Lynne Bernfield is a psychotherapist who has been in practice for over 30 years. Author of the book When You Can You will – why you can’t always do what you want to do and what to do about it, Lynne currently hosts The Lynne Show, an internet radio show which airs twice a week – Mondays at 4:00 AM EST and Tuesdays at 2:00 PM EST on the radioearnetwork.com. Podcasts of her shows as well as information on her book and an article on phone therapy are available at her website thelynneshow.comLynne will be challenging the conventional wisdom which says that wanting and trying are all we need to make the changes we want or need to make in our lives. While agreeing that wanting and trying are often the route to change, Lynne believes that when you really want to change and have really tried to change, and are still have not been able to change – there is an obstacle blocking your path and that until you identify the obstacle, it will most likely continue to block your path to change. Lynne will talk about how to identify the obstacle that is stopping, what to do once you’ve found it, and what to do if you cannot find it.