Let’s be real! I think it’s safe to say that our mind and our thoughts play a pivotal role in sabotaging our relationships, right? I used to be guilty of always thinking the worst. 

Who’s with me? 

It becomes even more damaging when our thoughts become unhealthy and affects all areas of our life. 

Unhelpful thoughts can be distractions or be destructive. Neither is helpful.

Your mind is a terrible thing to waste, and if you can’t manage your thoughts, you’re not using your mind to your advantage. Imagine how powerful you would become if you could ignore or replace your negative thoughts! 

You could accomplish more and get greater enjoyment from your life.

The key is to focus your attention on what you intend and avoid getting too involved with your random thoughts. Just allow them to pass. 

If you’ve never meditated before, this can be an excellent way to learn how your mind works and how to deal with random, intrusive thoughts. Most importantly, remember that you are not your thoughts. There’s no reason to take them personally.

Farrah Reyna is a relationship expert and breakup coach. She's the creator of Let Your Ex Go, a breakup recovery program for women. Learn more at www.farrahreyna.com.