Alex Starr is a former wildland firefighter and now the host of the Rewrite The Rules podcast, which is about sharing the stories of those who have changed what they thought was possible for their relationships, work, and life. Alex has also authored Rewrite the Rules: An Unconventional Way to Build an Intentional Life, a book that provides a framework to break free of the status quo, trust your instincts and live a life you choose instead of the one you have been told to live. In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, Alex is here to teach you how to rewrite the rules and also shares his experiences.

Alex defines the fear of failure as the biggest reason people don’t go on things they want and instead run in the opposite direction. However, he has a different way of approaching the fear of failure. (“If you don’t get the job, you should go and apply for three more that are even in better positions and bigger companies.”) Fear and resistance can only keep you down.

But how do you know that it’s fear but not instincts trying to protect you? Alex believes every situation and every person is different. But deep down, everybody knows the whisper. We just don’t give ourselves enough space to hear what we already know. Intuition tells us stuff all the time, and sometimes, there’s fear attached to it. (“It doesn’t mean just because it’s like your intuition is telling something, there will be no fear attached to it.”)

In this episode with Alex, we chat about how he has had to let go of who society said he was, how meeting his fiancé changed his life, his biggest fears, and more. Tune in to hear Alex’s full story and learn how you can rewrite the rules for your own life!

Key Topics Discussed

-About Alex’s book and why it has been an important model in his life 

-Rules he has written in his life

-What made him rewrite his relationship rule about being single

-Finding happiness 

-Why people don’t want to love

-Defining fear of failure

-Telling the difference between instincts and fear

Resources 

Rewrite the Rules: An Unconventional Way to Build an Intentional Life

Rewrite the Rules Podcast

Connect With Alex

Alex’s Website

Alex’s Instagram

Connect with Sophie:

Sophie’s Instagram

Love Intently Instagram 

Love Intently Website