Long time practitioner Mukti tells her NVC story, as well as explains how Emotionally Focused Therapy has added another dimension to her couples counseling work. She offers courses at EveryDayLove.com.au that integrate insights from both modes

Episode 43: NVC & Conscience

May 21st, 2018 50m 45s

Maria Santelli, Executive Director of the Center on Conscience and War, and giver of the TedTalk "Witnessing the Power of Conscience," speaks of her work with conscientious objectors.

Episode 42: NVC & Being Seen

Aug 21st, 2017 1h 57m

Mariska and I explore the linked values of being seen and mattering in a romantic relationship. How does"What do I want?" weigh against, "What can I accept?"

Episode 41: Beyond the Guru Vibe

Aug 7th, 2017 35m 56s

Michael and I discuss the temptation to seek ego in relationship.

Episode 40: Toward Sensation & Faith with Stephen Michael Tumolo

Jul 31st, 2017 1h 2m

Stephen Michael Tumolo is Executive Director of Heart to Heart: Comienzos East. His organization teaches sensation-awareness, mindfulness, and NVC in jails, prisons, and half-way houses. An article portraying the work he and his volunteer staff

Episode 39: Mentee-Mentor Dialogue

Jul 24th, 2017 41m 49s

Erin and I chew over the Max Rivers interview on NLP (Episode 35), and ponder what is involved in progressing in NVC.

Episode 38: Josh Stein & Circling (2/x)

Jul 17th, 2017 41m 18s

Josh Stein runs The School of Circling Wizardry. This is our round-about conversation about what circling is, and how he got involved. This is not a conversation about NVC--except in so far as all relational practices are one.

Episode 37: NVC & Authentic Relating Games

Jul 10th, 2017 59m 23s

Brian Tohana introduces me to Authentic Relating Games.

Episode 36: NVC & BDSM

Jul 5th, 2017 42m

The distinction between a request and a demand, and the energy attendant on each, is nowhere more consequential than in our sex lives. Jefe and I have a preliminary conversation about how this is at stake in BDSM play.

Episode 35: NVC & NLP

Jun 18th, 2017 1h 5m

The Marriage Mediator, Max Rivers, explains how NLP training informs his needs-based approach to marriage mediation.

Episode 34: Investigating Striking Out

Jun 12th, 2017 8m 27s

In this short episode I reflect on where I wanted NVCpractice.com to go, and where it seems to me to be going. You might call this episode self-involved, but I'd request to have it heard as an exercise in self-connection.

Episode 33: Adam Vogal & Bystander Intervention

Jun 5th, 2017 16m 18s

Adam Vogal is the President of the Oregon Peace Institute. What is to be done when one is out in public, and suddenly on the cusp of a violent situation? Adam conducts training on how to make sound choices.

Episode 32: Onboarding a Peaceful Parenting Partner

May 30th, 2017 48m 45s

Chelsea's NVC challenge is that her partner doesn't share her ideas about how to show up when their young sons are in conflict. It's a fascinating conflict about conflict, I think, and we use role play to begin to find a way to conversation.

Episode 31: Rawness

May 22nd, 2017 22m 45s

Erin and I converse about how to stay in relation to emotions that don't readily admit themselves to names. I share that this is something that comes up for me in doing eldercare.

Episode 30: Andy Drish & Circling (1/X)

May 15th, 2017 33m 1s

What is circling? And how might it be related to the practice of NVC? This is the first in a series of episodes in which I plan to explore that question. The conversation between Andy and Decker Cunov that I mention as having been so taken by

Episode 29: Mom Empathy & Accepting Help

May 9th, 2017 47m 2s

I request some help from listeners in re-doing my response to a Mom who's all in on the power-with model, and we role play to explore her disinclination to let others meet her needs.

Episode 28: John Lash: From Rules to Relationship

May 1st, 2017 36m 36s

John Lash of The Georgia Conflict Center learned NVC in prison, and brings a deeply informed and felt perspective to its place alongside self inquiry and the principles and practices of restorative justice. To hear John in conversation with ano

Episode 27: The Marriage Mediator (Part 2/2)

Apr 24th, 2017 39m 26s

Max Rivers suggests that a primary potential of an intimate relationship is revealing and meeting the specific needs one gave up on getting met in one's family of origin. Filmmaker Hanna Utkin (The NVC Family Camp Documentary) conducts the inte

Episode 26: The Marriage Mediator (Part 1/2)

Apr 17th, 2017 37m 20s

Hanna Utkin (whose Family Camp Documentary is here) interviews Max Rivers (whose marriage mediation portal is here). Part One is Max's back story, as well as the framing of the notion of "Needs."

Episode 25: NVC & Deliberate Practice (revisiting, "Thank you for your service.")

Apr 10th, 2017 1h 2m

Sasha helps me re-see and re-imagine a conversation in which I wasn't all that I could be.

Episode 24: Institutional & Institutionalizing NVC

Apr 3rd, 2017 28m 37s

M. J. Harding has co-written a musical in which characters vested with institutional power come to use Nonviolent Communication for purposes of surveillance and state-sponsored violence. It's called Removal Men, and some clips are available her

Episode 23: "Thank you for your service."

Mar 27th, 2017 32m 11s

A retired Army Ranger has had second thoughts about the meaning of his career. Now he struggles to know how to respond, especially in casual situations, to being acknowledged for it.