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>> Jolene: Abstinence or moderation?
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I'm talking about when it comes to diet and health.
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Have you ever wondered if moderating is
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better or abstaining is better and you're trying
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to figure out which one works? Which is
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healthy, what is not? Let's dive
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reality? Let's get started on your journey to real
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health. Hey. Hey there. Today we
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are going to explore moderation and
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abstinence as it relates to eating,
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reaching our health goals and maintaining them.
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Have you ever wondered if moderation
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is better or is abstinence better?
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Are you struggling to try to figure out which one
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works best, which is
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healthy, which is not? I get
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it. You just want to have a healthy relationship
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with food long term. But there's all
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this noise out in the world shouting for you to do
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this or to do that. So is it
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abstaining or moderating? Well, first,
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let's do our best to define both
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so that we're all on the same page of what we're actually
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talking about. According to Merriam
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Webster, to abstain or
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abstaining is to choose not to
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do or have something, to
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refrain deliberately and often with
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an effort of self denial from an action or
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practice. That is a pretty straightforward
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definition. As far as diet, it means we are
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deciding not to eat certain
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things. We're going to cut them out of our
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diet. Now, Merriam
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Webster defines moderating as to
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moderate, which is avoiding
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extremes of behavior or
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expression, observing reasonable
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limits, or tending towards
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the mean or average amount.
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I find this a little bit more nuanced in a
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definition than it came to when we talked about
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abstaining, but when it comes to
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dietary habits, because we
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use it in a way to explain, not to
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overindulge, to only have a little bit,
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or to control the amount. So it does fit
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in. But it's a lot more nuanced because when we
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say you have to have moderation,
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when it comes to certain foods, that means
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you're not going to have a moderate amount, which would be a middle
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amount. You're going to
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be careful how much you have. You're going to
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have less, you're going to stop at a serving
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per se. So it's a little bit more
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nuanced. But I think we all get the idea that
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we're either going to not have it at all or
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we're going to control the amount we're going to
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have. So controlling the amount we're going to have is
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moderation, and abstaining is not
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having it at all. Knowing the definitions are all
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well and good, but where does that
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get us to be healthy and or
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have a healthy relationship with food?
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There is a lot of confusion and
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conflicting information. As with all
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things nutrition, there is so much
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noise, and people really dig deep
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into their personal feelings that their way is
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the right way. Those who work
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with eating disorders in a clinical
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setting, like psychologists,
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psychotherapists, they have certain
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modalities they use to help their patients get
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through eating disorders. Depending on the
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disorder, which usually stresses
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eating everything in moderation
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or moderating all foods,
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they are working strictly with the mental
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aspect of the eating disorder. There's
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often fear of foods. There's control
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issues, either wanting strict control, or
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those that lose control altogether,
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obsessive behavior. And there's so much more when it
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comes to true to true,
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deep eating disorders.
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So the push for moderation, whether it be
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from a, clinician or a coach or
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an influencer, comes from the
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idea that restriction
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fuels the eating disorder. The concept
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that food is just, that it's food,
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nothing to be used as a form of identity
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worth, and that there is no good or bad
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foods. It's simply just food that we
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should be able to eat in moderation.
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Now, also, with those that are working
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with eating disorders in a clinical setting,
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they're also dealing with the deeper issues
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of a eating disorder. Body
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image issues, trauma control
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issues, obsessive compulsive issues.
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There's a lot of underlying
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issues that come with an eating disorder. So
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before we go any further,
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if you or someone you know,
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or you just think you have an eating
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disorder that is not only affecting your physical
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body, it's affecting your mental well being,
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reach out for help.
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Someone will help you find that mental health
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provider that can get you through this. Like
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I said, many eating disorders are more
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complex than just the food. That
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is why a nutritionist, a coach,
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an influencer, may not be
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the right person to help you through this.
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The rest of this podcast, we will be talking
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about moderation and
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abstinence in regards to a
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healthy relationship with food.
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But you need a healthy
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relationship with your body as well, and
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that is way beyond my scope of practice.
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While I tout self love and loving yourself
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enough to take control of your health,
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many truly need a professional
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in the mental health field
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that goes beyond what I personally can
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offer. I can help you find that person, and
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I can help you on the nutrition part along the way.
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But there is no shame in
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getting that help you need. It is
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courageous to reach out and get
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the mental help you need. So let's go back to the topic. Now
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that I got the heaviness out of the way, let's take
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a look at the concept and
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thoughts behind abstaining.
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By removing the foods that trigger
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uncontrollable behavior, we
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no longer have issues with whatever
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form of eating disorder we had.
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It's labeling these trigger foods off
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limits. Most that teach or
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coach this usually have had
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some kind of binge eating disorder
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or food addiction
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that they have personally overcome. Some
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have gone through the process of moderation with
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therapy and relapsed and found
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it was easier to be an abstainer,
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or they only had a very slight form of
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disordered eating. So abstaining from those foods
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didn't cause any additional mental issues.
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This does not make one way
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better than the other. It's a clear indication
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that it is way more nuanced than we see on the
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Internet. You know, those 15 2nd
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TikToks and reels are very
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absolute. They don't ever talk about the
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nuances. I see it day in and day
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out. People are saying, even
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arguing that removing foods is an
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eating disorder, or that fasting
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is an eating disorder, or, or,
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or the list goes on and
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on and on and everyone digs their feet in the
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sand because human nature is, they
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want to be right. So
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again, let's look at abstaining
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or moderating from a healthy relationship
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on a food perspective. Just because we believe
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a certain way is right does not make it
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so for everyone. The talk that if you
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give up something, it's a form of restrictive
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eating, and an eating disorder is a
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huge leap for the majority of the population,
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especially when the very next sentence
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usually is you only have to count
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calories, that translates into
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restrict to lose weight. If you've
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been listening for any length of time, you know,
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I believe in focusing on your health
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first and letting the weight sort itself
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out because a healthy body releases excess
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weight. It's just kind of how it works. Sometimes
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you do have to do some things to push it along its
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way. But weight
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loss and achieving a healthy weight
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comes from health. The thought
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that you can eat every type of food,
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junk food, as well as healthy food, and reach
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optimum health. For the average
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person, you'd just be wrong. You
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can reach a target weight, sure,
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but is that getting healthy,
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especially metabolically healthy, on the inside?
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The health on the inside that we can't see?
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So what are we to do?
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Moderate or abstain? You might be
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thinking, I'm, leaning one way or the other, but again,
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it is way more nuanced.
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As a nutritional therapy practitioner, I
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often say, you cannot out supplement,
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out exercise a bad diet.
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We need to be nourished and also
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absorb those nutrients. So eating
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countless empty calories, or should I say,
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counting those empty calories, but not focusing
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on getting in the nourishment and the building blocks
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your body needs, is problematic to being
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healthy. Moderating the junk is an option
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for someone who is metabolically
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healthy and can actually moderate. I
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know, that was a whole lotta, huh? For a
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metabolically healthy person who put in the
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work to have a good relationship with
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food, moderating is just fine. They can
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eat only one square of chocolate and be satisfied
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and leave it there for weeks on end, or have one
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dessert one night. And it doesn't set off a cascade of
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binge eating or negative feelings. This is
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something we can all dream of reaching, but
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sadly, it's not gonna be the norm
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for all of us. Moderating something
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like bread for someone that has celiac
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isn't going to work. It's the same thing that goes
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for alcohol and an alcoholic. It's just not
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going to work. We need to be
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realistic that for health
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reasons, some people will have to
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abstain from foods that their body just doesn't
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like, or it doesn't tolerate, or it
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ascorbates a condition they have,
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or it simply doesn't help them reach their
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goals. Abstaining because you want
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your health to improve and to be the best version
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of you is not the same thing as an
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eating disorder. Being obsessive
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about it and feeling like the world is ending, or you're
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a bad person, or a failure because you
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had something you were abstaining from, that's a
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sign that there's some disordered eating going on, and you
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need to dig deeper. That's when we really need to do
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that. Check in with ourselves and make sure we're
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approaching all of our dietary choices in
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a healthy manner for both our body
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and our mind. You see, food
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is nourishment. It's what our body
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uses as building blocks for healthy
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cells, but it also can be for
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enjoyment. We just need to make sure
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we, understand our, own personal
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reactions to the food we're eating. That's
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physically and mentally. When it comes
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to indulgence, I know plenty,
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plenty of people that can moderate it.
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Others need to abstain from those
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foods, and others can
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moderate certain indulgences, but need
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to abstain from others. This is
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where it becomes truly nuanced,
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because if you're avoiding certain foods
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that don't make you feel good, don't help
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improve your health, or send you on
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an out of control spiral, does that mean
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there's something wrong for some?
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That's where food freedom comes from, not
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giving power to foods they lose control
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from, and this will look different
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for everyone. The key is to
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strive for good health in both body
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and mind. As we wrap up, there are a couple
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of things I'd like to talk, about that are
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related to the subject, but aren't necessarily related
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to the food aspects. But first,
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if you have found this podcast useful in
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because reviews work with the algorithm to spread the word
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even further and to help people find me.
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Now to the other health modalities that
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can get somewhat disordered. First
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is exercise. Exercise.
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It's a privilege. We get to do this so that
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we can take care of our bodies and get
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healthy. It's not a
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punishment for overeating or overindulging. Using exercise
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to undo what you ate is not only
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not healthy, it doesn't even work.
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Exercise to be strong,
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both physically and mentally. That's why
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we exercise. The second thing is
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fasting. It's the same
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principle. If you are fasting to
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undo what you ate, or as
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a punishment for what you ate, or not
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losing enough or whatever, that means, that's not
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healthy. You need to have a healthy
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approach for fasting. We fast
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for the healing benefits it gives that
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allows our body and mind to be
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healthier. If you are pushing through
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fast and don't feel good or excessively
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hungry for hours on end, you aren't
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doing yourself loads of favors. Now you're
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putting extreme stress on your body, doing
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something that should actually be a healthy stress,
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so fast, gently,
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and with purpose. Lastly,
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if you are tracking your food and it has
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become obsessive, you are now
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obsessively trying to reach every
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single target to the point you are forcing
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foods after your fool or starving for days on
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end. Because you are not listening to your body. You're
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listening to the app that's becoming a
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disordered way of eating as well. Any
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data points that you obsess over?
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Trying to get them perfect requires
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you to take a step back and give yourself a little bit of
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a reality check. We don't want to
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take anything from a point of
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punishment or obsessiveness.
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We want to look at food as
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nourishment. And one of the
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main things I teach people is this going to help
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me reach my goals and get healthier, or is
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it not? It's as simple as that.
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So to wrap it up,
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moderating is fine as long as it
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works with your health goals and body.
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Abstaining is fine as long as you are coming
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from a place of knowledge of yourself.
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Doing a little bit of both is awesome. That
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means you're totally in tune with your body.
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We are unique and we need to do what's
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best for us, but we have to be
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honest with why and what we are
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doing. Our bodies are beautifully made.
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They are the only ones we get. So it
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is important that we do whatever we
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can to take care of our body and our
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mind. On, that note, friends, I will see you
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next time. Bye. Thanks for
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listening in today. I hope you've got some nuggets to take away
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on your health journey. Remember, this podcast
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is for educational and entertainment purposes.
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No medical advice is being given. By listening
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