some very important tips about how to make the best of a relationship during a global pandemic. We thought it would be good to check in with him. He also shared a historical perspective on marriage that is instrumental in understanding how marriage got to where it is today and why marriage is so much more complicated, for some people, than it has ever been.

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Links

Eli Finkel, PhD: https://elifinkel.com/about-eli

“The All or Nothing Marriage”: https://elifinkel.com/allornothingmarriage/

Romeo & Juliet: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romeo_and_Juliet

Tristan & Isolde: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_and_Iseult

Anna Karenina: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna_Karenina

The Scarlet Letter: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scarlet_Letter

“Wild”: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2305051/  

“Eat Pray Love”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eat_Pray_Love

Netscape Navigator: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Netscape_Navigator

eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/

Nate Silver “The Signal and The Noise”: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13588394-the-signal-and-the-noise

John Gottman, PhD: https://www.gottman.com/

Brad Shuck, PhD: https://louisville.edu/education/faculty/shuck

Indian Matchmaking: https://www.netflix.com/title/80244565

Musical Links

Nirvana “Nevermind”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIGl_qth81c

Pearl Jam: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qM0zINtulhM

Alice In Chains: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWK0kqjPSVI

Red Hot Chili Peppers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlUKcNNmywk

Screaming Trees: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PE5f561Y1x4

Poison: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xCChxBSRo1Y