0:05

it takes those experimenting , it takes trying

0:07

. It's like , well , you're going to spend less time with your

0:09

kids ? Well , yes , kids are a priority , but

0:12

everyone has . You can have a parent

0:14

who spends all their time with your kids

0:16

who is angry and resentful and

0:18

that's a bad experience for the kids . Everyone

0:21

is different . You can have a parent who spends

0:23

you know what grandma might say

0:25

is terrible a couple hours a day with the kids

0:28

and have an outrageously

0:30

good relationship with your children . Like

0:32

you know , like nothing . Nothing

0:34

compares to that . So judging

0:36

that the way you think something should be done

0:39

or the way you did something in the past

0:41

and forcing that onto someone else is a very

0:43

unrealistic expectation .

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1:10

Welcome back . I'm so happy to have you

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with us here today . Welcome to the

1:14

MetaMindStream . And if you haven't been with

1:16

us before , we talk about disrupting

1:19

what's possible , so that

1:21

doesn't mean that something isn't possible

1:23

. Disrupting what's possible means what

1:25

you think is possible . That's what we're disrupting

1:28

, right , dr ?

1:28

Montgomery , absolutely , absolutely . Let's

1:31

get out of the old paradigm and shift to

1:33

a new one .

1:35

That's so fabulous and we've been having so much

1:37

fun already . So

1:39

this supports the concept

1:42

behind our entire business , which is the

1:44

focus met , a mindset , mission , which is profitability

1:46

, simplified . So we talk about

1:49

business and when we talk about life

1:51

and bringing these neuroscience strategies

1:53

into actionable business strategies

1:56

actionable . Did I say actionable

1:58

? I don't know .

1:59

I said actionable

2:01

business strategy .

2:04

Yes , and then also real

2:06

life application in society

2:09

, in philosophy , in

2:12

religion , in family , in

2:14

interpersonal relationships , and

2:16

so that's always in our part too . So stick

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around to get their whole dose today

2:21

. This is really a candid and provocative

2:23

conversation . This is why we're doing this . How

2:26

do you go meta ? How do you

2:28

go to the next level

2:30

? And we've been having so much fun . And

2:33

I think today , lyman

2:36

, you are going to talk a lot about meta

2:38

mindset , business strategy and

2:41

how to have a strategic meta

2:43

mindset , but before that , I want

2:46

to invite you all , please do like

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join us each week to have a

3:00

great time streaming right here . So

3:03

tell us a little bit , lyman

3:05

, what you were thinking about . How

3:08

is meta-mindset important for strategic

3:10

planning ?

3:11

Absolutely . You know , most of the time people think about

3:13

strategic planning , they think about you

3:16

know , what are just my strategic goals

3:18

? And they kind of break that up into what they

3:20

call smart goals . Right , you know

3:22

, is it strategic they look at ? Is it measurable

3:25

? You know , is it strategic they look at ? Is it measurable ? You know

3:27

who's accountable for everything . It's a time

3:29

bound , right . But

3:37

why would you start thinking about a focus , strategic , meta mindset which is all

3:39

about how does it feel when I do X , y , Z , for example , if

3:42

I'm looking at a strategy

3:44

for planning growth

3:47

in my organization

3:49

, does it feel natural or

3:52

does it feel like I'm trying to force something

3:54

to happen ? The more natural

3:57

something feels , the easier

3:59

it becomes . The easier you

4:01

are to explain something , the easier

4:03

it is for people to grasp it . If it's

4:05

complex , if it's convoluted

4:08

, if it's hard to implement

4:10

, then people say ooh , too hard and

4:12

they're going to resist it . So what a

4:14

strategic or a meta-mindset ? Strategic

4:17

, meta-mindset thinking when

4:19

it comes to your strategic

4:21

planning is about

4:23

? Does it feel intuitively

4:26

natural when we go through

4:28

the process ?

4:30

Intuitively natural and that

4:32

is so interesting because I love how you

4:34

set me up there without even knowing it , because

4:37

one of the action steps , the

4:39

actionable steps I was going to mention around

4:42

this strategic planning and we all know

4:44

the structured business side and

4:47

the spreadsheets and we know

4:49

how that piece fits

4:51

in . But there are other parts

4:53

that we often neglect

4:55

, and part of that is and I'm not going

4:57

to go on about this today , but I can't resist

4:59

is your business

5:02

meditation . I don't know

5:04

if you heard me ? I said meta-tation

5:07

.

5:09

Yes , your business meditation , right

5:11

?

5:11

So before you all say like , okay

5:14

, that's it , I'm out of here , I'm not talking

5:16

about frou-frou and I'm not talking

5:18

about visualizing . I'm not talking . I

5:20

am talking about visualizing . Let me be clear real quick

5:22

. But I'm not talking about pseudo

5:26

quote manifesting . Now I'm not

5:28

going to even go there and we'll go into that today . But

5:46

you can even do that in a semi-meditation

5:49

experience

5:51

, in a meditation mindset

5:53

, and we teach that in

5:55

many of our things , in many of our

5:57

projects and lifestyle workshops

5:59

.

6:00

And you know it works . We take , for example , if you

6:02

do a traditional strategic

6:04

plan which has the four quadrants , you

6:06

look at your strength , your weaknesses

6:09

, opportunities and threats . Well

6:11

, let's take , for example , the two that

6:13

most people struggle with , which are

6:15

what are my weaknesses

6:18

and what are threats ? So a

6:20

lot of times , we think a weakness

6:22

is something that we're not

6:24

good at . A weakness can

6:26

also be something that you're very good

6:28

at and you get complacent

6:31

in it . So when you

6:33

apply meditation to

6:35

it is , am I operating

6:38

out of complacency

6:40

, conformity , compliance

6:43

, or am I operating

6:45

at the highest version and

6:48

willing to go beyond ? Because a lot of times we

6:50

say to ourselves , well , my strength is

6:52

X , y , z and we never grow from there

6:54

. We get complacent , we get comfortable

6:57

. And then you look at threats

6:59

. Well , we think threats are bad . No

7:01

, threats are actually good because

7:04

it keeps us aware and

7:06

it points out areas that we need to improve

7:09

. So a lot of times , people say , well , I never

7:11

talk about my weaknesses , I never

7:13

talk about threats , I only talk about opportunities

7:16

and I only talk about my strength . But

7:18

when you begin to look at your weaknesses

7:21

and say , listen , if I'm weak

7:23

, that means I have the potential

7:25

to get stronger . If something

7:28

is a threat , then I have

7:30

an opportunity to turn that threat

7:32

into a triumph .

7:36

And overcoming these can actually become

7:38

exciting . It can be part

7:40

of it . You know , it's all about what we're always

7:42

saying with focus , meta mindset , which

7:44

is making business fun , making

7:47

your profitability a more

7:49

positive experience , and

7:51

and that is so much a part of it you

7:53

can even play with the objections

7:55

, you can play with the obstacles , you

7:58

can go into um a

8:00

mindset of envisioning those solutions , you know , and

8:02

you can sit around a table and do it with a group , and you can sit around

8:04

a table and do it with a group , but you can't even do it before

8:07

you get to the group . So if you want to

8:09

go meta with this , let's

8:11

, and it doesn't take massive amounts of time

8:13

, it takes no tools , but , you know , just

8:15

a few moments of being still and

8:17

rediscovering

8:20

what we think is possible , which

8:22

is why we say Meta Mindstream

8:24

, disrupting what's possible .

8:26

What's possible Absolutely , you know . That reminds

8:28

me of in one of our conversations

8:30

I think it was one of our episodes I was sharing about

8:32

a client of ours that was

8:34

a hairdresser and she wanted to go to law school

8:36

. Well , let's break that down strategic

8:38

. So she had a plan . Her plan was

8:40

to go back to school . She was going to start

8:43

at a community college , take some paralegal courses

8:45

, right . So her strength

8:47

was she was she had a great memory . Her

8:50

strength was she was a hard worker . Her

8:52

weakness was she thought her weakness was her age

8:54

. She had been out of school for a long time . The

8:57

opportunity was hey , I can do

8:59

this . It opened up new

9:01

possibilities of income , take

9:04

care of her family and , more

9:06

importantly , live her lifelong dream . The

9:08

threat was she didn't have money

9:10

, didn't have this . Well , she thought her strength

9:12

was her family . She

9:14

found out that the most resistance

9:17

that she faced was not from

9:19

foes but was from family

9:21

members . And they told her

9:23

listen , you're too old . What about

9:25

those kids ? You're going to give up your good

9:27

job . You're a manager at a hair salon

9:30

and you're going to go back to school with a bunch of

9:32

20 year olds . You will not

9:34

make it . Get over your pipe

9:36

dream and it would have crushed her

9:38

. We met and I said listen , there's two types

9:40

of people in the world those with

9:42

a can't C-A-N-T

9:44

mentality and those with a

9:46

can C-A-N . Now

9:48

can't stands for people always look

9:51

at cost , they look at authority

9:53

, they look at need and they look

9:55

at time . They always say it costs

9:58

too much . Oh , I can't afford that

10:00

. They look at authority . Well , what

10:02

makes you special that they look

10:04

at authority ? Well , what makes you special ? Who puts you in authority

10:06

? You know you can't make that decision . You got

10:08

to consider your kids . Then

10:11

they always want to look at need . Well , you know you

10:13

need to take care of your family right now . Forget

10:15

about you , you're a mom . And

10:21

then they look at time Well , girl , this ain't the right time . But a can mentality Ann

10:23

says this All right , how can I make it convenient for me

10:25

? Found out you know what she can do online

10:28

courses , so she can still work at the salon

10:30

and at night , do online convenient

10:32

. Then she looked at alignment . You

10:34

know our favorite word alignment To begin

10:36

to look at is this in alignment

10:39

with what I value

10:41

as a person ? And the answer was yes . Then

10:44

she looked at does it feel natural

10:46

? And she's like Lyman

10:48

. When I took that paralegal course , it

10:50

was if I was meant to be in that

10:52

class . She got straight A's , got her social

10:55

degree . Then she went on into a four-year

10:57

school , studied pre-law

10:59

and graduated . I was there at

11:01

her graduation , graduated with honors

11:04

. And then she went on , accepted into

11:06

law school . Why ? Because she refused

11:08

to have a CANT , c-a-n-t

11:11

and she moved into a meta

11:13

mindset of C-A-N

11:15

. Was it convenience ? No , but

11:17

it was convenience in the sense that she found

11:20

a solution . Going to a traditional

11:22

class was inconvenient . Being

11:25

able to do it online was convenient . It

11:27

was in line with what she believed , her

11:29

values , her principles and her goals

11:31

. And the last one it

11:33

felt natural . And that's what Meta's

11:35

about , right ?

11:36

Anne , absolutely Does it feel natural Because we are always pushing

11:38

against what is uncomfortable . Because

11:40

we are always pushing against

11:43

what is uncomfortable and

11:45

sometimes we think that you

11:54

know , let's . Let's give you an example . Sometimes , when you're feeling lazy , you're pushing against what

11:56

is uncomfortable because you don't feel like getting off the couch

11:58

and getting busy . Right , this is just a tiny example

12:00

. But sometimes

12:03

pushing off that

12:05

oh , get up , you better get busy , you better get up

12:07

and get it busy is more miserable

12:10

than like you know what

12:12

, I'm going to get off the couch and like

12:14

go wash the dishes . We're going to use really basic illustrations

12:16

here and the same in like those

12:18

conversations with people that you

12:21

need that you know they need to happen

12:23

, but you don't want to have them , with an employee

12:25

, with a boss , with a customer , and you're like , ah

12:28

, you create so much suffering around

12:30

. Now , timing is important . That's part of being

12:32

strategic , but a lot of

12:34

times it's literally our emotions . We

12:37

avoid pain and move toward pleasure

12:39

to such a point it becomes painful

12:41

.

12:42

Absolutely , absolutely , absolutely

12:44

. I mean , how many people have

12:47

made decisions with that kink mentality

12:49

? Going back to that kink mentality where

12:51

they always look at the cost oh , it costs too

12:53

much . So you lower the cost . It must not be

12:55

worth anything . It was that cheap you

12:59

get to the authority . Well , I can't make

13:01

that decision . I got to ask my wife , I got to ask

13:03

my partner , I got to ask Cousin Juju

13:05

, I got to ask Uncle

13:07

Ted that lost five businesses

13:10

and never been successful . Okay

13:12

, because we don't believe in ourselves

13:14

to make that decision . So we're looking

13:17

for something externally to make that decision

13:19

. Then we all look well , you know what ? Well , I really

13:21

don't see a need in that . Somebody

13:23

gets a house . Well , that house is too

13:25

big . Friend of mine bought a lovely 4,500

13:29

square foot home . Guess what the dad said

13:31

it's too much house for the two of y'all

13:33

. All you needed wasn't a condo

13:36

. And rather than celebrating

13:38

the win , they weren't going . They didn't go

13:40

into debt , they saved for

13:43

10 years to be able to have a nice down

13:45

payment . The payment got a good

13:47

interest rate and yet , rather

13:49

than family celebrating them and

13:52

you know what , let's do something . Ann , I want to

13:54

know those that are listening . I want to know

13:56

if your family members have

13:58

been more of a threat and an obstacle

14:01

than support , because I want

14:03

to tell you , it is

14:05

rare when everyone in your family

14:07

is on board with you . I'm

14:10

telling you , when we launched our business , you know , the people

14:12

said well , wait a minute , how y'all going to do that ? Y'all are not

14:14

even the same state , the same city

14:16

, but yet we're successful

14:18

.

14:19

No , you're absolutely true . It's absolutely

14:21

true , and I think we're going to talk a little bit more about

14:23

that even later in the program . In fact , I'm excited

14:26

to , in our lifestyle segment , just talk a little

14:28

bit more about the naysayers

14:31

. When we come back

14:33

, we're going to take a quick commercial break and when we come back

14:35

we are going to talk

14:37

just a tiny bit more about

14:40

those actionable steps for your business how

14:42

to use a meta mindset to take your business

14:44

to the next level , increase your bottom line

14:46

. So stay tuned and

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Welcome back to Meta Mindstream and thank

15:14

you so much for joining us here today . We

15:17

are going to continue right now with our really

15:19

fun conversation about MetaMindset

15:21

and how that helps you in strategic

15:24

planning around your business . Please

15:26

, as always , like and subscribe , shoot

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at FocusMetaMindsetcom , and if

15:37

we can answer today , we will , and if we can't

15:39

, we'll try to answer on a subsequent

15:41

episode . So , lyman

15:44

, back to strategic

15:46

planning and what a meta mindset difference

15:48

makes .

15:50

Absolutely . Let's say , for example , if you

15:52

are a C-suite executive

15:55

and part of your responsibility is

15:57

strategic planning , and

16:00

before you take care of the tactical

16:02

stuff , of actually doing SWOT analysis

16:04

, looking at quantitative

16:07

analysis and all that other stuff that is

16:09

part of strategic planning , let's

16:11

talk a little bit about the strategic mindset around

16:14

strategic planning and who should be

16:16

involved in that conversation . Too

16:19

often that conversation is top-down

16:21

, rather than looking

16:23

in through your organization and saying am

16:26

I getting buy-in from those who are

16:29

actually implementing let's say you have an organization of

16:31

100 people , right ? Do you

16:33

have representation , not

16:35

just for management from , let's say

16:37

, the actual boots

16:39

on the ground ? Do they also have

16:41

a role in the strategic planning process

16:44

? Are you doing 360 evaluations

16:46

? Are you looking at what works

16:49

, what doesn't work ? So when you take a

16:51

more inclusive role .

16:56

Are you there , lyman ? Yes , yes

16:58

. Okay , we're back . We're back . The sound went

17:00

out for a second . It might have just been on my end

17:02

, so the last thing you said was 360

17:04

evaluation .

17:05

So please do a 360 evaluation and

17:07

what the key is to have an inclusive

17:10

process when it comes to strategic

17:12

planning , not just top down

17:14

, where the execs sit in their executive

17:17

sitting in the room saying we're going to do this

17:19

and everyone else are like little

17:21

soldiers carried out . But really it should be

17:23

a collaborative process

17:25

where you're asking even the janitor

17:28

, the receptionist , the

17:30

volunteers , the interns

17:32

what makes us great

17:34

? What do you like about this organization

17:37

? What can we do better in various

17:39

areas , various departments . What

18:04

can we do better in various areas , various departments ? Why do you keep showing up ? If you had a magic

18:06

wand , what are one or two things that you would say abracadabra , hocus . Move into vision casting . And that's

18:08

where leadership begins to talk about what the organization will look like a year from now , 18

18:11

months from now , five years from now , 10

18:13

years from now , if everyone

18:15

gets buy-in . So it's not about

18:17

leadership saying I'm

18:19

a leader , I'm going to set the course

18:22

. No , real leaders say I've

18:24

talked to everyone , a

18:26

representative within my

18:28

organization , and

18:30

you do that either through surveys or you do that

18:32

through consensus , focus groups , et cetera , et

18:35

cetera . But you want to get that input

18:37

because what I found out

18:39

, ann , is the ones that is

18:41

closest to the problem are

18:43

the ones that comes up with the best

18:45

solution because they deal with every day . If

18:47

you're sitting in the C suite corner office

18:50

overlooking the ocean , when

18:52

the last time you actually took out the trash , when

18:55

is the last time , mr CEO , ms CEO

18:58

, that you actually sat in

19:00

the employee lunchroom and

19:02

had a conversation ? Do

19:04

you even know their names ? This

19:08

is what makes this is the difference . Going

19:10

beyond . This is meta strategic planning

19:12

, where you get out of the boardroom

19:14

and you go down to the lunchroom and

19:17

the locker room and you have conversation

19:19

with those that do the work , absolutely

19:23

.

19:23

That makes such a such a big difference

19:25

. It is meta , and that is

19:27

a lot about

19:29

ego . Meta

19:33

is about

19:35

you know what ? What

19:39

is that ?

19:40

Ego stands for edging greatness out

19:42

.

19:43

Excellent .

19:44

I love that Edging greatness out Because

19:46

you think you are the sum

19:48

total of it all . So when someone

19:50

has a better idea , you edge it out

19:53

. A greater idea , you edge it out Because you

19:56

want to be the supreme ruler of

19:58

the universe .

19:59

It's edging greatness out Well

20:01

, and that's part of it right , Because you

20:04

can do strategic planning , because you're

20:06

close to certain pieces of the problem

20:08

when you're in a high leadership position

20:10

. But also we

20:13

tend to neglect

20:16

what I call the unheard . Just

20:20

because someone is cleaning the

20:22

bathroom or vacuuming the halls

20:24

doesn't mean that they're not highly intelligent

20:26

. We don't know anything about them . We

20:29

assume that education distinguishes . Some

20:31

of the most incredible inventions

20:33

in history have been made by people who were

20:35

like working with their hands . So

20:38

, asking everyone . The other thing about

20:40

being meta is involvement . So

20:42

laying down your ego and involving

20:44

everyone else around you , that

20:46

kind of strategic planning . Do you know the

20:49

kind of loyalty you generate when

20:51

you involve everyone , at every level

20:53

of your business , in contributing

20:56

to ideas that will lead to

20:58

the decisions for the company ?

21:00

This is an absolutely priceless thing

21:02

. I know we've got a break coming up in about 15 seconds , but let me say this

21:04

right before the break Do you realize

21:07

? The most important people in any organization

21:09

are the receptionists and

21:11

the janitors , because they see , they hear

21:13

, they know everything and , like you said , they're often

21:16

overlooked .

21:18

So true , so right and so

21:21

much to contribute . And this is like what

21:23

makes going meta also makes us

21:25

more of a family

21:27

in business , a global family , social

21:29

family . Meta really breaks

21:32

down a lot of the barriers , these artificial

21:34

things of what we think is or is it possible

21:36

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And welcome back to Meta Mindstream

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and thank you for being with us here today

22:11

with Dr Lyman , montgomery and myself

22:13

and Scotland we are talking

22:15

about . We have talked in our business segment

22:18

about strategic planning today and

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how do you go meta in your strategic

22:22

planning in your business , whatever

22:24

size business , that is , whether you are

22:26

a one-man show Lyman's

22:30

client who went from a hairdresser

22:32

to an attorney , or whether

22:34

you are just starting your own

22:36

business . But let's jump over into

22:39

lifestyle for just a couple minutes here

22:41

and talk about we have

22:43

said how you live strategically in

22:45

your business . But let's go back

22:47

to what we mentioned earlier , which was some of those

22:49

naysayers , the naysayers who

22:52

tell you it's not possible . Why

22:54

do they do that , lyman ?

22:56

You know , I think part of it is protection . They

22:59

love us , they don't want to see us

23:01

harmed in any way . They're trying

23:03

to save us from misery

23:05

, from disappointment , from embarrassment

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a lot of times , but I think

23:10

the approach is wrong from

23:13

embarrassment a lot of times , but I think the

23:16

approach is wrong . Rather than prefacing by saying listen , don't take

23:18

this wrong . I love you , I support you , I just want you to think

23:20

about what you're doing

23:22

, and then again they're going to switch over to that

23:24

kink . Is it the right timing

23:26

? Is there really a need to do this ? How

23:29

are you going to support me

23:33

? Is there really a need to do this ? How are you going to support , and I think

23:35

, the person who's looking to step out , to take that leap of faith ? They

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have to prepare themselves with answers . They

23:40

have to be prepared to say you know what , I've

23:42

thought about it . Yes , I have a plan , I

23:45

have a backup plan , and sometimes

23:47

you have no plan at all . Sometimes it's just this

23:50

is right for me and

23:53

that's the plan . It's right for

23:55

me .

23:57

And I think what is some of the people you know , our

24:00

loved ones and friends , who care about us

24:02

sometimes and other , certain

24:04

people don't necessarily . Other , certain people just

24:06

want to be right , have an ego trip again , tell

24:09

everyone else how they're doing life wrong

24:11

. But

24:18

what we seem to forget around this is life being a sense of exploration . If we all got it

24:20

right the first time , we would never have any adventure at all and life would

24:22

be a very different experience . But

24:25

so often it takes those experimenting

24:28

, it takes trying . It's like , well , you're going to

24:30

spend less time with your kids ? Well , yes , kids are

24:32

a priority , but everyone has . You

24:34

can have a parent who spends all their time

24:37

with your kids who is angry and resentful

24:39

, and that's a bad experience for the kids . Everyone

24:43

is different . You can have a parent who spends

24:45

you know what grandma might say

24:47

is terrible a couple hours a day with the kids

24:49

and have an outrageously

24:51

good relationship with your children . Like

24:54

you know , like nothing that nothing compares

24:56

to that . So judging that the

24:58

way you think something should be done or

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the way you did something in the past

25:02

and forcing that onto someone else is a very

25:04

unrealistic expectation and

25:06

also is just your way of trying

25:09

to keep them small . We think

25:11

, oh , I'm just trying to be right

25:13

because I'm trying to keep them safe , but

25:16

unfortunately it's also oh , I'm

25:18

really just trying to be right , because if

25:21

they don't stay small , I look

25:23

like more of a failure because I never did any

25:26

adventure in my life .

25:27

Exactly . You know , there are some families where

25:29

certain individuals sort of like

25:31

the , they're pigeonholed , right

25:33

, and there's just a little pecking order . And

25:36

if you become , let's say , the highest

25:38

level of education in the family is

25:40

a bachelor's degree , right

25:43

, and you're talking about going on and getting a master's

25:45

, or you're going to get a doctorate

25:48

or a terminal degree , then

25:50

that person feels like , well , wait a minute , I lose position

25:52

, I lose status . So

25:54

I'm going to sabotage

25:57

what that person tries

25:59

to do by planting seeds of doubt

26:01

and get that person

26:03

to give up on their dream . We've

26:05

coached so many individuals that

26:08

when we ask the question , what

26:11

did you want to be when you were 10 years

26:13

old , 20 years old , why

26:15

didn't you do it ? 75%

26:18

of the time someone talked them out of it . Someone

26:22

said be realistic . Well , I want to be an

26:24

artist . They don't make any money . You're going to be a starving

26:26

artist , yeah

26:29

, you're right . So they go and major

26:31

in something and work 20 years in the

26:33

field they absolutely

26:36

hate . Got a good friend of mine named

26:38

Lori . All right , went to college together

26:40

, got our master's together and everything right

26:42

. She worked in the field . She hated

26:44

it . You know , she wanted to be a teacher In

26:47

her 40s . She made a decision to

26:49

go back and do what

26:51

she wanted to do when

26:54

she was 12 years old , and now she's a very

26:56

successful educator . And

26:58

I asked her a couple of months ago I said

27:00

listen , how does it feel you know you gave

27:02

up this great career

27:04

. She was like , yeah , it was great in name , but

27:07

it wasn't great for me because I wasn't

27:09

living out my purpose . My

27:11

purpose has been in a classroom

27:13

with those kids .

27:17

And I'll play devil's advocate , which I always love

27:19

to do , which is everything

27:22

that Lyman said . Yes , and

27:27

sometimes we have to learn

27:29

through taking

27:32

the way less traveled

27:35

, by taking a side trip . Yeah , because

27:37

you know , for example , and I'm one of those people , I like

27:39

to be really real with people and I say you know , I had a dream

27:42

of being an actress and I worked in Hollywood as an actress

27:44

for 10 years . Well , you know

27:46

, in many ways I was a starving artist during that

27:48

time and I also made some incredible projects

27:51

. Ways . I was a starving artist during that time and I also made some

27:53

incredible projects , and I also changed my life , how I see life , how I experienced life

27:55

, how I exercise my creativity

27:57

. And when I decided to move on

28:00

from that career , I was

28:02

ready but not at all

28:04

resentful , in the sense that , even

28:07

though someone might have said your

28:09

chances of doing this is like one in 5 million because

28:11

it's the most overstocked market in the world actors

28:13

, right In the whole in the world , the

28:15

most overstocked industry . So

28:18

your chances are like , if you do a spreadsheet

28:20

on this , it's not even there's just no way , but

28:23

I still did it because it fulfilled

28:25

something for me and just because I didn't make

28:27

it famous like the top you know 0.001%

28:32

, or because I , you know

28:34

, didn't

28:39

make as much money as I'd hoped , doesn't even mean it was a waste of time . So if I listen to the

28:41

naysayers who said , oh , don't do that . That's like the last thing in the world , don't do it

28:43

. I needed to do it . It

28:45

created , it made me a better person

28:47

. I learned so much about myself and

28:50

I'm still fine . I still had a roof over my head

28:52

. I still had food to eat . I was always , you

28:54

know , being smart , which is a big part

28:56

of your strategic planning . So , what I tell

28:58

people about in

29:00

strategic . You'll recognize this , of course , lyman

29:03

, because we do this . But when you're in

29:05

a strategic planning around your life

29:07

and then we're going to have to wrap up in a minute or two

29:09

, in strategic planning around your life

29:11

, in going meta , in making

29:13

decisions , I always teach the

29:15

triple bypass . You've probably heard me say that

29:18

before . And that is really what

29:20

it means . So

29:22

today , which is working from instinct

29:25

, instinct is very

29:28

. There's so many levels of instinct

29:30

. We're not going to go into that right now because sometimes

29:32

our first impressions or first

29:35

reactions are not really

29:37

the instinct we're talking about . We're talking about meta instincts

29:40

. So going much deeper right

29:42

. So when ? And I'll give you just

29:44

a tiny taste today and we'll talk about it again another time

29:46

. So my triple bypass is

29:48

when you're going to go into meta-t

29:51

meditation , meditation

29:53

, you know , sit still for a moment . Say

29:55

I really need to make this big decision about job

29:58

, money , family . Bypass

30:00

the mind . We do this in our workshops . Make

30:03

a conscious decision . I'm going to bypass the rationalizing

30:05

, the voices that say yes , no , maybe , why I can't

30:08

, can't bypass the mind . Then

30:10

you got to bypass the heart , because sometimes there's people

30:12

living there that

30:14

we do care about , but that are the naysayers

30:17

and maybe what they think isn't

30:19

really in our best organic inner

30:21

interest . And then you have to bypass

30:24

the one more thing . That's why it's triple and it's the ego

30:26

how you look to people

30:28

, how you appear , if you look like you're diving

30:31

out of a spectacular career , like

30:33

in lyman's early story , into something

30:35

completely different , whether it's the lawyer becoming the hairdresser

30:37

or the hairdresser becoming the lawyer . But if

30:39

that move is right for you , you

30:42

have to bypass your ego and those people's opinions

30:44

. Then you get to the gut

30:47

, the inner instinct

30:49

, the spiritual aspect , whatever you want

30:51

, want to your deepest part . When you do that triple bypass

30:53

and then you ask yourself the question 99.9%

30:57

of the time you will absolutely know

30:59

the answer . So I dare you to

31:01

give it a try before you come

31:04

see us on our next episode and

31:07

I encourage you to send us your ideas

31:09

, your thoughts on that . Let us know how it went for you

31:11

, shoot us an email , info at

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the platform that you are viewing or listening

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on today . And before

31:22

I come back to Lyman for the final word

31:25

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think would enjoy it , and Lyman

31:40

back to you . What are your last thoughts ?

31:42

Yeah , my last thought is a simple question Are

31:45

you truly satisfied or

31:47

have you just settled ? Are

31:49

you truly satisfied with

31:52

your life or did you just settle for it ? I

31:55

love that . Think about it .

31:57

Wow , wow

31:59

. So get my mind just going . There's

32:02

a whole nother half hour in there , so for next

32:04

time . Thank you all for joining us

32:06

today and we're so excited to have you here . See

32:08

you on our next show .

32:09

Thank you , go meta .