Birth Mother Matters Adoption 50: What Agencies Want Adoptive Families to Know

As a professional in the adoption community who has assisted in creating families for over 15 years, I feel comfortable speaking on behalf of individuals in the adoption profession. 

So here it is; the good, the bad and the ugly, no holds barred, nothing off limits, no secrets kept.We want to the adoption to be as successful as you.  We are working behind the scenes to make sure that we are doing everything we can to make the adoption occur.  We are crossing our fingers and holding our breath right alongside you.  There are moments where we can’t breath either and yes, we are holding back tears too.Sometimes you can come across entitled, maybe you have no idea of this and you would never want to come accross that way.We are just as protective of you!  When the birth mother has concerns or questions about you, we make sure we discuss everything positive and reassuring.  We understand how important it is for a birth mother to go to her prenatal appointments and yes we really try to make them happen.  When we have to deliver bad news, like a birth mother has changed her mind, she miscarried or the baby passed away- we dread delivering that news in a way that is indescribable.  Its rare, but when a baby has to be returned to the baby’s birth mother, we as a staff, morn.  We love to celebrate with you!  We really want you to be kind and respectful to the hospital staff, we work with them a lot.  When you get to go home with your baby, we are cheering you every minute of the way.  We do everything we can to expedite you getting to go home.  We want you to begin your new beautiful life.