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Clutter is something that I absolutely hate.
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It drives me up the wall. It
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depends on where the clutter is. If it's
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around my sink, leave it. If
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it's in the living room, clean it. Sometimes
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it drives me nuts. You know, every drawer
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is a junk drawer and no closet has
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any kind of organization or
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purpose. Life happens and
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so clutter happens. How
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do you feel about clutter? Today
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on Focus on the Family with Jim Daley, we'll
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be tackling that topic and offer some ways that
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you and your family can bring order into your
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home. Thanks for joining us. I'm John
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Fuller. So the question is, John,
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are you a neat freak? Am I a
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neat freak? I think I used to aspire
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to be one, but life has kind of
0:44
made it impossible. So now I'm a piles
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freak. I have lots of piles. I
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kind of dump it in my home office, even
0:51
in my office here, but I'm not
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a neat freak now. I always, you know,
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I tend to favor neatness, but I don't
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know if I'm a freak. I guess I'd
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have to ask Gene, do you think I'm
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a neat freak? Probably when it comes to
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the garage, but I'm looking forward to today's
1:06
discussion because I think it'll help define my
1:08
attitude toward neatness. I
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think people that are overly neat can
1:13
be compulsive. So what is what is
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enough? I mean, when is neatness enough?
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And we're going to talk about that
1:19
today. There's so much guilt, especially for
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moms with busy schedules that have a
1:24
lot going on. What
1:26
is enough? How clean does my house have to
1:28
be? And we want to
1:30
talk about just the whole management of the
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household. And what I love is the sense,
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at least in our house, and Gene does
1:37
a great job with this, is just shalom.
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There's a great deal of peace in our house.
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And I think that's the goal. How do you
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get to that, where you can actually relax and
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settle in with the Lord and look forward to
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being together as a family without all these to-dos.
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So today we're going to cover that. And I hope
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if you're in that spotlight, I have
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fought this my entire life. This one's
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for you. And Kristi
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Clover is going to help us figure this out. Kristi
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is an author and her book is
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called MOM, Master Organizer
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of Mayhem, Simple
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Solutions to Organize Chaos and Bring More
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Joy into Your Home. And
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we have copies of that book here at the ministry.
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Check it out. We've got details in the show
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notes. John, you said she's going
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to help us unpack it. I think she's going to help us
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pack it. Ah, there you go. That's what
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an organizer will do. That's probably the right thing, yes.
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How to pack this place up. Kristi, welcome back. It's
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good to have you. Thank you. Such
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a joy to be back. You've got that million dollar smile. Well, thank you.
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How much does that cost your mom and dad? Oh,
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nothing. No braces? Actually,
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well, it didn't cost them anything. I have
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had braces since... Well, that was a
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smart move on mom and dad's part. Good.
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Well, it paid off. But it's so good to
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have you back. Let's go there.
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You're a blogger, so you hear from many,
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many stressed out people,
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probably mostly MOMs. Mostly
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MOMs. Tell us what you're
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hearing in their frustrations, just generally. Mostly,
3:03
everyone's just overwhelmed. They're overwhelmed by the
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busyness. They're overwhelmed by the chaos of
3:08
stuff, and just overwhelmed by
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life in general. I think it's really easy
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to play, especially with social media these days,
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we start playing the comparison game. So, that's
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what I think kind of gets stuck in
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people's brain. What I see
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is that people are having a hard
3:23
time distinguishing their identity in Christ versus
3:25
their identity in what people
3:27
perceive. So, your home environment, your motherhood,
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and all of those things. We
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can, I'm sure, unpack all of that as
3:35
we go. But, yeah, really, it is busyness
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and clutter. Let me ask you
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this, because we always have that perception that it's
3:41
far worse right now than it ever was before.
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Do you think women... I mean, think
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about it. 50 years ago, 100 years ago, where
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women stressed out, they were doing
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a lot then. I mean, going
3:53
outside and scrubbing laundry. Oh, goodness.
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I Mean, think of the load and cooking from
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scratch, everything, because there wasn't a Costco. The.
4:00
Right across as we. Have been going to the
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little house on the prairie. Bucks Young and. Farmer. Boy
4:04
in particular, I the whole time I'm reading it
4:06
with the kids I'm like oh my word, thank
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you Lord that I live in this world and
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I have a washing machine and I have been
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a real oven and I have a refrigerators and
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I can go to an appliance store and actually
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buy something. Yes if I leave it. And I
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know men can do these things too. So
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it's not a gender thing, I get it.
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but you know, a lot of it does
4:25
fall on mom typically buttons in that regard.
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A It's interesting because it comes down to
4:29
more attitude than right to as or circumstances
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they may change. But what's her attitude about
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these things? With attitude I think overall
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I think a lotta times I think
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what our attitude need city is kind
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of going back to why are we
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doing this and that helps us of
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their attitude because we become overly otherwise,
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were overwhelmed, strike and were stressed out
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and what's interesting is that you have
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your procrastination and getting said organizing things
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as often as symptom of stress in
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a business and our schedules because we're
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trying to put up with like some
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perception or some you know the feeling
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that we have to do something some
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accept peace, were trying to meet. Answer
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Attitude: I feel like we need to
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go back to what is clean us
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and our attitude to be an So
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I try to. Pies.
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And really take a deep breath and thinking
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a when I'm approaching my home and I'm
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approaching how mother and I want my attitude
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to be tied to price and I want
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that to be an attitude of love and
5:24
joy and peace and and kind of start
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right there and but oftentimes that gets a
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little skewed and that easy to do to.
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Yeah, I know at you and I
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both were raised by single parent mom's
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We share that background and you know
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and has it's difficulties but obviously we
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were able to overcome that. probably from
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my perspective because of the lord so
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listeners know exactly where that's com and
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from what we were the take ways
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for you. Watching your mom is a
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single mom do the things that need
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to be done around the house and
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has that impacted. Yeah what was what
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I thought was great as we kind of
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approach things as a team and sell we
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were just tax the and co will. I
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loved his dad. we have things easy get
6:03
down on a Saturday then we just like
6:05
conquered them together and we were usually side
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by side doing things which was really special.
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prices say have that time together in. that
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was the weird part for me when I
6:14
got married actually because it was so different.
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Like my husband didn't grow up in an
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environment, his mom took care of everything, she
6:20
was a stay at home mom and so
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she did a lot and said like hey,
6:24
works for folding laundry don't want to come
6:26
and do it with me such I'm like
6:28
no not be a my. Exam is that
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it would be such a good help or hurt
6:32
but I yeah I know it says in it
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so difference and I think it probably. You.
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Change the way that I approached mothering
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as well as that I want my kids
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to be on the team. I wanted to
6:44
teach them skills because when I launched and
6:46
was in college I lived in Australia for
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a year on my own and I
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was fully capable of doing all the things.
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And I do see that a lotta times
6:55
when you have yelled mom's do a lot
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for their kids and so that's one
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of my encroachments in the work as to
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train your children to help out. you don't
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have to take all of the burden on
7:06
yourself. and maybe. That isn't influence of having
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a single mom. He said you faked
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your way through being an organized person know
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when you get married as a good kind
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of illuminated it is So with how did
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you figure was. Oh am I the
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have now? I now term it as organized
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clutter but if there are things that were
7:24
hours I would just put them in a
7:26
been and if it has a label on
7:28
it did. It's not footer right? So my
7:30
might mess to go into then with the
7:32
labels and now I do realize that his
7:35
sister laid clutter It It's just it's still
7:37
clutter. it's just. Put. Away and tucked
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away. The door behind. The door in
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of rides rodgers not a
7:43
garage. Side of us ago and
7:45
she added effect of above everything I
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know my that's my neat freak bro
7:50
you're able to has rolled out there
7:52
is a it's terrible I know I
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know we got your dump submitted I
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do them as as it is a
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bigger. You ever prom? Okay you talk
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about how making a D d I like
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that and what does that look like? Elvis
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A for me is that looks like
8:08
if I'm going to start a project,
8:10
I'll start it downstairs. And I've learned
8:12
this about myself because I've gotten myself
8:14
and some really sticky situations that are
8:16
sort of hijacked and sensing in that
8:18
particular on require something from upstairs. I
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go upstairs to go and try to
8:22
grab whatever it is that I need
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only to figure out that there is
8:26
another like they're so. I'll start that
8:28
project says answer. Then I am easily distracted
8:30
by what needs to get done. And so
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it's not until I need a project to
8:34
something from downstairs that I really like that
8:36
three fight. It. Happening on. putting dimension to that
8:39
like three projects at one time. How long
8:41
does it take to get project one done?
8:43
that would you are distracted from? Is it
8:45
hours Or days? Or weeks or months? That's
8:47
a good question. It all depends on how you
8:49
approach it and so I approach things differently. Now
8:51
is now I'm very much. I've been people like
8:53
me who has business. where do I start and
8:55
so I really try to encourage people Pick one
8:57
thing. Pick. One thing and break it
9:00
down, can that one project like a
9:02
garage? you're not going to tackle overrides,
9:04
you know in one day. Or
9:06
else. Self made it a self. Maybe it's a
9:08
band? Maybe it's a drawer. Somehow made light of record.
9:10
and some aren't for you and I'm not a fight
9:12
us. I actually love it when people out of visit
9:14
a friend is good news that we we're like yes please.
9:18
Be that that yes picking one project in kind
9:20
of breaking it down to the smaller bites that's
9:22
gonna make it more doable as you what you
9:24
want to do is have that little like you
9:27
for a moment of i did it and didn't
9:29
know it helps to bleed And Saturday when. It
9:31
gets keeps you going, gives you the fuel
9:33
of I did decide to do that. Zach
9:35
Now in your book. M O him Master
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Organizer of mayhem. You laid out tin simple
9:40
rules for home organization and work. We're going
9:42
to cover a few of them, but people
9:44
need to get the book. I mean we
9:46
don't have time enough to cover moths, but
9:48
one in there is gleam in tweak technique.
9:51
What is that's. Well that's the ice and
9:53
have learned this is and I started approaching Home
9:55
Organization. I was trying to follow all the rules.
9:57
I was trying to do what's like the Martha
9:59
Stewart's of the. They are doing And my friends
10:01
you grew up in organized homes are doing. What
10:03
I'm not endorsing? Oh, You know it did not
10:05
work with us. So and what I found is
10:07
that there's techniques that work but the you also
10:09
have to tweak technique because you don't treat it
10:12
all has to be unique. He created our families,
10:14
the unique each to create our children and we
10:16
all have different dynamics within our home as well
10:18
and so you have to take that into account.
10:20
And then as soon as you get and I
10:23
feel like I always do have a little more
10:25
name is as soon as you get your groove
10:27
on and as soon as things are running smoothly
10:29
as season changes or something happens And I don't
10:31
mean like seasonal, I just mean you know, like.
10:34
A new baby is welcomes. Or you know you
10:36
kind of said. In a different young and
10:38
different situation and so things I'm saying. Let
10:40
me. Ask in that regard to that's a
10:42
really important point that I had thought about.
10:44
We we tend to be creatures of habit.
10:47
Yeah, we read or hear something like this
10:49
program and then we get the book and
10:51
we think we gotta do it exactly like
10:53
this. Almost like a herd mentality. Easy. but
10:55
the ability to spin it into your own
10:57
saying so it's functional and it works is
10:59
better. Oh yeah, because usually you're not going
11:01
to succeed at the way somebody does it
11:03
their weight right. So how to bring it
11:05
in and make it functional for you? That's
11:07
a great town. Yeah, it is in,
11:10
its in, its into this. I try to explain
11:12
and about like please take This is just like.
11:14
This is yet another example of how to attempts
11:16
to get things done. So I try to encourage
11:18
people try this if it doesn't work, don't feel
11:20
like a failure and I think that is the
11:23
key is so often we try to follow these
11:25
rules less and then we feel like a failure
11:27
and then it's hiking. Least you know than it
11:29
does kind of tumble down from there and them
11:31
are overwhelmed and we never start and sell. We
11:34
have to just know that I just need to
11:36
tweak this him in gleaned from other people and
11:38
tweak it to make. It work that's one
11:40
of the ten will cover a couple more.
11:42
See you mentioned in the book that you
11:44
bought this nice property and and was so
11:46
wonderful that you were in your heart thinking
11:48
as big great place for a wedding and
11:51
and then you had a friend asked you
11:53
can can we do a wedding at her
11:55
house to which he said yes The only
11:57
thing is your about ready to have a
11:59
lot. change. Yeah, we really had
12:01
a life change. So like just ratchet our
12:03
stress up and let us enter into that moment
12:06
of your life. Oh, it was so good. Well, I
12:08
just remember when we were first walking our property
12:10
of thinking, oh, we could do so many things
12:12
here. And we have been able to
12:14
do a lot there, but at that particular time,
12:17
I was like, I dreamed of having a wedding
12:19
in the backyard. Now, paint the picture of what it looks
12:21
like just for our mind to eye. So our backyard is beautiful.
12:23
It's kind of terraced. And so we have this
12:25
big grass area, which is where we've had two
12:27
weddings there now. So the temporary
12:29
gazebo goes in and well, they
12:32
have a little fun little archway and you can
12:34
put the tables in in the chairs. And then
12:37
we have a little like garden fountain area. So we
12:39
have lots of fun little nook and
12:41
cranny kind of areas that make for a great
12:44
wedding. And that's what I was thinking. So when our
12:46
friends approached us, I was like, this
12:48
is my dream come true. And my husband, because
12:50
they were very set on a date. So they
12:52
were very set. And at that point, I kind
12:54
of did that. I'm very set on a date
12:57
because I was very pregnant.
12:59
And but I was like, but
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I'm organized. I can do this.
13:04
I can pull this off. I did your husband
13:06
not try to talk you out of this. This
13:08
ended up being the greatest I told you so
13:10
moment in our marriage, I believe. So he kept
13:12
going, Oh, Christy, I don't think so. And I'm
13:14
like, No, I can do this. Well, husbands can
13:16
only push that so far. Yeah, because
13:19
I was hormonal. I was a very hormonal
13:21
pregnant woman. Were you gonna say that? Were you gonna
13:23
say that? No, you wouldn't. I will say it for
13:25
you. And so you're moving along. And then when did
13:27
this? Become reality.
13:29
Yeah. So I went into labor two weeks
13:32
early, I went into labor on my birthday.
13:34
And that was on
13:36
my birthday, on the wedding, almost the wedding day,
13:38
days before the wedding, six days.
13:40
So I had a newborn at this
13:43
wedding. And it was not what we had
13:45
planned. I and I learned that there
13:48
is such a thing as over planning, there's such
13:50
a thing as over committing. And this was a
13:52
great example of over committing. And
13:54
It really pointed out to me that I needed
13:56
to remember my priorities. So I needed to go
13:59
back to a. Hey, my family, my
14:01
growing child is a priority. My health
14:03
is a priority because I'm sure that
14:05
some of the stress that was happening
14:08
of making everything comes together was probably
14:10
part of. What put me into think it's
14:12
not let all of a good so maybe
14:14
I'm in. So you you are really involved
14:16
with the wedding right now just property like
14:19
oh to do it every one day. I'll
14:21
be back tomorrow night because I'm going to
14:23
rest are very. Good job of doing things that
14:25
you know like that will do everything. Kind of
14:27
did turn and seal. Oh and by the way
14:29
can you do this and sell? My husband was
14:31
the champion of our that has and everything that
14:33
was on my shoulders went to his shoulders when
14:35
the baby. Was born sell yeah.
14:38
That was a big number force. I really should have
14:40
known better. Now that's it. I lied. story
14:42
appreciate batted that. The honesty is I mean
14:44
all the husband's going What? yeah there can
14:46
be as listen to this year and album
14:48
lights are gone. I can't believe it or
14:50
that's all good. But how can we best
14:52
determine what our families priority should be? I
14:55
think you've found it for yourself. How have
14:57
you applied that to the rest? the family?
14:59
And how did they by in the. Saturday.
15:01
Bias as it does class and. Well
15:04
we really prayed about it will Stephen I
15:06
prayed about like wet our priorities let's does
15:08
that look like And so we try to
15:10
make sure we check in with each other
15:13
allies that when it comes to my home
15:15
it's and since the wedding was at our
15:17
home that's really what it came down to.
15:19
His i want my home to the a
15:21
place like he's had set at one point
15:23
a slum. I want a my home to
15:25
the replace a piece at home really is
15:27
important because we live in a crazy world
15:29
and so we would need to. Have a
15:31
place where. We can take a deep
15:34
breath, children, I think love that they
15:36
don't know how to express it, but
15:38
thrive in that kind of really wanna.
15:40
They really do and so I think that's
15:42
when I think when you feel tension appearance
15:44
we can tell when there's tension kids are
15:46
acting up and it's can be For of
15:49
the a variety of things that I found
15:51
that is often the dizziness that we're allowing
15:53
entire schedule and so that's been a big
15:55
thing for us is we've really to we
15:57
We always look at our calendar we tried.
16:00
You know I figure out like what needs
16:02
to be on our calendar right now and
16:04
so we pray over that and we talked
16:06
to the kids about it. So an example
16:08
as a wanna is a wonderful ministry that
16:10
all about bible memorization but for us in
16:12
this season it was falling on a bad
16:14
night. we already had another ministry happening that
16:16
night and so we just had it with
16:18
prayed about it. We talked our kids about
16:20
it and I just make sure that bible
16:22
memory is a priority and the rest of
16:24
our schedule in the rest of our day
16:26
which is easier since we do home school
16:28
but it just be the. Had to pay attention
16:30
to the are good things and good seasons that
16:33
you need to save your yes for what's best.
16:35
Yeah, it's really really good and
16:37
was more Chrissy Clovers or guess
16:39
today on focus on the family.
16:41
With Jim Daily he ended her
16:43
book is fantastic. It's called M
16:45
O M Master Organizer of Mayhem.
16:47
Simple solutions to organize chaos and
16:50
bring more joy in your home.
16:52
Get a copy from us here
16:54
at the Ministry. The details are
16:56
in the show. Notes at Decluttering
16:58
is a big issue. I think
17:00
your point in the book is
17:02
clear. The clutter I was here.
17:04
Cleared the gutter. Jump
17:07
Up on a i wandered about that guy actually to
17:09
care that and for one of the screens are really.
17:13
Get up there anymore. When Trent left I was
17:15
like a when I'm going to do that but
17:17
that clear the clutter. How do we go about
17:20
doing that? I think your grandmother had a good
17:22
inside for you. I love that. What a grandma
17:24
have to say. Oh. Well if is more
17:26
of what she left behind sell. My
17:28
grandma had been very organized, she introduced
17:30
me to my first label or and
17:32
to see been a ferry organize. I
17:34
had a love for labeling around. The
17:37
laser light a punch a I'm swoon.
17:39
Yeah we have. ah it would
17:41
They were everywhere and I still find them
17:43
that he and things that I have of
17:45
hers like the little labels on the bottom
17:47
pen and pencil so at all the things
17:49
by to the problem was is late on
17:51
her life she became a hoarder so organ
17:53
I. Want one for the other? Order. That
17:55
like we're talking like you open a closet
17:57
in see it fit more in the cloud.
18:00
Than any other human. Cleared because she
18:02
was organized and hoarding so when she
18:04
passed it left quite you know, couldn't
18:06
quite a burden on the family. And
18:08
so I remember that when she was
18:10
her cancer had come back and my
18:12
uncle had called to tell me it's
18:14
like. You're. Just you know it's
18:16
worse than than you think it is. And
18:18
I thought he was talking about the cancer
18:20
and he wasn't. He was talking about the
18:22
state of her home. And so when I
18:24
got there. It was. It
18:26
was really sad. It was sad to see
18:28
just how much she had accumulated and then
18:30
and so we went. We visited had a
18:32
great time but it was after she passed
18:34
the came out the help my uncle and
18:36
of try to get the house ready to
18:38
sell that and we we had to. I
18:40
knew the guestroom had a bad that says
18:42
put it like that and so we had
18:44
to do it. Took us a day to
18:46
get to the bed and to try to
18:48
get a pathway to uncover the bed. So
18:50
what I've learned is that clutter really is
18:52
a symptom of a lotta things. So cluttered
18:55
is a symptom. It's. A symptom the stress
18:57
of overwhelmed for hurt with her health. I'm
18:59
a she just kept putting things away and
19:01
that it can be business in our life.
19:03
A lot of things we already talked about
19:05
and that wet one of the things that
19:07
is kind of tweaked how I view things
19:09
and that is what are the items I'm
19:11
choosing to have and my home And you
19:13
know is it something I think my kids
19:15
are in? I do, I need it. Do
19:17
I use it for right now. And
19:20
if I'm putting it away or storing it,
19:22
is it something my kids are actually gonna
19:24
need some? Has we? don't think about the
19:26
burden that were. actually. it's almost a generous
19:28
think. we're now. we're passing this on to
19:30
someone else. That's it's really helped me to
19:32
identify things. were evidently that's not uncommon
19:34
saying wording i mean i hear
19:37
about it often their shows on
19:39
tv ads but i think people
19:41
work we struggled to let go
19:43
of stuff which is an indication
19:45
of other things going on with
19:47
solutions in those kinds of things
19:49
you speak to the idea of
19:51
having a plan i don't think
19:53
i'm a real plan or is
19:55
it tends to go doesn't leave
19:57
me another exit doors i like
19:59
doors you know when it comes
20:01
to planning because something other
20:03
than the plan might get better. If we
20:05
don't have the ability to say I got
20:08
a better plan so getting
20:10
locked into plan kind of tends to stress
20:13
me out a little bit but speak to
20:15
the need to have a plan and then
20:17
work that plan in order to kind of
20:20
reduce stress and chaos and
20:22
I think it related in the book you
20:24
talked about when your first son was born
20:26
that's a life changer oh yeah because time
20:28
is different you don't have all the time
20:31
in the world to worry about the house
20:33
and those things but what was that connection
20:35
what were your ahas when your first child
20:37
was born? When our first child was born
20:39
I kind of went into overdrive and so I'm
20:41
like oh look I need I need to plan
20:43
a lot because I am now responsible for keeping
20:45
someone alive and so like an
20:47
example is we went to Canada and it
20:49
was a trip that his company had planned
20:51
and we were not gonna miss that and
20:53
he was all of two months old but
20:55
he had his first cold and
20:58
so I did what every
21:00
normal mother would do new mother I packed
21:03
everything you could possibly think of but I even
21:05
brought humidifier and this is like 2002 so this
21:07
is when I could bring
21:09
all of those things onto the plane and
21:11
you know like I didn't get stopped at
21:13
security but I brought everything and we have
21:15
this picture of my son like little teeny
21:18
tiny baby Grant on top of this mountain
21:20
of stuff because you know you've
21:22
got a little airplane carrier you know it's a
21:24
little push cart and so we put everything on
21:26
there I mean for this little teeny tiny person
21:28
we had so much stuff
21:30
so that is actually an example of over
21:32
planning but what we need to get
21:34
to a point of doing is kind of figuring out if
21:37
we have a basic game plan and you I would I've
21:39
learned is be flexible because
21:41
since he was two months old I've learned that
21:43
you do just lawful for things at you and
21:45
so if it's a priority then I need to
21:47
have backup plans so I kind of say like
21:49
plan for what what do you really want to
21:51
prioritize like mornings are a great example of this
21:54
and so in the morning I try to prep
21:56
for the day ahead I try to like put
21:58
things out that I'll need Hit
22:00
some of those because I thought that was a great
22:02
list actually. Yeah. The stressed out mom in
22:04
the morning. The stressed out mom in the morning.
22:06
So here's my thing. This is my mom truck
22:08
instead of a little mom truck. My mom truck.
22:10
I try to think of how can I bless
22:13
myself tomorrow, my tomorrow self by doing something tonight.
22:15
So like doing those dishes that are in the
22:17
sink. And we actually have chore systems for those
22:19
types of things to get the family to team
22:21
up. But if when I had tiny
22:23
children, it's not like I could ask my two year old, come on.
22:25
Let's do the hot and pee in. You can do a very good
22:27
job. Right. So at 3 in
22:29
the morning, one of my priorities is my quiet time.
22:31
So I have a basket that I keep all of
22:33
my Bible, my Bible study, pens, paper. I
22:36
keep that out. And so that's something
22:38
that if, you know, I, my
22:40
husband's needing some time or on a phone call, then I
22:42
can just pick that up and go in another room. You
22:45
know, when we had kids that were in school, I put
22:47
their backpacks out, I grabbed their homework, all those little things.
22:49
You could get even nitty gritty if you have a crazy.
22:51
So if we're leaving for an early flight, I
22:53
will actually plan out what we're having for breakfast.
22:56
We have all laid out and
22:58
have clothes put out. So it just depends
23:00
on the situation because you could get meat
23:02
freakish and you can get a little maniacal
23:05
and start kind of over planning
23:07
and doing everything that you have to
23:09
allow some great. It surprised me in
23:11
the book that you mentioned that you
23:13
are bent or struggle with laziness. That
23:15
just doesn't seem to fit. Oh, I'm
23:17
an oxymoron. Let's speak to all the
23:19
moms that go, now we're talking. Yeah.
23:23
That's me. Oh, well, if given the choice, I would much rather sit
23:25
on the couch and watch a show. Or
23:27
do like nothing. I mean, that feels really good.
23:29
I mean, it's the whole inertia thing, right? A
23:32
body, you know, in motion, stays in motion.
23:34
But I would rather just stay and chill. And
23:37
so it's getting into motion. But yeah, I struggled
23:39
with laziness. How do you break out of that?
23:41
Because of course you're going, I don't even want to
23:43
admit that. Oh, yeah. Because laziness for the
23:45
Christian, you're going, that's not a good attribute. Oh,
23:48
yeah. For me, it was honestly, it's just having
23:50
that conversation like, what do I want to be
23:52
known for? What do, you know, how do I
23:54
want to set an example for my children? And
23:57
so I just really have, it's
23:59
a choice. honestly, you have
24:01
to make the choice that I'm going to
24:03
have to go do something. And so I
24:05
play games with myself and try to kind
24:08
of encourage myself to go out and do
24:10
different things. So if I have a project
24:12
to get done, then I'll do the project
24:14
and then I'm allowed to do XYZ. And
24:16
so behind everything out there to find your
24:19
motivation to do anything, you have to understand
24:21
your why. And that's important. So if you
24:23
kind of go back to that, like, you
24:26
know, why do you want to take care of
24:28
the home? You know, why is your home important?
24:30
You know, so everything that's good in life takes
24:32
a little bit of effort. And so you have
24:34
to kind of choose like, again, how do you
24:36
want to be defined and things that when I'm
24:38
looking at things, I try to the
24:41
way my brain works is that if
24:43
it's not simple, it's not getting done.
24:45
And I would much rather sit out
24:47
and often procrastination is a symptom of
24:49
stress. Oftentimes we are lazy or we
24:51
are procrastinating because there's something we
24:53
don't want to get to. And so that's
24:56
where I try to kind of identify, like,
24:59
what in my life is causing me to want
25:01
to be lazy? Like, am I avoiding something?
25:03
Am I too busy? You know, and, you
25:05
know, there's so many things. Or do we
25:07
have too much fun planned? Because that is,
25:09
that's a reality too. Sometimes we just have
25:11
too many fun things going on. But
25:14
there's also seasons for that and giving yourself grace. The
25:17
capstone for me is this attitude.
25:19
It's, you know, not
25:21
expecting it to be one and done. If you
25:23
have that expectation, you're going to be miserable because
25:25
it's going to keep coming back. And, you know,
25:28
if it's the laundry, the dishes or whatever it
25:30
is, distributing that amongst the kids and dad is
25:32
a good thing to the extent that they can
25:34
do it. Jean was great. She had the boys
25:36
doing laundry at 10. They went all through junior
25:39
high and high school doing their own laundry. Then
25:41
she got dad doing it. I don't know how
25:43
I got talked into that, but that's a big
25:45
help. And, you know, there's just
25:47
things you can do. But I really, I think there's
25:49
so many sour wives
25:53
and moms because, yeah, they think
25:55
I did this already. Why is it happening again?
25:58
Just Know your expectation. What's gonna
26:00
happen that Christie this been so good. How
26:02
I love and you know I whenever I
26:05
roll into some like this like organization I'm
26:07
always going Okay, we'll see what the audience
26:09
as you say. I hope this is connected
26:11
with you and you know maybe year and
26:13
a great place but that's your sister needs.
26:15
A little out with my be gentle way
26:18
of getting a resource. One of the big
26:20
thanks Here's just doing ministry. You know you
26:22
go to the big direct mail places. I
26:24
won't name names but you can the hit
26:26
a button and get a book and put
26:29
profit and to the shareholders. Of that company.
26:31
But if you get the resource from
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Focus if you buy Christie's book emo
26:35
him master organizer may him from focused
26:37
on proceeds, go right back and and
26:39
ministry. Helping. Families and that's a
26:41
great way to do it's if you can
26:43
do that monthly even five or ten dollars
26:45
a month or John and I support focuses
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way. It's a great
26:49
help to the budget a one time gift
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and will also send you a copy the
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books as our way of saying thank you
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for being either a monthly sustain or or
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a one time giver. We love it does
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get in touch with us and John has
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this detail and yeah it's very easy to
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