Today’s guest is writer, podcaster, and photographer Kat Harris, A thirty-something-year-old virgin and author of the upcoming book Sexless in the City. In her new book, Kat covers topics that people want answers to but are too afraid to ask. Kat and Kerry cover topics such as sex, singleness, and relationships. Kat share’s her wisdom, what she's learned dating in NYC for a decade, and how she’s discovered to live with sexual integrity in singleness. Kat's passion is giving others the tools they need to navigate today's dating culture with vision, clarity, and freedom. We discuss how to show up in dating, how we choose certain people to date and why we should have faith in God’s master plan for our love life! 

Kat Harris is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast and co-founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. Her first book Sexless in the City will hit bookstores this month on 4/20. She has also been a full-time photographer for the past 15 years with work featured in Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, US Weekly, and Glamour UK, to name A few. Kat coaches people worldwide in dating, relationships, and singleness and how to build a renewed healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in truth and grace instead of the common shame and fear narratives somany experienced growing up in the evangelical culture. 

Dating can be frustrating and lonely, but there are strategies which can be helpful in your dating journey. Kat and Kerry talk about what's possible for today’s single. Topics include:
What photographing weddings taught us about love and marriage.
The importance of mindset and believing in finding love.
How do you approach dating? Do you have a good attitude or are you negative?
If you think dating during a pandemic is too hard then it will be a block.
The importance of identifying the core values you want in a partner.
How society and spiritual beliefs shape what we want in a person.
Why you should be clear and open about what you want. You can’t get what you don’t ask for.
What if we were as intentional in dating as we are in our careers?
How to navigate the highs and lows of dating.
Why you should play big online and every area of your life.
Why we should give up limiting beliefs that keep us playing small.
What if online could work?  Look  for evidence that is does work.
How to stay positive when things don’t work out the way  you planned or hoped.
Why you should give yourself permission to imagine.

To find out more about Kat Harris go to www.therefinedwoman.com, follow on Instagram @therefinedwoman or listen to her podcast The Refined Collective. Purchase her upcoming book Sexless in the City at www.sexlessinthecity.com