We now have a baker's dozen of episodes - it is the thirteenth episode of the Kink Kloset!
Please give a big cheerio to Ralf Rasmussen who joins us in the Kink Kloset. Ralf is a Danish kinkster who is has been living in London for the past 11 years. Growing up in the Danish countryside, Ralf was not exposed to kink until he saw the sight of two bikers at a local market and was mesmerised. It was this situation which initiated Ralf to explore his kinky side. Once he moved to the city, he gained the confidence to explore his kink with the people he met at a fetish club, and he never looked back. It wasn't too long before Ralf got more involved with the leather and kink community. In 2008 he took the title of Mr Leather Denmark, and then went on and became Mr Leather Europe 2008. These days, he is more known for his work with "RealClearFetish!", a Facebook group he started for sober kinksters.
For Ralf, leather was a gateway kink which opened him up to explore his other fetishes. However, over the years he started to mix substances and sex together. It was a harsh realisation one day where he noticed he couldn't be sexual without substances. After taking a break from the fetish community, Ralf shares with us his experiences about being sober with kink. From having to retrain your connection with kink, arming yourself with tools to safely enjoy yourself at an event in a bar or club, and building connections with those going through the same situation, all of this has been part of his journey. Ralf has been touched with how much of a positive reception he has received from promoting his "Clear Head, Clear Fetish" message, and hopes to spread it out more in the community.
If you are listening to this and wish to find out more about RealClearFetish! you can find them on Facebook and Instagram. I will also have links to articles Ralf has written more about this, on our Facebook page.