See, couples have a setup right... in a setup (an organization), you will find one person who is more in touch with the fear of losing the other and one person who is more in touch of losing themselves.One person more in touch with the fear of abandonment, One person more in touch with the fear of suffocation...But the person who express as one or the other doesn't mean their strategy isn't meant to address something bigger.The one who says I'm afraid to lose you is not the only one with that fear. We all have it but the one expressing it in the couple isn't always the one for whom it is actually the most intense...