Solutions are good right? I am just trying to help. Yes, but we actually find it really frustrating when we are sharing an issue and our partner jumps straight to solutions. Why is that? What is going on here? And what do we want and need inste

63. How to be who we truly are in relationship?

Jun 9th, 2023 55m 5s

In this episode, I talk to my beautiful, soulful friend Kris Franken.So many people ask me how they can find themselves, be true to themselves and still be in relationship. It can be tricky to navigate. We fear that if we change and become more

62. Does your partner have sex tantrums?

Mar 27th, 2023 23m 49s

Does your partner have sex tantrums?How does it make you feel?How do they feel?What is going on and how do you get out of the downward spiral of need, guilt, obligation, and then less desire?Listen in as we unpack this very common dynamic, try

61. Why is intimacy so darn hard?

Sep 21st, 2022 22m 46s

Intimacy (and I am not talking about sex), in my opinion is one of the hardest things in the whole world, but also, something that gives us the deepest most heart fulfilling satisfaction. Gah, what a dilemma! It would be so much easier if we co

Trailer

Trailer - The Beauty Load podcast

Sep 12th, 2022 2m 22s

Hello ,it's me Nicole Mathieson and I would like to introduce you to my brand new podcast; The Beauty Load, How to feel good enough in your body.This podcast is inspired by my book also called the Beauty Load in which I explore this exhausting

60: Slow living for better relationships with Rachelle Glendon

Jun 27th, 2022 42m 41s

In this episode we talk to Slow Living coach Rachelle Glendon about the benefits of concsiously slowing down on all of our relationships. In this chat we talk about; * implementing some matriachal ways, which sound so good * tips for slowing do

059: Why body image is a relationship issue

May 16th, 2022 20m 56s

Why is a relationship coach / therapist writing a book about body image I hear you ask? That's because the Beauty Load, body image, how we feel about ourselves and our confidence with fitting in in the world, are all relationship issues. I don'

058: Your man doesn't "get" your Beauty Load stress

May 11th, 2022 15m 29s

Sometimes we feel wrong for feeling the Beauty Load, especially when our males partner's or friends just don't get it. But the stress and concern of the Beauty Load is real and in this episode I share an example that demonstrates how differentl

057: The Beauty Load intro author reading

Apr 21st, 2022 17m 56s

In this special Beauty Load episode of the podcast, I am reading the first chapter (the introduction) of my new book The Beauty Load, how to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty. The message of my book is basically that you feeling not

056: What NOT to do with trauma and big emotions

Mar 14th, 2022 17m 19s

There is a lot going on in the world at the moment that can leave us feeling a bit or a lot traumatised. I am inspired to share this "what not to do" episode, because of what I see happening around me, and that is people who have been through a

055: How to recover from body image shame

Feb 25th, 2022 12m 11s

If there is one thing the Beauty Load pressure leaves us women with, it is a sense of shame. We are shamed on so many fronts on all aspects of our body and appearance. In this episode I explore the shame, grandiosity loop and how we can get out

054: A few reasons why I wrote another beauty book

Jan 16th, 2022 15m 3s

There are a lot of books out there about loving our body and the issues that come with it, so why have I written another book about it? In this episode I share with you my motivations for writing this book: -from my own struggles with feeling e

053: Managing stress in your relationship

Oct 11th, 2021 18m 50s

How do you manage stress in your relationship? How does it feel when your partner is stressed? How do you respond? How do they respond to you? Stress can be a really disconnecting force in a relationship if it goes unmanaged. In this episode I

52: Cards to help couples reconnect

Jul 1st, 2021 47m 24s

In this episode, I speak to Emily, who with her partner Sean, created Yum cards for couples. We talk about how these cards help couples reconnect and why reconnecting feels so darn yum! You can check out the cards here playyum.com For more go t

051: You are not going to get rid of your suffering

Jun 21st, 2021 11m 48s

You are not going to get rid of your suffering and that's okay. We do not need to be wrapped in cotton wool and protected from all the harshness to be okay, which is great, because it would probably be pretty isolating there. We are going to su

050: Your libido needs you to find you a bit sexier

May 10th, 2021 16m 16s

How does the way you look or feel in your body influence your desire? Research shows that us women, in general, need to feel ourselves sexy in order to feel desire. We need to feel sexy in our bodies, our minds, our energies and our imaginatio

049: Stop cementing your relationship in

Mar 12th, 2021 11m 41s

We want certainty in our relationships. We say..."I'll be happy when there is a ring on my finger or we buy that house or we have kids or whatever" Which makes sense, we are human and certainty feels secure. But the cementing in (the grasping

048: Navigating break ups with Mackenzie Eason

Dec 11th, 2020 52m 8s

Break ups can be devastating. They are without a doubt big events in our lives. Which is why we need Mackenzie, a break-up specialist. Mackenzie and I chat about the sometimes rough and tumultuous phase break-ups. She herself has navigated 2 ve

047: Relationships and sex after babies

Oct 12th, 2020 53m 8s

So much happens to your relationship and your sex life after you have kids. Everything changes. Your roles, your sex life, how you spend your time, how you see each other and that's not to mention your expectations of each other. It is big! How

046: Gathering your toolkit

Sep 11th, 2020 27m 51s

This episode comes back to the basics of how to get grounded and centred and calm ourselves down, because you know.....life. It is super important, especially in our relationships. What is in your calm-down toolkit? Connect with me via Instagra

045: Self regulation is sexy part 2

Jul 24th, 2020 8m 7s

Following on from Self regulation part 1, this episode explores the "how" of self regulation. How do you calm and soothe yourself so that you can be more of a rocking partner in your intimate relationships? Listen in to find out. Drop me an ema

044: Self regulation is sexy part 1

Jul 23rd, 2020 17m 16s

Self regulation is sexy. Learning to calm and soothe yourself in your relationship is a skill that will help bring all the things to your relationship life that you want more of. In this episode I talk about the consequences of not having the c

043: How to manage relationships under lockdown

Apr 21st, 2020 26m 32s

In this episode my colleague Ebony from Little Window counselling comes and interviews me. Ebony asks me lots of questions about how to manage our relationships in these strange times of Covid19 and lockdown. We talk about: -The types of proble

042: Managing anxiety part 2 - connecting deeper within

Mar 27th, 2020 24m 25s

Managing anxiety part 2 - Connecting deeper within How do we stay calm and centred and resilient when there is so much craziness going on? There is so much exposure to stress, there are crazy things happening to all the things we usually lean o

041: Managing anxiety part 1 - Mindfulness

Mar 27th, 2020 17m 14s

Managing anxiety part 1 - Mindfulness. How do we stay calm and centred and resilient when there is so much craziness going on? There is so much exposure to stress, there are crazy things happening to all the things we usually lean on, there is