How one woman turned her people pleasing tendencies into her greatest asset

This week’s episode is one that I believe a lot of you want and need to hear. This week’s guest is deeply and truly authentic, someone who truly cares about each person she encounters—her name is Lindsey Shwartz. In a filtered world where only highlight reels are shared, people pleasing and living up to an unrealistic reality is a constant pressure. Lindsey digs deep into her inherent tendencies of people pleasing, how she worked through her self-doubt, and the journey it led her on to create a community of love, support, honesty, and compassion.

Listen to this week to hear the captivating story of how an Enneagram 9 evolved and faced her unhealthy aspects to truly embrace herself and turn her “flaws” into her greatest strengths.

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Your environment will either push you or paralyze you

Lindsey Shwartz shares the version of herself several years ago—a woman who was working at 70% of her potential, which looked like 150% of most people’s, and gaining recognition and awards as a result. A tiny voice inside of her was calling her to greatness, to exert herself to 100%, but her environment failed to push her.

She shares the significant moments of being called to action, being challenged by criticism, called out by strangers, and how this led to her writing a book, her in depth soul searching, and her recognition of her strengths.

Getting out of your own way and into action

Lindsey discusses that while she was sifting through her own people pleasing tendencies and self-doubt, she watched numerous women in her life stop short of pursuing their own entrepreneurial dreams because of their own fear and self-doubt. She shares how this helped her identify a need for more honest conversations about the trials and successes of entrepreneurship, and to show that you don’t need to have it all together to get started.

Today, Lindsey has grown a community of women that gives permission to show up in your glorious self and encourages you to step into your gifts that make you uniquely you.

Lindsey Shwartz

Lindsey Schwartz is an entrepreneur, top podcast host, and best-selling author. As a sought-after speaker, Lindsey travels around the world inspiring women to get out of their own way and into action around their big ideas and helping them create the careers they’ve always dreamed of. She grew the Powerhouse Women community, annual event, and podcast, with the motto that we're not meant to do business (or life) alone!

“What [Lindsey] realized in this people-pleasing is until she let go of that, she was not going to be able to do what she was called to do.” 5:17

“When people tell me ‘fix me, I’m broken, there’s something wrong with me,’ I’m like ‘no, no, no, no, there’s nothing wrong with you, this is who you needed to be to take you to the next level.’” 8:08

“The only way to find what you’re actually capable of is to throw yourself into something that you have no business doing.” 13:00 -Lindsey

“You Enneagram 9’s listening, your voice and your opinion matters, I know that’s the biggest fear of a 9, and when you actually use it, you are Yoda.” 16:16

“That feeling of ‘crap, am I the one to do this’ is actually how you know you’re going in the right direction.” 20:02 -Lindsey

“The first time you don’t ‘people-please,’ because you’ve conditioned the people in your life to accept that you’re a people pleaser, it comes with a lot of backlash.” 27:25

“I thought I had to become less of a people pleaser to be successful. I thought I had to care less… but actually the fact that I care and it’s authentic to my core is what has made me so successful.” 33:31 -Lindsey

“You know your intention and it was out of love and between you and our maker at the end of the day I know that you know that you did it out of love for yourself which is important.” 38:51

“Everything we do is either out of fear or love. If we know it’s out of love, then we can have high involvement in the process but a low attachment to how it’s received.” 40:30

“I’m not serving anyone if I’m not sharing that full side of [my light].” 49:01