We do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual...The post Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up

How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

Nov 20th, 2020 1h 31m

Back in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In...The post How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship

Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

Nov 13th, 2020 1h 17m

We received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it!...The post Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationship

Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

Nov 6th, 2020 1h 25m

In this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got...The post Deciding When to Compromise in B

Kinks vs. Fetishes

Oct 23rd, 2020 1h 5m

Is there a difference between a kink and a fetish? What is that difference? Does that difference even matter. This week’s episode is a loose conversation to explore the definitions of those two words...The post Kinks vs. Fetishes appeared firs

Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery

Oct 22nd, 2020 1h 42m

It’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us...The post Special Episode: Introducing the Kin

Dealing with Feelings of Shame

Oct 2nd, 2020 1h 18m

While we don’t get into all the causes for shame in this episode, we also understand that it’s a heavy topic. Feel free to ignore or come back to this one later, if needed....The post Dealing with Feelings of Shame appeared first on Loving BDS

On Being a Fixer in a D/s Relationship

Sep 18th, 2020 1h 13m

We’ve mentioned in multiple episodes some of the problems and challenges that happen in any relationship when you’re a “fixer” (as we are). This week, let’s talk about it in more detail! In this...The post On Being a Fixer in a D/s Relationshi

Reactive, Proactive, and Anticipatory Service

Sep 11th, 2020 1h 14m

There are multiple ways of talking about submission, power exchange, and service (non-sexual and sexual). In this week’s episode, we take inspiration from a workbook by Luna Carruthers entitled Submissive Reflection: A Journey of...The post Re

Letting Hope and Joy Shine In When You Can

Sep 4th, 2020 1h 36m

This week’s episode was inspired after we went on multiple rants about how much 2020 sucked, and someone said, “Uh, didn’t you buy a house this year? It can’t all suck.” And that’s when...The post Letting Hope and Joy Shine In When You Can app

A Chaotic Ramble: Celebrating 5 Years of Podcasts

Aug 28th, 2020 1h 45m

This week’s episode is a hot mess, y’all. We turned on the microphones even though we had no clue what we wanted to talk about — which we’ve maybe done once or twice in...The post A Chaotic Ramble: Celebrating 5 Years of Podcasts appeared firs

Assumptions About BDSM, D/s, and Kink

Aug 21st, 2020 1h 30m

We seem to be on a roll turning old YouTube trends into podcast episodes. Yes, it’s a little strange, but it’s also a lot of fun! This week, we asked our Instagram followers to...The post Assumptions About BDSM, D/s, and Kink appeared first on

Feeling Helpless When You Can’t Help Your Partner

Aug 7th, 2020 1h 31m

Part of being in a D/s relationship means working as a team, helping each other build something together. But sometimes, as individuals, we go through tough times and there’s no easy “fix” for it....The post Feeling Helpless When You Can’t Hel

Teasing and Being Teased in D/s Relationships

Jul 24th, 2020 1h 28m

If you see “tease” and immediately think “kinky fuckery fun,” you’re not alone. And yes, we talk about that, but we also talk about teasing as part of the relationship and how (some) kinksters...The post Teasing and Being Teased in D/s Relatio

Feeling Overwhelmed in Your D/s Relationship

Jul 17th, 2020 1h 30m

One of the universal experiences is feeling overwhelmed. We all may handle it differently, but at some point, the feeling hits. This week, we talk about it in three common areas of D/s relationships...The post Feeling Overwhelmed in Your D/s R

Answering Listener Questions

Jul 10th, 2020 1h 40m

Right after we decided to make this week a question and answer episode, we thought of other ideas (funny how that works!). We received more questions than we wanted to answer in a single...The post Answering Listener Questions appeared first o

It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now

Jul 3rd, 2020 1h 13m

No real tips or advice in this week’s episode. We just needed space to be able to say that we’re not always okay (even though we’re doing FINE!!) and we wanted to make that...The post It’s Okay to Not Be Okay Right Now appeared first on Loving

Compromise in D/s Relationships

Jun 26th, 2020 1h 8m

We’ve talked about the importance of compromise before but always as part of other discussions — on teamwork, goal-setting, and disagreements. This week, we give it an episode all its own. Yes, compromise can...The post Compromise in D/s Relat

How Kayla’s Mental Health Makes Us Feel

Jun 19th, 2020 1h 45m

We’ve talked about mental health and D/s relationships before. And Kayla is fairly open about her mental health in nearly every episode. After a recent bout of anxiety and depression, we’re talking about how...The post How Kayla’s Mental Healt

Changing Boundaries and Limits

Jun 12th, 2020 1h 17m

Your kinky boundaries and limits (hard and soft) can change at any point for all kinds of reasons. So let’s talk about it. In this episode: Black Lives Matter — donation, resources Thanks to...The post Changing Boundaries and Limits appeared

Podcast Minisode 10: Alternatives to Crawling or Kneeling

Jun 9th, 2020 14m 20s

It’s easy to feel like every submissive in every D/s relationship crawls or kneels, in their kinky fuckery or as a sign of submission. This isn’t true for a variety of reasons, including because...The post Podcast Minisode 10: Alternatives to

Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Your D/s Relationship

Jun 2nd, 2020 14m 11s

Part of this week’s episode will sound similar to last week when we talked about gratitude. Why? Because one of the things you should say regularly in your D/s relationship is “Thank you.” But...The post Podcast Minisode 9: Things to Say in Yo

Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship

May 29th, 2020 1h 26m

There’s the fantasy of our BDSM life or power exchange relationship, and then there’s the reality. When our expectations aren’t realistic, we spend our time disappointed or disillusioned. In this week’s episode, we talk...The post Managing You

Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude

May 26th, 2020 17m 10s

Gratitude is a big deal to both of us. It helps keep resentment at bay and makes it easier to take care of each other, even in times of stress or when we just...The post Podcast Minisode 8: How to Show Gratitude appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Our Top Tips for BDSM Communication

May 22nd, 2020 1h 36m

We talk about communication ALL THE TIME, but rarely in one episode. This definitely isn’t everything, but if you struggle with communication, this may help you out a bit. In this episode: Announcement: Friday...The post Our Top Tips for BDSM