Dear Listeners: SFSP, in this form, is ending. BUT! It will be evolving into a new podcast in about a year!! Rather than being about sex and love through a lens of our collective liberation as SFSP has been, the new podcast will be about our co

Episode 30: Authenticity and Intentionality and Tenderness, oh yes yes YES!

Nov 3rd, 2016 1h 15m

Rev. Alba Onofrio shares about their journey to embracing relationship and family beyond default scripts/labels and their work as spiritual director of Soulforce, holding authenticity and intentionality as paramount, fighting for the lives of q

A Collection of Queer Love Notes, post-Pulse

Jul 27th, 2016 14m 3s

We found that our queer communities, friends, and families pulled together in some fucking beautiful ways to support one another in the moments and weeks after the massacre at Pulse. We wanted to create something that shows our intense sense of

Episode 29: Reflections on Orlando // Sexuality From a Place of Wholeness

Jun 24th, 2016 1h 20m

We are honored to be joined by actress/activist/founder-of-TransTech Angelica Ross. Hear why she believes most people are in relationships for the wrong reasons and that relationships are best when thought of as prolonged period of discovery. W

A Collection of Coming Out Stories!

Jun 8th, 2016 40m 41s

The surprising stuff, the mundane stuff, the way folks felt like they were always out or felt like they never came out at all: A moving/many-splendored collection of coming out stories that break from the most traditional narratives. This is th

Episode 28: We Need To Complicate What It Means…

May 16th, 2016 1h 6m

Dylan Marron! It’s Dylan Marron! Writer/performer Dylan Marron joins us for a wildly multi-faceted conversation about various and sundry things including: In a longterm relationship, what do you do when you feel like you are not connecting at a

CROSSBROADCAST: Shit and Shame with Shawn Shafner

Apr 26th, 2016 1h 3m

Liberating conversations about sex and shit from the extremes of knee-jerk shame response and gratuitous grotesqueness is not easy. So we teamed up with our friend Shawn “The Puru” Shafner for this crossbroadcast with his podcast! We collective

Episode 27: Get Rid of the Idea that Sex Can Be Easy

Mar 29th, 2016 1h 14m

Healing from trauma, holding compassion and rage at the same time, transformative + restorative justice in response to sexual assault, the just world fallacy, the sexiness of holding nuance and complexity, noticing who we can communicate with b

Briefs: Heroes, Monsters, and David Bowie

Jan 31st, 2016 16m 59s

How do we hold rage about abuses of power AND ALSO allow space for honoring an inspiring queer icon? How might we sit in uncomfortable nuance in order to transcend the shouting match that followed Bowie’s death? Aida Manduley joins us to discus

Episode 26: Gender & Privilege, Heartbreak & Healing

Dec 18th, 2015 1h 15m

We are honored and grateful to be joined by the multi-talented, many-splendored Shakina Nayfack, who shares about her most recent show, Post-Op, and her deep commitment to community and care in art-making. We collectively address conundrums fro

Briefs: What We Talk About When We Talk About Gender

Dec 10th, 2015 28m 54s

We sometimes stumble and/or feel overwhelmed (and maybe you do, too?) when trying to talk about gender and bodies in the most inclusive way, so we are reaching out for help! In this (brief!) Briefs episode, Stephanie shares about a time when sh

Episode 25: Ethical Sluttiness and the Nuance of Openness

Oct 30th, 2015 1h 6m

Dossie Easton (hero of ours, trailblazer in the realm of authenticity/communication/sexual freedom, author of several books including “The Ethical Slut”) joins us, and we are so freaking honored!! We discuss how to find out what your needs and

Oh Hi! (a brief check-in episode)

Jun 2nd, 2015 9m 56s

We miss you! Where the hell have we been, you ask? Check out this mini episode to find out. Plus, we’ve got a short interview with Chelsea Downs of Amorous Revolt (a queer/kinky camping extravaganza happening in late July). We’ll be officially

Episode 24: Fifty Shades of All the Cans of Worms!

Feb 13th, 2015 1h 38m

BDSM guru, activist/performer/writer/woman of many talents: Mollena Williams shares about her renewed hope in love in a full-time master/slave relationship, and her journey with owning her power as a submissive. Boundaries and communication in

Episode 23: Authenticity is the Sexiest

Jan 20th, 2015 1h 2m

OKCupid’s Chief Product Officer, Jimena Almendares, is at the front lines of queering the OKCupid algorithm! And we were fortunate enough to get to talk to her in depth on this episode about how OKC has recently incorporated non-binary gender i

REBROADCAST: Episode 1: Dave and Stephanie’s Story + Launch Party Extravaganza!

Dec 23rd, 2014 1h 16m

Hey Smart People, if you are new to this podcast, we recommend that you start here. In this episode, recorded live in front of an (amazingly sexy) audience at the Bowery Poetry Club, we share our personal stories, our mission statement and why

Episode 22: Ally is a Verb

Dec 22nd, 2014 1h 16m

Love is a verb. Queer is a verb. Ally is a verb. Super wise actvist/writer/poet Janani Balasubramanian is our guest of honor this time. Janani shares a bit about their journey, the importance of slow-hard-awkward conversations & quiet acts of s

Episode 21: Consent is Everything

Nov 16th, 2014 1h 26m

On catcalling, Jian Ghomeshi, female orgasm, Gamergate, and more! In this *doozy* of an episode, we are honored to be joined by Miri Mogilevsky. We address listener questions including: Is there something wrong with me if I never have an orgasm

Episode 20: The Second Ever All Quickies Episode!

Oct 28th, 2014 1h 14m

2 guests! So many juicy quickies! Badass writer/comedian Emma Tattenbaum-Fine and sex ed superstar Francisco Ramirez (he’s back!!) join us to throw down about various and sundry things including: sexuality is not a luxury, making decisions base

Episode 19: How I Feel About What You Think About How I Feel About You

Sep 19th, 2014 1h 19m

Somatic sexuality educator Dr. Charlie Glickman of MakeSexEasy.com (and co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure”) joins us to discuss his super wise insights on relationships and the nuances of relationships to relationships. He s

Episode 18: Hold On Tightly, Let Go Lightly, and also… Use Lube!

Aug 8th, 2014 1h 10m

Spoiler alert: we are hugely in favor of lube. Avital Isaacs, burlesque performer and education coordinator for Babeland NYC, is our guest of honor. She shares about her journey in getting comfortable with her own body, her views about bachelor

Episode 17 – “Be the Change You Want to See in the Bedroom”

Jul 8th, 2014 1h 8m

The extraordinary sex/relationships geek Reid Mihalko (reidaboutsex.com) is our guest of honor this time! He throws down some great wisdom about how to “date your species”, how to discover what works for you and how best to communicate about wh

A Special Message From Stephanie and Dave

Jun 26th, 2014 6m 50s

Dear SFSP Community, in order to make this thing sustainable in the future, we need to reach out to you! Please listen to this (informative! entertaining!) seven minute message to learn about some super simple ways you can help. And/or check ou

Episode 16 – SFSP LIVE!: Bring Your Full Self Here

Jun 10th, 2014 1h 25m

A whole crowd of smart sexy people and our guest of honor, the ridiculously vibrant and kind Francisco Ramirez, join us for a live-taping/party at 3B Brooklyn. We start with exciting additions to our mission statement! And then we talk to Franc

Episode 15 – On Longtermness – 49 Years And Counting!

May 21st, 2014 1h 5m

Our dear friends Bobbi and Steve Siglbaum (lifelong activists/educators and all-around amazing people) join us to share their story of nearly 49 years of marriage – what sustains them through hard times, what they feel is most important in a lo