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 Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 37: Understanding Their Choice Part 1 This podcast features an intimate interview of a birth mother and birth father as they explain why they chose adoption for their unborn baby.  They candidly dicsuss their lives and life choices that led them to their adoption path.  Their lives are relatable to so many others and listenting to their story will not only answer questions you may have but educate you what life is really like in their shoes.  Dealing with life on the streets to incarceration to drug use to gang involvement is dicusssed openly and honestly.   For privacy purposes, the names of the individuals we interviewed are not listed or mentioned. Here, at Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency, we believe in emotional, financial, mental, and physical assistance for our clients during the adoption process. Our agency is unique in that we have a food pantry and a maternity closet accessible to our clients. We also assist our clients with locating and using state resources that are accessible to them. We understand all aspects of adoption as we have staff members who were adopted, have adopted, and have placed a child for adoption. We understand what it means to need financial help and the emotions that go along with placing a child for adoptiony ou are not alone.  We are here to help you.  (623) 695-4112.  Make the call today.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 25:  Support & The Ability to Grieve Services provided for Adoption Aftercare Services Education. Learn about your choice and the road which led you down it.Self-Care: Take care of yourself oin every area.Reading:  A number of good books discuss the birth mother experienceFind specialized counseling. Therapy with other birth mothers. Individual counseling can be a means to address the past, to incorporate the past into the present, and to move into the futureBelief System Know, accept and believe that you are a mother to this childForgiveness.  Know that you did the very best you could in the position you are in, the previous choices you had made and the circumstances surrounding your choice.  Forgiveness of yourself is paramaount,.Acceptance.  Find peace in yourself and in your decision. The Donna K. Evans Foundation is located at www.dkefoundation.com at 8433 N. Black Canyon Highway Building 6, Suite 158, Phoenix, AZ 85021. "Neither society nor the adopter who holds the child in her arms wants to confront the agony of the mother from whose arms that same child was taken." ~Margaret McDonald Lawrence    
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 27: National Adoption Month #NationalAdoptionMonth  National Adoption Day is officially celebrated on the Saturday before Thanksgiving. National Adoption Awareness Month is here! It’s a month-long event to encourage people to learn about adoption, recognize people who have been impacted by adoption, and organize positive adoption-related events.  Facts About National Adoption Day: The awareness color for Adoption is White.National Adoption Day is observed annually on the Saturday before Thanksgiving.To date, the dreams of 75,000 children in foster care have come true as part of National Adoption Day events. A foster child usually has to wait nearly 4 years to be adopted, but more than 20,000 kids age out of the foster care system at age 18 every year without either forever family or permanent home. The aim of National Adoption Day is to provide forever families to as many children as possible. National Adoption Awareness Month is here! It’s a month-long event to encourage people to learn about adoption, recognize people who have been impacted by adoption, and organize positive adoption-related events. There are many ways you and your family can learn and participate this year! Retell Your Child’s Adoption Story to ThemSpread Awareness through Your Social MediaHave a Family Movie Month - Watch Positive Adoption-Related MoviesDonate Time and Money to a Local Organization that Supports AdoptionRead Adoption Related Books with your child If you are ready to begin your adoption plan or just want to learn more about adoption- The best thing to do is to call our 24hour/7 day a week phone number at 623-695-4112 .
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 19: Why Adoption Aftercare Now?   Not all heroes wear capes, they just wear smiles and my mother wore I huge one.  I learned this through my own adoption story.  I believe all people have a purpose in life; this is mine.  All the roads in my life have lead me to where I am today.  I do what I love, but more importantly, I am giving back and leaving a legacy of my mother’s story.  Life doesn’t often offer second chances or do-overs and in the death of Donna K. Evans, there is no second chance.  But what I learned and we all can learn is you can take something tragic and difficult and turn it into something beautiful and magical.   That is where I give my standard line of having to find peace within yourself and know that good vs. evil one and being proud of yourself is more important than other people being proud of you. Support women through adoption, with your donation, encouragement and support you are helping a woman find her wings and fly toward her dreams. The Donna K. Evans Foundation is located at www.dkefoundation.com at 8433 N. Black Canyon Highway Building 6, Suite 158, Phoenix, AZ 85021.)  
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 9: The Life of a Birth Mother: Snowflakes Birth mothers come from all walks of life. There is no “typical” birth mother and is a mistake to stereotype a birthmother. There are often similarities, but every single birth mother is different, like a snowflake. The portrait of a birthmother has changed over the past fifteen years, but to stereotype or categorize is wrong. Attributing factors in Arizona may include, but not be limited to: Lack of Social ServicesFinancial HardshipsIncreased PovertyIncreased Drug Use Birth mothers are not all teenagers or college students, in fact we see very much the opposite. The age range I have seen in the past fifteen years ranges from the age of thirteen up until the age of forty-five. Majority of the birth mothers we work with are between the ages of twenty-two to thirty-two.    Adoptions are not all open and they are not all closed. Most adoptions we see are semi-open; where they receive letters and pictures and maybe a visit or two. This is just the beginning of incorrect stereotypes surrounding adoption that we want to clarify. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering adoption, a licensed adoption agency is the best option. Local licensed adoption agencies can meet face to face, hold your hand when needed, and can remain with you throughout your pregnancy. In addition, you can visit your case worker after placement. Building Arizona Families/ AZ Pregnancy Help is a licensed adoption agency. You can call or text us 24/7 at: 623.695-4112.  
Epsiode 22. Adoptive Families Beginning the Adoption Process- What You Need to Know   We hold adoption information seminars across the United States, speaking to adoptive families about the adoption process and educating society on adoption.  In speaking with families interested in adoption, we are asked the same questions at every adoption seminar: What are birth mothers looking for in an adoptive family?What if I have other children, will I still be chosen by a birth mother?  What if I am a single mother?Why is open adoption so popular is it like co-parenting? How long do you have to wait to have a baby placed with you?  What affects the length of the wait?How do families afford an adoption? Often times birth parents choose a family based upon: Type of Adoption PreferenceLocation of FamilyOther ChildrenPetsFuture Childcare Plans: Stay at Home Parent vs DaycareReligionLifestyle: Educated / Traveled / HobbiesReason for adopting Building Arizona Families / AZ Pregnancy Help is a local adoption agency.  If you would like to create an Arizona adoption plan, please contact us at (623) 695-4112.  If you are considering placing baby for adoption and want to find a family for you baby in Arizona or anywhere in the United states, we can help.  Please remember, there are alternative to abortion and we offer free unplanned pregnancy help.  We also offer financial help for pregnancy when choosing adoption.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 26: After An Adoption Match Fails How do you move forward after an adoption match fails.  Listen to an adoptive family first-hand how he and his wife moved forward.  Learn how to look part the grief towards the rainbow at the end of your adoption journey, how to restore faith in your adoption choice and how to grieve and move on.  Accept grief for what it is, understand it may be part of your adoption journey and if it is learn what to do to get through this difficult time.  Learn more about the adoption process and how families move forward and what happens after an adoption match fails.  Believe you will end up adopting the baby you were meant to have.  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, the expert on grief said,“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” Recommendations: CounselingHealingSupport GroupsRe-EvaluateOpen Heart “Grief never ends… But it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith… It is the price of love.” – author unknown Adoption is always the beginning, never the end. Adoption may not have been your dream, but understand adoption is the dream of another woman who may not be able to conceive. Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency.  www.buildingarizonafamilies.com
  Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 34: Adoptive Parent Hospital Information This episode is specific to Arizona and Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency.  The information contained in this podcast may or may not be applicable to other states and or other adoption agencies. With Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency, we have a designated adoptive family case manager and a designated birth mother case manager.  When you are at the hospital, your case manager will assist you in: Obtaining a nesting room at the hospital if the hospital allows it and has a low occupancy level.They will go over with you again what the birth mother’s hospital plan is and if she has changed any of her requests.If the birth mother wants you in the delivery room, most likely the birth mother case manager will also be in the delivery room.  Most of the time the adoptive mother and (if invited) will stand behind her shoulder.  Important things to know: After delivery, the baby is banded and the birthmother receives a band and the adoptive mother receives a band; as only two are issued in addition to the baby.  In order for there to be “re-banding” it requires two hospital personnel.  After consents the baby is re-banded and both adoptive parents receive a band . The adoptive family needs to have a car seat for discharge.Make sure you have an outfit for the baby to wear homeHave something for the birth mother to carry out of the hospital, so she is not empty-handed: a stuffed animal, flowers, etc...
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 43: Working in the Adoption Field So often, everyone from family members, friends, clients, strangers or really anyone who catches wind that I work in the adoption field seems to be really curious as to what it is really like to work in the adoption world. My favorite- go-to answer is “It’s the best and worst job you will ever have.”  When an adoption case worker spends a significant amount of time with her birth mother client; often times a relationship on both sides develops.  The adoption caseworker has to maintain appropriate boundaries and be able to disconnect emotionally when decisions have to be made.  There is a fine line where you have to remain professional and yet personable.  In some instances, a case worker can become a significant person in a birth mother’s life; she may have come to the agency alone and the emotional support of a caseworker is imperative to her well being.  A birth mother may be going throw an incredibly difficult time in her life during her adoption journey and she bonds and attaches to her case worker.  In this situation, I have seen where a birth mother has a more difficult time saying “see you later” to the case worker than her newborn.  This is where an aftercare program is crucial to maintain a relationship with the adoption entity and provide the ability for a continued relationship with another avenue rather than becoming pregnant again.  Adoption case workers are human too, and have chosen the social service field for a reason; they too can become attached.  The longer you are in the adoption service field, the more you are able to prepare yourself, maintain boundaries and learn how to make the decisions that are in the best interest of your client, even when it is difficult. Pregnant and intersted in adoption?  Call 623-695-4112.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #49: What Do Birth Mothers Fear About Adoption? These are 10 of the most common fears: People will think I am a terrible person, a bad mom and they will never look at me the same.What if no one wants my baby?What if the adoptive parents don’t follow through on our open adoption plan?What if I change my mind?What will I tell people when they ask about my pregnancy?Will the OBGYN Office judge me?How will I know if I choose the “right” adoptive family?What if I have used drugs during my pregnancy- will the adoptive family still want my baby?What if the father of my baby changes his mind and wants the baby?I will be alone after the baby is placed for adoption. Choosing adoption means choosing an option with support, aftercare and access to financial resources.  Adoption is a beautiful choice and one that is increasingly becoming a more popular choice.  If you are pregnant and are considering adoption, we are a licensed, full-service, non-profit Arizona Adoption Agency.  We believe in adoption aftercare services and have a program on site to provide continued support through the Donna K. Evans Foundation.  You can contact us 24/7 at (623) 695-4112.  You are not alone and we want to help, thank you for considering adoption, you are making an amazing choice.
It’s a normal question, because most people are unaware of many ways adoption benefits the biological mother who places a baby for adoption.  The beautiful process of adoption offers a tremendous upside for the biological mother that have the potential to be life changing. Some examples include (some are exclusive to our agency): Select and meet adoptive parentsChoose an adoption plan best for you - open adoption, closed adoption or in-betweenReceive photos and updates for at least 18 yearsReceive counseling both during pregnancy and after placementFinancial assistance to pay rent, utilities, food, clothing and household expensesCell phone and cell phone serviceTransportationMedical care for yourself and your babyBreaking a negative life cycleGiving the gift of lifeReceiving aftercare services to improve life outcomes including education, employment, and increased financial stabilityChoosing the adoptive parent(s) for the babyReceiving assistance that covers expenses during pregnancy and immediately after (if qualified) for housing, medical, counseling, and other expensesChoosing open adoption (if preferred) to remain in your child’s lifeBeing assured that the baby is being cared for how you would want your child raisedAccess to the Donna K. Evans Adoption Aftercare Program to assist you in rebuilding your life An unplanned pregnancy may be an uncomfortable or unpleasant reality in your current situation. Most of us have been faced with a situation or circumstance we wish we weren’t in, or in a position we wish we weren’t in. It can feel easier to avoid, evade, or refuse to accept reality. Please understand, you don’t have to face this alone. 
Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency Co-Founder Kelly Rourke-Scarry and Radio Personality Ron Reigns, developed a podcast to provide education, support, interviews and news regarding adoption. This podcast is geared for anyone interested in adoption, considering adoption, in the adopted process, and for women who are pregnant and considering adoption. Adoption is a triad of three entities: Birth Mother, Adoptive Parents and the Adoptee. This Podcast focuses on all aspects of adoption; placing emphasis on the birth mother, while at the same time encorporating and interweaving both the adoptee and the adoptive parents. Looking at adoption through a magnifying glass, enabling listeners the ability to see all three entities of the triad, thereby gaining a more thorough perspective. Understanding the most misunderstood member of the adoption triad, the birth mother, will enable listeners to see clearly the complete, beautiful portrait of adoption.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 13: Grief & Loss in Adoption Part 2 of 3: Adoptive Families Adoptive parents may experience grief and loss to some degree both before, during and after the adoption process.  Understand that with adoption comes change; people deal with change in different ways; some easily acclimate to change, while others take time and may experience grief.   Adding a a new family member can take time, effort, acceptance and sometimes outside assistance may be helpful.  Change can be difficult and everyone deals with it differently. Resources for adoptive parents are more readily available now than 50 years ago.  Learn about resources that are available to you. Not all adoptive parents adopt because they cannot biologically have children.  However, for those individuals that cannot biologcally conceive have to let go of one dream to begin another.  Letting go of a dream of bearing your own biological children is a loss.  It is important to resolve issues surrounding the loss  of this dream before starting an adoption plan.   Remember, taking a different route in life isn’t always easy and may not have been your original plan or dream.  Adoption most likely is not the road your child’s birth mother's first choice either..  Adoption shouldn’t be looked at as plan b, it should be viewed as journey to parenthood, a blessing.  Life often reminds us that when one door closes another door opens.  Thankfully, life affords us opportunities and adoption is an opportunity to become a mother or father.   “We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” – Joseph Campbell
Paul David Petersen is an Arizona Attorney and a Maricopa County Assessor accused of running a multi-million dollar illegal adoption scheme.  The charges span about three years and involve as many as 75 adoptions.  Paul Peterson was charged in Utah, Arizona and Arkansas with counts including  fraud, forgery, human smuggling, sale of a child, and conspiracy to commit money laundering. Since adoption is a personal choice and for those people who have the desire to adopt; we do not believe it will negatively impact adoption interest, nor do we think it will lead to an increase in adoption. We do believe that there will be an overall impact and hopefully it’s a positive one resulting in an increase in adoption awareness and education. The goal of this special podcast is to dive into the accusations of Maricopa County Assessor Paul Peterson and discuss our viewpoint as we gather information from different sources.  Due to the fact that this particular case is in its early developmental stage, facts may change as well as different reports from different sources.  We are not liable for the accuracy of information contained in this podcast.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 23: Changes in Abortion Across the United Abortion conitnues to be a very hot topic and many states are reviewing and proposing law changes as well as ones that have passed and are enacted.. Between January 1, 2011 and July 1, 2019, in our country, states enacted 483 new abortion restrictions, and these make up nearly 40% of all abortion restrictions enacted by states in the decades since Roe v. Wade. Some of the most common state-level abortion restrictions are: parental notification or consent requirements for minors, limitations on public funding, mandated counseling designed to dissuade individuals from obtaining an abortion, as well as mandated waiting periods before an abortion. States discussed include: Lousiana, North Dakota, Pennsylvania, and Florida. Big proposed changes in thise states are on the horizon and chnages in one state can impact and promote change in other states as well. For those believing in the preservation in life and the pomotion of adoption, many of these laws are exciting and promising. Walking the adoption path rather than into an abortion clinic deserves recognition. Its time to learn more about abortion and its impact on women, men and our society, alongside learning what a positive impact adoption has. The time is now. There are alternatives to abortion, and if you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and want more information about adoption, we are a local Arizona Adoption Agency. We are available 24/7 by phone or text at (623) 695-4112. We can make an immediate appointment with you to get started on creating an Arizona Adoption Plan or give you more information. Be educated about your unplanned pregnancy choice and alternatives to abortion in Arizona; your baby is counting on you!   With adoption, you are never alone, choose life.  #youbeforeme
The abortion issue! So as an agency, we decided to take a stand and be bold.  After seeing on the news that celebrities are seeking to emulate the #metoo hashtag with the #youknowme hashtag so women who have had an abortion can stand together in unity. WHAT?!?! Where is the hashtag for ADOPTION??? We launched the You Before Me campaign. We believe that courageous women who choose adoption, deserve their own hashtag! The hashtag #YouBeforeMe is a way a birth mother can proudly own the choice of adoption to protect the life of her baby. Abortion should never be a choice, as it robs the unborn child of their own choices and adoption is a beautiful alternative to abortion in Arizona. Building Arizona Families & AZ Pregnancy Help are here to help!  As co-founder of the agency, I always tell birth mothers to be proud that they chose life, proud of their courageous sacrifice, and to stand strong in their belief that choosing life is the best choice. Today, many women who were once addicted, homeless, in abusive relationships, etc., are proud of their choice to put their baby’s life first. Adoption is a positive choice for everyone – the baby, the birth mother, and the adoptive family. Adoption changes lives and futures. Adoption is a positive choice for so many women who believed they had no choice. It’s time to celebrate a woman’s right to choose adoption and to give women the necessary resources so that they have a viable choice. We are committed to helping make that choice possible. The You Before Me movement celebrates with the courageous women who choose life for their child through adoption. Stand with us and stand tall! Visit our website: ube4me.life
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 36: The Christmas Podcast For Adoptees: Include your adopted child in family traditionsHelp your child create memorial keepsakesRemember that all families are differentMake your own family advent calendar For Birth Parents:  The first year may be the hardest, as “firsts” usually are.  It can be normal for birthmothers to struggle with their child’s absence over the holidays.  Especially those who have recently placed.  Here are some things that may help: Reach out to your childIf it’s possible, make arrangements in advance to spend time with your child.Send a gift or cardAsk the adoptive parents for a photoKeep a journalConnect with other birthmothersReach out to a counselor  For Adoptive Parents: If you are in the adoption process; wanting & waiting to adopt: Trying not to focus all of your energy on adoptingTaking an adoption “time vacation”Counting your blessings; focus on the positives Get support from other adoptive parents If you have adopted and you have an open adoption with your child’s birth parents: Mail thir birth parents a handmade gift Extend an invitation to participateSchedule a time to Skype or FaceTimeRecord a Holiday MessageEncourage your child to create a special message for their birth parentsPlan a Visit Merry Christmas from us to you, and thank you for listening.  We have some very exciting episodes scheduled and are so grateful for our listeners!
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 29: Why Do People Adopt? There are many reasons why people choose to adopt..  Whether they choose to adopt domestically, internationally or from the foster system (or an older child who is related to them), prospective adoptive parents recognize that there are many children who don’t have the safe, loving and supportive home environments they need. This is one of many reasons to adopt. Knowing that they can provide the family that this child needs, prospective adoptive parents decide to pursue the adoption process. 95% of people who adopt do so because of issues with fertility.To Avoid Passing Down Genetic Disorders / Diseases To Avoid Pregnancy Complications – Some women are predisposed to having difficult pregnanciesTo Balance Population Growth To become paarentsThey may be a single parent and want to start a familyThey know others who were adopted or have adopted and see it as a positive way to grow a family. So, if you are pregnant and are considering adoption, we are a licensed, full-service, non-profit Arizona Adoption Agency.  We believe in adoption aftercare services and have a program on site to provide continued support through the Donna K. Evans Foundation.  You can contact us 24/7 at (623) 695-4112.  You are not alone and we want to help, thank you for considering adoption!  
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #45: Love & Loss in Adopt Reunification Part 2 I met my biological mother in 2007.  I spent about 6 months prior to our reunification; filing a court petition to open my closed adoption, to be able to retrieve my adoption records in the hopes of finding my biological mother.  During this process, I learned that there are always highs and lows; things you find out that you never knew.   Upon receiving my original birth certificate, I learned that my biological mother had not named me; so I was listed as “Baby Girl Evans.”  Additionally, no birth father was named.  My birth mothers name was on the birth certificate but it still took me a few weeks to find her; I learned she has been married and divorced multiple times which meant her name kept changing.  Little did I know that she was living in the same neighborhood she lived in when she was pregnant with me; she wanted to make it easier for me to find her.  All along I was thinking; do we have the right person, what if…what if….?  Emotions experienced included: GuiltExcitementConfusionCuriosity Uncertainty Shock Denial What I have learned: Its okay to do things in your own time.Don’t let others make you feel guilty; they haven’t walked your life journey (guy in airport condemned me for not telling my adoptive parents.)Learning your biological history doesn’t change the person you are, it only adds more layersAllow everyone to reach the acceptance stage in their own timeSome months you may have more contact than others and that’s okay and that doesn’t mean you aren’t as close or that something is wrong
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption #47: What Can Make Adoption Difficult, Part Two:Adoptive Families There are lots of reasons that the perception or notion that adopting is difficult may exist.  Some of these reasons may include: Someone may have had a difficult time adopting and that situation is openly discussed more so than the positive situations that have occurred.There may lots and lots of reasons people believe that adopting is difficult, but that does not mean it is true.The adoption process seems long and overwhelming. There are so many steps; completing a home study, creating an adoption profile book, choosing an adoption agency, and then being matched with a birth mother, waiting for adoption papers to be signed, then waiting for the adoption finalization.  Some aspects that may appear to give credence to the notion that adoption is difficult, however we will counterbalance these aspects.Just like any other process, education is paramount.  Learn everything you can about adoption before beginning.  Doing your own research will help increase your confidence in your adoption choices.  Your confidence level will greatly impact your level of happiness throughout the duration of your journey.  Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses! Choosing adoption means choosing an option with support, aftercare and access to financial resources.  Adoption is a beautiful choice and one that is increasingly becoming a more popular choice.  If you are pregnant and are considering adoption, we are a licensed, full-service, non-profit Arizona Adoption Agency.   You can contact us 24/7 at (623) 695-4112.  You are not alone and we want to help, thank you for considering adoption, you are making an amazing choice.
Birth Mother Matters Adoption 50: What Agencies Want Adoptive Families to Know As a professional in the adoption community who has assisted in creating families for over 15 years, I feel comfortable speaking on behalf of individuals in the adoption profession.  So here it is; the good, the bad and the ugly, no holds barred, nothing off limits, no secrets kept. We want to the adoption to be as successful as you.  We are working behind the scenes to make sure that we are doing everything we can to make the adoption occur.  We are crossing our fingers and holding our breath right alongside you.  There are moments where we can’t breath either and yes, we are holding back tears too.Sometimes you can come across entitled, maybe you have no idea of this and you would never want to come accross that way.We are just as protective of you!  When the birth mother has concerns or questions about you, we make sure we discuss everything positive and reassuring.  We understand how important it is for a birth mother to go to her prenatal appointments and yes we really try to make them happen.  When we have to deliver bad news, like a birth mother has changed her mind, she miscarried or the baby passed away- we dread delivering that news in a way that is indescribable.  Its rare, but when a baby has to be returned to the baby’s birth mother, we as a staff, morn.  We love to celebrate with you!  We really want you to be kind and respectful to the hospital staff, we work with them a lot.  When you get to go home with your baby, we are cheering you every minute of the way.  We do everything we can to expedite you getting to go home.  We want you to begin your new beautiful life.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 21: Adoption Reunification Part 2 of 2   Important Facts About Adult Adoption Reunification: It is not adoptees with poor relationships with adoptive parents that are most satisfied with birth family contact or as a result of negative adoptive family relationships.Every adopted person has two histories, one from their adoptive family and one from their birth family.When begining the quest as an adult adoptee:A), you may have feelings of being disloyal; as if you may not being faithful to your adoptive family.  B) The serach process may take longer than you hoped for.  C)  The outcome may not be what you expected; there may not be a wish to have a relatoinship on both sides, different lifestyles may exisit, or maybe your fantasies are not at all the realtiy you encounter.Have a support structure and understand that adoption reunification is a process and real people with real lives and real feelings are involved. Building Arizona Families / AZ Pregnancy Help is a local adoption agency.  If you would like to create an Arizona adoption plan, please contact us at (623) 695-4112.  If you are considering placing baby for adoption and want to find a family for you baby in Arizona or anywhere in the United states, we can help.  Please remember, there are alternative to abortion and we offer free unplanned pregnancy help.  We also offer financial help for pregnancy when choosing adoption.    
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 32: Adoption Positive Language Here are some reasons why adoption language is important. Educating others: There are a great many negative myths and ideas surrounding adoption. It clouds what can be a beautiful way to become a family in a scary light. Because of stories on the news, and uneducated members of society -that being adopted is shameful and something to be hidden, sometimes there is negativity surrounding the notion of adoption.Protect the pride and mind of the child as well as the families involved. Biological parents are no more “real” than adoptive parents. A biological parent can choose adoption for their child if they cannot provide for emotionally or financially, but they do not “give them away”. To avoid shaming a child. Telling a child “You’re so lucky your parents adopted you” sends a message that can cause shame, misunderstanding and confusion. There is loss involved in an adoption that children cannot easily underdstand. The adoptive parents are the lucky ones in this situation to be able to adopt. If you want to compliment a adoptive family you could say something like “You have a beautiful family."     
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 20: Adoption Reunification Part 1 of 2 Adoption Reunificaiton as An Adult Adoptee, the story, the understanding.  From beginning to end, an inside look into what it is really like.  Listen and learn from Kelly Rourke-Scarry as she shares her own story of reunification and correlates it to the Ruth A. Moran's 4 Stages of Emotion in Post Adoption Reunification. Ruth A. Moran Identifiies 4 Stages of Emotion: An Adult Adoptee's Post Reunion Perspective 1. Paralysis:   Adoptees may be overwhelmed by the amount of information they have received or its content.  An adoptee may withdraw during this time and need their emotional space.  2. Eruption ; Emotions will wash over the adoptee like the aftershock of an earthquake. The adoptee will not know when these emotions are coming or how strong they will be, they can be like a tidal wave or a ripple.  This stage is the period when the adoptee has had time to absorb the realities of her or his origins.  3. Loss & Grief: The introduction of the birthmother into the adoptee's life may cause the adoptee to grieve over what life events that cannot be recaptured were lost with their original parents. The adoptee must gradually accept the truth behind the adoption plan.   4. Empowerment:  During empowerment, the adoptee moves beyond acceptance to the growth of a new self-knowledge and self-awareness.  This is where further exploration and excitement may circumnavigate.
Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 16: Life After Abortion- A Father's Perspective  Its time to listen to a father's perspective on life after abortion.  Understanding a father's perspective on abortion is rare and underexplored.  Birth fathers have thoughts, feelings, emotions and pain over the abortion and it is time their voice is heard. Whose right to choose is it really? What life may really be like after an abortion.  What emotions a mother and a father experience, for how long, and what does it feel like emotionall?  Does the pain, guilt, shame, regret go away?   Various research studies suggest that there may be three categories of women who regret their abortion choice:   1)women who are affected by stigma of abortion 2) women who go on to change their beliefs on abortion and regret their choice 3) women who never really wanted to abort and were pushed into it. In these studies, a good amount of the 95 percent women will at some point decide that abortion wasn’t the right answer for them according to a study posted by www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/11738638/Abortion-The-harsh-truth-about-how-women-feel-afterwards.html There are alternatives to abortion, and if you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and want more information about adoption. We are available 24/7 by phone or text at (623) 695-4112.  We can make an immediate appointment with you to get started on creating an Arizona Adoption Plan or give you more information.  Be educated about your unplanned pregnancy choice and alternatives to abortion in Arizona; your baby is counting on you!  www.ube4me.life  
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Aug 22nd, 2019
Latest Episode
Feb 19th, 2020
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