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Hello and welcome to MetaMindstream

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. This is a brand new show and I'm

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so excited to have

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you with us today here with myself and

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Dr Lyman Montgomery . We're

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here to disrupt what's possible

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and the limitations that people set

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, and we're specifically focused on

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business . So let me just give you a tiny insight

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about how the show is going to work . So

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Focus MetaMindset , our company

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neuroscience and actionable business

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steps to create solutions

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that we often have disregarded

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simplified . So

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here in MetaMindstream which , of course

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, is a play on our company name

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, focus MetaMindset we

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are going to give you actionable

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business steps using neuroscience

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to make your business

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better and raise your bottom line . Then

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we're also that's going to be our first segment and

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in our second segment we are

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going to have fun . It's going to be the MetaMindset

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lifestyle , where we talk about , where

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we really get disruptive , and we're talking

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about everything under the sun Taboo

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topics , untaboo religion

1:35

, history , philosophy

1:38

what it takes to take

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our mindstream , our mindset

1:42

, to the next level and change

1:45

the way we live our life . So

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much of our lives we've lived in a box based

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on what we believe is possible , and

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that's why we say we're disrupting what's

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possible . So I'm going

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to turn it over to Lyman . Hi , lyman

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, and you're going to introduce us to today's

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business strategy . How are you ?

2:05

Thank you , ann . I'm so glad this

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has been a long time coming . The

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goal of the business segment is

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really talking about how your brain

2:15

can not only just influence

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business decisions , but

2:20

sometimes the brain

2:22

can get in a way of

2:24

business decisions . It's

2:26

sort of like our tagline disrupting

2:29

what's possible . A lot

2:31

of times people may have a sense

2:33

of moving in the right direction with the business

2:35

idea and they talk themselves

2:37

out of it . Then there's time when they

2:40

jump off the cliff and think

2:42

about maybe I should have gave this

2:44

a little bit more thought In

2:46

today's business segment . Talk about

2:48

how the brain can

2:50

get in a way sometimes of making

2:53

those critical business decisions

2:55

With the goal in mind to

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think about , talk

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about , then be about

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.

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Say that again . I love that .

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The goal in the business segment is

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to not only think about it , talk

3:13

about it , but then to

3:15

be about it .

3:18

I love that so much .

3:19

Think about an idea , we communicate

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that idea . At some point

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we have to act on that idea

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. Again , think about it

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, talk about it , then

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be about it .

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Amazing . Thank you so much for that , lyman

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. What we're going to bring you next

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Welcome back here on MetaMindstream

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. Dr Lyman Montgomery was just

4:13

about to introduce us to some actionable

4:15

steps that can make a difference in your business

4:18

and help you raise your bottom line . Lyman

4:20

.

4:21

Absolutely , Thank you . One

4:23

of the things that we tend to disagree

4:25

about , and that

4:28

is taking action over

4:31

really pontificating

4:34

, or really . I know you spend a lot of time in

4:36

idolatry , right , when

4:39

you will think about something and I'm

4:41

the opposite . I'm going to jump out the airplane

4:43

and worry about building the parachute

4:46

later . What makes this work

4:48

is when we come to get you and say , wait a minute

4:50

before you jump . Why don't you

4:52

spend a little bit more time thinking about it ? I'm

4:55

like , well , I want to get there , I want to get there

4:57

. So today's segment

4:59

before the break we talked about

5:02

think about it , talk about

5:04

it , then be about it . Now there's

5:06

a part of the brain called

5:08

the amygdala , and

5:10

the amygdala is a small almond

5:12

shaped part of the brain that

5:14

controls our emotion . It

5:17

is the part of the brain that allows

5:19

us to be aware . The

5:22

problem is , sometimes the

5:24

amygdala can hijack

5:27

our nervous system , and

5:29

what I mean by that is have

5:32

you ever went to a car

5:34

lot and you saw this car and

5:36

you said , oh my God , I'm the only one

5:38

. So

5:41

you buy the car and as soon

5:44

as you drive off the lot , you

5:46

notice a similar car

5:48

.

5:49

That always happens to me .

5:51

You go two blocks there's another

5:54

car , but you thought you

5:56

were the only one . What happened

5:58

? Did everyone decide to

6:00

purchase your car ? No , the

6:03

part of that brain , the amygdala , has

6:05

been heightened , so now you're just more aware

6:08

of your surrounding . Now , that

6:10

was great when

6:12

we lived in caves and we were afraid

6:15

of being eaten by tigers and lions

6:17

and bears and things that go bump

6:20

in the night . Well , that part

6:22

of our brain has a propensity

6:25

to still hijack

6:27

our system , especially

6:29

when we are unsure about

6:32

a decision .

6:34

Why does it do that , Dr Lyman ? Why does

6:36

it hijack it ?

6:37

It hijacks it , because we are

6:39

oversensitive , because

6:42

we are more aware . So now we

6:44

start seeing things we didn't see before . We

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start hearing things because they have

6:49

a heightened sense of hearing

6:51

, heightened sense of thought , of sight

6:54

, and so now everything

6:56

reminds us of wait

6:58

a minute , I thought I was the only one . It's

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the same way with my wife , for example

7:02

. She would buy a dress and go

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to a dinner

7:07

party . The worst thing

7:09

that can happen is to see

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what . Another person

7:13

with that dress on

7:15

Something similar . Now I'm oblivious

7:18

to it . I'm like , well , what's wrong ? Hey , that's

7:20

pretty cool . She's like , no , take me home , she has a dress . Now

7:26

in other settings they probably

7:29

would say , hey , that's nice , I have the same

7:31

outfit , but you don't want to be in the same

7:33

surrounding or proximity

7:35

with someone else having something that

7:37

you felt was yours . So the same thing happens

7:40

with the business idea , where you

7:42

think you're the only one that has this great idea

7:44

and you thought about it . Now

7:47

you want to move into talking about it

7:49

and you start talking with a friend

7:51

or a colleague and they say well , you know , john

7:54

has a similar product

7:57

or similar service

8:00

Now

8:02

, and sometimes you

8:05

and I will disagree how

8:07

long should you spend in idolatiation

8:10

Ideation ?

8:12

excuse me , Ideation okay , I was like

8:14

adulation . Well , you can adulate

8:16

all you like , but I

8:19

was like I've taken up a new religion apparently

8:22

.

8:23

Ideation .

8:25

Ideation , yeah , ideation

8:27

. So yeah , this

8:29

is where we're definitely different and this is where it's

8:31

great to have a business partner who balances

8:34

each other out . So yeah , I'm

8:36

the kind of person ideation is

8:38

a huge strength of mine . I'm

8:41

a born problem

8:43

solver strategizer , but I

8:45

could spend 95% of my time

8:47

easily in ideation if I didn't

8:49

have my partner saying we

8:51

got to get this thing out .

8:54

Absolutely , Absolutely . And I think that's

8:57

where it's great to have

8:59

someone on your team , this opposite

9:02

, to have someone like yourself

9:04

that will go through every

9:07

piece of a project with a fine

9:09

tooth comb , but then also

9:11

have someone like me . Like , is it ? I'm

9:13

like that little , that kid right , Are

9:15

we there yet ? Are we there yet

9:18

? And I just remember . I believe that

9:21

progress is better

9:23

than perfection .

9:27

So let me ask you this so

9:29

when my amygdala so

9:31

that's my word of the day that I get

9:34

it outright is hijacked

9:36

and it's causing

9:38

a disruption in my business , give me a business

9:40

example of when that

9:42

happens .

9:43

Sure , here's a classic business example

9:46

that I started talking about . You have this

9:48

great idea . You've been thinking about this idea

9:50

for three months

9:53

. You feel that it's God

9:55

inspired , universe inspired

9:57

. No one else has thought about this

9:59

. Okay

10:01

, and you

10:04

go to a let's say it's a group

10:07

of business leaders right Round table

10:09

Chamber of Commerce meeting and

10:11

you're like listen , I

10:13

have this phenomenal idea

10:15

. No one has thought of this

10:17

and I believe it

10:20

could make millions of dollars . They're

10:22

like well , tell me the idea . What is

10:24

it ? Water

10:27

in a bottle . Now

10:33

, imagine 30

10:35

, 40 years ago when someone had that idea . People

10:39

thought you were wait a minute . Are you telling

10:41

me people would pay for

10:44

water that is free and

10:46

the only difference is you're

10:49

putting it in a bottle . Yes

10:52

, now how many of us today drink

10:55

water from a

10:57

bottle ? Now imagine if

11:00

that person said you know what ? That was a dumb idea

11:02

. No one's going to pay

11:04

to drink water

11:06

out of a bottle . But

11:09

now it's a multi-billion dollar

11:11

industry .

11:16

Excellent example . So so

11:19

, if give

11:21

me an example , one more example . So

11:24

let's just say , in our

11:26

daily business life . So

11:29

I think that example of yours was that

11:31

I would be stuck in ideation

11:34

mode but , I , know that I need

11:36

to get something out . So this is

11:38

like writing a book . We and I are both authors . We

11:41

know how this goes . So I

11:43

could literally write for the rest of my life

11:45

on one book . At some point it's like , okay

11:48

, someone lie to match under me because this

11:50

book has to get out . Or let's

11:52

break it down even simpler into just tasks

11:55

. So sometimes I get really

11:57

monofocussed on one task

11:59

when I have 10 tasks and

12:02

I have a hard time changing tracks

12:04

. So what can I do

12:06

when my amygdala is hijacking

12:08

me ? In that scenario , what can I

12:10

do to , say , switch from project

12:13

A to project B ?

12:15

Right , the first thing that I

12:17

want you to do , ann and

12:19

I want you to listen to me , ann

12:21

, because I know it's going to be hard for

12:23

you Breathe

12:27

, stop , pause and

12:29

just center yourself and breathe , because

12:32

what happens in the brain is what you call

12:34

your switching mechanism . That's

12:38

why think about your brain as

12:40

a bank , right ? Is

12:42

that 100% ? The

12:45

more tasks that you work

12:47

on depletes that

12:49

amount . So let's say you work in on four tasks

12:51

, you're only given 25%

12:54

of total concentration

12:56

at any time to those

12:59

four . So if you increase

13:01

that four to six , to

13:03

10 , then that means you're

13:06

only given 10% of your

13:08

effort across

13:10

the board . Wouldn't it be better

13:12

to give 100% in

13:14

short spurts to

13:17

one project ? Stop when

13:19

I say breathe what I'm talking about . There has to

13:21

be a break . You get up , you

13:24

stretch , maybe go for a short

13:26

walk , grab a cup of tea

13:28

, water or something . It allows

13:30

the brain to switch gears

13:33

, similar to if you're

13:35

driving a car and you

13:37

turn your turn signal on . And

13:39

remember , in drivers they say count to three

13:41

or whatever it is before changing

13:44

lanes , as opposed to

13:46

an N-D-500 driver

13:48

where you're like I think I can get in and you

13:51

just swerving in and out . And

13:54

so what I need for you to do in

13:56

and I said need because

13:59

I know if I say need , I'll say you should , you

14:01

probably wouldn't do it is breathe

14:04

, get up , stretch

14:07

, allow yourself to

14:09

grab a cup of water or

14:12

eat some lettuce , or whatever vegans

14:14

eat .

14:21

I live on air Lyman . I'm breathing all

14:23

the time . Deep

14:26

breathing , deep breathing and

14:28

emotion .

14:30

Yeah , and emotion Because you've noticed

14:32

that whenever you're stuck and this

14:34

is great for riders too , and they have so-called

14:37

riders block is because

14:39

they're inundated with focusing

14:41

so much on trying to get the

14:44

perfect opening or

14:46

the perfect close . And

14:48

sometimes just getting up , getting

14:51

a different perspective , going

14:54

outside , listening to nature

14:56

and allow that

14:59

line to come to you

15:01

, or that close to

15:03

come to you , and it will when

15:05

you're not thinking about it that's amazing

15:08

part of that switching mechanism in the brain

15:10

.

15:11

Excellent . So this is a

15:13

great reminder for me to breathe

15:16

and I even I know like it's often takes three

15:18

deep breaths when I'm switching or

15:20

when I need to concentrate . So the

15:22

next time your amygdala

15:25

is hijacking you remember , take

15:27

one , two , three deep breaths , just Reset

15:30

. So we're gonna come back . This is

15:32

the end of our business segment . We're gonna come back

15:34

to the really fun segment

15:37

in a minute , which is meta mindset lifestyle

15:39

. So we hope you got some great

15:41

pointer there for the business

15:43

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Welcome back again to Meta

16:09

Mindstream we're so excited to have here

16:11

today . We hope you enjoyed the business segment

16:13

and now we get to jump into

16:16

the fun stuff , which is

16:18

the meta mindset lifestyle segment

16:20

. Lyman , what do you want to talk about

16:22

today ?

16:23

You know , there's

16:25

this concept of opposite . Opposites

16:28

attract , right , yeah

16:30

, but can they also

16:33

detract , especially

16:36

if let's say , for example

16:39

you mean like repel , repel

16:42

. Yes , you know , can they detract

16:44

you from achieving , maybe

16:47

, your business goals . For example

16:49

, let's say I'm the type of

16:51

person I love to work , which I

16:53

do , and I'm

16:56

the type of person that I'm a homebody

16:58

which I am , but my

17:00

partner is the opposite . My

17:02

partner , nine to five

17:04

, you know

17:06

, get home from work , don't want to think

17:09

about work and once you go outside

17:11

, go to dinner , go on vacations

17:13

and Marry to

17:16

someone that a vacation is a

17:18

workstation , right Work case , where

17:20

you know he or she or they have

17:23

laptops and they're sitting on a beach

17:25

and they're trying to figure out a way . Can

17:27

I write this off ?

17:29

Yes , no , because usually it's

17:31

my partner who's doing that on the beach

17:33

and then he's . He's wailing

17:36

because he's trying to hold his phone up so you can

17:38

get a hot spot , and he's like this

17:40

. I can't get this

17:42

thing . I have to write this email now . I'm

17:45

like Ron vacation , we've just

17:47

given up . We're just calling it location

17:49

, we gave up .

17:50

Yes , yes , yes . And so

17:52

you know , that's something to really think about

17:54

, because you know they say most

17:56

marriages in not necessarily

17:58

because of infidelity but because

18:01

of finances . But I really think

18:03

it's communication . They

18:05

either shut down , they stop communicating

18:08

, or it could be a situation

18:10

where they're so opposite

18:13

that , yes , that attracts . You know , I

18:16

love the fact that my wife is

18:18

very Stable

18:22

she's . She has a critical eye

18:24

until that I turns

18:26

on me , but

18:29

it makes sense . She's an auditor for the state

18:31

, right , that's what she do . She looks at policies

18:34

and you

18:37

know she's a black and white individual . Either

18:40

you did it or you didn't . Either comply

18:42

or you did right . You know

18:44

we live in this world , we're

18:47

a professional development when

18:49

, well , you know , maybe they had a bad

18:51

childhood , you know , maybe someone

18:54

didn't give them a hug or something and

18:56

she's like it don't matter , they didn't

18:58

do it , they didn't honor their word . They like integrity

19:00

, yeah

19:02

, but we work well together .

19:05

Yeah , so it can be

19:07

Opposites

19:09

, attract or retract or repel

19:12

. So I guess one

19:14

of the things would , I would say is when

19:17

we're working with our clients , but also when we're working

19:19

in our own lives at home . You

19:21

know how do we use a meta mindset . Let's

19:24

talk for just a second about what

19:26

a meta mindset is and then we're gonna bring

19:28

that back to this

19:30

discussion about partners and

19:32

relationships of all kinds and

19:35

opposites . So the

19:37

meta , a meta mindset if this is a new idea

19:39

to any of you and you can

19:41

email us , message us we can't wait to

19:43

start getting your messages in and responding

19:46

. Meta mindset is going

19:48

above and beyond a normal

19:50

mindset because you know , normally we say

19:52

, oh , if you

19:54

just have a positive attitude , you'll

19:57

be fine , your work will be better . While it might

19:59

be true , but it's also a little nonspecific . A

20:02

lot of people pretend to be positive

20:04

when they're really miserable on the inside . That

20:07

doesn't actually achieve what we're talking

20:09

about . A meta mindset is what

20:11

can I change in

20:14

my lifestyle and my habits so

20:17

that I can actually be Literally

20:21

a positive , happier person

20:23

? That's what we call going meta . So

20:26

this is an example of going meta , going above

20:28

and beyond , going to the next level . I

20:31

love something that lineman said to me the other day

20:33

, which was be going meta is

20:36

realizing

20:38

that thinking outside the box

20:40

is the box .

20:42

Yes .

20:43

So up until now , we've all think

20:45

we're so progressive and we're making

20:47

all these radical changes in our lives and

20:50

yet we're still only just got out

20:52

of a smaller box into a bigger box

20:54

. So we're talking meta is breaking

20:56

out of the boxes altogether and because

20:59

so much progress has become the norm

21:01

right , lyman ?

21:02

Absolutely . And sometimes those boxes

21:05

remind me of those Russian

21:07

dolls , right , where it's like . Don't

21:09

be like a cat or something , where you

21:11

open up one and there's another one inside

21:13

of that one , and there's another one inside of that

21:16

one , until you get down to this

21:18

real small little ornament

21:20

or something . And our lives

21:22

are that way . You know , some

21:24

have said me and I like waffles

21:26

and women are like spaghetti in

21:28

our thought processes . Me and we love

21:30

to compartmentalize , right , we

21:33

love to put things

21:35

in a nice little box . I know this

21:37

box , I've cleaned this box , I

21:39

think you're compartmentalizing right now .

21:41

Lyman , I probably am

21:43

, but that's okay .

21:45

See , having that spaghetti

21:47

mindset . That's why y'all can touch

21:49

on 20 different things , and

21:52

I think the real issue is and we

21:54

can't do it or we're not as good

21:56

at it , it's true .

21:58

My wife , for example , to an extent . So

22:00

since this is supposed to be a bumpy

22:02

show and we're gonna talk about anything , I will say it

22:05

is definitely understand what you're saying and

22:07

our predilection to doing different

22:09

things , but in my household I would actually

22:11

say it's the opposite , cause

22:13

I am very Well , so

22:15

you threw away the box , you blew up the box

22:18

. I'm

22:22

just saying there you go , yeah , yeah

22:24

, and he can multitask

22:27

beyond all measure .

22:28

I mean there might be a little Adrian involved in that , but

22:30

you know , I

22:33

started the association against multitasking

22:36

, all right , and I have a membership

22:38

of over five million

22:40

. But the problem is they haven't shown

22:42

up for one meeting yet . Because

22:50

they're stuck in their box . Right , because

22:53

we get comfortable with the box . Think

22:55

about it Most people they

22:57

tend to be men get comfortable with

22:59

our boxes . And so we come

23:01

along and say , hey , there

23:04

is freedom outside of the box

23:06

. And what do we do ? We

23:08

go and build another box . It's

23:10

called a man cave , or

23:12

golf . Oh , golf , yes

23:15

, or whatever . It's

23:17

still a box . It's the place

23:19

that we wanna go to to

23:22

get away from the world , and

23:24

we really don't want you

23:27

in the box .

23:28

Ooh yeah , and the problem sometimes is I'm jumping into

23:30

the box , I'm jumping into your space right now . I'm jumping

23:32

in your box , I'm jumping in your box , okay . So

23:35

one of the things you're talking about men and being compartmentalized

23:37

, one of the things that I think is really

23:39

interesting in post COVID world

23:42

is the amount of men

23:44

now who are working remotely

23:46

. Yes , because there is a whole

23:49

new set of challenges and personal

23:51

growth going on right now because

23:53

they used to be able to go to the office

23:55

. And many women also , but especially

23:58

men . It's interesting to see Women have

24:00

been multitaskers in many ways because

24:02

of family and work and business and because we're

24:05

supposed to be super woman . But

24:07

for men they're like oh , what do you do all day

24:09

? They go to the office , they come back . It's clear

24:12

, clear separation between , like , family

24:14

, work , business , and I know

24:16

that I'm thinking of someone in my family

24:18

, extended family right now who , the dad

24:20

, is now home . He's the one taking the

24:23

kids to and from school . She has the

24:25

wife , has a job an hour away and

24:27

he's working from home . It's all of us and

24:29

he got a puppy . So everything

24:31

now is like his job

24:33

and he's just like . He's reeling

24:36

, he's just like oh , absolutely , absolutely

24:39

.

24:39

And let me tell you , I get phone calls

24:42

from friends of mine that have

24:44

either launched their own business and

24:46

the first thing they wanna do is so

24:48

when do I get to set up an office ? I'm

24:51

like you don't need an office , no , I gotta get

24:53

out the house . I got a

24:55

beach . I got a beach , that's

24:58

right . Can I just have my office on a

25:00

golf course ? Matter of fact , I have a friend

25:02

of mine . He actually did this . He set his office

25:04

up at the country club . So

25:06

if you wanna meet him , you literally have to

25:09

go to the country club , get

25:11

a couple of holes of golf in and then

25:13

talk business . Because during

25:15

COVID he literally felt as

25:18

if he was going stir crazy . He

25:20

was like . but it gave him a great

25:22

appreciation for his partner

25:25

, because now

25:27

his partner is saying

25:29

honey , did you get the dishes done

25:32

? Did you put the load of laundry in

25:34

? And he's like , oh

25:36

, I forgot , I was on a call

25:38

. But when it was reversed

25:40

he would come home and say you've been

25:42

home all day , what did you do so

25:45

?

25:45

I agree with you . I get so much evil glee out of this

25:48

. I just get so much evil glee

25:50

, sorry , no

25:53

, it's so . So true , this rough thing

25:55

was possible . This rough thing was

25:58

possible . So now that you know

26:00

what meta means

26:02

and what we're talking

26:04

about when we say what is a meta mindset

26:07

, and now you understand why the

26:09

show is called Meta Mindstream , we couldn't resist

26:11

it . Stream of consciousness

26:13

, meta mindset this is

26:15

bringing it all together , first in

26:17

actionable steps for your business , using neuroscience

26:20

, and then in life

26:22

. So now that we take this piece

26:24

that we had introduced you today and we'll

26:26

keep touching on it in every week , every episode

26:28

, just to keep you minded . But

26:31

so now we bring this piece of going meta

26:33

back to your illustration

26:35

, lyman , of two partners

26:37

in a relationship any relationship , especially

26:40

a romantic relationship where they're

26:42

opposites and you get

26:44

a lot of positives . Opposites attract

26:47

. What do we do when we hit the

26:49

negatives ? Opposites repel

26:51

, because you know what that's like

26:53

. Opposites attract yes , that

26:55

is definitely why my husband and I get

26:57

along so well . And then , once in a

26:59

while , just

27:05

words , mind you , absolutely

27:07

, you want to ring their neck . So

27:09

how can we go meta in a

27:11

situation where here's

27:14

what I love about this and what I love about you bringing

27:16

this up , is because

27:19

the issue is

27:21

not the relationship

27:24

per se . The issue

27:26

is that we are each

27:28

organically different or in some

27:30

ways it's very opposite from each other organically

27:33

. This is where people make the mistake

27:36

when you first get married and especially us women

27:38

that we're gonna change all you guys , we're gonna

27:40

fix you , we're gonna get you all sorted

27:42

out . No , because

27:44

this person still has their own

27:46

, their own self , their own

27:48

personality . So when you do run

27:51

into those things where it's opposite , you

27:53

know how can we use MetaMindset

27:55

to forge solutions and

27:57

still keep our individual integrity . I

28:00

think that's all most people really want .

28:01

Absolutely , and I think that if

28:04

I could jump in real quick , I

28:06

think the problem . A lot of times we look for

28:08

agreement versus alignment

28:10

, oh yes . What

28:13

I mean by that is , if you're

28:15

looking for someone to always

28:17

agree with you , you're

28:19

going to be disappointed

28:21

. My wife and I

28:23

, we don't agree

28:25

on everything , but we

28:28

are in total alignment when

28:30

it comes to the things that we

28:33

hold is valuable to us . For

28:35

example , she

28:37

and I may disagree on

28:40

the way that we may approach

28:42

a problem . Okay , she's

28:45

very methodical , she's gonna do

28:47

her research . She's almost like

28:50

that lioness that will

28:52

creep up right . I'm

28:55

like that rushing tiger

28:59

, does it , wanna attack it . But

29:02

she's gonna do her research

29:04

, find out everything about it . Very methodical

29:07

and everything . And I just wanna attack the problem

29:09

because I want it done and over with . Right

29:12

. So that's what we

29:14

differ . But we are in alignment when

29:16

it comes to do . We agree

29:18

on certain things . For example , we

29:20

both love cultural

29:22

experiences . We both

29:24

have a deep sense of spirituality

29:27

, a deep commitment

29:29

to family and community

29:31

. Those are non-negotiable . So we're

29:34

in alignment when it comes to

29:36

that . But there are a number of things that we disagree

29:38

on . One of the things early on in

29:40

our merit we disagreed on is

29:42

laundry . So

29:45

guess who does the laundry ? I do .

29:51

I love it .

29:51

Because you know her

29:53

way of doing laundry is

29:56

great , but she

29:58

doesn't necessarily like folding

30:00

clothes the way I like folding clothes

30:02

and sheets and making sure everything

30:05

is perpendicular and

30:07

lined up . So , rather

30:09

than getting into so again , we disagreed on

30:11

that , but we're in alignment that you know what You're better

30:13

at , alignment . You do that . Okay

30:16

, my wife cooks better than me , all

30:19

right , so guess who does 99%

30:22

of the cooking ? She does , I

30:24

just do the dishes .

30:27

That's a good deal .

30:28

That's a good deal so again , we disagree but we're in alignment

30:31

, that they need to get to the bottom . I love that .

30:34

I mean because and I love how

30:36

you were phrasing it before being

30:39

not everyone's looking for agreement

30:41

, and that's why we have arguments

30:43

, right , disagreements . Everyone's

30:45

looking for agreement instead of alignment

30:47

. And I think even alignment

30:50

is beautiful because it also invites

30:53

us to look at the bigger picture . Like

30:56

right now . I am irritated as that

31:01

the dishwasher has plates in the

31:03

top rack and cups in the bottom rack and I

31:05

almost literally have a nervous freak and breakdown

31:07

. I can't , I can't . I mean

31:09

, how is the water supposed to circulate properly ? And

31:11

and you know everything you can fit three times the

31:13

amount in if you do it with intention . And

31:16

again , this is one of those places where I

31:19

do that . Well , I'm actually so bad

31:21

that he does it , which is really awesome

31:24

and I support that fully . And

31:26

then , when he's not looking to go back and I fix it

31:28

, I have a little neurosis

31:30

and a little that

31:33

is so funny .

31:34

That is so funny because I actually got busted

31:36

, my wife

31:38

. I wasn't feeling well and so my

31:40

wife , you know , was

31:43

doing laundry and she

31:45

folded my clothes up and she put them

31:47

on the

31:49

food time and

31:51

they were folded Good

31:54

, Nothing wrong with it . But she

31:56

came in and I was . She

32:01

just looked at me , she didn't say anything , but

32:03

I knew that looked like mm-hmm

32:06

, next time do your own laundry .

32:08

I love it . You got caught . I did

32:10

get caught once in a while , yeah . I got caught but

32:13

but and yeah , and what I love is , though , when

32:15

we have these disagreements and I'm trying to think of something

32:18

in real time right now or maybe I could try this today

32:20

which is saying

32:22

okay , I realize we disagree on this , but

32:24

let's remember that we're both

32:27

in alignment . Okay , here's an example . This is a

32:29

fun , silly one . All right , we

32:31

have three mini schnauzer rescues

32:33

, which you know are my children and

32:35

my life other than my husband , of course and

32:39

we , these dogs , are so loved , cared

32:41

for , spoiled , sleep in our bed with us . We

32:44

sleep on the edges falling off . They've taken over

32:46

our lives . It's absolutely amazing . We

32:48

love every single minute of it , and

32:50

I am came from a family

32:53

where food was very strictly monitored

32:55

and things like you know , food was not

32:57

used as a reward and your health

33:00

was super important . And he came

33:02

from a very loving family where food

33:04

was used as a celebration and a

33:06

love language . And so I'm

33:09

always like don't feed the dogs , don't feed the dogs

33:11

to your plate . They're begging , they're gonna drive everyone

33:13

crazy , will never be able of anyone over at our house . And

33:15

then I say that you know , and then , like two seconds

33:18

later , I turn around and you know he's like feeding

33:20

them on the table . I mean

33:22

, I swear it out , I kid you , not like

33:24

60 seconds later Now this happens multiple

33:26

times per day . So

33:29

the next time we have a little tiff

33:31

about this , I'm just gonna say let's just remember

33:33

we're in line , in alignment

33:36

, that we both absolutely love

33:38

these dogs . Absolutely and we're

33:40

also in alignment that we

33:42

want a good quality of life for each

33:44

other . So I want him to

33:46

have the joy this is really going meta . I

33:49

want him to have the joy it gives him of treating

33:51

the dogs , but I also want to

33:53

have the joy of having guests

33:55

in my home and not feeling like they're

33:57

being harassed . But

34:02

we can be in alignment if we make an effort

34:04

. Yeah , I see this absolutely .

34:06

You know , when my wife and I were in Panama

34:08

and we went to a fish market and

34:10

they had , I call , a community cat

34:12

. But this cat was

34:14

very smart , it wouldn't

34:16

brush up again , it would just lie under the

34:19

table and I just wait

34:21

for crumbs or food to fall

34:23

and it would eat it . And you

34:25

know , look up at you , like to say thank you

34:27

and go to the next table . And

34:29

I said , see , that's the difference between a cat and

34:31

a dog . A dog would have been sitting there

34:33

with tongue hanging out Doing tricks

34:36

and a cat was like , look , you're gonna drop

34:38

food , so you might as well go ahead .

34:40

I Will

34:42

be waiting , I'll be waiting .

34:43

I can wait . You know it's a fish market

34:45

, somebody's good , so that's

34:47

amazing . I love that illustration .

34:50

That's such a great illustration and

34:52

I think our challenge to all of you , our

34:54

viewers and listeners , is send

34:56

us your ideas , your stories , your examples

34:59

of when you can use

35:01

a metam mindset , when can you level up ? And

35:04

I would say this week's specific question would

35:06

be when can you opt

35:08

to be in alignment Even if you're

35:10

not in agreement ? Yes when

35:12

can you up to be in alignment and , if you know , share some

35:14

stories ? We will try to share some of

35:16

those on the show if we can . So we would

35:19

love to hear from you . We've in

35:21

the Below you've

35:23

been seeing us streaming . Our contact information , email

35:25

you can reach out . We're gonna

35:28

wrap up here in just

35:30

a couple minutes . I

35:32

just want to thank you again for tuning in

35:34

and we're gonna be here the same time

35:37

next week , streaming

35:39

on Tuesdays , and I'm gonna read

35:42

, I'm gonna let you see those times , because I haven't

35:44

even memorized them yet Because this is the first

35:46

show , but I think it's 2 pm Eastern , 11

35:49

am Pacific and I won't even do the math

35:51

on GMT . I'll do that next time because I do love

35:54

my British fans . We love our British friends

35:56

, all our European friends . So

35:58

before we say goodbye for the day , any

36:01

final thoughts . Lineman on the business or the lifestyle

36:03

.

36:03

Absolutely . Just to recap on

36:05

the business segment , remember you

36:08

think about it , you talk about

36:10

it , but then you have to be about it and

36:12

before Moving from one task

36:15

to the other , simply pause

36:17

, take three deep breaths

36:19

, get up , get a drink of

36:21

water , coffee or , if you're

36:23

like my partner , and go

36:26

have a lettuce wrap or something

36:28

.

36:30

This is gonna go on and on . I can

36:32

see that One

36:35

. No , I asked for it . I promise

36:37

I'm a good sport . No , absolutely love

36:39

it and thank you and that's such a good point . Yeah

36:41

, mixing it up , and if

36:43

you have any questions for us all of you

36:45

please send them in . And

36:47

remember our Focus meta mindset

36:49

mission as a whole . With our company , is

36:52

profitability Simplified ? We

36:54

have this much fun when we're actually working

36:56

with our clients and

36:59

making business fun again , making

37:01

life fun again . It's not supposed

37:03

to be harder . In another week we're gonna

37:05

talk a lot about willpower , maybe a bit every

37:08

week , because what's

37:10

amazing about meta is it goes beyond

37:12

willpower . It's super sweet willpower . Most

37:14

of us , at least in my generation , we've been trained

37:17

in that . If you push and push harder

37:19

and harder and harder , you will succeed

37:21

. But often that is not true

37:23

. There is a balance and a lot of that

37:25

is meta . You can do where the less

37:27

is more , and why wouldn't we want to

37:29

shift into that ? Why wouldn't that be the

37:32

wave of our future ? So

37:34

reach out to us . Check out our website

37:36

that's focused with a D

37:38

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37:40

Com . You can also email us

37:42

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37:45

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37:47

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37:49

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37:51

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37:53

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37:56

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38:01

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38:03

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38:05

it . So thank you again . Thank

38:08

you , my partner Lyman , and

38:10

we'll see you all again next week . Bye

38:13

.