Today we connect with Darcy Lockman, clinical psychologist and author of All The Rage, a book that explores how egalitarian relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced to the household. We loved connecting with Darcy about the mother load, the myth of maternal instinct, why we struggle with relationship expectations, the complications of socialization vs biology, and how we can best raise children of any gender to be both communal helpers and independent doers. 

Interview begins: 1:53
H&K After Show begins: 41:42
Ask Us Anything begins: 1:03:45

Relevant links:

- Darcy Lockman’s website
- Buy All The Rage on Amazon, B&N, Powells
- Darcy on Twitter and Instagram
- Therapist Terry Real
- Terry Real on Goop Podcast: It’s normal to occasionally hate your spouse
- How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn
- American Time Use Survey
- Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, anthropologist & primatologist
- Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society by Cordelia Fine
- DABDA Grief Cycle
- Having It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works by Francine Deutsch
- Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents by Marc Vachon & Amy Vachon
- Dr. Toni Schmaeder - An article on HEED Domains
- Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

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