Clarity is kind It’s been months since I’ve shared a podcast episode with you. I had to get clear with myself on how I wanted to move forward before I could communicate it clearly to you. Post-sabbatical, I still felt drained and like I h

5 Things I’m Currently Loving

May 9th, 2023 22m 48s

I feel like I start every episode with “this week’s episode, I’m doing things a little differently,” and that’s because I’m really just playing around with what feels good! Since before my sabbatical, I’ve felt lost as to what to share on the p

What Kind of Trauma Do You Have? with Kobe Campbell

Apr 10th, 2023 47m 38s

This week, we’re doing something a little different and very exciting: Kobe Campbell is guest hosting an episode of The Refined Collective with her husband Kyle (the hosts of The Healing Circle Podcast). In this episode, Kobe will be breaking

Does God Want Me To Be Gay? with Mike Maeshiro

Apr 3rd, 2023 1h 20m

Mike Maeshiro is the founder of Numa, an organization that supports people in deconstruction, spirituality, and faith. Mike is gay, an advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, and a queer theology enthusiast. He is a life coach, speaker and thought l

Doing Mushrooms May Have Saved My Faith

Mar 13th, 2023 57m 38s

Language disclaimer: this episode includes explicit language so maybe listen with headphones if you’re around children. As you all know, I took a sabbatical last fall. I needed that time to focus on my own growth and healing without having a

Dear Diary: Why is the Bar Set So Low? with Tutti del Monte

Mar 6th, 2023 58m 38s

Language disclaimer: this episode includes explicit language so maybe listen with headphones if you’re around children. You know how when you say something to your best friend it's not as scary as saying it to an audience of thousands of peop

What A Sabbatical Really Looks Like

Feb 8th, 2023 55m 34s

Welcome back to The Refined Collective Podcast! I actually recorded this episode before I recorded last week’s episode, but decided I needed more time to figure out my path forward with the podcast. There’s so much to dive into in this episod

And We're Back!!!

Feb 2nd, 2023 12m 8s

It’s been about 5 months since I’ve come to you through your speakers, and I’m back (in a brand new way). This is my fifth year doing the podcast and releasing a podcast episode every week has been exhausting. One of my main goals this year i

A Closed Door Leads to a Greater Yes

Sep 2nd, 2022 46m 49s

This is my final podcast episode of 2022! I can’t believe it! If you want to hear more about my decision to take a 4-month sabbatical from all things The Refined Woman, content creation, and social media, check out this episode. I’ve thought

Life in a Post-Roe World with Dr. Natalie Crawford

Aug 24th, 2022 56m 16s

Dr. Natalie Crawford is co-founder of Fora Fertility, a boutique fertility practice in Austin, Texas and is board certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility (REI). Early on in the pandemic I had h

I’m Taking a Sabbatical + Here’s Why

Aug 17th, 2022 36m

This is a big episode for me. Punch line first: I am taking a 4-month sabbatical from this podcast and ALL things The Refined Woman related starting September 1st through January 1st. I know you probably have a million questions (and concerns)

Navigating Physical Boundaries While You’re Deconstructing with Alessandra Conti

Aug 10th, 2022 1h 5m

So your whole life you were taught to save sex until marriage from the church. You were taught it was ‘God’s best.’ But now you’re in a massive season of deconstruction. Your faith still matters to you, but it looks nothing like it used to anym

Kat Spills the Tea: The One that Got Away

Aug 3rd, 2022 50m 21s

I put a question box on IG stories for you to submit any and all questions about me for me to answer on the podcast and y’all did NOT hold back! These questions got deeply personal and I’m diving into all of it with you today. Am I in therapy?

He Said / She Said: Who Should Pay for the First Date Though? with Shaun Galanos

Jul 27th, 2022 1h 7m

Guess who's back!? Shaun Galanos from The Love Drive! He is a love coach who teaches communication and intimacy skills! He is probably one of my top 5 favorite people to follow on Instagram— once you see his reels you’ll know why. The first tim

Sex Ed 101: (Spoiler Alert) Sex Isn’t Like the Movies with Dr. Celeste Holbrook

Jul 20th, 2022 59m 39s

Our favorite sexologist is back! Dr. Celeste Holbrook is here again this week to answer some of your sex ed questions. We talk about everything from the basics of understanding your anatomy to the complicated feelings that may arise if you want

The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex with Sheila Wray Gregoire

Jul 13th, 2022 56m 50s

I am so thrilled to be back sharing podcast episodes with you after my 4-week break. And I’m even more thrilled to be talking (again) with Sheila Wray Gregoire, the author of The Great Sex Rescue and The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. She wa

Ask Kat: How to Be an LGBTQ+ Ally, Interfaith Relationships, and Bridgerton

Jun 8th, 2022 47m 26s

Welcome back to another Ask Kat episode! If you’re new here, I answer questions on IG stories every Monday but it’s so hard to answer them in 15 seconds! So I created a podcast series where I can give more in depth answers to your nuanced quest

My Egg Freezing Experience

Jun 1st, 2022 47m 32s

If I did things ‘God’s way’, wouldn’t God bless me with the partner + kids I have always longed for? It never occurred to me to learn what other options were available to me. It felt heart breaking to even begin to research my fertility options

Meditation for Gratitude

May 25th, 2022 14m 12s

For mental health May–I did something new! I created three meditation podcast episodes under 10 minutes! If you missed the first two, check them out: Meditation for burnout (listen here). Meditation for anxiety by Jackie Viramontez (listen

Meditation for Anxiety with Jackie Viramontez

May 18th, 2022 14m 12s

I would love to offer you a few meditations and prayers that have been a lifeline for me over the past few years. The next three episodes of TRC will be guided meditations. First up was meditation for burnout (listen here). This week, my friend

When You Feel BURNED OUT

May 11th, 2022 11m 21s

How do you seek God when you don’t know if you believe the way you used to? How do you move forward in your faith when it feels like it’s in shambles? How do you experience God outside of Sunday church? I’m no expert, but I would love to offe

Deconstruction Part III: What Would Jesus Do?

May 4th, 2022 46m 19s

This is Part III of a series on deconstruction. In Part I, we ask “What exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it?” In Part II, we ask “Can I completely deconstruct my faith and still be a Christian?” This week, we’ll be

Deconstruction Part II: Am I Still a Christian?

Apr 27th, 2022 29m 2s

This is Part II of a series on deconstruction— if you missed Part I, go ahead and listen to that here. In Part I, we ask what exactly is deconstruction + how do I know if I’m experiencing it, and the resources that have helped me in my own pro

Deconstruction Part I: What Is It + How Do I Know I’m Experiencing It?

Apr 20th, 2022 33m 58s

This week, we’re stepping into a series on deconstruction. I avoided talking about this in depth on the podcast before, because I am no expert. When I polled my Instagram audience, 76% said they are currently deconstructing. And everyone’s expe

I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet with Shauna Niequist

Apr 13th, 2022 1h 1m

I am completely fangirling over today’s podcast guest— I have read all of her books over the years and I can’t wait for you to get to know her. Shauna Niequist is the NYT Bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor,