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I just feel like we should all be conscious
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and taking the moment . Even
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if you're married but you're still in your 20s
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and you have kids , listen
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, you still have lots of potentials
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. Don't let anyone
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bring you down . You have your goals , you have your
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vision . Don't let it down . This is
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the Emirates podcast , where
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we empower you to choose yourself
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, because there's no other human
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being that's more important in this world
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than you . This might sound selfish
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, but it's not . If
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you believe that choosing yourself is selfish
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, then I want you to know that self
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first isn't selfish , and
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I will tell you why . Hi
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guys , welcome back to another episode of the emirates podcast . I'm your host , emirates
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, victoria odandala , and oh , this is the last
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episode of the
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singleness series and this
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is part seven , as
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planned . Now
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, I think this was a good idea . I
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think I did well
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. I did not know back in the day that
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I would be sharing
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this in my own podcast
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, this
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in my own podcast . I just hope that the little you know advice , quick advice that you received helped
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you in a way that
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you probably needed , and
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if you found these super
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helpful , or if you just know someone
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that really needs to tap into their singleness
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and know more about
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how , to you know , handle themselves when they're
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single . Hey , it is
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free . You can share
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with someone and let them
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know that they're literally
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the center of their universe and they
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can do anything they set their mind to
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when they finally decide
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that it is time . All so , as
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usual , I am going
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to start the recording soon
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and then I'll catch
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you guys after the recording
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, all right , hey guys
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. Oh , today is the seventh
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day , we are
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the 3rd of march 2019
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, and I just want you
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guys , I want you guys to know
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that I did not even plan
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to , I didn't even know that I
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was gonna keep doing this , and I think I'm gonna
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start doing this every day
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. Just , you know , talking about every
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different topic that can help
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me . You know , write my blog , um . So , on this singleness
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end , I just want to make a nice conclusion and a few tips in here . You
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know , write my blog . So , on this singleness end , I just want to
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make a nice conclusion and
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a few tips in here . You know , because
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we've been going
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through these seven days , um , just
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knowing exactly how blessed
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it is to be single , how
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you are blessed to
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actually have this moment of thoughts
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of you know I need
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to get to know myself , I need
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to know why I'm on , what the
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frig on earth am I here for you know
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? So the day one , we talked about
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values and what it is actually
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like how to get to know yourself and questions
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to ask yourself . Second
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episode we talked about
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my personal experience , actually
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, and I give you
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a few tips and tricks on things
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to do when single , which actually
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opened up for the next
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three days that followed it , which is mental
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, spiritual and physical . So
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the mental , um side
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, when you're single , you have to be
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conscious , you have to make conscious
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decisions . You have responsibilities
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financial responsibilities , physical responsibilities
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. What are you going to do
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with yourself ? You have to take care
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of yourself . That's , no , your number . Yeah
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, that should be your number one , number
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one priority when you're single , you
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have to be able to take
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care of yourself and get to know yourself
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better . The spirituality
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is actually when you get to know yourself
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. You have to ask yourself why
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the frig am I on earth ? What
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on earth am I here for ? You have
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to help yourself know
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your values and your future
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. You have to know , um , what
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are my values when you get to know your , why
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, exactly who you want to be , even
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if it's not as defined , because
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that question is so , um
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, abstract . You don't really see it exactly
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, but you feel it , you know it . It seems
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unreal because , of course , everything
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that we feel deeply inside of us is
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unreal . We think that we cannot dream big
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, like if you think that you're gonna be the same next
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Beyonce girl . You can
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become the next Beyonce , no matter where
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you are from , no matter where you
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live too . Just know
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that everything will come
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where your mind is
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, and that's what brings us to the physical
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side , which
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you have to have a prototype , you have to have
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a vision , you have to
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know where you're going . Of
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course , we all know that God already has a plan
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for us and stuff like that , but what tells you
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that God does not have the same
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plan as you do ? You know everything
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will lead in the promised land , as
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long as your goal is not to
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turn this earth apart
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, to lie or things like
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that . You have to be real
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, and God will be real with you too . On
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the sixth day , I talked to you
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guys about the reality of
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when you're facing this consciousness
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, you're making conscious decisions . You
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will see that there's a lot of things that are not for
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you . If you feel
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like clubbing , for example
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, it's not that clubbing is bad , but it depends
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, like everything that you know . If
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you abuse something , of course it's
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bad , but at the end of the
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day , let's just take clubbing , for example . So
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you see that , oh , you know , clubbing is not
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your thing and you want to stop that , but you
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have All your friends that likes
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the club every freaking weekend
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. Of course you have to choose
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who . What is your priority
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? Is it your goals ? Is it the
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fact that you want to take advantage of the singleness
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, so that you don't turn like 29
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and start thinking about this and
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you actually take your stuff and you're like
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friends ? I have to change . I
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have to get a new entourage
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. I have to get new friends , new group , new
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network , people that sees
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the life the same way that I see
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it . So basically , that's
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what it is when you are single
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. Those are the things that you have to
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think about , and when
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you start thinking about it , you will see
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that there's going to be a drastic change
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, and me , I made that change in like
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a year or two . Actually
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, it's almost two
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years that I've
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made that change and it's
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been a great journey . Guys
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, I am very happy about
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myself . I'm pretty proud because there
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was a lot of sacrifices and
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a lot of things that I had to implement
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in my life , and it's not easy
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, of course , but it takes courage
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, not just motivation , but you have to be
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willing , you have to see the picture
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that you see and where
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that's bringing you Like . I
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know that I'm not even close to
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where I want to be , but I
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don't want to be sharing this when I'm 80
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and seeing my fellows stuck
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right . I just feel like we should
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all be conscious and taking
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the moment . Even if you're married
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but you're still in your 20s and you
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have kids Listen , you still have
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lots of potentials . Don't
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let anyone bring you down . You have your goals . You of potentials . Don't let anyone bring
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you down . You have your goals . You have your vision . Don't
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let it down . Even if you have
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a husband , even if you're having troubles
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in your life , just know that those things will
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pass , because time is passing
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and we're going fast . I
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think that I've been talking
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to y'all since day one to today . I feel like
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I'm talking to y'all as a
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day . That's how crazy
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it is , because the time , the day , is going
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so fast . I go to work , I come back
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home , I do my thing , I write down
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my stuff , I read , and all these things
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are just going so fast and I don't even know
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where we're going . But
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I know where I'm going because I have my picture , my vision , my whole thing
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laid down . You know , like I love listening to
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, to relationship stuff . I love
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listening to steve harvey , I
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love listening to eckhart tolle
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, I love listening to oprah
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. I know that people have many , many
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different vision . Just find yours
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. Just find yours and don't
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judge other people . Don't judge
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them for what they're doing . If they're
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not cautious , they will be conscious
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one day , but it's not your
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problem . It's not your duty to
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wake them up . It's not my duty to make you
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up , to wake you up , but what
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I'm trying to do is make you
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realize that this is the
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real deal . Like we need to
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stop going with the
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crowd . We need to have our own
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crowd , and that crowd
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can only be you or two
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or three people with you , as long
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as it goes , as long as you guys
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are seeing the same vision , and that's why it's
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good to have a few pips that you
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can talk to and discuss about all
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these things and actually go
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on Instagram
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and you can meet cool people there and
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stuff like that , and it's nice . You know Me
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, I'm very stressed
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over the fact that we need
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to change . You need to take that time
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and that blessing that you have , because
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singleness matter . That's
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why I am just
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letting you know
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First , if you are really single , if you
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don't have a man , if you don't
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have a woman , if you don't
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have kids , you don't have responsibilities
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. If you're really , really single
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, I am telling you that you are
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blessed , you are very
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lucky and you should take advantage
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of it and really
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lead your life a good way , because
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where you're going will
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bring every little
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people that I'm talking about husband
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or wife , kids . They will
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come when the time comes . Now
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take your time , because it's a blessing
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to be single . Okay , wow
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, wow , wow , wow . I said
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a lot and I did a resume
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of everything that I spoke about , but I don't
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think that I even spoke about those things
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. Anyways , you guys are
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the ones that are listening to it . I am listening
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to it too , but I think that I did
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not even talk about those things
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like that in the previous series . Anyways
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, congrats to me . I am very
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, very proud of myself . I'm very
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like super elated
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right now . I'm happy , it
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really brings joy to
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see that I was able to record
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myself and a few years
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later I'm re-listening to it and
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I can only be proud of myself because
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I am the
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person . Really , if you're gonna meet
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me and I'm not bragging , but
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I stand on what I talk
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and when I give you advice is because
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I already did it . I'm not gonna give
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you anything that I haven't tried and
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if I do , it's probably because I
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am referring you to a book and
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you know
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, I'm just I'm just thinking about it but
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like , yeah , yeah , yeah , what , yeah , what I said
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. I stand on that . When
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you are single , you
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don't understand the the
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beautiful thing , right
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? Like I said , you don't have kids , you don't
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have someone that depends on you to
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do something . And when you're single , when
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I moved to Vancouver and I saw
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that I had a bunch of opportunities
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the reason why I didn't stay
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single for too long was because I was
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ready , and I was
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ready to learn more about
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myself within a relationship . And
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this is what I'm doing right now . Once
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I am in a better place within my
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romantic relationship , I'm
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going to bring my boyfriend along here
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and we're going to talk about the challenges
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that we faced and maybe it's going to help you
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kind of figure out if you're still single
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figure out what's going on and how
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you're going to handle your own um
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, you know , arguments within
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your relationship or , um
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, if you are in a relationship , how can you also do
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better ? Because right now
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, um , I'm gonna keep it real with you guys
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I am going through counseling um
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with my boyfriend and I was
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kind of closed off about that idea
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for a long time , but I think
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it will . It's really beautiful
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because I was not comfortable
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talking to his side and
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I don't feel comfortable with us talking
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about our issues with my
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side . So I believe that
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you know , counseling does not just happen when
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things are really bad . Um
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, it should , it should be something that's
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normal . Um , if you need
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someone to just mediate and
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mediate , mediate anyways
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, to just be there , non-judgmental
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and professional , someone that
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will actually talk to you and
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talk to you both and not
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have any sides , right , because
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you're only human , it is normal
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you're going to get , you know , choose
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a side and stuff . But I love talking to someone
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that doesn't have a side and doesn't blame
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anyone and just looks and
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talks to you , to us , in , like
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just as if
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we're both equal and there's
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no like oh , I liked him better , so I'm
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gonna back you know . But
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yeah , if
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I was single today , I think I would
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stack up my money . If you live in
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Canada , I know how inflation is crazy
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. But if I was
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, if I'm a man and I'm , if I
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were a man and I was single today
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, I would probably not date
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until I actually reach
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my money goal . And if I do
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date , then I need to be very clear
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on where
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I am at and where I want to be and
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make sure that the person is okay
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with that , because women listen
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if you're a man listening to this , we
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are materialistic . Okay , we want money
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, we want to be taken
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care of , like financially
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, you paying the bills , being , you
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know , on
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your shit , like you need to know
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that . We want someone that's
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responsible . We want someone that's going
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to pay us stuff . You know , buy us our
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wigs , pay for our nails
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, do all that . But in order
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for a man to do that , you have to have your money
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straight , you know . So take care of those student
15:14
loans , guys . Like saving
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up 20 000 a year . Is
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it 20 ? Yeah , 20 or 10 000
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a year would be really really
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good for you . Um , if you have
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a job , no matter how much they pay you
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, you are able to pay to put
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something aside , all
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right . And if you can't , then
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you have to look at what you can
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remove in order for you to pay that
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thing that you want . Things
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are not free and
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, just to wrap
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it up , I spent $10,000
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or more on myself to
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better myself , like I went to therapy
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not just therapy , but coaching . I had a
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few coaching , a lot of them , and
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I also not just for
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my business , but it , when you take
16:02
coaching , coaching will start with
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. You know why are you ? Do
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? You have limiting belief , and
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I really cannot
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stress enough how it is
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important to request for
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help . You have all
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of these things . You have Google . You can
16:19
find anyone that can help you figure
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it out . All right , you are no
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longer a child , at least I mean
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, that was me at 23 talking
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to you guys . I don't know I was talking to who
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, but I was talking to someone . But the stuff that
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I was saying , man , I
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needed it . I needed to hear that today
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, and I'm not even single , but
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anyways , I hope
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that you enjoyed this series
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. This is literally the end
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. I am coming back with the
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stuff that I left . You're going to
16:52
see me more on YouTube my face
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. Right now , I'm just going through a lot
16:57
with my face . Believe
17:00
me , acne is real
17:02
on my face right now , but
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that's another subject for another
17:06
day . Take care of yourself
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. If you like these series , let
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me know . I'm on instagram at
17:14
the emirates both , and tiktok
17:16
too , and um , you
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know . If you're listening from youtube , subscribe
17:21
and let me know what you
17:23
think about . When will you ? Will
17:25
you think about these series
17:27
? And if you want more of these , I can even
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do a new one when
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I turn 28 . All
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right , I love you
17:36
guys . Just remember
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that you are wonderful . You were created to
17:41
be wonderful . Your brain is created
17:43
for you to be just amazing
17:46
. So feel free to
17:48
have any type of goals and don't let
17:50
anyone make you think that your
17:52
goals are too big for you . All right , you
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decide . Take care of yourself
17:57
again and remember self
17:59
first isn't selfish . Bye , bye
18:02
.
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