A self-help author recently made some problematic posts, and my thoughts on the controversy was the most requested topic this week.

In full disclosure: in this episode I neither mention her name, nor analyze her posts.

This conversation isn’t about her as I’m far less interested in the missteps of individuals than the bigger picture of how we want to act and react ourselves in and around these situations.

What does it look like to lead and love, with elegance and excellence?

There are big questions in this episode.

In the years, months, even weeks that follow, I reserve the right to change or expand or shift my thoughts on them!

That’s the nature of complex conversations.

They don’t have easy answers.

Which opens them up for allll the criticism and critique. So today’s talk comes with a caveat:

If at any point you feel yourself getting defensive, pause and walk away.

(When we get hot, we can no longer hear with love, and thus respond from love. Who might get hot? Oh Christians, non religious, conservatives, activists -- I’ve got enough experience under my belt to know 1 in 1,000 will get triggered no matter what I say or how carefully I try to say it. And we speak to that in and of itself today.)

This conversation is about how we love ourselves and others well.

I invite you to be curious alongside me today, explore our own heads and hearts before anyone else’s, and consider how we can truly make the world a kinder place for all.

Mentioned in today’s episode:

• Glennon Doyle’s Effects of #PassTheMic IGTV
• Instagram Katie Sturino
• Instagram Jameela Jamil
• Instagram The Blachelorettes
• Instagram Carlos Whittaker
• Article on community changes (Title: “What traffic enforcement without the police could look like”)
• Thesaurus on accountability + related feelings
• Galatians 6:2-5 in the Message
• Matthew 18: 15-17 New Living Translation
• Documentary The Feminist in Cellblock Y