0:01

So when our kids are overwhelmed, our

0:03

ability to be emotionally safe helps com

0:05

their brain so they can think straight.

0:07

And it's thinking straight that leads to

0:09

every major outcome we desire in our

0:11

kids. We all want our children to

0:13

thrive and you're going to get some

0:15

great ideas on how to help them

0:17

do that. On today's episode of Focus

0:20

on the Family with Jim Daily where

0:22

we are this program last September and

0:24

the response was so outstanding that we

0:26

thought we should err it again. Today's

0:28

guest is Doctor Josh Straub. He's. An. Author

0:30

Family Coach in an expert in

0:32

emotional intelligence and he has some

0:34

fascinating insights on how to help

0:36

our children process their own emotions

0:39

by making your home a safe

0:41

place to share those feelings. It's

0:43

really good stuff. I'd agree and

0:45

hears Josh Straub speaking to a

0:47

gathering of our focus staff on

0:49

focus on the family. Not.

0:53

Long ago, Christie and I had gotten

0:55

the mail and there was a bill.

0:57

A very unexpected bill in the mail

0:59

and I took it in and I

1:01

laid down in front of Christie. And.

1:04

I look there and like what are we gonna

1:06

do. I don't know how

1:08

we're going to pay this bill. We

1:10

were not expecting this bill like I

1:12

don't know what we're going to do

1:14

next and she's like Josh: Why do

1:16

you always get like this and I

1:18

said do you realize how much food.

1:20

Or kids reading these days like

1:22

we got. Figure this out and

1:24

she said, josh, you're absolutely losing

1:26

your mind. I said yes.

1:28

I am losing my mind. So I

1:30

go into my prayer closet because I'm

1:32

losing my mind. Meanwhile, Christie's on the

1:35

phone getting the bill reconciled and figured

1:37

out so that my mind can calm

1:39

down. But. Isn't it true

1:41

how often we as adults get worked

1:43

up over things because fear and anxiety

1:46

start to enter into our minds and

1:48

we start taking it down a road

1:50

that we never need to take it

1:52

down. And then how it

1:54

starts to impact our relationship with one another.

1:57

You. Know Christie and I experienced this early on.

2:00

Or kid. Little. We were

2:02

both. We felt we were pretty well set

2:04

when we got married. I was thirty by

2:06

the time we got married, Christie was twenty

2:08

six, We had our patterns figured out and

2:10

then all of a sudden our greatest opponent

2:13

came into our marriage. Wayne. eight pounds and

2:15

one else and you want to talk about

2:17

as I mean you talk acid reflux, call

2:19

weak stomach allergies we couldn't figure out by

2:21

the time land and you know is to.

2:23

We thought we were doing a little bit

2:26

d since we thought that once you had

2:28

a hard baby you were going to have

2:30

an easy one. Will. Kennedy or daughter

2:32

came into the world is she was

2:35

more difficult spin our first one easy

2:37

and baby we're not synonymous and straub

2:39

household. And so what

2:41

I started to do is where we were

2:43

in this season of our lives. Our brains

2:45

are outsourced, we're not getting any sleep. It's

2:48

kind of like the Bills it's You know

2:50

a bill comes in a male or whatever

2:52

it is. a baby's not sleeping at night,

2:54

you can't figure lights out and all the

2:56

sudden starts to take a criticism from your

2:58

spouse and you start to take it personally.

3:00

And next thing you know, rather than becoming

3:02

teammates in your marriage, your each other's enemy.

3:05

Because your brain isn't com, it's

3:07

overwhelms, you don't know what to

3:09

do. You're feeling more and more

3:11

alone. Imagine we

3:14

as parents. Imagine we as adults

3:16

feeling so overwhelmed in our brains

3:18

not knowing what to do. How

3:20

much more that is as it

3:23

translates into our kids' brains to

3:25

don't even know how to label

3:27

emotion yet. And and

3:29

so the talk today. What we're talking

3:32

about. How do we set the tone

3:34

for and emotionally safe environment? Because when

3:36

we were in those early years, I

3:39

went back into the research and I

3:41

started to look at the date. I

3:43

wanted to see what will have really

3:45

mattered when we, when our kids are

3:48

older, when when we've gotten them out

3:50

of the house to raise kids who

3:52

love God and love others. To raise

3:55

kids who get married, stay married, and

3:57

really enjoy their marriage. and every single.

4:00

Every single outcome that I looked

4:02

at came back to this one

4:04

primary factor in that was emotional

4:06

safety. The ability of us

4:08

his parents to be able to

4:10

enter into our children's world and

4:13

help them tell their story. And

4:15

so today what I want to

4:17

do is I want to just

4:19

walk through spies key ways that

4:22

we can do that size, key

4:24

ways that we can establish and

4:26

emotionally safe environment. And the reason

4:28

that this is so profound is

4:30

because. I want you to

4:32

think about this for a second. What

4:34

happens is that when our kids are

4:36

in an emotionally safe environment when their

4:39

brains are overwhelmed when they're feeling worry

4:41

or fear or a us sadness or

4:43

grieve for anger when they are over

4:46

in when their brain is an overdrive

4:48

our ability his parents to be able

4:50

to enter into their world. And

4:53

help them right there. Story has a

4:55

calming effect on the brain. So when

4:57

our kids are overwhelmed, our ability to

5:00

be emotionally safe house com their brain

5:02

so they can sing straight. And it's

5:04

thinking straight that leads to every major

5:06

outcome we desire in our kids. So.

5:09

How do we do this? What

5:11

does this look like? How do

5:13

we enter into our kids' worlds

5:16

and help them tell their stories?

5:18

Number one: we lead in grace

5:20

and we follow in truth. I

5:23

wanna anger us and scripture because I

5:25

believe Paul was one of the very

5:27

first people who understood the power of

5:29

neurobiology. If you look

5:32

at philippines softer for peace as

5:34

this he said let you gentleness

5:36

be evidence everybody the lord is

5:38

near. Therefore, Be

5:41

anxious for what nothing but

5:43

it's everything. by prayer and

5:45

petition. With Thanksgiving, gotta have

5:48

gratitude. The reason gratitude is

5:50

so important is neurobiologically. it's

5:53

actually been found that gratitude

5:55

actually pushes anxiety out of

5:57

your brains. Gratitude inside cannot

6:00

coexist the same time in

6:02

the brain and so tall.

6:05

Understood with Thanksgiving. Present.

6:07

Your request the Gods and a piece

6:09

of God would surpasses. Oh Understanding will

6:11

keep your hearts and your what minds

6:13

in Christ Jesus. What happens is is

6:15

we go to God in prayer and

6:17

even though he might not answer our

6:19

prayer requests the way that we want

6:22

him to, he will answer them in

6:24

the way that's best for us because

6:26

he knows what's best for us and

6:28

we can sink in for that. And

6:31

then a piece of God would

6:33

surpass his own to Santa. keeps

6:35

your hearts and minds and case

6:37

Jesus so that finally, brothers and

6:40

Sisters were safe. Finally, Brothers and

6:42

sisters. Whatever is true, Whatever is

6:44

excellent, whatever is no, both. Whatever

6:46

is praiseworthy. What. Sync.

6:49

On these. Things. I

6:51

think Paul understood that when we

6:54

are anxious and overwhelmed, we can't

6:56

think straight. I can't

6:58

think straight about the bills coming

7:00

years. I can't think straight about

7:02

our kids acting out. I can't

7:05

think straight when all these things

7:07

are happening until I am com.

7:09

until I experienced the presence of

7:11

the Lord Jesus. And can com

7:13

my brain which is why all this

7:15

major research points to this idea that

7:18

for our children to be able to

7:20

in a finite way, I genuinely believe

7:22

we as parents and a finite ways

7:25

or a piece and can help com

7:27

or children's brains when they're anxious and

7:29

overwhelmed and can't sing straight. We.

7:32

Enter into their world to help them tell

7:34

their story. I remember working with a dad

7:36

have a fourteen year old. And

7:38

see were really wanted to go to a

7:41

Friday night football game and her dad said

7:43

no and so she came home and she

7:45

looked at her dad she said dad i

7:47

see you and she was storming to or

7:49

bedroom. Now you can

7:52

imagine as a parents how's your

7:54

brain doing right now? How is

7:56

your flight status three times you

7:58

and middle of doing. This moment

8:00

towards your fourteen year old. Because

8:03

I know for me a lot of times that

8:05

we end up doing as we tend to overreact

8:07

and will lead in truth rather than embrace. So

8:09

what we do is be safe. Don't you ever

8:12

speak to me that way against you? Go to

8:14

your room, I'm taking your phone for a month

8:16

and know you're not going to that front and

8:18

a football game. Do you understand me? But.

8:21

The Pastor of emotional see speak to

8:23

posture speaking to her kids leading and

8:25

grace and following. In truth is our

8:27

ability his parents to be able to

8:29

enter into our kids world and soon

8:31

Honey, what is it about that for

8:33

the next football game that matters to

8:35

you so much? And

8:38

What? That dad found out about his daughters that

8:40

she had been rejected by a group of friends

8:42

that she used to hang out with in the

8:44

school year prior and she would see them posting

8:46

pictures on Instagram and snapshots of them hanging out

8:48

with outer and this was the first spreading like

8:50

they invited her to be a part of something

8:52

and her dad said no, You

8:55

see when our kids are anxious and

8:57

overwhelmed with or behavioral the acting out

8:59

you see there's a deeper in motion

9:01

happening with teams underneath and our ability

9:03

to lead and graces. Jesus did with

9:05

the woman that the well as Jesus

9:07

did with the woman caught in adultery.

9:10

As we see throughout the Gospels, the

9:12

We Jesus shows up in grace and

9:14

putting relationship first, lead and grace and

9:16

follow in truth has a calming effect

9:18

on our kids brain so that they

9:20

can problem solve about what is the

9:23

right thing to do. Whether or not I

9:25

should go to this football game or not. And

9:28

what his dad did was he entered

9:30

into her world still gave her a

9:32

consequence for the way that she disrespected

9:34

and but they were to able to

9:36

come together and problem solve for what

9:38

what. Whether or not she was gonna

9:40

go to that football game that night

9:42

and so as we think about how

9:44

we can enter into our kids world's

9:46

us my dear friend and mentor Doctor

9:48

John Towns and wrote this. He wrote

9:50

that truth without Grace will always lead

9:52

the condemnation. Truth without gray so lead

9:54

to condemnations and you know as an

9:57

adult what that feels. Like and so

9:59

think about even. Environment were raising

10:01

our kids and how that translates

10:03

into our children's brains. Which leads

10:05

us to number to. Talk.

10:07

About emotions Allow emotional vocabulary to be

10:09

the norm in your home. I remember

10:11

working with juvenile delinquents years ago and

10:13

one of the very first things I

10:15

would do what I would meet with

10:17

them as I would give him a

10:19

feeling start and the reason I would

10:21

give him a feeling start is because

10:23

it was my job to get them

10:26

to feel remorse for their victims. But

10:28

the reality is, you can't feel something

10:30

stitch you yourself were never allowed to

10:32

feel to begin with. And

10:35

so a lot of these juvenile

10:37

delinquents never had it a father

10:39

figure or an adult figure in

10:41

their lives. enter into their worlds

10:43

and allow them to see your

10:46

anger or their sadness or their

10:48

greece or their fear without punishing

10:50

them or dismissing them or minimizing

10:52

that emotion. So

10:54

talk about emotions in your

10:56

home, we just had this

10:58

issue I'm not long ago

11:00

where our daughter had come

11:02

home from being with. Friends

11:05

and and we were with adult with the

11:07

adults and the kids were all together. Kennedy

11:09

came home and she was just overwhelmed by

11:11

emotion that day she was acting out, she

11:13

was disrespectful and she's or sweet little girls

11:15

like this is just not in her characters

11:18

to be acting like that and so one

11:20

of the things that are we were doing

11:22

as we would be normal adults in our

11:24

business and we were are you notice disciplining

11:26

heard coming down hard on her it's saying

11:28

don't you treat us like that and why

11:30

you acting like this You know because that's

11:32

what we do when we want to manage.

11:35

Everything is so we're actually not practicing what

11:37

we preach, were leading a truth and not

11:39

and grace And so later that evening as

11:41

my incredible wife does seat is touching Kennedy

11:43

in the bed and pulls out or what

11:45

am I feeling book and in that book

11:48

at the end at the back as a

11:50

plop plop feelings chart and she said honey,

11:52

did anything happen today because or her behavior

11:54

was just out of character and she said

11:56

honey, what are you feeling What are you

11:59

feeling right now. Kennedy's little finger

12:01

went to anger. And

12:03

in and Christie asked her she said as

12:05

if anything else that you're feeling right now

12:07

and kennedy started moving it and she went

12:09

to embarrassed. And then sat.

12:12

And and Christie said honey, what happened today

12:14

did something happen that allowed you to be

12:17

embarrassed or that made you feel this way

12:19

And that was the moment which Kennedy described

12:21

were to the girl she was playing with

12:23

wanted to go into a bedroom and play

12:26

by themselves and they let Kennedy outside and

12:28

said we're just going to play by ourselves

12:30

and you can staff here for a little

12:33

while. Kennedy. Got rejected,

12:35

but it reads very easy if we

12:37

didn't have emotional vocabulary in our home

12:39

to have not have a place for

12:41

our kids to describe that and we

12:43

instead come down hard and truth and

12:45

in discipline rather than given them a

12:47

space to be able to feel like

12:49

they can talk about what really happened

12:51

to them. And so allow

12:53

emotional vocabulary where the use of feeling

12:55

start or the lights allow emotional vocabulary

12:57

to be an important part of your

13:00

day. Use this in your marriage as

13:02

well practiced in your marriage. We tend

13:04

to save you can instead of do

13:06

and highs and lows for the day.

13:09

do one positive emotions and one not

13:11

so fond emotion and uncomfortable emotions that

13:13

you might have had that particular day

13:15

and use that around the dinner table.

13:18

Use that as an opportunity to really

13:20

enter into the heart of your spouse.

13:22

And also into the stories of your children's

13:25

so that they have the ability to be

13:27

able to talk about the motions. Which

13:29

leads us to number three. Celebrates.

13:33

Who they are. Don't mourn who they're

13:35

Not. This.

13:38

Is one I remember. a number of

13:40

years ago my friend of Frank saw

13:42

had come in to visit us. In

13:45

Tennessee he was living in California. The time

13:47

it's he was working on a book and

13:49

he wanted me to help him with it

13:51

and we flew in on a red eyes

13:53

and it's like seven thirty in the morning

13:55

he lands. he gets to our house and

13:57

at this time or some and was three

13:59

years. The time and Lane is dancing around

14:01

the house and he's got his guitar is

14:03

danced around, the house is singing as loud

14:06

as he can, seven thirty in the mornings

14:08

to the top of his lungs making up

14:10

the songs. In course Listen Friday's thereafter a

14:12

red I you know being up all night

14:14

trying to get a cup of coffee know

14:16

Mike. I'm apologizing for them like it's like

14:18

the as a glance you gotta relax and

14:20

I'm a problem with Frank. Are so sorry

14:22

that this is happening He said Josh hold

14:25

on a second. He said

14:27

what we tend to find annoying in

14:29

our kids behavior is the very thing

14:31

that they're passionate about or their strong

14:33

in. And we tend to look at

14:35

it is annoying behavior. He said

14:38

you gotta start paying attention to these things He

14:40

said I've never seen a four year olds makeup

14:42

songs and run around and dance and play the

14:44

guitar the way that your son dos. Don't.

14:47

Shut him down with it as the

14:49

time I had i'm in t ball because

14:51

guess what I played baseball I didn't play

14:53

guitar so I was haven't played baseball

14:55

were later that fall i ask land and

14:58

I said he buddy i have a question

15:00

would you rather played tee ball or

15:02

take guitar lessons and his face lit up

15:04

like a homework Christmas trees you know

15:06

and a hallmark movies he just lit up

15:09

and he said dad i want to get

15:11

take guitar lessons. So.

15:13

Often what we end up doing though with

15:15

our kids as we end up in our

15:18

own parental fears onto our kids because we're

15:20

afraid that they're going to turnouts. Not smart

15:22

enough, not talkative enough, not athletic enough, Not

15:24

music or nos, not whatever. enough it is

15:27

that we tend to think that our kids

15:29

to concern else and we allow our fears

15:31

to drive and dictate how are parenting them.

15:35

Celebrate. Your kids for who

15:37

God has created them to be. In proverbs,

15:39

it says raise your children in the way

15:41

they should go, not the way you want

15:43

them to go. And. When they're

15:45

old they will not depart from it. Had a mom

15:47

of a twelve year old son come up to me

15:49

after speaking one time and she said josh my son

15:51

is learning how to wrap and I have no idea

15:53

what to do. I

15:56

look better and I just went through a list of

15:58

questions. Are you know? First Clinton says. Is

16:00

it bad company? crops? good character? You know

16:02

you see hanging out with kids. He should

16:04

be hanging out. With that she said no

16:06

skis hanging out with youth group kids They're

16:08

good kids I know their parents I said

16:10

okay Easy listening to the lyrics that are

16:12

you know our degree is degrading to women

16:14

are that are violent or that he should

16:17

be listening to consuming She said no is

16:19

listening to a crash. And

16:21

I said it's and I'd just gotten and speaking So I got

16:23

down on my knee in front of and I said I only

16:25

have one piece of advice for you. Learn

16:27

how to rap. Because

16:31

it's you don't You son will learn

16:33

how to wrap with other kids in

16:35

and will build a wall between your

16:37

heart insists so for myself I'm you

16:39

know entering into playing the piano as

16:41

much as I can with my kids

16:44

entering into their world practicing soccer which

16:46

I've never played before in my life

16:48

are entering into their world so that

16:50

I can build our work with day

16:52

love, doing and pursue the heart of

16:54

who got is created them to be

16:57

rather than morning. Which leads us to

16:59

number for. Right your wrongs,

17:01

right? Your wrongs. I.

17:05

Remember coming home from work

17:07

one time and this was

17:10

a nice where. Our

17:12

kids had not. Now that day they

17:14

were overwhelmed. They were in school. Christie

17:16

was done with them and she just

17:19

said josh, they're yours now And so

17:21

she went into the Laundry Room to

17:23

do laundry therapy because at least it

17:25

was the only thing she did that

17:28

didn't have to involve trying to talk

17:30

to somebody who did not a tie

17:32

their shoes and so I am a

17:34

Dirty Laundry Rooms across from my son's

17:36

bedroom. I had it all under control,

17:39

I promise. I really did. But they're

17:41

decibel levels. Were getting higher and higher and

17:43

they're running all over the place. And I

17:45

wasn't apparently moving fast enough for Christie A

17:48

because she stepped south. so the kids is

17:50

decibel level. As about here Christie steps out

17:52

and has to go here with the decibel

17:54

level to up you know, get above them

17:56

to get to me and she suggested you

17:58

going to do something. Them which the kids

18:01

then go up to here and on the

18:03

tape A guy that likes to drive down

18:05

the road with no listening to nothing tests

18:07

I guess is very overwhelmed by a lotta

18:09

noise and so now of a sudden decibel

18:11

levels are up to here in up the

18:13

here my a major was going off and

18:15

I just yelled. Everybody's.

18:21

And. I looked over and I saw our sons

18:23

bottom lip start to quiver. And.

18:26

I knew in that moment. I.

18:29

Had made a mistake. And

18:31

I got down into their little world.

18:33

I got on my knees and I

18:36

just say I'm so sorry for the

18:38

way dad Just yeah. You

18:41

see, John Gottman sounds in Emotion

18:44

Coaching Kids in his research that

18:46

if you can get this emotional

18:48

safety thing right, just to out

18:50

of five times. That. You

18:52

can still get the outcomes you looking for

18:54

in your tits. Guys. Shock shock

18:56

better than forty percent from the free throw

18:58

line. Forty percent.

19:01

Why? Because the research said the

19:03

word called repair is the ultimate

19:05

of relationships do what the Bible

19:08

calls it, Forgiveness.

19:11

And it tells us to practice it a lot. When

19:14

we mess up as adults our

19:16

ability to enter into our kids

19:18

world, apologize for for our specific

19:20

offense and ask our kids how

19:23

we can make it right. It

19:25

models for them number one that

19:27

we're not perfect. It shows them

19:29

what to do when they're not

19:31

perfect and it also helps them

19:33

understand that we do not expect

19:35

them to have perfection. But

19:38

to be able to know how to seek

19:40

forgiveness when they had been wrong as well.

19:43

Now I was able to make that

19:45

right. I. Had to go make it right

19:47

with my wife after that. right?

19:49

How well do we enter into our

19:52

of a in as adults into our

19:54

spouses worlds as wealth to make things

19:56

right? We have to right or wrong.

19:58

which leads us. By the way,

20:01

I feel better A guilt free drop

20:03

free. Asked you out of five times.

20:05

As parents, we can still get to

20:07

outcomes we desire in our kids. Number

20:09

five is this: Prioritize who

20:11

year becoming as an adult. Prioritize

20:14

you you're becoming. There was a meta analysis

20:17

done and a number of years ago it

20:19

looked at the top ten parenting strategies to

20:21

get the outcomes we most desire in our

20:23

kids and a meta analysis retake a whole

20:25

bunch of studies and you put together and

20:27

you look at what do the date, what

20:30

does the data show over all in all

20:32

these studies and will and then they ask

20:34

parenting experts what they thought the data would

20:36

show, what are the tops parenting strategies outcomes

20:38

you must desire in our kids and all

20:41

the experts got it wrong as well. Of

20:44

the top three parenting strategies good outcomes,

20:46

we design our kids number one with

20:48

love and affection. Number

20:50

one was love and affection.

20:52

Number two. Number

20:54

two was a parents ability

20:56

to manage his or her

20:59

own stress. A

21:02

parents ability to manage his

21:04

own site, fighter freeze, or

21:06

a medulla in overwhelming moments.

21:09

Number three was a parents ability or how

21:11

you treat your spouse. He was how you

21:14

treat your spouse were how you treat a

21:16

cold parent in a divorce situation. I would

21:18

argue of the top three parenting strategies to

21:20

get it all comes the most desire in

21:22

our kids. Not one of them has to

21:24

do with a direct relationship with our kids.

21:27

They have everything to do with who were

21:29

becoming as adults. Even love

21:31

and affection. What's. The

21:33

Bible say we love because

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he's first loved us. There's

21:38

a reason that when you go to therapy

21:40

one of the very first things that you're

21:43

talking about his you relationship with your parents,

21:45

how well you were loved when I met

21:47

with the juvenile delinquents and I had that

21:49

help them feel remorse I had to help

21:51

them feel loved. That. They are in

21:54

love to know that they are in love. And.

21:57

A lot of times what ends up

21:59

happening is as we have to get

22:01

back into step understanding how well we

22:03

are loved. Because listen if we want

22:05

to raise kids who don't yell, we

22:07

can't be yelling. If. We

22:09

want to have kids who aren't on

22:12

screens. We can't be on screens. If

22:14

we want to raise kids to experience

22:16

the love of Jesus, we have to

22:19

show them what it's like for us

22:21

to experience the love of Jesus. You.

22:24

Can sum up all I can sum of

22:26

all of parenting research into one primary conclusion

22:28

and that is this. The our kids become

22:31

who we are and so for what or

22:33

Christie and me do. We

22:35

are Christine. I do get my grandma rights.

22:37

What we do is we go to therapy

22:39

on a regular basis because I don't genuinely

22:41

believe that therapy is for crazy people. I

22:44

think it's for broken people, and I haven't

22:46

met one person on the planet who's not

22:48

broken in some way. We

22:51

have to find people that we can talk

22:53

to. Whether it's a therapist, whether it's a

22:55

coats, whether it's a pastor, whether it's friends

22:57

around a campfire. Sitting.

23:00

In circles with people who will listen

23:02

to our emotions, Who was from who

23:05

we are. But

23:07

then also. It

23:09

doesn't to start their. It.

23:11

Also starts was experiencing the love

23:13

of Jesus. It starts with a rule

23:16

of lies. What is your prayer life

23:18

like? For so many years and throughout

23:20

my life I understood God's love for

23:23

me. I. Had

23:25

the knowledge of God's love

23:27

for me but it's only

23:30

in been till been recently

23:32

that I'm learning to experience

23:34

the love of God for

23:36

me through prayer. A daily

23:39

examine, surveillance, And I don't

23:41

know what it is for you,

23:43

but I just genuinely want to

23:45

admonish all of us. That

23:47

to experience to create emotional safety.

23:49

The top parenting strategy to get

23:52

the outcomes we most desired our

23:54

kids is love and affection. And

23:57

we'd love because he first loved us.

24:00

Because just as our

24:03

children deserve somebody. To

24:06

love them and enter into their

24:08

world to help them to tell

24:10

their story. So too does every

24:13

parent. Such

24:16

powerful insights from Doctor Joshua Straub on

24:18

today's episode of Focus on the Family

24:20

and Or that's one of our most

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popular programs of Twenty Twenty Three. Why

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And if you're a parent or grandparents

24:29

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