During the Senate hearings Senator Chris Coons used a phrase that I think is correct. After having received numerous messages from female friends who said that they too had been sexually abused, he said it is clear that we are in a "nation of pain."We are. And like any kind of pain, we should ask what causes it. Rather than blame individual actors or patriarchal structures, I claim there are other cultural causes. The only way forward is to understand the true causes of our national pain.