Relationships are tough – sexual relationships, family relationships, friendships – because we all have stuff. We're all flawed and make mistakes. Candice Carty-Williams' brilliant debut book Queenie­ is all about living with our stuff and understanding our value.

In this week's episode, Candice and I had a very frank conversation about the themes in her book. We talked about sex, and the importance of women having sexual agency. We talked about online dating, interracial dating and the damaging reductive stereotypes that surround black women’s bodies.

What I loved most about Queenie and my conversation with Candice is the message of self-worth – something I think we all have to remind ourselves of on a regular basis. But it's true, whoever you are – you are enough.

Enjoy listening. And mad, mad love to you all.

The book everyone’s been reading this year.

https://www.waterstones.com/book/queenie/candice-carty-williams/9781409180050

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