Today’s episode is about optimizing behavior for happiness in marriage. Shane and Jessica, today’s guests have a solidly traditional american marriage. They live in a lovely home in the suburbs of Sacramento, they’ve got two adorable kids, and two very cute cats. They’re friends with all their neighbors, they spend weekends with family, and life is good. But Shane gets occasionally grumpy and dark, and Jessica needs a strong sense control in life to feel completely at ease. In her words, she’s a bit bossy. But they’re both working on these tendencies in themselves, and it’s for the sake of their family, and that’s what makes their story so touching.

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