Have you ever been told to reconnect with who you were, but really have no clue who that is? Some people started their life in a toxic or dysfunctional environment and have no healthy self to reconnect with. What do you do then? There are step

When family believes they know what's best for you

10 days ago 29m 42s

As an adult, you've learned to take care of yourself. You believe you are making the right decisions and following the best steps you can to find happiness. But then there's family. Some family can believe you're doing the wrong thing and want

When all feels lost and you believe nothing will ever be good again

17 days ago 35m 10s

Experiences of loss, such as a breakup and losing your job can have a profound emotional impact on you. In fact, it can feel devastating. Afterward, a childlike confusion can follow. Will the pain, sadness, or confusion ever end? Is there a pat

Trying to avoid overwhelm and disappointment while moving toward your goal

24 days ago 26m 20s

Going for goals can be, well, disappointing. Trying to get something done might give you feelings of failure when you don't get it done. Are you a goal setter or do you wing it? I hate goal-setting myself. I'll share some of my thoughts on this

The inner conflict of tough decisions

Mar 24th, 2024 39m 32s

What drives the important decisions in your life, fear or desire? In this episode I talk about a person's fear of visiting his father because of family that doesn't want him there. I also talk about how to start trusting again after someone bet

Can a chronic complainer ever be content?

Mar 17th, 2024 56m 10s

There's a fine line between real suffering versus just getting stuck in a cycle of feeling sorry for yourself. The chronic complainer's suffering is real, but is it self-inflicted? Do they really want to change? And do some people benefit from

Stuck in the middle of someone else's relationship issues

Mar 10th, 2024 1h 2m

Trying to encourage a friend in a relationship to see the truth about their toxic partner can come with its own set of challenges, especially when the friend doesn't want to hear it and the toxic person wants to shut you down.

When the new person in your life still has feelings for their ex

Mar 3rd, 2024 1h 4m

What happens when you fall for someone who might still have feelings for the person they were with? Is it a relationship that can survive? Or will the fear of them returning to the person they cared about before you be too much for you to keep

How do I deal with someone always putting me down?

Feb 25th, 2024 57m 27s

When someone constantly puts you down, it’s not just hurtful; it’s destructive. I’ll share some personal strategies that could help you navigate these rough waters, aiming to keep your self-esteem intact.

The quirks that might make others judge us

Feb 18th, 2024 58m 2s

A "germaphobe" shares their challenge at a work function with food being the catalyst for an embarrassing moment that ended up in tears. When you have behaviors and nuances that others might judge you for, do you hide them from the world? Shoul

Can challenges and conflicts lead to happiness?

Feb 11th, 2024 51m 57s

Why is it so hard to strike a balance between our own happiness and the happiness of those we care about? In today’s episode, I tackle the challenges of relational conflict and the importance of acknowledging when we’re not okay. We face tough

Am I wasting time thinking it's ever going to get better?

Feb 4th, 2024 57m 33s

Is there light at the end of the tunnel of a troubled relationship? Past difficult relationships can certainly leave you with sensitivities to current and future ones, so it's important to make sure you align with what's most important to you a

When you don't want to accept that thing they do

Jan 28th, 2024 37m 51s

Why is it so hard to strike a balance between supporting someone's goals and managing our own reactions? Sometimes, we have to traverse a tightrope walk of love and support without the comfort of a safety net. When you want to love someone but

You only get along when you agree they have no flaws

Jan 21st, 2024 49m 4s

Should you concede to another person's flaws to maintain peace? We all seek approval at times, but in some relationships, this quest can take on a different hue, especially when one’s own insecurities are creating difficult and sometimes toxic

Will the long-term lie tear the relationship apart?

Jan 14th, 2024 40m 15s

What is the consequence of withholding a big secret from the person you are supposed to have an honest, transparent relationship with? Secrets can lead to lies that lead to people feeling betrayed, causing pain when all of it could have probabl

Should you keep the door open to people who want to close it?

Jan 7th, 2024 51m 55s

Enforcing boundaries with family is hard enough, but what if they want to enforce them with you? What if they want to close the door to your relationship, even though you didn't do anything wrong? In this episode, I read a message from a woman

Why you can't get through to some people

Dec 31st, 2023 44m 45s

Why do we sometimes struggle to make ourselves understood? You know that moment when you’re explaining something you’re sure you know inside and out, but the person you’re talking to just isn’t getting it? It’s not about the complexity of the t

The tiny things that improve your life

Dec 24th, 2023 50m 56s

Have you ever had a tiny squeak in a door in your home that irritated you every time you used it? What happens after you oil the hinge and the squeak goes away? To some, it can feel like a life-changing moment! That and other quality-of-life im

Challenges come in all shapes and sizes in romantic relationships

Dec 17th, 2023 1h 1m

Romantic relationships bring their share of challenges. In this episode, I Why is it that even with the best intentions, relationships can feel like navigating a minefield? You might have experienced the tension that comes with tough partners,

When friends and family think you're making a bad decision

Dec 10th, 2023 56m 25s

Your friends and family really want the best for you. But what are they going to say when they see you make a decision they believe is just crazy? I explore that very topic in this episode. A woman writes to me and tells me she's taking a break

Holding on to guilt

Dec 3rd, 2023 57m 53s

Do you feel bad for what you did? Do you feel guilty? How long ago was it? Is feeling guilt a necessary component of healing? In this episode, someone feels guilty for moving on without their friends from the past and wants to know how to stop.

Carrying around the past can screw up the present

Nov 26th, 2023 35m 44s

The past shapes who we are today. Sometimes, that past is also what haunts us today. And sometimes, it even torments others even when we don't mean to. Digging into ourselves can be the hardest step toward mental and emotional strength, but it

Standing proud in your own worth when others are incapable of seeing it

Nov 19th, 2023 33m 24s

Unfortunately, there are people in the world who will never see your worth. They may, in fact, be incapable of seeing anything past their own judgments. That can be tough to deal with sometimes, especially if these people are supposed to be clo

Bonus

BONUS - Time to sleep

Nov 19th, 2023 30m

This is a sleep episode. Listen when you're ready to go to sleep. Make sure your podcast app doesn't automatically play another episode as it might wake you up. This episode has a long silence at the end. Enjoy your slumber. There are no spons

The toxic partners of friends and family can make life more challenging

Nov 12th, 2023 41m 22s

You may encounter situations where a friend or family member is closely involved with someone whose behavior is toxic or dysfunctional. While they may be unaware of the adverse impact of their partner or friend, it becomes a different story whe