It's been a minute...I KNOW. Apologies for my absence. But I'm back with a treat for your ears. BJ has been holding on to this episode for a month now. A great conversation was had on a getaway to SEVERN, MD for a recharge. Only a small few were in attendance. And two of which had a conversation with me over dinner that spawned an idea. And if you know BJ, he always has equipment on hand. So he decided to discuss an adage that we vow before God unnecessarily, with the idea that it truly benefits your relationship. When in fact, it may actually hinder it. Yes...we discuss For Better or For Worse. With two amazing people who have seen both of those things with each other. And have stood the test of time facing both advantage and adversity...WITHOUT EVEN MENTIONING THAT IN THEIR VOWS.Today we return with the dynamic duo known as RBC (Respect Boundaries Communication)...known individually as Stefanie The Life Architect and Denny Blanco. We shared a great conversation with each about acceptance and allowances in relationships. So many thoughts were shared. One in particular was how For Better or For Worse is detrimental to anyone who may feel, at any time, that another person's better or worse may not be sufficient enough for their fulfillment. In this case...do you settle just because you committed to that vow? There is a chance that without fully understanding the responsibility of the words, you may have signed up for the demise of your relationship health.To us, For Better or Worse is very critical to say to anyone who isn't committed to the betterment of self and spouse. If things get worse, then we as adults deal with those consequences. But in a spiritual realm, this has evolved our matrimony into settling, bondage, abuse, and a loss of love for your relationship.We decided to talk from the title of For Better No Worse. This simply means that with Respect, Boundaries, and Communication in your relationship...you are prepared for the worse that can happen. And it won't break or bind you to an emotionally challenged clause in your relationship contract.We talk about how women desire marriage, when you haven't seen or supported him at his worse. Why do you feel he should marry you, when he hasn't experienced anything in terms of support in his worse case scenarios? As well as how women will say "I only do that for my husband" though she has never been married to know if a husband will appreciate it. We talk about women being strict in terms of standards and requirements of men...due to the world's mistreatments of women...especially Black Women. Is a high standard of man fair, if you are responsible for loving him in much lesser conditions (based on your vows before God)?This is a great conversation with great minds who have a great idea of marriage. Don't say shit you don't mean. Even in marriage. Because if worse comes to worse, better may just be the exit. You never know.