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Am I the a-hole for dumping my girlfriend after

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moving in with her? Well, that's bad timing. Yeah.

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So I 25 male moved in with my

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girlfriend, 24 female of four

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years, three weeks ago. She

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chose a place. And although her name is on

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the lease, I paid half of the deposit and

0:43

paid the first month of rent as she couldn't

0:45

afford it. I also paid the first month of

0:47

bills. Why is the person who can't

0:49

afford it on the lease? Is

0:52

her name the only name on the lease or is

0:54

it with him? I think she's the only name

0:57

in the lease. That's crazy. And she's the one

0:59

that can't afford it. That's crazy. She

1:01

works part time and has some savings

1:03

she used to furnish the place. According

1:05

to her taste, despite my objections, I

1:07

felt she overspent and the money could

1:09

have been better spent on other things.

1:12

But an ICU, if you know where this

1:14

is going, Do you see it? Did a

1:17

few friends over a Monday when I came

1:19

home. She had ordered food and as I

1:21

normally come home from work at five, she

1:23

was surprised to see me there an hour

1:25

earlier. They

1:28

were a little drunk and one of her

1:30

friends made some strange comments,

1:32

which I thought nothing of due to

1:34

the alcohol as I went to the

1:37

bathroom shower. Well, when I

1:39

came out of the shower,

1:41

her other friends and sister

1:43

was quoting me poetry that

1:45

I had written to my

1:47

girlfriend. And was

1:49

quite handsy. So like he

1:52

had written poetry to his girlfriend and this friend

1:55

and sister were quoting his poetry

1:58

and getting hands. Yeah. What?

2:03

Or maybe Hanzi with him. Let's

2:06

find out. I thought it odd

2:08

and asked her where she had heard that. Oh,

2:10

she just did it from memory. She

2:13

goes, we just read your

2:15

love letters to her before watching a movie. My

2:18

girlfriend was laughing with them. Her sister

2:20

made a remark about how she wanted

2:22

me to do her the way

2:24

I do her

2:26

sister because she had

2:28

never felt that way. Oh

2:31

my God. And it

2:34

feels like OP's girlfriend is on

2:36

board. What? Because

2:38

the girlfriend was just laughing. And sorry,

2:40

sorry, sorry. Was

2:43

this the friend that was getting closed

2:46

up on OP or the sister? To be

2:48

clear, to be clear. Her other

2:50

friend and OP's girlfriend's

2:53

sister. So it was her

2:55

friends and OP's girlfriend's sister. And

2:59

they were getting Hanzi with

3:01

OP. Both of them? Yeah.

3:05

Oh my God. Bro.

3:09

And her sister made a remark about how she

3:12

wanted me to do her the way I do

3:14

her sister because she had never felt that way.

3:16

It was the sister. Oh

3:18

my God. Okay, wow. I'm in shock. I'm

3:20

in shock. I was

3:23

curious. But due

3:25

to her drunkness, thought it was impossible. Talked to

3:27

her so I left for my mother's house.

3:30

On Tuesday, she

3:33

called me 17 times. That's

3:36

a lot. But I ignored

3:38

it. She also sent many texts wanting to know

3:40

why I was at home. On Wednesday,

3:42

I told her in person how

3:44

hurt I was for her sharing

3:47

my intimate letters with her friends

3:49

and for oversharing what we do

3:51

in private. I guess OP's

3:54

girlfriend was just saying

3:56

how he rocks her talks.

3:58

Just doing some spicy. We're talking...

4:01

Niciest of sleep. We're talking... Ghost pepper level

4:03

spicy sleep. She said the

4:05

girls were impressed with me and

4:07

that is why they got a little handsy. Man's about

4:09

to get a whole harem. Bro. She

4:12

said once I gave her the letters they

4:14

were hers to share with whom she pleased.

4:17

So I told her that I am my

4:19

own person and can make the decision to

4:21

not share more of myself with her. Ooh.

4:25

As in, I'm gonna break up with you.

4:27

Ooh. As she came to my mother's apologizing, she

4:29

wanted me to come back and talk it out

4:31

with her. I told her,

4:34

no. And that we weren't through. It's...

4:36

wow. She wouldn't leave so

4:38

I drove to my father's place where I am

4:41

now. She kept texting me and telling me that

4:43

I should be ashamed of myself for leaving her

4:45

like that. She got her friends

4:47

and sister to apologize to me and

4:49

they told me to quit playing games

4:51

and go home now they had apologized.

4:54

I told them. I was home.

4:57

And that as my name was not on the

4:59

lease and I was

5:01

not respected as an equal in her home I

5:04

no longer wanted to be with her. Whoa.

5:06

Name is not on the lease.

5:08

Conspiracy theory.

5:10

Which I think was Riley's conspiracy theory that

5:12

I'm just blatantly stealing from him. Was

5:15

he suspicious that their relationship wouldn't work

5:17

out well from the beginning and got

5:19

her son the lease? I

5:22

don't know. That's some 4D chess right there. This

5:25

is a crazy situation. If

5:27

that is true then he's probably a little bit

5:29

of an a-hole. Well let's get back to

5:31

reality and find out. Luckily for me

5:34

I hadn't moved most of my stuff there. She kept

5:36

phoning and texting and I blocked her. She then made

5:38

a mutual male friend of ours contact me and tell

5:40

me that I was being a bitch about it so

5:42

I blocked him too. Then his

5:44

girlfriend texted me and told me to not

5:46

take things out of proportion. I

5:49

am almost certain I did the right thing but

5:51

maybe I should talk it out

5:53

with her before cutting all contact.

5:56

She follows my main. That's why I'm doing a throw away

5:58

count here. Opie's

6:00

girlfriend shared personal letters he wrote

6:03

to her with friends and Opie

6:05

broke up with her So

6:08

what do you think should Opie talk

6:10

it out with his girlfriend

6:13

or just cut contact completely? So I

6:16

there is an update. Okay, there's a thick okay,

6:18

see update coming, but let's break this thing down

6:21

first This was this gave me whiplash This was

6:23

just like going all over

6:25

the place from the beginning good with

6:27

the friend and thank you with a

6:29

friend and Or

6:31

the girlfriend's friend and the girlfriend

6:33

sister both get hands He isn't

6:36

the girlfriend being like laughing and

6:38

like encouraging it imagine poetry So

6:40

good that all of your

6:42

girlfriend's friends want to bone you bro

6:44

Whoa is off the chart pen is

6:47

mightier than the sword the pen is

6:49

really and apparently it's pretty mighty do

6:51

yeah, dude Hey, pet is Whoa,

6:54

no further explanation. So I I

6:58

do think that Opie

7:00

did overreact But

7:05

he is also within his rights Well,

7:09

you'll I guess yeah He felt those

7:11

were personal letters that shouldn't be shared

7:13

she crossed a boundary and he felt

7:15

uncomfortable with his girlfriend basically Inspiring a

7:17

haram. Yeah, I guess I guess

7:19

I maybe he is more hung up on the

7:22

like Hey, like you shared this very

7:24

personal thing and not just personal love letter, but

7:26

also like about their love life Yeah, and he's

7:28

probably like I want that to be something that

7:31

is and some people would have any problem with

7:33

that Some people would and some people what yes,

7:35

and it's just like what kind of personality Do

7:38

you want to be with and

7:41

this this might be on on everyone's minds?

7:43

But like we kind of like laugh like

7:45

all like it's inspiring a harem or whatever

7:47

But imagine it was in the inverse scenario

7:49

where it was like a guy telling his

7:52

boys like oh look at all these love

7:54

letters To me and they're like, oh man,

7:56

like we've never been loved by that creepy

7:58

AF right creepy. Oh The

8:00

guy is absolutely within his right and he's like this

8:02

is not what I want in a relationship He

8:05

is within his rights to do that. However, I Probably

8:08

would have like sat down and been like

8:11

hey like I just want to make sure

8:13

I'm clearly communicating Yeah, when

8:15

we're like that you would what they've

8:17

been dating for four years. I think

8:19

yeah that deserves I think it I

8:22

think golden what she did is Yeah,

8:26

I think what she did Deserves

8:28

a breakup. I mean I in

8:31

this scenario maybe I don't know I'm

8:33

not that like sensitive about people

8:36

knowing about my life obviously But

8:40

like if I think

8:43

what she did was not cool but

8:46

I think breaking up and Blocking

8:49

after not like and not even talking

8:52

to someone after four years of relationship

8:54

is also a little bit childish Yes,

8:56

I would agree. I was

8:58

in this scenario where it's not like

9:00

there's any abuse or yeah Anything that

9:03

would make talking in person difficult. It's

9:05

more just like someone transgressed a boundary

9:08

You should talk about it. Even if you still plan

9:10

on breaking up with that Yeah, I'd almost be

9:12

like hey You can still like sit down and

9:15

have a conversation where you break up with someone

9:17

but within that conversation Being like

9:19

here's where you made me feel uncomfortable like

9:21

all of these things and just having a chance

9:23

to communicate back and forth because Maybe

9:25

this was just a thing She got to tipsy

9:27

with her friends and whatever and it was a

9:30

total mistake and then there's a place to work

9:32

back from there Who knows who knows but I

9:34

think having that conversation is really important. Yes, but

9:37

there is an update Opie

9:40

talks about the love letters and how they were dressed It's

9:43

not just the love letters that I

9:45

wrote intimate thoughts in that got me.

9:48

She shared our sex life, too I

9:51

thought everyone knew that what happens between two

9:53

people stays that way The

9:55

letters were sent and addressed to her when

9:57

I was abroad and it had a lot

10:00

of info about my family and I never

10:02

thought she would share them with people I

10:04

didn't address them to. There was

10:06

information about my family, those letters. The

10:08

intimacy that was shared with their friends

10:10

was without my consent and I never

10:12

discuss her with my friends like that.

10:15

Which I think is totally fair but

10:17

that is definitely not everyone. Not everyone

10:19

believes in that same level of like...

10:22

Yeah. Yeah. Very

10:24

big generalization. It's a generalization. Although

10:27

I will say most people do

10:29

kind of keep most of their

10:31

like sex life to themselves but

10:33

like you can't assume everyone, especially

10:35

your partner. Yeah. Unless it's specifically talked

10:37

about. You gotta communicate it. Yeah. Exactly.

10:41

Like I know girls that will like anything that a guy sends them

10:43

will immediately go into group chat. Right? Like

10:46

Riley and I have had conversations like when you talk to

10:48

your girl you're talking to her whole friend group. Yeah. And

10:51

like I think that is like generally... Like right? Right,

10:54

Riley? Yeah. You

10:56

just blew my mind. That...

10:58

wow. At first until you get...

11:00

Right, until you pass the test. Yeah, until you

11:03

pass the test. Yeah. It's like

11:05

the... And then it becomes more private. And then

11:07

it becomes more private. Yeah. Wow.

11:09

Like dude, I've been seeing this girl

11:11

and everything is being

11:14

sent in that friend group. Still? Yeah.

11:17

I think so. Whoa. I

11:19

think so. That's wild. I don't know if it's like still.

11:21

I don't know if it's still to the

11:23

same degree but yeah. Yeah. I was

11:26

good about. Um, speaking of the sex life stuff. Some

11:28

girls do talk about their sex lives to their friends

11:30

but dude, I feel like

11:32

it's different when guys do it. They'll

11:34

locker roomy whenever guys do it. What

11:38

just depends how it's done? Yeah. I think

11:40

it depends. Yeah. But... What

11:45

do you got for me

11:47

Sammy? So another comment says, 9, 3, 4 says, info not

11:49

DA hole for breaking up. But

11:54

what arrangements did you agree on before you moved

11:56

in in case of breaking up? Leaving her stranded

11:58

with a place to go. she can't afford

12:00

because you were meant to both pay is a

12:03

dick move, which I agree. Why

12:05

are you not on the lease? So OP responds, we

12:07

were supposed to go half and half, but she overspent

12:09

on the stuff she bought. I covered

12:11

her end with understanding she would chip in in a

12:14

few months when she had saved up. The

12:16

lease is 12 months plus two months for

12:18

the deposit. If it's broken, the remainder of

12:21

the lease has to be paid. I

12:24

wanted to be on the lease, but the landlord said

12:26

only one person could be on it. I offered to

12:29

put my name on it and she vetoed it no.

12:31

She wanted to own her first place

12:34

as she had never rented before, so

12:36

we agreed it would be

12:39

good for her self-confidence. So

12:42

this was a decision that she asked for.

12:46

It sounds like he paid for the first

12:48

two months in furniture and stuff, is that

12:50

right? No, no, she paid too much on

12:52

furniture. She paid for the

12:54

first couple months until she got her shit

12:57

together. But still an a-hole

12:59

move to just back out of a lease.

13:01

Even if you were just living with a

13:03

roommate, you wouldn't just leave randomly. Yeah.

13:07

You would give at least 30 days. Yeah,

13:10

I think 30 days. You

13:13

give 30 days, you're like, listen, I will... You

13:15

could do this. I'm leaving immediately. I'm

13:18

paying for the next month. But

13:20

then after that, you're on your own. That

13:23

I think feels more... You

13:25

get 30 days notice again. Depending

13:27

on what the living situation is, she might not be able

13:29

to find a roommate. Because

13:33

what if it's just a studio? And you

13:35

get cozy with that room. You get cozy. That's

13:38

rough. I guess maybe you could rent it

13:40

out to someone else, like a couple. Doublet. I

13:43

have ideas. But... It's

13:45

tough. But it's tough. Bring

13:47

us in as the problem solvers. We'll get the

13:50

handle. We got you. We can be consulted. So

13:52

no personality 5-4-2-1 says, info. How

13:56

did she pass a credit check to get approved for

13:58

an apartment with only a part-time job? job. You

14:00

didn't co-sign for her, did you?" And then

14:02

OP says, I didn't co-sign for her a

14:05

month before the apartment. She was

14:07

in a full-time job when we

14:09

initially viewed it. She had savings,

14:11

which she blew on wanting

14:14

everything new for the place, fridge, cooker,

14:16

washing machine, and dishwasher, plus other furniture.

14:18

Her plan was to go part-time while

14:20

taking a course next year to look

14:22

for a better job. With the

14:24

savings, she would have been able to

14:26

pay the apartment. And then some now

14:28

doesn't have much except for her part-time

14:30

income. And that

14:33

brings us to the juicy

14:35

thick updates. Yeah. Red

14:37

flag. Hit him with it. If you are

14:39

going into an apartment, there's

14:45

so much amazing furniture on Craigslist

14:47

and Facebook marketplace that you can

14:49

get for so much cheaper. No,

14:51

free. Free! The amount of free

14:53

for I furnished all of my

14:55

apartments up until this house with

14:57

free furniture. Say the piano we

14:59

have in this house. Great.

15:01

But even still same, you know what? I'll give

15:03

it to her. You can go get, I

15:07

got a U-sectional couch,

15:09

a giant U-sectional couch, $175.

15:12

Done. Let me ask you. Talk to me. What is that new? Oh,

15:17

two grand. Two grand. You're

15:19

telling me if you pick up a street

15:21

furniture thing off the street right now, you

15:24

can save $1,900. Literally.

15:27

Forget street. In someone's apartment. You go

15:29

in someone's apartment and you bring it

15:31

to your apartment. Done. Done.

15:34

Incredible. So what's

15:36

your excuse? Come on. What

15:38

are you doing? You can flip couches and become

15:41

a millionaire. That's right. Just

15:43

go to garage sale, bro. Just go to garage

15:45

sale and flip couches. You're

15:47

going to pop out of college. Just do that. Eighteen

15:50

hours a day and they call your parents and say, I hate

15:52

you. Why did you

15:54

teach me this, bro? This is Gary Vee. Gary Vee impression.

15:56

I feel like this is probably the wrong audience for Gary

15:58

Vee. It is completely the wrong audience. but hopefully you

16:00

enjoyed it. So we have

16:02

an update. After reading a lot of the advice

16:05

here and talking it out with my family and

16:07

friends, it seems it's best to

16:09

not continue my relationship. We

16:12

agreed. We agreed. Okay, but... I

16:15

gotta talk to her. Let's see. I

16:18

have not contacted her directly, but I went

16:20

with my brother and my friend while she

16:22

went to visit her parents pre-book trip. I

16:24

collected my things and gave my brother the

16:26

key to give to her Friday evening. She

16:29

wouldn't take it from him as she wanted me to

16:31

return it. I feel like... That's

16:34

like... I feel like it's not

16:37

that bad to go no contact immediately.

16:40

Yeah... Right?

16:42

This is an overreaction. This feels like

16:44

an overreaction. Feels like an overreaction. My

16:47

brother told her there was zero

16:49

chance of that happening because of

16:51

the TikTok post she had on

16:53

her account going into more details. Oh

16:55

no! What was in the letters

16:57

from me, including her mentioning my sister

16:59

by name and her miscarriages? What?!

17:03

Bro... Okay... Bro...

17:06

Maybe that was over the line. Yeah,

17:09

that's insane. Bro,

17:12

what? How did she double down so hard?

17:15

This... I get the sense that

17:17

this girlfriend is an absolute idiot. This forced

17:19

my sister to tell my mother about it

17:21

even though it brought up a lot of

17:23

trauma for her. At the moment, my sister

17:26

is not talking to me because she felt

17:28

I shouldn't have shared that with anyone. I

17:30

agree. It was a violation on my

17:32

part even though I was looking for emotional support for

17:35

my girlfriend. My ex took down the post

17:37

in hopes of getting me to meet with her. Ooh,

17:40

so this is like blackmail? It's kind of

17:42

like, yeah, blackmail. When she realized that wouldn't

17:44

happen, she put up another one telling her

17:46

side of the story. There were several

17:48

parts and in it, she was looking for the

17:51

letters to show her followers, but

17:53

I knew where she kept them and

17:55

took them while I went to collect

17:57

my stuff. Thank God. I burnt

17:59

them all. I Part

18:02

all of them. I wouldn't I won't

18:04

be writing letters to any new romantic

18:07

partners anytime soon shoot We're

18:09

all ruined it for everyone everyone

18:12

No more no more love letters and

18:14

amazing spicy sleep I wrote a letter

18:16

to a romantic partner, and it

18:18

was shared in a group chat no Wow

18:25

no, but I just assumed that's gonna happen though

18:30

There's a line though Her

18:33

sister has been to my mother's a few

18:35

times trying to get me to help out

18:37

with the rent as according to my ex's

18:40

Reasoning if I hadn't agreed to pay for

18:42

the rent She wouldn't have over she wouldn't

18:44

have overspent on setting up her home the

18:46

way she wanted Even if she

18:48

sells the stuff she won't get the original

18:50

price for it, so she feels it's my

18:52

fault for making her lose money She

18:56

did Contact the landlord filmed

18:58

for her tick-tock viewers while she was on

19:00

the phone to him And

19:03

he denied her breaking the lease without

19:05

penalties just to pay the remainder of

19:07

the month I Asked

19:10

her for my deposit through my

19:12

friend while he was on

19:14

the loudspeaker to her So I could

19:16

hear her side without having to speak

19:18

knowing full Well, I wouldn't get my

19:21

part, but at least he tried She

19:23

called him a lot of names then phoned him

19:25

back and apologized because she wanted him to tell

19:27

me to phone her So she

19:30

could straighten out the misunderstanding and we

19:32

could get back together. Oh the phone

19:34

messenger I hate that I feel

19:36

like she called him back because she was filming

19:38

the part where she was cussing him out She

19:41

filmed it yeah, I think so cuz she's been on

19:43

this tick-tock ride way for a little bit Yeah, she

19:45

didn't view them. That's what I want to know Should

19:48

we should we bring her on the network? Traits

19:55

new podcast coming to you I

19:58

mean I feel like you should just talk to her face face,

20:00

you know? Yeah. Yeah.

20:02

We need to stop all of this running

20:04

around, have an intermediate just sitting down.

20:07

Why does he need that? She's

20:10

obviously been oversharing, but she hasn't

20:12

done anything that crazy that warrants

20:15

having to talk to someone else. Yeah,

20:19

I think she's done some crazy

20:21

stuff, but it behooves O.K. to

20:23

directly talk to her, and

20:25

it's not like he's in danger

20:27

or anything of that nature. It's

20:30

like, just get this all sorted out,

20:32

tell her exactly how you feel, get

20:34

all your stuff together, work out. I

20:37

think he's kind of being a dick with

20:39

the whole rent stuff. Yeah, and it's also

20:41

prolonging this whole interaction. Like if you just

20:43

communicate with her directly just to get the

20:46

finances everything sorted, then

20:50

that's quicker. Also, she was only not

20:52

on the lease because of like

20:55

a technicality, or he was only not on the lease because

20:57

of a technicality, because they couldn't have like two people on

20:59

the lease. That's true. So

21:01

it's like he technically, like he

21:05

would have had his name on the

21:07

lease if like

21:09

everything went according to their initial plan.

21:11

So true. Yes, he's

21:14

not legally bound by it, but I feel

21:16

like more legally. I

21:19

think it could be O.K. if he's like, hey,

21:21

I'm going to pay you at least a month.

21:25

But even then, it's like she has

21:27

to find a new person. That is true. That

21:30

is true. We don't know the size of this place. What

21:34

if it is media? It's not a great move. I

21:37

think, like, is it a doobly

21:40

O.K. move? That's

21:42

my question. I

21:44

think to give 30 days

21:46

is I think O.K. Yeah, it's O.K.

21:49

At least 30 days. How

21:53

long does it take to find

21:55

a new roommate? finds

22:00

the new roommate and pays

22:02

his path in the meantime.

22:04

Therefore, OP doesn't go without

22:08

having to pay the whole load and

22:11

she doesn't have to do the work to get a new person

22:13

in. That, I think, is good. It's better.

22:17

I think there's a little bit like... I

22:20

feel like there's a little bit that's like not... That

22:23

OP's not taking responsibility for. Yeah.

22:26

That's fair. She's now taken down. She's not going to talk about

22:29

me. Don't know if she will upload them again once it dawns

22:31

on her that we are through. More

22:33

followers. She phoned my brother again to

22:35

make me speak to her so she could explain and

22:37

he met her a few hours ago. He

22:40

finally gave her the key as she was told

22:42

either she could take it or we

22:44

would return it to the landlord. He picked

22:46

up a call from her an hour after

22:48

he dropped the keys. She wanted

22:50

to talk to me and to forgive

22:53

her and she had seen how she

22:55

made a mistake and that it would never happen again.

22:57

She wanted me to return the love letters

23:00

but my brother told her they were burnt.

23:03

She had to go at him and my brother cut

23:05

her off. She phoned back more

23:07

apologetic and said what did she have to

23:09

do to make me go back. He

23:12

asked her if she would be okay

23:14

with me sharing her nudes and a

23:16

clip she has sent me with my

23:18

male friends. He asked her

23:20

this without okaying it with me first. Yeah. That's

23:23

insane. She said she wouldn't be okay with it. I

23:26

guess the double standard has completely turned me

23:28

off as she told my brother that if

23:30

you receive something through a

23:32

romantic relationship then it stays

23:34

between those four eyes. It's

23:37

not that she doesn't understand that what she did

23:40

is wrong. She expects me to

23:42

be okay with it as in her

23:44

mind her feelings matter more in the

23:46

relationship. She also thinks

23:48

that me being taller and bigger than

23:51

her that she shouldn't have felt threatened

23:53

by her friends or sisters as I

23:55

was not in harm's way. He

23:58

then blocked her as she phoned him several times. times

24:00

over and left him crying messages

24:02

and then some angry messages to

24:05

delete her nudes. Her

24:07

sister left an angry message with a friend

24:09

that helped me with asking for the deposit

24:12

and she threatened him that if I ever

24:14

leaked to her nudes, I wouldn't live to

24:16

regret it. What's with all this

24:18

new talk? She

24:20

told us to pass on the messages

24:23

to me that there is something she

24:25

is very insecure about sharing about her

24:27

body and she doesn't want me to

24:29

share that without her consent. I

24:33

think this all started because the brother

24:35

said a hypothetical and now and this

24:37

is… And next,

24:39

that is also a terrible hypothetical.

24:41

Those two things are not equivalent

24:44

at all. Love letters

24:46

and nudes? No, because like, I

24:49

mean they're both bad, I guess they're similar and

24:52

they're both bad and you shouldn't share them but

24:54

like the nudes, that's

24:56

like one, illegal almost certainly,

24:58

right? Two,

25:02

like yes, there

25:04

is having some private

25:07

communication whatever between someone but I

25:10

don't know. To me, that's worse. I'm sorry.

25:13

I agree. That's worse. Yeah,

25:15

sharing nudes? Yeah, especially of a woman.

25:17

Yeah. Like that's really bad. Well,

25:19

you're going to share nudes with me anytime? Yes.

25:22

Yeah, I do. Sexy calendar

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coming to you. Join our Discord.

25:26

How do you think we make all those

25:29

monies, Sam? I'm

25:32

getting a new number as I can do so with

25:34

my current payment plan. I'm going forward from this and

25:36

hoping that I make better decisions in the future. Thank

25:38

you to all that helped me with good advice. TLDR,

25:41

ex-girlfriend breached OP's trust and the

25:43

relationship is over and we have

25:46

some quick relevant comments before we

25:48

wrap this story up. But

25:50

while I'm reading these relevant comments, do

25:53

you think OP made the right decision?

25:56

Do you think going no contact immediately

25:58

was the right decision? You

26:00

think nudes are equal to

26:02

love letters or not? Let us know in

26:04

the comments. But relevant comment. So, OP on

26:06

his family communicating with his ex, OP says,

26:09

my family is ignoring her. They are not

26:11

enjoying this. My brother and my friends have

26:13

blocked her on their phones. Her sister came

26:15

to my mother's home. She also came to

26:17

my mother's home. My mother doesn't even open

26:20

the door when she sees it's someone from

26:22

their side now and she will continue to

26:24

do so. I admit I made a mistake

26:26

with revealing about my

26:28

sister's miscarriages, but I thought my now ex

26:30

would keep it quiet and emotionally

26:33

support me. It was not my direct trauma,

26:35

but seeing my sister suffer and her calling

26:37

me all the time during the day and

26:39

night when she went through miscarriages was hard

26:41

on my mental health. And

26:44

then OP on pictures he had of his ex

26:46

and deleting them in front of her. I don't

26:48

want to meet her again. We are done. I

26:50

don't owe her peace of mind as many hold

26:52

me in my DMs. I would never post them,

26:55

but it's not my problem anymore. Any hang ups

26:57

she has are her own. I

27:00

don't know about that part. I hate all

27:03

of this. So to answer

27:05

your question, firstly about how

27:07

he was handling things. I think he

27:09

made all the wrong

27:11

decisions. I think everyone

27:14

here made all the wrong decisions

27:16

at every single point. The

27:18

girlfriend sharing all the stories and

27:20

everything that was happening and like

27:23

doxxing people. The

27:27

boyfriend immediately going like, I'm

27:30

breaking up with you. I'm never

27:32

talking to you again, elongating this

27:35

whole process. The brother with this

27:37

stupid hypothetical that and totally over

27:40

OP. Like all of

27:42

this stuff with the nudes came from nowhere,

27:44

but the brother's idiot mouth. Yeah. You're

27:47

not safe because you're an idiot too

27:49

because you should be like, yeah, of

27:51

course I'll delete it and send you

27:53

send you like you should absolutely do

27:56

that. It's like, especially when requested. And

27:58

if you're trying to. show

28:00

that you're like the better example of

28:03

like what to do in these types of situations, you

28:05

should be the bigger person to do that and not

28:07

be like, oh well, too bad. Like

28:09

that makes her feel like, oh, what if

28:11

he does? What if he decides to get

28:14

revenge on me? Yeah.

28:16

Yes. OP doesn't owe her anything. Yes.

28:19

But if he's literally just thinking selfishly, if

28:21

he's just thinking, I just want to

28:23

be done with this. I don't want this

28:25

person being crazy and going all over the place, the best

28:28

thing would be to delete it in front of her. Yes.

28:31

He is also being petty, I feel. Because

28:33

he wants to like, you're

28:36

going to do this fine. I'm never going to

28:38

talk to you again. You

28:41

put me on all these TikToks fine. I

28:43

don't know what will happen to your nudes.

28:46

What happens from here? We're just cutting the content.

28:48

Well, that's a product, but yeah. But his response

28:50

though of like, because she reached out or something,

28:52

it was like, oh, I want you to like

28:54

give me proof of the nudes being deleted. Oh,

28:56

it's like, I'm not going to do any proof.

28:59

Basically this is like, at this point, this is like

29:01

out of my hands. We're out of the relationship. It

29:03

doesn't even matter anymore. When that

29:06

actually does matter. Absolutely. Oh

29:09

my God. Yeah. It's

29:12

a crap show. Super

29:14

stinky crap show. Something also I learned

29:18

today. And so this

29:20

girl that I've been seeing, she says

29:22

she would never date someone with a

29:24

Snapchat. Because

29:27

apparently, people are like using

29:29

Snapchats to send nudes all

29:31

the time. I

29:34

knew that was a thing in like high school. But

29:36

like the people are still doing

29:39

that. Like adults. I guess so. On

29:41

Snapchat. I guess so. They're like,

29:43

hide it for people. That's crazy. You would

29:45

think, I mean, high school, it makes sense because

29:47

you don't even need 10 seconds. Now

29:50

as an adult? I don't

29:52

know. They don't have the second thing anymore. It's

29:55

incredible. They got rid of it. Oh

29:57

really? That's why they're using it. We don't even

29:59

know. I've had an agent. Neither have I.

30:01

Yeah. That's crazy. Yeah,

30:04

dude. I didn't know that either. I also

30:06

like, I guess, I get sending nudes in

30:09

like a long distance relationship, but since

30:11

I haven't been in a long distance

30:13

relationship, I really... Let's go

30:15

see them in the person. I'm not, yeah, I'm

30:18

not really like... Like...

30:21

Yeah, like send me nudes or

30:23

sending nudes. Yeah. I think

30:25

I feel uncomfortable. Like, when someone hacks

30:27

my phone. Umm. That's true.

30:30

With that being said, when I was in a long

30:32

distance relationship, dude, just send

30:34

nudes on nudes. Dongs left

30:36

or right. Dongsbright. So many. So

30:39

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