For years, people have asked me what I would do when my daughter hit puberty. Was I going to let her do... the "medical stuff?" Well, right after the pandemic struck, so did puberty. And this is what my daughter (and her mother) decided to do.

Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School, Take Two

Nov 2nd, 2020

This episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that my daughter is growing up, fast. She’s almost a teenager, and we both agree that i

Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School

Sep 18th, 2020

A long-overdue update on the life of my beautiful transgender daughter. She's almost a teenager. She's in middle school. She's still magical. (And middle school girls can still be super mean.)

Episode XXX: Emma at last

1 Sep 23rd, 2019

I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I'm so glad she's here now.

Episode XXIX: Eleven

1 Jan 25th, 2019

Episode XXVIII: The Tell

Dec 31st, 2018

Episode XXVII: Playdates with Christians

1 Nov 29th, 2018

Episode XXVI: Sarah McBride

Nov 6th, 2018

Episode XXV: To Tell or Not to Tell? (Advice from HTBAG listeners)

Oct 30th, 2018

Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School

Aug 20th, 2018

Episode XXIII: Moving & Marrying, Part II - Won't you be my neighbor?

Jul 31st, 2018

Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince

May 17th, 2018

Episode XXI: Going First

May 10th, 2018

In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes. Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world. Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come.

Episode XX: The Betrayal

Apr 26th, 2018

Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually. But that didn't make it any easier when it did.

We're back! Welcome to a new season!

Apr 19th, 2018

After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back! The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week. Here's a little taste of what's to come.

We Shall Overcome

Jan 15th, 2018

A little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!

Dec 25th, 2017

This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits:Dee Yan-Key, "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-N

When it rains it pours

Jul 6th, 2017

How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite.

Episode XIX: Red State Mama

Feb 22nd, 2017

I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state.

A little update from Marlo

Feb 18th, 2017

This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious. I also have some news. Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-li

Episode XVIII: Big Sister

Feb 1st, 2017

I'm not transgender, but my daughter is. That means she needs someone to model the future who isn't me: A transgender big sister.

Episode XVII: The Window

Jan 11th, 2017

In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close. I hadn't been in much of a rush t