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    Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I answer a question about finding happiness without having to rely on others. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to tell if you’re co-dependent  How to find happiness whether or not you’re in a relationship Specific steps you can take this week to find more fulfillment and love   .tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet.hover .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -3px !important; } .tweet .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -21px !important; } Want to live the BEST version of YOU!? Take the FREE 5 Day Self Love Challenge and start living the life you want today!
  This weeks podcast starts off with me sharing about a brand new online course I’m putting together. Why is this significant? Well, I’ve never launched an online program like this before and I just know it has the potential to launch your life to the next level. Why? Because I combine what I’ve been teaching all along in the areas of Mindfulness, Self-Love, and Self-Awareness. More importantly, I break down those complex principles into bite-sized chunks that you can digest and practice every single day. The 6-week online course will guide you through each module where it will build on top of the next. You’ll team up with 11 other people (Yes, I’m limiting this course to 12 people) and get individual support from me as well throughout the program. If you want big change in your life but find yourself stuck in the same patterns time and time again then this course is for you. I’m opening up a waitlist (it’s already filling up) for those interested in finding out more. If you get on the waitlist (no commitment necessary) you’ll not only be one of the first to get a shot of securing a seat in our January class but you’ll get in at a steep discount off the launch price. All you need to do is enter your name and email at www.LivingMindfulMasterclass.com. This weeks topic is a powerful one and came to me as I was looking back on the first year of my life without my mom. She passed away in December 2013 and so much has transpired. This powerful lesson was realized as I appreciated what the past year in grief was truly like. However, you need not have someone close to you pass to garner the benefits of this Life Tool. Listen in to today’s podcast and see how you can apply this tool to your life right now! Before you tune in, have a quick look at my Facebook post which jumpstarted this entire episode… One year ago today I was sitting with my mom, my dad, and my sister. I looked into my mom’s eyes as she took her final breath and I told her she could go home. A lot has transpired in this past year. Lots of tears and also lots of joy. There’s a lesson I learned this year and it’s the lesson of trading a “but” for an “and”. It goes something like this… My mom is no longer living AND she’s alive in my heart. Sometimes I can’t believe she’s gone AND I know she’s right with me. I feel deep sadness AND I laugh really hard. My mother isn’t able to share her stories with me AND I’m still learning from her. Sometimes life sucks AND it’s always going to be okay. I get to mourn my mom AND not let depression take over. I can’t hear her voice AND she’s always talking to me. My kids will miss out on her amazingness AND they have so many great memories of it. She’s not in my life anymore AND she will always be a part of it. So many And’s in my life now. So many ways to appreciate the wholeness of the entire experience. I know it will continue to unravel and unfold and I will bare witness to it all. One day I will join her AND I have an amazing life to live until I do.
  Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how to fend off criticism with just 3 simple words. It doesn’t take much to make big gains in your personal life and I’m going to show you how! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE An all too common story with my 5-year old son Why criticism can be so painful 6 steps to get you out of your head Your weekly challenge   .tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet.hover .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -3px !important; } .tweet .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -21px !important; } Want to live the BEST version of YOU!? Take the FREE 5 Day Self Love Challenge and start living the life you want today!
Whether you’re in a romantic relationship, have a close friend, or have family members you’re bound to have had an argument at some point. Sure, some of us get into more arguments than others but the truth is it’s something we’ll all encounter at some point or another. Sometimes making up is nothing more than both parties ignoring what happened. Other times, the argument causes both people to completely stop talking. Then there’s that “makeup talk” that the rest of us face. Having that makeup talk can be difficult territory for us since there’s nerves on the line and while both parties want to get past the argument, both still have some unresolved business. This occurred to my wife and I recently and we utilized 10 tips that helped making up after that argument so much better! While these 10 tips are based on making up after an argument with my wife they are just as valid if you’re making up with your family member or best friend. Listen to the podcast for an in-depth look at these top 10 tips! 1. Check yourself Are you in a place to talk? Really check in with yourself and make sure you’re in a place where you want to have this conversation. The last thing you want to do is pick the wrong time to have that makeup talk. Here’s the important thing though. If now is not the right time to have that talk, make sure you tell them when exactly when a good time will be. The last thing you want to do is say, “not now” and then just leave it open. That’s passive aggressive and will just make matters worse. 2. Check your surroundings Are the kids needing your attention? Are there other distractions around you? Look around and make sure your surroundings are conducive to having this important talk. You’re going to want to make sure you can give your full attention and also receive their full attention. So this might mean that you have to move your conversation to a new room in the house or a different setting. Just be aware so you don’t wind up sabotaging this important connection. 3. Breathe I know, you’re obviously breathing but what I’m talking about here is conscious breathing. This will be extra important when you’re listening. Focus on your breath coming in and notice the lower part of your belly expand and then gently collapse as you exhale. Not only will this help you think clearly when you’re feeling emotional but it will also allow you to keep those judgements at bay when the other person is speaking. Focus on your breath! 4. Ask before giving feedback Ask them if they are in a place to receive some feedback. You’ve listened to them share and you’re probably wanting to give your reaction to what they just shared. Perhaps this is the first time talking since you had that argument/disagreement. In either event, you want to make sure the person is in a place to hear you. If they are not then what’s the point of sharing? They’re just going to put up a wall and shut you down. Remember, this is a makeup talk so you want to be sure you’re moving in the right direction. They’ll also feel respected when you ask if they are in a place to receive some feedback. 5. Use “I” statements My mentor, Lee Garland, taught me this one and it works so well as challenging as it is to actually put into practice. If this is the first time you’re talking to your partner/family member/friend since that last argument things are likely to be quite sensitive. Using “you” statements typically follows some type of blame and can easily cause the other person to get defensive. This is hard to put into practice but do your best to use “I” statements. For example, “When I hear someone yell I feel scared and angry. If I’m going to be in this relationship it’s only going to work if I know I’m not hearing yelling.” This is just an example but you can see it’s hard for someone to get defensive about a statement like this. You’re not blaming them and really the statement is all about you; about how you feel and what works and doesn’t work for you. Remember, keep this about yourself as much as you can and it will help so much! 6. What they share is about them Similar to the last tip, this is a great reminder that what they share with you even though it may involve you is really about them. Their thoughts and feelings are their thoughts and feelings so let them own them. If you’re having trouble with this one refer back to #3 and breathe! 7. Show up for yourself Show up for yourself by asking for what you need! Look, if you’re going to make this work and truly heal and forgive then you’re going to have to make sure you don’t leave the most important person behind…you! Make sure nothing is missing either when you start thinking of what you need. You don’t want to walk away from this conversation where your goal is to makeup only to feel resentment or frustration over not asking for what you need. So really look inside yourself and make sure you don’t leave anything unspoken. 8. Look each other in the eye One way to make sure that the other person doesn’t think they are being heard is to look elsewhere when they are talking. Make sure they know you are giving them good attention and that you hear them. Look into their eyes when they’re talking and let them know you truly care about where they are and that you are here to listen. Ask the same of them too! If you’re talking and they seem distracted or looking at other things politely ask them to give you attention by looking at you. 9. It’s so much more than this moment Your relationship is so much more than just this moment. What that means is that you can have an argument and still love someone. Love doesn’t only exist when things are going well. I can love my wife and still feel mad at her. Both coincide at the same time. This is important to understand as you’re going through these difficult moments. 10. Hug The best way to end that makeup conversation and transition back into your healthy relationship is with a little physical affection. However, before you dive in for that hug make sure you ask if they’d like to have on first. I know this might sound weird with someone you’re used to hugging all the time but you’d be surprised just how nice that other person might react. When you ask someone if they’d care to share a hug it gives them a chance to see if they want to be physically touched right now. It also let’s them know that this is something you’re sharing and not something you’re just forcing on them. We all get in arguments and disagreements from time to time and certainly with those we love. How we handle that makeup talk is critical to determining if we’re building a healthy relationship or one that’s going in the same or worse direction. I’ve shared 10 tips that I think will make a massive difference in building the relationships you want in your life. But I also know that these aren’t the only 10. So what tips do you have when it comes to making up with that important person? If you’re reading this post I highly encourage you to listen to the 30-minute podcast for much more!
    Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I’m going to show you how some really practical tips for stopping procrastination so you can get back to making those dreams a reality. I also show you specific things you can start doing today to make the changes you want to see for tomorrow. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE The not so obvious reasons we procrastinate Why it’s okay to give yourself a pass on procrastination 4 Practical Tips to move forward in your life LINKS MENTIONED Support the show and get Bonus content by pledging! OmniFocus for task management Join us on Facebook!  
    Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how to start living a more proactive life but putting some simple practices into play in the morning. I also show you specific things you can start doing today to make the changes you want to see for tomorrow. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to go from a reactive morning to a proactive one The value of taking back control of your day The Morning ABC’s How to get access to a FREE Morning Checklist   .tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet.hover .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -3px !important; } .tweet .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -21px !important; } Want to live the BEST version of YOU!? Take the FREE 5 Day Self Love Challenge and start living the life you want today!
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life-altering situations, although they can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I sit down with my friend Karen Salmansohn to learn some quick tips to battle anxiety. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE Simply and effective ways of battling anxiety Why Masters In Life may have the cure you’re looking for Great simple tools and tips you can use to beat anxiety in your day LINKS MENTIONED Masters In Life [CLICK HERE] The Anxiety Cure (SPECIAL PRICE ENDING MAY1) [CLICK HERE] www.NotSalmon.com Join me on Instagram at www.instagram.com/iamjoshbecker Join me on Facebook at www.facebook.com/iamjoshbecker  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you the first step (4 of 5) to finding your voice. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
  Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I give you two simple words that I use on a daily basis that have made massive shifts in my life. It doesn’t take much to make big gains in your personal life and I’m going to show you how! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to stop being your own blocker to growth Two words you can use every day to make massive shifts How to get out of the judgement rut and into the flow of curiosity A challenge you can start taking tomorrow Access to my free e-book
    Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you an alternative to living a life of shoulds and supposed to’s and how this will change your life. It doesn’t take much to make big gains in your personal life and I’m going to show you how! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE The problem with should and supposed to Why comfort and convenience breed mediocrity The alternative solution to should and supposed to How to apply the alternative in your life and what a life of the miraculous looks like.
  Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I answer a listener’s question about acceptance. I give you a 3-step process for finding acceptance in difficult situations. Plus, get 50% off the 14 Day Self Love Project for a limited time. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE A simple tip for getting out of uncomfortable situations Learn the 3-steps to acceptance in difficult situations The fundamentals of self-acceptance The breakdown on an historical quote about acceptance Why we/others always want to “fix” the situation FREE WEBINAR ON SELF LOVE WITH SOUL CAMP By now, most of you know I’m speaking at Soul Camp this coming September in Pennsylvania. However, if you can’t make it to Pennsylvania you can still join me for a free webinar with my friends at Soul Camp. To watch the reply simply Sign up here! CELEBRATING EPISODE 50 WITH A SPECIAL OFFER! To help celebrate last weeks 50th episode I thought it’d be a great time to give back. So if you sign up for the 14 Day Self Love Project through July 5, 2015, you’ll get 50% off! Sign up RIGHT NOW and get 14 days of the Self Love Project for only $14!! Be sure to enter the promo code “50OFF” to get your discount.   .tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet .action-buffer-container i, .tweet.opened-tweet.hover .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -3px !important; } .tweet .action-buffer-container i { background-position: -3px -21px !important; } Want to live the BEST version of YOU!? Take the FREE 5 Day Self Love Challenge and start living the life you want today!
Happy New Year Everyone!! I’m hoping you all rang in the New Year with some festive cheer! Of course, there may be some of you out there who brought it in a little less cheery. Yup, I spent New Years alone on the couch as my wife was asleep in our room and both kids – even the dog were out! With no one to kiss I practiced a little self love and kissed my hand (okay, it was a peck) and wished myself “Happy New Year!”. We’re a bunch of party animals, huh? With the new year brings new resolutions. I wrote about resolutions and how you might not want to have any back in 2013. However, in this podcast we’re taking a bit of a different approach. The great news about this particular episode is that whether you have resolutions or not you’re going to benefit greatly from what I’m about to share! In this episode I give a shout out to some new Facebook Friends so if you’ve recently joined us on Facebook you might want to see if your name was mentioned by listening! I also give some appreciation to Bernadette Logue of PinchMeLiving.com. Finally, I wanted to mention that I’m going to be on the Your Kick Ass Life Podcast this coming week. Andrea Owen and I discuss marriage and relationships. Specifically we talk about what seems to work and what doesn’t! If you’re in a relationship or even just wanting to get into one I encourage and invite you to join us! The link won’t be live until January 9, 2014 but just in case you’re reading this on or after that date, check it out! Andrea and I talked about Marriage – what works and what doesn’t work… Listen to the podcast for much more but I’ve got some cliff notes below just in case you can’t listen right now! Perhaps you can argue that the first thing on your mind when you wake up is NOTHING! Okay, so if you fall into that camp then consider that what I’m about to share with you should be the next two things…What I’m talking about is Gratitude and Practice. Let me explain… Our friend Brene Brown talks about gratitude and how it needs to be cultivated. True, gratitude isn’t something you are born with. Rather it’s a feeling, feeling grateful… There are many techniques for incorporating gratitude into your life. Some suggest making a list of 5 things before you go to bed. Others suggest using a smartphone app and jotting down something you’re grateful for throughout the day. Gratitude is a very powerful source of energy and what better time than in the morning to harness that power, right? We all want more out of life but how often are we grateful or appreciate just having a life? Waking up every morning is the perfect time to thank God, the Universe, or whomever you want to thank for just having the opportunity to breathe another day. Every day is a good day because you get to live it! Simply being grateful for having another day in your life is motivation to do so much in your life. Have New Years Resolutions? Great! Starting your day off grateful to be in it will give you powerful energy to enable you to make those resolutions stick this time! It also give us a different perspective on the world around us. How many times have you woken up dreading going to work, school, or bussing the kids around? Compare this to waking up in full gratitude of just being alive. You can begin to appreciate how much more energy you’ll have to bring to your day. In addition to gratitude I’m going to invite you to live your life with practice in mind. What do you get to practice? Living!! When you look at life as an opportunity to practice it changes everything! No more having to make the perfect dinner, build the perfect fence, write the perfect letter or make anything perfect for that matter. Did you mess up that New Years Resolution on the first day of 2014? Great!! Celebrate that because life is a practice. No, this doesn’t mean you just run around blowing everything off because you’re just practicing. Rather, you can appreciate when you do make a mistake and know that you’ll get another chance to practice again. Living in practice allows one to stay humble, it allows one to forgive, it allows one to be flexible, it allows one to be creative, it allows one to learn. Aren’t these all wonderful qualities to walk through life with? I invite you to consider starting your day off with the belief that you’re going to practice living the best you. On the days that you aren’t able to do that, it’s okay because you’ll get more practice on the next day and so on. Weekly Challenge: Every day this week wake up silently repeating these 2 things to yourself: 1. I am grateful for the gift of life I have today. 2. Today I will practice living the best version of me. Practice waking up with these 2 thoughts in your mind – and really feel them! – then let me know how your week shaped up! You’re going to be hard pressed not living your best life when you start your day with gratitude followed by having practice in mind.
What is Self Awareness? My definition of self awareness is as follows: Observing and Understanding ones own response to internal/external physical and emotional stimuli. Now this isn’t a definition I’ve been sitting with for years. In fact, I haven’t really come up with a finite definition of Self Awareness until creating this podcast. Keep that in mind as this will likely shift for me overtime. Listen to the full podcast here! I’ve always said that the first step to change is self awareness. The reason many of us are stuck in the life we live isn’t because we don’t have the time, the money, know the right people, or aren’t good enough. The reason we are stuck or THINK that we are stuck is because we lack self awareness. This isn’t a knock on anyone. We’re taught from a young age to not trust what our body tells us. Caregivers tell us we’re not smart, not to cry, not to be scared, do what we’re told, and the list goes on and on. And every time we hear that shaming language a little bit of our self awareness gets lost. Soon we learn to rely on everything external to us to determine if everything inside is well. The weather, how much money I make, my position in my company, my celebrity status, my Facebook likes and Twitter follows, whether or not our partner is happy, the economic status of our country, Fridays, Vacations, and on and on… Some of us become so disconnected from who we are that when asked how we feel we’re completely numb. I’ve worked with many people who literally don’t know how they feel. Most everyone else has a sense of what they’re feeling but can’t quite describe it. How many times have you responded to the question, “How are you feeling” with “fine”, “good” or “ok”? Sure, if you’re talking to a stranger you may not want to get into all the complications of your life. But we respond this way to close family, friends, and even our partners as well. Fine, Good, and OK are not feelings. They are judgements. On the surface you might ask me, “Josh, why are you acting so critical? You know what I mean when I say these things and after all it’s just semantics. I would argue that this isn’t the case at all. How we feel often times dictates how we respond to life. We have a thought about something, we apply a meaning to that thought (often based on what’s happened in our past) and then we produce a feeling. From there we normally act upon it. If we’re feeling happy we often times laugh or smile and we’re more apt to be friendly. If we feel angry or frustrated we often act in accordance with those feelings too. So you might wonder or others that are close to you might wonder why you respond to life the way you do. Consider the following scenarios where you might question why you respond the way you do: 1. Stuck at a job you don’t like. 2. Stuck in a relationship you don’t want to be in. 3. Seem to never have enough time in the day. 4. Constantly putting yourself last and others first. 5. Others might call you a perfectionist. 6. You can’t commit. 7. You can’t say No and when you say Yes, you rarely follow through. 8. Someone cuts you off while driving and you flip them off. 9. You become physically or emotionally abusive to others when “THEY” make you mad. 10. You’re constantly looking to “feel good” whether it’s in the form of drinking, drugs, sex, social media, buying things you can’t afford, eating unhealthy in the name of “it tastes good” and on and on… Look, I find myself in many of these situations from time to time. Self Awareness isn’t a finite and concrete state of being. Once you learn to become self aware it takes daily practice and even then it can be difficult to have anything different than a conditioned response. We all have areas in our life that need improvement and I believe that each of these areas point back to a lack of self awareness. Once we have the tools to become self aware we will have more opportunities for the change we seek. I’m going to provide you with 5 Steps to becoming more Self Aware: 1. Pause – in any given situation pause long enough stay centered and grounded in your body. (Breathe) 2. Think – What thoughts are you having in that moment about the situation. 3. Meaning – What do your thoughts mean? That you are not enough? or that you are enough/matter/lovable, etc. 4. Feelings – What feelings are you having as a result of the meaning you applied to your thoughts? 5. Response – Respond based on your feelings ONLY WHEN they align to a meaning that you are good, lovable, etc. Some guidelines to consider when putting these steps into place are: Lots of Practice Forgive Yourself not “if” but “when” you make a mistake in this process Be Intentional and live on purpose! This is about YOU becoming more self aware of YOURSELF not you trying to read, change, or fix other people in an attempt for them to become self aware. Remember, as Mahatma Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Weekly ISA Challenge: Self Awareness 1. Practice the 5 steps to self awareness. 2. Journal what you observed about each of the steps in this process. 3. Start noticing patterns. 4. Don’t judge yourself, just notice and become an observer.
This week’s podcast  started off with a shout out to a Facebook Fan of the I Simply Am Page. I then shared a very personal and tragic story of a close friend of mine who died this past week. While it was difficult for me to share, my hope is through this podcast and blog that I’m able to help others who may feel overwhelmed and unwanted. This is the first week I started answering listener/reader questions and Paula from www.TheWayofTheMommy.com wrote to us on Facebook with 3 questions that I answered. I then introduced the topic of this weeks podcast which is “7 Ways To Get Hours Back in Your Day”. Finally, I went over this weeks ISA Challenge! Below, find the show notes from the podcast but I highly encourage you to listen to it yourself for this and much more! ISA Community Shout Out Paula Lundquist: Paula has been a contributing member to the ISA Facebook page for some time now. I really appreciate how honest, vulnerable, and courageous she is. She shares openly and does an amazing job modeling what it looks like to truly want life change. She contributes often and I appreciate and celebrate you Paula. If you’d like to get an appreciation and a shout out join us on FB, Facebook.com/isimplyam and let me hear from you. I’ll be happy to mention your business or site here on the show. Losing A Friend One of my best friends for the last 15 years died this week. While we’re still awaiting the autopsy results it appears to be that he took his own life. He had everything on the outside but something was still eating away at him on the inside. He wound up coping and isolating as a means to get some relief. The problem with coping and isolating is that while it temporarily takes the pain away it’s never resolving any of it. At some point, it’s just too much for even the coping mechanisms to be able to bear. He left behind a beautiful wife and 3 small beautiful children. If you feel like something is missing from you. If you ever feel that you are not worthwhile or that you don’t matter please reach out. I realize the first instinct is to retract and claim that others don’t care, don’t have time, or you don’t want to bother them consider those red flags. Consider that the natural and appropriate thing to do is reach out. I realize that the norm in our society is to pull away or cope but I’m inviting you to consider this is a red flag that you’re going down the wrong path. I’ll likely dedicate another show to this topic but wanted you to know I am grieving now for the loss of my friend and in addition to reaching out for support I’m also looking to the gifts that my friend left me along the way. ISA Community Questions Paula from TheWayofTheMommy.com wrote in on Facebook with the following questions: 1. How do I get into the zone so that time freezes? When I hear this question it reminds me of what being in the present looks like. There are some tips and suggestions I have here. First, forget about the notion of multi-tasking. It used to be the thing to do and we had this idea that we could do more things at once. The problem is, you may be doing multiple things but you’re not doing any one of them very well. Even worse, you’re not in the present when you’re multi-tasking because there’s part of you that’s focused on what’s next and that’s spread out across multiple different things. So the key here is to set aside some time to do just one thing. Another important thing to put in place is an intentional transition between tasks. If you were playing with the kids but have now set aside 30 minutes to focus on writing make sure you transition. It could include some deep breaths or even some light brushing off. Finally, if you find yourself focusing on the “what’s next” just gently bring yourself back to the present task at hand. 2. What kind of tips do you have so that I can experience more time or enoughness of time during the day and week? Everyone has the exact same amount of time every week. So no matter how you slice it we all get 168 hours in a week. Even if you get 8 hours of sleep every night and have a 40-hour a week job that still leaves you with 72 hours. Having said that instead of focusing on how much time you have or don’t have I would focus on what you’re doing with your time. Consider everything you do during a given week. Write down all of the major ways you spend your time. For example, work, spending time with the kids, writing, exercise, food shopping, watching tv, etc. Now look at the things that don’t align with your real goals. This may be a great exercise for you to not only redefine your goals and dreams but see where the time you are spending is going. For example, if you’re spending an hour a night watching TV maybe consider taking 4 of those 7 nights to focus on doing what you’re passionate about. Even if you do that it will still leave you with 3 hours a week of TV watching. That’s just one example. Remember, it’s not about how much time you have or don’t have, it’s about how you choose to spend your time. 3. Is planning really necessary or is there another way? I don’t think there’s one right answer here. I think for most people planning is the best route. This gives some structure and safety to your week while still allowing flexibility to change if something comes up. It’s also a nice way to track how your week is going relative to how you planned it. However, if planning isn’t quite your thing I would still consider assessing your week on Sunday’s. For example, take 30 minutes on a Sunday and write down how you spent most of your time. Consider what you accomplished and didn’t accomplish. You may have to revise how you tackle the next week based on your assessment. Next week our focus will be on the topic of Blame. If you struggle with blaming others or find that others are blaming you please send in your questions and I’ll be sure to answer them on the podcast. Simply send me an email to josh@isimply.am with your questions or on Facebook and I’ll answer your questions on the show! Show Topic: 7 Ways To Get Hours Back in Your Day 1. Surrender to outcome and let intention guide you. Focus on the bigger picture (of intention) and don’t get so caught up in what it’s supposed to look like. Go through your day focusing on whether or not what your’e doing is in alignment with your “bigger picture” (your intention) and less about how the outcome looks. This is a great tip for those perfectionists out there who are overly focused on the outcome. 2. Learn to say No. You don’t have to take on everything. A No to someone else is really a Yes to yourself. 3. Learn to say Yes and commit. This makes your Yes’ real and solidifies what you’ll be doing during the day and what you won’t be doing. Only doing what you say Yes too! 4. Being vs Doing. Remember, you are enough, whole, and important just because you’re here. The things you do are important and have value but they don’t define who you are. When you’re able to separate who you are from what you do, you’ll be amazed at how much time you get back in your day. 5. Get a Team. Not just to help with tasks but to help with support, encouragement and accountability. 6. Flexibility and Forgiveness. Allowing yourself to shift gears mid stream is key to not only living with intention but also to ensure you’re not stuck spending hours on something that’s just not right. Forgive yourself from having to stick to some unchangeable schedule or to other people expectations of you. Go back to intention, back to the bigger picture. 7. Self Care. Start off the day with a meditation or light brushing off and set your intentions. Doing so will free you up from all the other stuff that can bog you down throughout the day. Weekly Challenge: Step 1: Create a Goal Setting and Action Plan. This will help you set your Intention or the Big Picture. You can make your own or you could do what I did and visit Scott Dinsmore’s site. He’s got an amazing template you can fill out. The site is www.liveyourlegend.net/email-updates and by just entering your email you’ll get full access (totally free) to the workbook and much more. I’m a subscriber to his site and if you don’t want to get anymore of his content after you get this workbook you can simply unsubscribe. Step 2:Get an Accountability Team and set up daily or weekly check ins with them. Step 3: Create a weekly schedule with Daily Themes. Ensure that your daily themes and your tasks throughout the day are aligned to your Action Plan and your bigger picture (intention). I like to use a template from Michael Hyatt over at http://michaelhyatt.com/myresources/my-ideal-week.png If this is too much or feels overwhelming just go back to the list of 7 things I spoke about earlier and pick one or two of those things to work on throughout the week. Either way you’ll be moving in the right direction and taking one more step to living your fullest life! For those of you that aren’t able to listen to a Podcast I want you to know that I miss my written posts as well. I plan to start writing more on the site as well so please be on the lookout for more written posts. With Gratitude and Appreciation, Josh
In this weeks episode I share the single most important thing you need to know! So what’s this all about? Well, in this episode I thought it was important to share what I consider to be the fundamentals and the foundation of self-awareness. Why is this important? Well we all want to be happy, right? We all want to have the opportunity to find our purpose in life and live out our passions. We want to love and be loved by others and we want to know that at the end of our lives we’ve made a difference in this world. Did I sum that up pretty well? I know this holds true for me and I can imagine that’s true for you as well. So how come we have so much trouble doing this? Often times we point back to not having enough Self Love. The easy way to know that is by looking at the opposite effect which is self hatred. If you hate yourself you’re not going to be happy, you likely have no idea what your purpose is – in fact, you probably think  (incorrectly so) that there isn’t a purpose for you, there probably aren’t a lot of healthy and loving relationships and it’s going to be really hard to contribute to the world as you were intended. If we know that self hatred leads down a dark path that many of us are and have experienced – by the way I certainly have most of my life – then self love must take us down the other path. I think that’s pretty clear and I haven’t heard too many people make the argument for hating yourself to reach enlightenment. The problem is you can’t just start loving yourself. In fact, before you love yourself there’s actually one additional element and that is the foundation of all of this and all of life (well your life anyway). That foundation is called Self Awareness. You can’t love yourself if you have no idea who the heck you are, right? In fact, this is probably the most common question asked among all age groups, genders, cultures, ethnicities, races, religions, etc. More specifically the question, “Who Am I?”. This is exactly why I created this podcast to help answer that question. And to answer that question we need to understand who we are. I love talking about the topic and in fact if I had to present somewhere (hint, hint…if you’re looking for a speaker EMAIL ME!) it would definitely be about this or at least incorporate this. The one thing that you probably don’t tell yourself that you should start is this… “I am NOT what I think, what I feel, or what I do.” So what does that mean exactly? Well, first you should be listening to the podcast. I go into much more detail on the show and I really think you’re going to benefit by hearing my thoughts on this as this post will quickly turn into a book! Hey, there’s an idea! Let me give you the quick version though and then when you have 40 minutes you’re washing dishes, exercising, driving, or running errands go listen to the podcast. I am not what I think. So why is this true? Well, your thoughts if they are anything like mine are all over the place. From fantasies to day dreaming to thinking about worst case scenario to telling ourselves we aren’t good enough. Our thoughts leave our brains just as quickly as they come in. How could who we are be based on something that just flies in and out and changes from one second to the next? More importantly, if you stop long enough you’ll notice that there are actual gaps in between our thoughts. True, it might be a fraction of a nano-second but there are gaps in between our thoughts. A brief period of time where we literally aren’t having a thought. In those moments, you still exist, right? Of course you do! It’s not like if you can meditate and not have a thought for 7 seconds that you somehow get teleported to some foreign planet right? So clearly we are not our thoughts. If this is the case then we can stop BEING not good enough, not smart enough, and not attractive enough. Because, clearly those are thoughts we have and we are not our thoughts. So the next time you have a thought that you are not enough, simply notice that you are having that thought and then go and respond based on WHO YOU ARE and not on what you are thinking in that given moment. I am not what I feel. Everything I just said about thoughts holds true for feelings. We’ll be happy one moment and pissed off or scared to death 2 seconds later. What’s up with that? Well, those are just feelings! Yes, feelings are important and they can tell us a lot about what’s going on in our world. All too often we confuse who we are with how we feel. We feel lonely and we become alone. We feel anxious and we become an anxiety attack. We feel sad and we become depressed. We feel angry and we become enraged. We’re literally turning into our feelings! Not surprising why so many heart attacks and heart illnesses are due to stress and guess what stress is? A feeling! We’re literally feeling our way into the hospital! The good news is that while you do produce feelings you are the creator of them, not the victim of them. At least you don’t have to be anymore. Here’s how… The next time you feel something (e.g.; happy, sad, frustrated, scared, anxious, angry, etc.) literally say, “Hello ______” inserting the name of the feeling into the blank. This might sound funny but you want to be able to give yourself just enough separation between WHO YOU ARE and how you feel! You get to have feelings and not become them. True? Of course! I am not what I do. We were all convinced at a young age that who we are has everything to do with what we do. That’s why we all wanted to be popular, get into that great school, get that degree, get that job, get that raise, make that money, buy that house, and have those friends. AND, if we didn’t do those things then we felt like crap. We would do our best to avoid people knowing the truth about ourselves for fear that that would find out “who we really are”. All the while, who we are actually had nothing to do with what we did!! When you were born and for the first couple years of your life you didn’t do anything! Right? I mean you ate, slept and pooped but that was about it! You were still here, right? More than that, you were beautiful, creative, intelligent, important, enough, and whole. Yet you didn’t do anything. So who told you that after being born all these things you had to then go and spend the rest of your life proving yourself? It’s ridiculous!! We’ve gone from human beings to human doings. We’re all so busy and for what? Those few times we’re not busy and we’re so uncomfortable with not doing something that we freak out! This week I want you to practice these exercises and practice telling yourself the single most important thing: “I am not what I think, I am not what I feel, and I am not what I do.” On the podcast I also give appreciation to those of you who have left reviews on iTunes. Unfortunately, many of you have left reviews months ago but I never saw them until just recently. Countries outside of the US show up differently in iTunes but fortunately I found a way to get these reviews so a big shout out to all of you in non-US countries like New Zealand, UK, Italy, Australia, and beyond who have left reviews. It would help me out so much IF YOU left me a review on iTunes! If you could just take 3 minutes right now by clicking here! That link will take you to iTunes where you can launch the iTunes application and leave a written review. I would be so grateful!! Let me know your thoughts on this weeks topic as I’d love to hear from you and if we’re not connected on Facebook then please join me in the conversation over there! Much Love and Big Hugs!!
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how you can shift your mindset so that you start your week off calm, centered, and prepared to kick ass in life! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I share with the biggest reason you don’t pull the trigger on making your next big move and exactly how to do that! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE The top reasons we stall out on making our dreams a reality The one belief we need to change How to change our story so we can start living the dreams we’re destined for LINKS MENTIONED Want to work privately with me? Let’s do it before my rates go up in 2017! To set up a FREE 60-minute session click here! Join us on Facebook!  
    Self help and Mindfulness isn’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although it can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I’m going to share with you the dirty little secrets perfectionists don’t want you to know. I also show you specific things you can start doing today to make the changes you want to see for tomorrow. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE What Perfectionists don’t want you to know The best way to love the Perfectionist in your life Three principles to live by if you’re a recovering Perfectionist Plus… A brand new website for us to call home! A FREE course that will give you the foundation for writing your new story!  
When it comes to attention people typically fall into two camps: The Deserving and Unhealthy: These are people that think they are deserving of attention (hint: if you’re alive you are deserving of attention) but they were never really taught the healthy way of getting it. BTW, I totally fall into this camp and have struggled in this department most of my life. These people don’t think they should be left out of a conversation or ignored. On the contrary, they often times wind up using passive aggressive measures to seek the attention they lack. This is where we get into the obsessive selfie composers. No, this doesn’t mean if you take selfie’s you have attention seeking issues. This varies from person to person but I will say this. It’s the exception-not the rule- that if someone compulsively posts selfies of themselves that they have zero issues around seeking and receiving healthy attention. Of course this is just one example. I’ve even caught myself consuming a conversation without realizing it only to find out later I was lacking attention and when I finally received some I wanted to fill up as if I had an empty tank! The Undeserving and Unhealthy: These are people that don’t think they deserve any dosage of attention. They typically focus on everyone else and to the determinant of themselves. Unfortunately, these people that don’t think they need or deserve any attention normally feel left out, unwanted, unlovable and alone. They are literally abandoning themselves by not allowing any attention (certainly not healthy attention) to come into their lives. It’s a vicious cycle and ultimately they can wind up losing out on the very relationships they seek the most. And of course, there are people that have little issue as it relates to giving and receiving attention but they are few and far between. If that’s you then I still think you’re going to benefit from listening to this weeks podcast. Why? Because, I think you’re going to hear a different take than what you’re used to hearing. I also think it would be good to understand what most of your friends are facing as it relates to getting a healthy dose of attention. If you haven’t read my FREE ebook, “The 5 Day Self Love Challenge” then I highly recommend you do. Just below this post you’ll see a place to enter your name and email. I’ll send you a free copy of the ebook that includes some great exercises for you to try at home. Why do I mention my ebook and Self Love? Because giving and receiving attention is one major way that we also give an receive love. If we’re not ensuring we are receiving healthy levels of attention then we are sabotaging a fundamental need we all have – to be loved. So what’s the key to this whole attention thing? Well, you’ll need to listen to the podcast to get all the details but let me give you this one clue…getting healthy attention has more to do with giving it to ourselves than it does receiving it from others. The good news is that there are tangible things you can do to change this aspect of your life. In doing so you will definitely be on the path to take your life and your relationships to the next level. Two other quick reasons to listen to this weeks podcast (you can also listen + subscribe on iTunes). 1. Be the first to hear about something very special coming in January 2015 and how it could change your life. 2. I leave a fun tip at the end of the show for how to deal with those times you just feel bugged and want to snap out of it! With Gratitude + Appreciation – Oh, and BIG HUGS!  
“Be willing to be uncomfortable. Be comfortable being uncomfortable. It may get tough, but it’s a small price to pay for living a dream.” – Peter McWilliams By the end of today’s podcast we’re going to uncover one of the biggest lies we tell ourselves. We’re then going to look at 5 things we can start doing today to start living the life we all want and deserve! In The News: I open up this weeks episode sharing an article that’s was going around the interwebs last week. The article focused on a new school policy at New Haven Middle School in Evanston, Illinois. Several girls were told they were no longer allowed to wear leggings or yoga pants to school because they were “too distracting to boys”. You can find the full article here: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/03/27/the-politics-of-leggings-in-middle-school.html Earlier this month, several girls at Haven Middle School in Evanston, Ill. were told they would no longer be allowed to wear leggings or yoga pants to school because they were “too distracting to boys.” I go into this a bit more in the podcast but here are 3 highlights of what I shared in response to this article. I completely invite you to leave a comment on this post with your thoughts and feelings about this as well! 1. Nobody is responsible for the thoughts and feelings you put into your own brain. 2. When we blame others for the thoughts and feelings we produce we become a victim. Boys that sexualize girls based on what they wear are not victims. 3. Making girls feel responsible for taming the sexual appetite of adolescent boys is irresponsible and inappropriate at best and shamefully abusive at worst. This Weeks Topic: We all do the things that feel comfortable and then wonder why we’re not where we want to be. We… stay in that same horrible job. stay in that same horrible relationship. blame the same people and things. eat the same bad foods… Now you might be thinking these things don’t feel so comfortable. And the reality is they  don’t BUT when we think about how UNcomfortable it would feel to leave your job, leave your partner, stop blaming, and start eating healthy it becomes MUCH MORE comfortable to stay doing the same things. So, we actually find comfort in the discomfort to avoid what we think will really be uncomfortable! Are you following me? What do you dream about? Losing weight and having a certain body type? Being in a loving relationship? Owning your own business? What do these things all have in common? In order to have these things you need to do things that aren’t comfortable. You need to leave the bad relationships you’re in, you need to take that scary jump into the world of startups, you need to eat healthy and exercise! But you know all this right? So why don’t you do it? Your avoidance to discomfort is so fierce that your brain will trick you into thinking you don’t know! How many courses, seminars, books, podcasts, and documentaries have you consumed in an effort to “learn” how to do something and then come to realize that you never do it? It’s because you never needed to learn those things to begin with. Your brain was avoiding the discomfort of actually doing the work SO BAD that it convinced you that you needed to learn first. A brilliant stalling tactic, huh? Okay, so we all agree that in order to make all those dreams come true we need to get close with discomfort but how? Listen to the podcast now to hear much more! 1. Discomfort is just a feeling and you are not your feelings. 2. Get very vocal about your dreams and then have others hold you accountable. 3. Practice getting uncomfortable: Hate listening to rap? Start listening to it. Need an extra sweater in the evening? Toss the sweater. Sit with your right leg over your left? Switch! Wear your watch on your left wrist? Wear it on your right. 4. Write out what you know you need to do to make that dream come true. Look for the things that feel the most uncomfortable and set a date to do those first. 5. Hunt discomfort down. When you have two choices pick the one that feels the most uncomfortable. We all have big dreams no matter how different they might be. But we all share that same addiction. The addiction to feeling good and we’re so good at it too! And we’re awesome at avoiding discomfort. We’re also awesome at having dreams and never actually living them. So if we can just take some simple steps to start tweaking that a bit, we can get closer to living the life we want. You don’t have to make drastic changes in your life. Little shifts every day will help set you in the right direction down the path to your dreams. Just take little shifts.
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how to become a self aware ninja in any relationship! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE A discussion on External vs Internal Awareness Mindful vs Carried Feelings The final step in becoming a self aware ninja! LINKS MENTIONED Right now I’m offering the Love Reset course, absolutely FREE! Enter your name and email here to get started! Join us on Facebook!  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you 3 super simple self-care practices you can do today! WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how you can love yourself with just 120 seconds of your time. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you how to give and receive attention (to yourself) in ways that are healthy and ensure YOU are the greatest love of your life. WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
    The practices of Self Help, Mindset, and Mindfulness aren’t just for people experiencing life altering situations, although they can be. In this mini-episode of The I Simply Am podcast I show you 3 tips you can take action on today to become a Self-Care Pro WHAT YOU’LL FIND INSIDE How to join an amazing community of people in action! How to shift your mindset on starting your week. Taking action to start your week off with inspiration and intention LINKS MENTIONED Tired of wishing for change in your relationships or in your business? Ready to put an end to “wanting” and start shifting into real action?  click here to set up a FREE introductory coaching session with me! Join us on Facebook!  
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Sep 17th, 2013
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