Hello, Beyond Bitchy listeners! It’s been a long time, and I’m thrilled to have something new to share with you. When I recorded the previous episode of Beyond Bitchy in 2021, I knew two things: it was time to wrap up the show, and there’s alwa

#143 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part II)

Jul 28th, 2021 33m 43s

Last week, I talked about the first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound familiar, I recommend going back to listen to Episode 142.) This week, I’ll cover th

#142 - 4 Essentials for Mastering Boundaries (Part I)

Jul 21st, 2021 39m 50s

I’m lucky enough to have been able to give myself the gift of a 27-day sabbatical, which gave me so much clarity into both my personal and professional life. And now that I’m back, I’m inspired to offer some insight about the four common challe

#141 - Are Boundaries a Sign of Disapproval?

Jul 7th, 2021 18m 11s

People have a lot of misconceptions about boundaries. You may hear people say that boundaries are harsh, rigid, a punishment, or even selfish. Some people even believe that sharing boundaries is a way to control others or tell them what to do.

#140 - ENCORE - Rest, Don't Quit

Jun 30th, 2021 31m 10s

Lately, have you noticed a sense of collective exhaustion, sadness, and impatience? Right now, it may feel like there’s not a lot to celebrate. This is especially true with the holidays coming up, since they're going to look much different than

#139 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries

Jun 23rd, 2021 33m 17s

At some point, all of us will have experiences that require us to focus our attention on ourselves in an intense way. For example, an advanced cancer diagnosis, an accident, or shocking news may require you to go into extreme self-care. This is

#138 - ENCORE - Rest, Rejuvenation, & Boundaries

Jun 16th, 2021 22m 39s

Today’s episode is all about rest, rejuvenation, and boundaries, which absolutely relate to one another! I’ll explain why rest is so important and why it’s so difficult to unplug in our uber-connected, device saturated world. I’ll also give you

#137 - Trade Your Triangles for Straight Lines

Jun 9th, 2021 23m 55s

Are you ready to trade your triangles for straight lines? Don’t worry, you’re not back in geometry class; this is actually related to the talking boundary. Triangulation is something that we do all the time, but we should all work toward straig

#136 - When Someone You Love Is in Danger

Jun 2nd, 2021 26m 22s

People in your life may be facing a variety of dangers, from mental health issues or suicidal urges to addiction or unsafe behavior. But today, I’ll focus on a specific type of danger: physically or sexually abusive relationships. It’s painful

#135 - When Your Ex Doesn't Behave

May 26th, 2021 37m 11s

Before we start, I’d like to offer you a quick apology! You may not have been able to find the earliest episodes of the show because of a mistake in the podcast settings on the back end. That’s fixed now, and you should be able to access all of

#134 - Using the Talking Format (Part 3 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)

May 19th, 2021 32m

Are you ready for the third part of my series on the talking boundary? This one is all about a specific process from the work of Pia Mellody: the Talking Format. This strategy is a roadmap around how to share information with another person, an

#133 - Speaking to Be Heard (Part 2 of a Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary)

May 12th, 2021 36m 43s

If you haven’t heard last week’s episode yet, I recommend listening to that one too if you’re interested in this exploration of the talking boundary. In that episode, I covered what the talking boundary is, and what talking boundary violations

#132 - She Said What?! Part I of A Deeper Dive Into the Talking Boundary

May 5th, 2021 36m 37s

By special request, I’m doing a deeper dive into the talking boundary. I’ve mentioned this boundary in 25 episodes, but I’ve never gone into the level of depth that it deserves. When your talking boundary is functioning well, you express yourse

#131 - ENCORE - Listening When Trauma Speaks (Dedicated to the Memory of George Floyd)

Apr 21st, 2021 42m 14s

Right now, in the United States, trauma is speaking. Prejudice and racism wounds, and are potentially traumatizing to anyone who experiences them. But listening to another person’s trauma is a challenging thing to do, especially if we perceive

#130 - What to Do When You Regret Saying Yes to a Request

Apr 14th, 2021 27m 13s

We’ve all been there: you say “yes” to a request or accept an invitation, then realize that it just doesn’t work for you. But are you allowed to change your mind even if you’ve already said yes? As counterintuitive as it might feel, the short a

#129 - What is "Leaky Sexual Energy"?

Apr 7th, 2021 19m 29s

If you’ve ever encountered someone whose sexual energy seems like it’s just spilling out all around them, you already have an idea of what “leaky sexual energy” is. While it can be hard to pinpoint or define (and isn’t based simply on what clot

#128 - Bodies & Boundaries

Mar 31st, 2021 20m 18s

Did you know that tuning into your body is a brilliant source of information about you and your emotions? It can even help you learn about the boundaries you may want to set. The first step is to notice when you feel emotions in your body, and

#127 - ENCORE - Don't Bite the Bait! How to Respond When You're Feeling Baited

Mar 24th, 2021 36m 4s

From time to time, everyone struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay connected. Today, I

#126 - Are Your Consequences Punishment or Self-Care?

Mar 17th, 2021 20m 31s

The next monthly boundaries clarifier workshop is coming up next Tuesday, March 23, 2021! Bring an issue or boundary, and we’ll all work on it together by using the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. But let’s get onto today’s topic: your resp

#125 - You Have the Power: Revisiting Step 3 of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Process

Mar 10th, 2021 50m 38s

In case you haven’t already heard, I’m holding monthly boundaries clarifier workshops. At these events, we walk through the first four steps of the 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier. Today’s episode was inspired by something that came up in th

#124 - Repeat After Me: I Am Not Responsible For Other People's Feelings!

Mar 3rd, 2021 30m 43s

You are not responsible for other people’s feelings. This may feel hard to believe if you tend to immediately feel responsible and guilty when someone is upset with you (as many of us do!). Tune in to learn how to navigate situations where some

#123 - ENCORE - Extreme Self-Care and Boundaries

Feb 24th, 2021 34m 36s

#122 - What Other People Do is 100% About Them

Feb 17th, 2021 18m 34s

Lately, I’ve been focusing on the theme of “return to you.” And getting caught up in the belief that what other people do is about you can get in the way of returning to, or knowing, yourself. So I’d like to dedicate this episode to exploring t

#121 - Quick Tips #16: When Grandma Pushes Your Limits

Feb 10th, 2021 21m 41s

Sooner or later, every single one of us will feel manipulated by someone. That’s why this episode is for you, even if you don’t specifically have a grandmother who’s pushing your limits. Today I’ll cover some strategies to help you find solutio

#120 - The Man Cave, Take 2

Jan 27th, 2021 39m 55s

In case you missed it last time, I have an exciting announcement! Next month (February 2021), I’ll be starting a brand new event: a monthly live, interactive boundary clarifier workshop. Sign up here to be the first to get updates! If someone i