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Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank

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you for your subject. Why would she keep telling

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the same lie? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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I'm forty two and my boyfriend

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is forty seven. When we met, he

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was going through a divorce and he lived

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with his brother. He would go missing

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on weekends, and his wife started calling

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me with lies, saying that when he wasn't

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with me, he was back at home with his

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family. I have no idea where their

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house is, so I could not ride by the house

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to see if my boyfriend was there.

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And the last time.

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He disappeared, he said that he and his brother

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were gambling all night and his phone died.

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His brother confirmed it. I trust

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that he's being honest. I asked

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how his wife got my number, and he

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said he gave it to her in case of emergency

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with the kids. He had to know that wasn't

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a good idea because she calls me a home

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wrecker. A year into our relationship,

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he had to move back home because his brother's

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girlfriend was moving in. I asked why

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he couldn't get his own place, and he said he

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has bad credits, so he's moving back to

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the house that he still pays

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for. His wife called me again to

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say that her husband was back at home

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and I should give up hope

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that he'll ever leave again. I

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always record our conversation so

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I could play it back to my boyfriend. He

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heard the last conversation and he said that she

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keeps telling me the same lie because she wants

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their marriage to work out. I know

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he's trying to get out of the marriage because I've

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heard him talking to his lawyer. I

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would never believe his crazy wife,

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and I'm tired of her feeding

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me all of her lies. I got my number

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change so I can live in peace with my

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boyfriend. I've talked to him and facetimed

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facetimed him, so I know he's

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not in the bed with her. What other proof

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do I need that she's a liar?

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She's a liar. Okay,

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this is not about her, let's start

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the letter there is. This is not about

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her, his ex wife and the lies

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you think she's telling you. This is about

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you and the lies you're telling

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yourself. You've got

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to see through some of this stuff.

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You just got to because he's always,

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for some crazy reason, at his wife's

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house.

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Have you figured that out?

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Either he was m I A on the weekends,

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or he has bad credit and can't get his

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own place, or he had to move back to his wife

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because his brother's girlfriend was moving in

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where he was staying. Well, what does it matter

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the reason?

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Anyway?

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Right now he's back in the house, okay,

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with his wife, with his family, keyword

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wife, because he is still

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married to this woman. So instead

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of talking about living in peace with your boy and

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all that, or recording your conversations with

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his wife, why don't you just leave him alone

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until he's divorced, completely officially

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divorced. Then you won't have all this

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drama to worry about in your life.

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It's simple, Steve.

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Here's a letter, here's a whole letter. Why

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would she keep telling the same lie.

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The reason we all tell the same

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lie is because you keep

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believing it. That's

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it in a nutshell. Let's

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quit playing around. If

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I told you that the reason

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I didn't come home that

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weekend because I was out gambling with

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my brother and my phone died,

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and you said, oh, okay. Then

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the next time you asked me why

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were you that weekend? You know what I'm gonna

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say. I was with my brother gambling

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at the casino and the phone

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died. Do you know what that is?

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That's the same lie?

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And why would I keep telling it? Because

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you keep believing it. You

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know what I love about this letter? I love

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the lady that wrote it. I wish I could meet women

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like you. Where are they? I've never had these

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before?

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You really

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you believe everything

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he says, and your whole one

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goal in life is to justify

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everything he says.

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You don't, You don't. It doesn't create

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a moment of pause for you. Of nothing.

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He'll go missing on the weekends and his wife

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started calling me with lies, saying

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that he wasn't with me, he was back home with his

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family. You don't

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know that, so you believed it when

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he said he wasn't. But well, where was he then? If he

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wasn't back home with this lady, where was

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he? I have no idea where that house

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is, so I couldn't ride by the house to see if

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my boyfriend was there. Okay.

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The last time he disappeared, he said, him and

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his brother was gambling all night and his phone died.

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You believe that, So that's good. His brother

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confirmed it to do my

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brother go along with whatever.

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Man.

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If I call my.

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Brother and say, hey, man, look if you get a call from so

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and so, this is why I would all right, I got you player,

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he hang up, ain't no where

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was you? And all this hire that's my brother. I

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trust that he's being honest. Okay, well

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that you have it what you write

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me and Shirley for if

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you trust he's being honest. I

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asked how his wife got my number. He said

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he gave it to in case of emergency with the kid?

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What boy,

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the emergency.

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With the kids?

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She called you.

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Let me explain to you how she got his

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number. He left the phone

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laying down at the house

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when he was sleep back over there, and

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she got your number. Look,

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I'm not divorced, and I'm gonna

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give my wife my

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current girlfriend's number.

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Lady, They ain't a man on planet

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Earth gonna do that. But

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if you want to, you want to believe

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that he's honest, and you're gonna justify

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it, then I'm here for you. When I

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come back, let's just go along

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with all the rest of it. Last, when we come back, we'll

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be Let's just go along with the

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rest though.

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All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response.

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But you know what thought, Shirley, Huh.

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Here's the deal, though, If

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you tell somebody the truth

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and they don't believe you, that

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ain't your fault.

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Yeah.

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True, My daddy taught that to me. If you tell somebody

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the truth and they don't believe you, that ain't your fault.

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That's right, all right.

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Subject of today's Strawberry letter, why would

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she keep telling the same lie?

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We'll get back into it right after this. You're

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listening Morning

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show, All right?

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Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry

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letter? The subject why would she keep telling

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the same lie?

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Look very quickly, let me sum up this letter for

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you. Why would she keep telling the same lie? Because

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you keep believing it? You forty two,

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your husb boyfriend forty seven when

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y'all met, he was going through a divorce. He was living

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with his brother. He would disappear on the weekends.

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You couldn't find him. The wife

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would call you on your phone and tell

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you she's back with his family. He

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would disappear on other week ends. He

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told you he was with his brother at

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a casino gambling and his phone died.

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You called his brother, His brother confirmed

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it. That's what brothers? Do You

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believe that one right there? You

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don't know how his wife

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got your phone number. He told you he gave

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it to her in case that was an

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emergency with the kids. What you got

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to give you her number? She got his number?

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You the daddy, And

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let me ask you, and let me tell you something else. What man

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gives his wife his current

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girlfriend in number? Who

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do that? Where he stayed? Who

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these people?

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This is so perfect man,

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so beautiful?

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Uh. And he had

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to know that wasn't a good idea because she calls

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me a home record, Okay, a

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year entire relationship. He had to move

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back home because his brother's girlfriend

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was moving in. His

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brother's girlfriend was moving in. Yeah,

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So I asked why he couldn't get his own place. He

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say, he got bad credits, so he moving back to

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the house where he's still pay for. Mmm,

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he didn't want to come stay with you?

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Yeah, yeah, he.

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Went back home. Then guess what his

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wife called me back to say their husband

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was back at home and I should

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give up hope that he'll ever leave again. Always

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record our conversation so I could play it back for

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his boyfriend. What you got to play that back for? Didn't

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she say he back home?

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Didn't he say he went? He

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told you it's for bad credit. She

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said he back home, and you should give up

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hope he ain't ever leaving again. You

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recorded that he heard the last

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conversation and says, she keeps telling me

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the same lie because she wants they

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marriage to work out. No,

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she keeps telling you the truth that

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you refuse to believe. She

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does want their marriage to work out.

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And so.

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And he do too. But

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guess what, though, I

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know he trying to get out the marriage because

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I've heard him talking to his lawyer. Oh

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you thought that was the lawyer, brother,

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that's what you're talking about. You thought that was his

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lawyer. Girl, girl,

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I'm tired of her feeding me all her lies.

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I got my number change, so I can live in

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peace with my boyfriend. You're not living

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in peace with your boyfriend. He lived back with his

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family. Yes,

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you're not in peace. She just can't call you

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no more. I've

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talked to him and FaceTime him, so I know

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he's not in bed with her. You don't think

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when that phone rang he know how to get ghosts

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and get somewhere in FaceTime. What

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other proof that I do I need that she's

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a liar? Okay,

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now, I know this is gonna come as a shocker to you,

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completely ready, hold yourself.

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What other proof do I need

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that she's a liar? Could

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it be that it

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ain't her that's the liar? Could

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it possibly be that your boyfriend

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is a liar? I don't

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want to complicate things because you do

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out this letter tried to justify everything

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as he's saying, And I just want

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to offer you a counter thought since

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you're having a hard time proving

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that she's a liar? Could

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it be and I don't want to say this,

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Could it be she telling the truth?

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Imagine that?

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Sorry newsflash,

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and you so tired of hearing the truth,

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You've changed your number so you ain't

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got to face the truth no more. But guess

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what, you've changed your numbers so you could live

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in peace with your boyfriend. But your boyfriend

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to move back in that house, lady,

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his wife. I don't know

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how many more you know what Judge

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lenn told her, said on my talk show one time,

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what women? She said,

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two things. Don't let a man

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have to tell you twice he don't want you.

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And women should stop collecting red

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flags. Yes, stop

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picking them up, putting them in the trunk of your car, driving

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around with them. Red

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flags should stay in the ground. When

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you see the red flag, turn your

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car around. Quit picking them

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up, putting many trunk talking about don't want see

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no damn red flag. Him congratulates,

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learned any questions

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anybody?

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I just want to know where this woman is

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man? And does she have a sister, because where

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are these women?

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I have a question. Yes, who's the

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lawyer? Who's he talking to? Oh

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that's his brother, that's his brother, for sure,

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that's.

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What his brother is, the lawyer.

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But his brother is also proof

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that he was at the casino and

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his brother don't get And his brother is also

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the one that's got the girlfriend moving in MM

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because I love you, my brother, But boy, I sleep

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with her. So yeah,

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everybody facing the obvious except the lady that wrote

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the letter. Except thank you for writing us, ma'am.

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You don't have a boyfriend. No, no, no.

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