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Singleness Series (7): Cultivating Wholeness Outside of Relationships

Singleness Series (7): Cultivating Wholeness Outside of Relationships

Released Monday, 3rd June 2024
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Singleness Series (7): Cultivating Wholeness Outside of Relationships

Singleness Series (7): Cultivating Wholeness Outside of Relationships

Monday, 3rd June 2024
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I just feel like we should all be conscious

0:02

and taking the moment . Even

0:05

if you're married but you're still in your 20s

0:07

and you have kids , listen

0:09

, you still have lots of potentials

0:11

. Don't let anyone

0:13

bring you down . You have your goals , you have your

0:15

vision . Don't let it down . This is

0:18

the Emirates podcast , where

0:20

we empower you to choose yourself

0:22

, because there's no other human

0:24

being that's more important in this world

0:26

than you . This might sound selfish

0:29

, but it's not . If

0:31

you believe that choosing yourself is selfish

0:33

, then I want you to know that self

0:36

first isn't selfish , and

0:38

I will tell you why . Hi

0:57

guys , welcome back to another episode of the emirates podcast . I'm your host , emirates

0:59

, victoria odandala , and oh , this is the last

1:01

episode of the

1:03

singleness series and this

1:05

is part seven , as

1:08

planned . Now

1:11

, I think this was a good idea . I

1:13

think I did well

1:16

. I did not know back in the day that

1:18

I would be sharing

1:20

this in my own podcast

1:22

, this

1:28

in my own podcast . I just hope that the little you know advice , quick advice that you received helped

1:30

you in a way that

1:32

you probably needed , and

1:34

if you found these super

1:37

helpful , or if you just know someone

1:40

that really needs to tap into their singleness

1:42

and know more about

1:44

how , to you know , handle themselves when they're

1:46

single . Hey , it is

1:48

free . You can share

1:50

with someone and let them

1:52

know that they're literally

1:55

the center of their universe and they

1:57

can do anything they set their mind to

1:59

when they finally decide

2:01

that it is time . All so , as

2:03

usual , I am going

2:05

to start the recording soon

2:07

and then I'll catch

2:10

you guys after the recording

2:12

, all right , hey guys

2:14

. Oh , today is the seventh

2:17

day , we are

2:19

the 3rd of march 2019

2:22

, and I just want you

2:24

guys , I want you guys to know

2:26

that I did not even plan

2:29

to , I didn't even know that I

2:31

was gonna keep doing this , and I think I'm gonna

2:33

start doing this every day

2:35

. Just , you know , talking about every

2:37

different topic that can help

2:39

me . You know , write my blog , um . So , on this singleness

2:41

end , I just want to make a nice conclusion and a few tips in here . You

2:43

know , write my blog . So , on this singleness end , I just want to

2:45

make a nice conclusion and

2:48

a few tips in here . You know , because

2:50

we've been going

2:53

through these seven days , um , just

2:56

knowing exactly how blessed

2:58

it is to be single , how

3:00

you are blessed to

3:03

actually have this moment of thoughts

3:06

of you know I need

3:08

to get to know myself , I need

3:10

to know why I'm on , what the

3:12

frig on earth am I here for you know

3:14

? So the day one , we talked about

3:16

values and what it is actually

3:18

like how to get to know yourself and questions

3:21

to ask yourself . Second

3:23

episode we talked about

3:25

my personal experience , actually

3:28

, and I give you

3:30

a few tips and tricks on things

3:32

to do when single , which actually

3:35

opened up for the next

3:37

three days that followed it , which is mental

3:39

, spiritual and physical . So

3:41

the mental , um side

3:44

, when you're single , you have to be

3:47

conscious , you have to make conscious

3:49

decisions . You have responsibilities

3:51

financial responsibilities , physical responsibilities

3:53

. What are you going to do

3:55

with yourself ? You have to take care

3:57

of yourself . That's , no , your number . Yeah

4:00

, that should be your number one , number

4:02

one priority when you're single , you

4:04

have to be able to take

4:07

care of yourself and get to know yourself

4:09

better . The spirituality

4:11

is actually when you get to know yourself

4:13

. You have to ask yourself why

4:16

the frig am I on earth ? What

4:19

on earth am I here for ? You have

4:21

to help yourself know

4:24

your values and your future

4:26

. You have to know , um , what

4:28

are my values when you get to know your , why

4:30

, exactly who you want to be , even

4:32

if it's not as defined , because

4:34

that question is so , um

4:36

, abstract . You don't really see it exactly

4:39

, but you feel it , you know it . It seems

4:41

unreal because , of course , everything

4:43

that we feel deeply inside of us is

4:45

unreal . We think that we cannot dream big

4:48

, like if you think that you're gonna be the same next

4:50

Beyonce girl . You can

4:52

become the next Beyonce , no matter where

4:54

you are from , no matter where you

4:56

live too . Just know

4:58

that everything will come

5:01

where your mind is

5:03

, and that's what brings us to the physical

5:05

side , which

5:08

you have to have a prototype , you have to have

5:11

a vision , you have to

5:13

know where you're going . Of

5:15

course , we all know that God already has a plan

5:17

for us and stuff like that , but what tells you

5:19

that God does not have the same

5:21

plan as you do ? You know everything

5:24

will lead in the promised land , as

5:27

long as your goal is not to

5:29

turn this earth apart

5:32

, to lie or things like

5:34

that . You have to be real

5:36

, and God will be real with you too . On

5:40

the sixth day , I talked to you

5:42

guys about the reality of

5:44

when you're facing this consciousness

5:48

, you're making conscious decisions . You

5:50

will see that there's a lot of things that are not for

5:52

you . If you feel

5:54

like clubbing , for example

5:57

, it's not that clubbing is bad , but it depends

5:59

, like everything that you know . If

6:02

you abuse something , of course it's

6:04

bad , but at the end of the

6:06

day , let's just take clubbing , for example . So

6:09

you see that , oh , you know , clubbing is not

6:11

your thing and you want to stop that , but you

6:13

have All your friends that likes

6:15

the club every freaking weekend

6:17

. Of course you have to choose

6:20

who . What is your priority

6:22

? Is it your goals ? Is it the

6:25

fact that you want to take advantage of the singleness

6:27

, so that you don't turn like 29

6:29

and start thinking about this and

6:31

you actually take your stuff and you're like

6:33

friends ? I have to change . I

6:36

have to get a new entourage

6:38

. I have to get new friends , new group , new

6:40

network , people that sees

6:42

the life the same way that I see

6:44

it . So basically , that's

6:46

what it is when you are single

6:49

. Those are the things that you have to

6:51

think about , and when

6:54

you start thinking about it , you will see

6:56

that there's going to be a drastic change

6:58

, and me , I made that change in like

7:00

a year or two . Actually

7:02

, it's almost two

7:04

years that I've

7:07

made that change and it's

7:09

been a great journey . Guys

7:11

, I am very happy about

7:13

myself . I'm pretty proud because there

7:16

was a lot of sacrifices and

7:18

a lot of things that I had to implement

7:20

in my life , and it's not easy

7:22

, of course , but it takes courage

7:26

, not just motivation , but you have to be

7:28

willing , you have to see the picture

7:30

that you see and where

7:32

that's bringing you Like . I

7:35

know that I'm not even close to

7:38

where I want to be , but I

7:40

don't want to be sharing this when I'm 80

7:42

and seeing my fellows stuck

7:46

right . I just feel like we should

7:48

all be conscious and taking

7:50

the moment . Even if you're married

7:52

but you're still in your 20s and you

7:54

have kids Listen , you still have

7:56

lots of potentials . Don't

7:59

let anyone bring you down . You have your goals . You of potentials . Don't let anyone bring

8:01

you down . You have your goals . You have your vision . Don't

8:03

let it down . Even if you have

8:05

a husband , even if you're having troubles

8:07

in your life , just know that those things will

8:10

pass , because time is passing

8:12

and we're going fast . I

8:14

think that I've been talking

8:17

to y'all since day one to today . I feel like

8:19

I'm talking to y'all as a

8:21

day . That's how crazy

8:23

it is , because the time , the day , is going

8:26

so fast . I go to work , I come back

8:28

home , I do my thing , I write down

8:30

my stuff , I read , and all these things

8:32

are just going so fast and I don't even know

8:34

where we're going . But

8:40

I know where I'm going because I have my picture , my vision , my whole thing

8:42

laid down . You know , like I love listening to

8:44

, to relationship stuff . I love

8:46

listening to steve harvey , I

8:48

love listening to eckhart tolle

8:50

, I love listening to oprah

8:53

. I know that people have many , many

8:55

different vision . Just find yours

8:57

. Just find yours and don't

8:59

judge other people . Don't judge

9:01

them for what they're doing . If they're

9:03

not cautious , they will be conscious

9:06

one day , but it's not your

9:08

problem . It's not your duty to

9:10

wake them up . It's not my duty to make you

9:12

up , to wake you up , but what

9:14

I'm trying to do is make you

9:16

realize that this is the

9:18

real deal . Like we need to

9:21

stop going with the

9:23

crowd . We need to have our own

9:25

crowd , and that crowd

9:28

can only be you or two

9:30

or three people with you , as long

9:32

as it goes , as long as you guys

9:34

are seeing the same vision , and that's why it's

9:37

good to have a few pips that you

9:39

can talk to and discuss about all

9:41

these things and actually go

9:43

on Instagram

9:45

and you can meet cool people there and

9:47

stuff like that , and it's nice . You know Me

9:54

, I'm very stressed

9:56

over the fact that we need

9:58

to change . You need to take that time

10:00

and that blessing that you have , because

10:03

singleness matter . That's

10:05

why I am just

10:07

letting you know

10:09

First , if you are really single , if you

10:12

don't have a man , if you don't

10:14

have a woman , if you don't

10:16

have kids , you don't have responsibilities

10:18

. If you're really , really single

10:20

, I am telling you that you are

10:22

blessed , you are very

10:25

lucky and you should take advantage

10:27

of it and really

10:30

lead your life a good way , because

10:33

where you're going will

10:35

bring every little

10:37

people that I'm talking about husband

10:40

or wife , kids . They will

10:42

come when the time comes . Now

10:44

take your time , because it's a blessing

10:47

to be single . Okay , wow

10:49

, wow , wow , wow . I said

10:52

a lot and I did a resume

10:54

of everything that I spoke about , but I don't

10:57

think that I even spoke about those things

10:59

. Anyways , you guys are

11:01

the ones that are listening to it . I am listening

11:03

to it too , but I think that I did

11:05

not even talk about those things

11:07

like that in the previous series . Anyways

11:10

, congrats to me . I am very

11:12

, very proud of myself . I'm very

11:14

like super elated

11:17

right now . I'm happy , it

11:19

really brings joy to

11:22

see that I was able to record

11:24

myself and a few years

11:26

later I'm re-listening to it and

11:29

I can only be proud of myself because

11:31

I am the

11:33

person . Really , if you're gonna meet

11:35

me and I'm not bragging , but

11:37

I stand on what I talk

11:40

and when I give you advice is because

11:42

I already did it . I'm not gonna give

11:44

you anything that I haven't tried and

11:46

if I do , it's probably because I

11:49

am referring you to a book and

11:51

you know

11:53

, I'm just I'm just thinking about it but

11:56

like , yeah , yeah , yeah , what , yeah , what I said

11:58

. I stand on that . When

12:00

you are single , you

12:02

don't understand the the

12:06

beautiful thing , right

12:08

? Like I said , you don't have kids , you don't

12:10

have someone that depends on you to

12:13

do something . And when you're single , when

12:15

I moved to Vancouver and I saw

12:17

that I had a bunch of opportunities

12:19

the reason why I didn't stay

12:21

single for too long was because I was

12:23

ready , and I was

12:25

ready to learn more about

12:28

myself within a relationship . And

12:30

this is what I'm doing right now . Once

12:33

I am in a better place within my

12:35

romantic relationship , I'm

12:37

going to bring my boyfriend along here

12:39

and we're going to talk about the challenges

12:42

that we faced and maybe it's going to help you

12:44

kind of figure out if you're still single

12:46

figure out what's going on and how

12:48

you're going to handle your own um

12:51

, you know , arguments within

12:53

your relationship or , um

12:56

, if you are in a relationship , how can you also do

12:58

better ? Because right now

13:00

, um , I'm gonna keep it real with you guys

13:02

I am going through counseling um

13:04

with my boyfriend and I was

13:06

kind of closed off about that idea

13:08

for a long time , but I think

13:10

it will . It's really beautiful

13:13

because I was not comfortable

13:15

talking to his side and

13:17

I don't feel comfortable with us talking

13:19

about our issues with my

13:22

side . So I believe that

13:24

you know , counseling does not just happen when

13:26

things are really bad . Um

13:28

, it should , it should be something that's

13:30

normal . Um , if you need

13:32

someone to just mediate and

13:35

mediate , mediate anyways

13:37

, to just be there , non-judgmental

13:40

and professional , someone that

13:42

will actually talk to you and

13:44

talk to you both and not

13:46

have any sides , right , because

13:48

you're only human , it is normal

13:50

you're going to get , you know , choose

13:52

a side and stuff . But I love talking to someone

13:54

that doesn't have a side and doesn't blame

13:56

anyone and just looks and

13:59

talks to you , to us , in , like

14:01

just as if

14:03

we're both equal and there's

14:05

no like oh , I liked him better , so I'm

14:07

gonna back you know . But

14:10

yeah , if

14:12

I was single today , I think I would

14:14

stack up my money . If you live in

14:16

Canada , I know how inflation is crazy

14:18

. But if I was

14:21

, if I'm a man and I'm , if I

14:23

were a man and I was single today

14:25

, I would probably not date

14:27

until I actually reach

14:29

my money goal . And if I do

14:31

date , then I need to be very clear

14:33

on where

14:35

I am at and where I want to be and

14:38

make sure that the person is okay

14:40

with that , because women listen

14:43

if you're a man listening to this , we

14:45

are materialistic . Okay , we want money

14:47

, we want to be taken

14:49

care of , like financially

14:52

, you paying the bills , being , you

14:54

know , on

14:57

your shit , like you need to know

14:59

that . We want someone that's

15:01

responsible . We want someone that's going

15:03

to pay us stuff . You know , buy us our

15:05

wigs , pay for our nails

15:07

, do all that . But in order

15:09

for a man to do that , you have to have your money

15:12

straight , you know . So take care of those student

15:14

loans , guys . Like saving

15:16

up 20 000 a year . Is

15:18

it 20 ? Yeah , 20 or 10 000

15:20

a year would be really really

15:22

good for you . Um , if you have

15:24

a job , no matter how much they pay you

15:27

, you are able to pay to put

15:29

something aside , all

15:31

right . And if you can't , then

15:33

you have to look at what you can

15:35

remove in order for you to pay that

15:38

thing that you want . Things

15:41

are not free and

15:43

, just to wrap

15:45

it up , I spent $10,000

15:48

or more on myself to

15:50

better myself , like I went to therapy

15:53

not just therapy , but coaching . I had a

15:55

few coaching , a lot of them , and

15:57

I also not just for

16:00

my business , but it , when you take

16:02

coaching , coaching will start with

16:04

. You know why are you ? Do

16:06

? You have limiting belief , and

16:08

I really cannot

16:10

stress enough how it is

16:13

important to request for

16:15

help . You have all

16:17

of these things . You have Google . You can

16:19

find anyone that can help you figure

16:22

it out . All right , you are no

16:24

longer a child , at least I mean

16:26

, that was me at 23 talking

16:29

to you guys . I don't know I was talking to who

16:31

, but I was talking to someone . But the stuff that

16:33

I was saying , man , I

16:36

needed it . I needed to hear that today

16:38

, and I'm not even single , but

16:41

anyways , I hope

16:43

that you enjoyed this series

16:46

. This is literally the end

16:48

. I am coming back with the

16:50

stuff that I left . You're going to

16:52

see me more on YouTube my face

16:54

. Right now , I'm just going through a lot

16:57

with my face . Believe

17:00

me , acne is real

17:02

on my face right now , but

17:04

that's another subject for another

17:06

day . Take care of yourself

17:09

. If you like these series , let

17:11

me know . I'm on instagram at

17:14

the emirates both , and tiktok

17:16

too , and um , you

17:19

know . If you're listening from youtube , subscribe

17:21

and let me know what you

17:23

think about . When will you ? Will

17:25

you think about these series

17:27

? And if you want more of these , I can even

17:29

do a new one when

17:32

I turn 28 . All

17:34

right , I love you

17:36

guys . Just remember

17:38

that you are wonderful . You were created to

17:41

be wonderful . Your brain is created

17:43

for you to be just amazing

17:46

. So feel free to

17:48

have any type of goals and don't let

17:50

anyone make you think that your

17:52

goals are too big for you . All right , you

17:55

decide . Take care of yourself

17:57

again and remember self

17:59

first isn't selfish . Bye , bye

18:02

.

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