Today our topic is “Compromise in Relationships" recorded with the community on October 10, 2020. Happy Halloween! Anyone can join in on these calls by going to our Community Page and sign-up to receive notifications about upcoming calls. Conta

022 Community Call: The Pitfalls of Promises

Sep 1st, 2020 1h 18m

Today our topic is “The Pitfalls of Promises” on our twice-monthly Zoom Community Call. At the end of the call, someone asked if there would be a replay of the call? We took a poll to make sure nobody would have any problem if we shared the com

021 Community Call: You can do it. Or you can pretend you can’t.

Aug 25th, 2020 29m 2s

The original title of this episode recorded on August 15, 2020, was “Do you have your relationship handled? Part 2" HOWEVER at the top of the call Lon asked the question “What’s possible with going forward?” So as it is with all relationships,

020 Community Call Exploring: Do You Have Your Relationship Handled?

Aug 4th, 2020 19m 3s

We thought today we’d give you more excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joinin

019 Community Call Excerpts July 11, 2020

Jul 21st, 2020 31m 30s

We thought today we’d give you some excerpts from the Community Calls we have a few times a month. We take people’s privacy seriously. You’ll only be hearing from the leaders of Relationship By Design. If you like what you hear, consider joinin

018 What if a Snarky Remark is a Red Flag?

Jul 7th, 2020 3m 21s

Have you ever said something snarky, spiteful, unkind, or just plain thoughtless, to someone you love? How did it go? Did you get into a fight or hear a defensive reaction? Or worse. Perhaps you ended a relationship. It happened to us and op

017 Irritations in Relationships

Jun 23rd, 2020 3m 24s

At the beginning of our workshop, “Relationship: The Real Deal,” some participants are startled when we announce this intention: “The issues you have been dealing with, trying to fix, or just plain tolerating … dissolve/disappear simply by bei

016 When Your Relationship Isn’t Working, What Should You Do?

Jun 9th, 2020 2m 48s

Well, our first question for you is, “Are you willing to set aside your penchant to fix, change or leave your relationship?” Leaving, either physically or emotionally, surely doesn’t resolve anything. It simply transports your concerns to your

015 Ordinary to Extraordinary… in a Moment

May 26th, 2020 4m 52s

How do people move from ordinary relationship to extraordinary relationship? In ordinary relationship, we react to upsets by pulling out of the experience of relationship, the experience that we actually long for. It’s extraordinary to be awar

014 Distancing Relationship

Apr 16th, 2020 40m 49s

For many of us during this time of “physical distancing,” we’re finding ourselves at home, sheltered in place, and in close-quarters with family members, and just maybe feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all. As Lon&Sandy said in this episode, “It

013 Parents: Outside The Trap Workshop

Mar 18th, 2020 8m 33s

In this episode, Sandy&Lon continue with John briefly educating us on a coaching course they had done years ago for parents titled Parents: Outside The Trap. Are you interested in knowing more about the course? Let us know here. If you’d like t

012 Relationships: Arrangements and Understandings

Mar 4th, 2020 5m

In this episode, John Biethan the producer of the podcast, asks Sandy&Lon for their comments on his thoughts about "arrangements." In some family relationships, in certain conditions, and when people get together in relationship and marriage, t

011 Strike 3: Hostile Backdrop

Feb 19th, 2020 12m 25s

Subtitled: An Individual-based paradigm In this episode, we’ve taken the liberty of starting off with the last few minutes of the previous episode 10, Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2, where Sandy&Lon talk about relationships during the h

010 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 2

Jan 30th, 2020 18m 19s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Continuing on from episode 008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1, today Sandy&Lon take a deeper look into fear and what happens when it feeds into relationships when they're shaped. If you’re new to Relationsh

009 Is Resignation Shaping Your Relationship?

Oct 15th, 2019 2m 50s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com If you really listen to yourselves talking about your relationships, you’ll hear (1) how often you exaggerate with “always” and “never” - which fills your future with your past - and (2) how often you unconsciously

008 Strike 2: Fear In Relationships Part 1

Sep 27th, 2019 11m 18s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Commitments and promises are the foundation for every relationship. What is the basis for your relationships? For ALL relationships? There’s a foundation that all relationships rest, lay, or stand on. For the most

007: Are We Doing Politics The Way We Do Relationships?

Sep 17th, 2019 4m 42s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Paul Bennett from Relationship By Design is reading his blog post about Politics and Relationships. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfacti

006 Strike 1: The Fantasy

Sep 12th, 2019 14m 45s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Sandy and Lon Golnick are talking about the “fantasy” in a relationship they call Strike 1. They’ll be covering the problems; what you’re looking for; everything you want, all the time, everywhere, w/everyone

005 What’s Hidden From View

Sep 6th, 2019 6m 46s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Unseen conditions undermine effectiveness. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick take a look at what’s hidden from our view when we have upsets or concerns, and breakdowns in relationships. So what happens when you don’t see

004 What Is A Relationship?

Aug 29th, 2019 5m 42s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Subtitled: Synonyms, characteristics, actions; you don’t know; problems; blame. Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation discussing “What is a relationship?” The question is not answered here, but what

003 Three Facts About Relationship

Aug 23rd, 2019 7m 21s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Today Sandy and Lon Golnick have a short conversation about the 3 facts about relationships in hopes of leaving you with questioning, wondering, and curiosity about relationships. Relationships are natural. There

002 Strong, Lasting Relationships

Aug 15th, 2019 4m 7s

www.RelationshipByDesign.com Does your relationship have what it takes to last? A relationship could be considered to be a structure. And like any structure, its strength and durability is determined by its foundation. A strong foundation produ

Get Real About Relationship

Aug 3rd, 2019 49m 35s

www.RelationshipByDesign.comLon and Sandy Golnick were interviewed in the mid-2000s by their good friend and associate Jill Raiguel, MS, MST, and who is a California Marriage & Family Therapist. It was recorded and engineered by Bill Corkery P