Have you always thought that ‘confident ‘ people were just born that way? That it is something you either have or you don’t have? Rob tells you why confidence is not a thing and what it really is. Learn today how confidence is really just certainty in different areas of your life, how being uncertain in one area of your life should not transmit into another area, as well the importance of not allowing others to rock your confidence.
These identities that we place on ourselves are just our ways of making meaning of a very complicated world that is difficult to understand. In reality, you are not an introvert or an extrovert. You are either certain or uncertain. If you are certain about something then you will become it.
It is very important for you not to label what you think you are based on how you feel. Experiencing rejection or upset will rock your certainty, just because it rocks your certainty today doesn’t mean that that is now your reality. What happened to you today and how you feel today does not have to be the same tomorrow. A feeling of uncertainty in one area of your life does not have to transmute to all areas of your life.
Where you have certainty you have confidence and where you have uncertainty you don’t have confidence. Therefore confidence is nothing to do with confidence; it is transient and not perennial. Confidence is everything to do with certainty. Your job is to become certain. Certain of who you are and what you stand for.
Nobody is fully confident in each area of their life. Confidence is transient meaning that if you have lost it, you can get it back. You may not have it today but you could have it tomorrow.
Certainty is awareness. Anything that you are not aware of is not real to you and anything that you become aware of you become clear about and certain about. If you become aware of your skills and your talents then you become certain, and when you become certain you become confident.
If you are uncertain about who you are you will start to believe the things that other people say about you. If your awareness is on the negative comments people are saying about you, then you will allow that to transmit and reduce your certainty. This means that you were not confident in yourself in the first place.
“If you are starting out in business and you haven’t got a lot of certainties yet, that doesn’t have to transmit across to your personal and private life. They are mutually exclusive; they are not the same thing.”
“I believe we all learn fast and retain information in things that are very important to us.”
“Confidence is not holistic. It comes and it goes and it ebbs and it flows.”
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Rob Moore is an author of 9 business books, 5 UK bestsellers, holds 3 world records for public speaking, entrepreneur, property investor, and property educator. Author of global bestseller “Life Leverage” Host of UK’s No.1 business podcast “The Disruptive Entrepreneur”
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