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Adi Jaffe

Host of IGNTD
Adi Jaffe is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country. He hosts the show IGNTD.

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The Ultimate Bully Pulpit with Marianne Williamson
IGNTD
This week marks an incredibly exciting time for IGNTD — it is our 100th episode! And of course, with it being such a special episode, we have on an incredibly special guest — Marianne Williamson! We are so passionate about the work Marianne does and now that she’s running as a presidential candidate we could not be happier and more optimistic about the future of the world, our children’s lives, and the change that is possible.   If somehow, you don’t already know who Marianne is, we’ll fill you in! Marianne is an internationally-acclaimed lecturer, activist, and author of four #1 New York Times bestselling books. She has been one of America’s most well-known public voices for more than three decades. She has been a popular guest on television programs such as Oprah, Good Morning America, and Bill Maher. Beyond her accolades, Marianne is a voice of inspiration for deeper healing, spiritual guidance, and creating incredible change within yourself and your communities. We cannot wait to share today’s episode with you all! Please join us to hear Marianne’s presidential platform, how and why she decided to run for president, the importance of “breaking out of our roles” within our communities when it comes to standing up for what we believe in, and of course, her views on bullying — as it is still bullying month!   Topics Discussed: [:35] Celebrating our 100th episode! [1:30] Reading our review of the week. [2:38] About our first in-person event: the IGNTD Glow Event! [5:50] About our incredible guest today: Marianne Williamson! [6:00] Reading a quote from Marianne. [7:25] What we love about today’s interview with Marianne. [14:22] About our favorite mushroom mix: Four Sigmatic! [17:22] The conversation portion of today’s podcast with Marianne Williamson. [17:53] If Marianne had to sing karaoke, what song would she choose to sing? [18:39] Sophie tells the story of how she found out about Marianne. [20:54] Marianne provides some background on who she is and tells us how she got to this place where she has decided to run for president! [25:18] The importance of “breaking out of our roles” in our community. [27:34] Does Marianne think that the need for the historical drive to “right wrongs” and protect humanity is limited to spiritual and religious origins? Or, is there something inherently within us that brings out that need and desire to protect and help outside of those groups? [29:35] Marianne reflects on the enjoyable parts of running for president as well as the not-so-fun parts such as the backlash and bullying she receives. [31:51] Marianne speaks on this whole “shut down” mentality in today’s society. [33:11] Marianne speaks on those acting out of fear and fighting against her running for president, fear-based propaganda, and how we can do more than just ‘defeat’ Donald Trump and achieve a deeper level of transformation. [38:55] The bullying mentality behind Donald Trump and Marianne’s thoughts on how to gain the votes of those who voted Donald Trump or third party. [41:55] Was there a moment for Marianne where she realized she needed to run for president? [43:11] Now having a broader audience with running for president, has Marianne viewpoints changed at all for some niche topics and specific hot-button issues from when she had a smaller audience? [48:23] The change that is possible through Marianne’s presidency. [49:40] Along with Marianne’s support of AA, does she also support other recovery-based solutions? [51:33] Marianne explains what a vote for her means. [59:30] What is the best advice Marianne has ever received? [59:57] What has been one of Marianne’s proudest moments to-date? [1:00:18] What has been one of Marianne’s hardest moments to-date? [1:00:32] What are some of Marianne’s self-care rituals? [1:02:12] What ignites Marianne at her deepest core?   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Glow Event 2019 Instagram @IGNTD.me — We are giving away three tickets! Enter here by following the rules under our latest post! Marianne Williamson Marianne Williamson’s Books We love Four Sigmatic! Receive 15% off your Four Sigmatic order by going to foursigmatic.com/IGNTD or by entering code IGNTD at checkout! We are so excited to partner with Perfect Bar on this episode and at our upcoming GLOW event! Check out this amazing clean protein bar here: https://perfectbar.com/   IGNTD Episode: “Getting Unstuck and Finding Alternative Perspectives with Tero Isokauppila, Founder of Four Sigmatic”   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libysn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify   Follow us on Social Media! Facebook: IGNTD Instagram: @IGNTD.me Sophie’s Instagram: @Sophie.Jaffe Adi’s Instagram: @DrAdiJaffe   If you enjoyed this podcast… Please let us know what you want to hear about! Tell us in the comments or send us an email at info@igntd.com.   About Our Sponsors: Four Sigmatic Four Sigmatic makes some of the coolest, mushroom-based powders on earth! They’re easy, delicious, and super good for you! From mushroom coffees to matchas, to hot cacao, and multi-mushroom blends… they have it all. And they’re also great for travel too! Use the code IGNTD at checkout to receive 15% off your entire purchase.   Perfect Bar: As the Original Refrigerated Protein Bar, Perfect Bar serves whole food protein bars made with organic nut butter, honey, clean ingredients and family love. We are so excited to partner with Perfect Bar on this episode and at our upcoming GLOW event! Check out this amazing clean protein bar here: https://perfectbar.com/ Philosophie Superfoods The Philosophie offers cleanses and other nutritional products that are unlike any of the other supplements and detoxification programs on the market. Why? Because they actually nourish the body with whole, live, nutrient-rich foods. Each of the Philosophie superfoods and protein blends is vegan, raw, gluten-free, and has absolutely no filler ingredients.
The Power in Identifying Your Triggers
IGNTD
I was inspired to do today’s episode following a conversation I had with a client of mine — we’ll call him Michael. Michael was telling me this story of what had happened to him just this past week. He and his girlfriend were visiting his mother and they got into a huge fight. As we began to put the story back together, we realized that they always got into arguments leading up to these visits with his mother. As we discovered, a lot of what had to do with these consistent arguments were around the relationship that he currently had with his mother. His mother was actually a trigger for him.   Triggers are all around us and a lot of us have them! So if you’ve ever been weirded out or upset by a conversation you’ve had with your mom, your sister, an ex, or your husband or wife, and you’ve been unsure of why then this episode is for you.   Topics Discussed: [:53] About today’s episode. [1:16] What inspired this episode: a conversation I had with a client. [6:05] Here’s what I want you to take away from today’s episode. [6:27] How we address triggers through our 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge. [7:01] I hope you enjoyed this quick episode! If you did, please be sure to share this with someone you think might need it, screenshot it, tag me on any social media platform, and let me know what you thought!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!) IGNTD Glow Event 2019 Instagram @IGNTD.me — We are giving away three tickets! Enter here by following the rules under our latest post! IGNTD 21-Day Habit Reset Challenge   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com
Is My Kid a Bully? With Joe Newman
IGNTD
How nice would it be if we could actually understand why the bullying is happening in the first place? Then we could stop it at the source. That would protect not only the people who are being bullied, but the bully themselves. I don’t believe that anyone bullies because they really want to hurt others. Typically, it’s this maladapted attempt of a child exerting their own control because they feel out of it.   In today’s episode, we explore exactly this notion. We take a look at these situations from the parents’ perspective, the bully, and the bullied. And joining us to explore this topic is Joe Newman! Sophie recently discovered Joe after picking up his incredible book, Raising Lions, which is the culmination of his 25-year journey working with the most difficult kids, as well as a deep desire to build respect and love into our educational institutions and families. In his book, he gives practical steps to parents about helping their children develop the ability to self-regulate without undermining their confidence and individuality. The methods Joe outlines in it are practical, easy to implement, and based on common sense.   Joe brings his wealth of knowledge to the podcast and gets incredibly deep and vulnerable with us. He shares his own experience growing up with ADHD and often receiving negative feedback, as well as several examples from children and families he has worked with. He also explains the important role conflict plays for us and our children, how our children force us to evolve and how we should be setting boundaries, and the importance of consistency with children. Later in the episode, we even go through a sort of mock session about our son Leo where he gives us some tips and actionable steps we can take! It’s incredibly fascinating and we highly recommend you all tune in — even if you don’t have kids!   Topics Discussed: [:56] About today’s episode! [2:14] Reading our review of the week. [3:16] More about today’s conversation with Joe Newman. [3:49] Reading a powerful quote from Joe. [4:33] Speaking on the theme of children and bullying. [6:29] What we’ll be speaking about today with Joe. [7:15] About the IGNTD Glow Event and how you can win free tickets to the event! [9:42] The conversation portion of the podcast. [9:55] Sophie tells the story of how she found out about Joe. [12:00] Speaking on the topic of ADHD and developing attention spans in children. [17:41] The power/hold social media can have over us. [19:50] Joe shares his experience growing up with ADHD and impulsiveness. [22:50] Speaking about our own experiences with our children and their attention spans and impulsiveness. [25:36] Joe gives his perspective as the kid whose behavior was constantly corrected and was often given negative feedback. [26:45] The important role conflict plays for us and our children. [30:44] How our children force us to evolve & how we should be setting boundaries. [32:22] Telling a story of a situation that happened recently with our son, Leo. Joe shares how he would’ve handled the situation and offers us some tips for the future. [39:09] How Joe is transcending the idea of “good” and “bad” with children. [40:27] Speaking about our experience with boundaries when we were younger. [42:43] Joe highlights the difference in children who are motivated by power vs. those motivated by approval. [47:46] The importance of the consistency with boundaries for children. [52:05] Joe goes more in-depth about how he has helped parents set boundaries with their children and create a system for them. [54:04] Joe gives us some tips and actionable steps to take with Leo, walking us through a sort of “mock session” as if we were his clients. [56:10] What Joe tells us about this fascinating study about bullying and explains why kids become bullies. [1:02:34] Joe speaks about what the parents and the kids who are being bullied can do from their side. [1:04:59] What is the best advice Joe has ever received? [1:06:10] What has been Joe’s proudest moment to-date? [1:08:15] What has been Joe’s hardest moment? [1:10:23] What does Joe do day-to-day for his self-care? [1:11:36] What ignites Joe? [1:13:37] A huge thanks to Joe for joining us!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Glow Event 2019 Instagram @IGNTD.me — We are giving away three tickets! Enter here by following the rules under our latest post! Raising Lions, by Joe Newman Joe’s Instagram: @RaisingLions Joe’s Website: RaisingLions.com IGNTD Episode: “Loving Without Labels with Jodie Patterson” NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children, by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman Ralph Waldo Emerson The Tools: 5 Tools to Help You Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower—and Inspire You to Live Life in Forward Motion, by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libysn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify   Follow us on Social Media! Facebook: IGNTD Instagram: @IGNTD.me Sophie’s Instagram: @Sophie.Jaffe Adi’s Instagram: @DrAdiJaffe   If you enjoyed this podcast… Please let us know what you want to hear about! Tell us in the comments or send us an email at info@igntd.com.   About Our Sponsor: Philosophie Superfoods The Philosophie offers cleanses and other nutritional products that are unlike any of the other supplements and detoxification programs on the market. Why? Because they actually nourish the body with whole, live, nutrient-rich foods. Each of the Philosophie superfoods and protein blends is vegan, raw, gluten-free, and has absolutely no filler ingredients.
Co-Dependency: What It Is, Why It Exists, and How We Can Overcome It
IGNTD
Today, we’re talking about co-dependency. In my field of work, co-dependency shows up a lot. I have this client, whom we’ll call Melissa (though that is not her real name), who was really struggling and by the time she came to me, she was diagnosed with six different clinical diagnoses. And her mom was someone that many would consider overbearing or a co-dependent. Whenever Melissa would come into my clinic to visit me, her mother would bombard her with constant calls, updates, and emails.   But, the thing is, I don’t think Melissa’s mom was ‘a co-dependent’; I think she was acting co-dependently. Whether this is semantic to you or you have been that family member who has been called co-dependent, I highly recommend that you stay tuned in for this one as we dive deeper into what it means to be co-dependent, why these behavioral patterns exist at all, and how we can help others to overcome and move past this co-dependent behaviors and mindset.   Topics Discussed: [:42] About today’s topic: co-dependency, and a story about a client of mine. [2:35] More about this term, ‘co-dependent.’ [3:22] My perspective on Melissa’s ‘co-dependent’ mom. [3:51] The three components I’m going to break down in this episode (on co-dependency): what does it even mean to say somebody is co-dependent? Why do these behavioral patterns exist? And how do we help others overcome and get past these co-dependent behaviors? [4:10] How co-dependency is defined and how it first came about. [9:40] Why do these co-dependency behavioral patterns exist? [13:24] How we “cured” Melissa’s mom of her co-dependent behaviors, and why it is incredibly important that we keep it sub-clinical rather than a full-on, clinical disorder. [15:55] How do we measure dysfunction in a couple or a pair of people where this co-dependent pattern of behavior works well for them? [17:04] In Melissa’s and her mother’s story, did co-dependency actually end up serving them? [18:49] What is important to know if you’re struggling or you know someone who is struggling. [20:10] If this was helpful for you or somebody you know, take a screenshot of this podcast, share it on social media, tag me, and let me know how it resonated for you!   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Recovery (Register and join the free workshop!) TheAbstinenceMyth.com (Pay for shipping and I will send you the book for free!)   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libsyn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify Reach Out to Me! @DrAdiJaffe on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook — or email me at Info@IGNTD.com
Loving Without Labels with Jodie Patterson
IGNTD
For the month of October, we’re kicking off a new theme: bullying. Bullying is a serious topic and we have a ton of interviews lined up to take a look at it from all sorts of angles — from what makes a bully, why the bullied take on a defensive role, to the experiences each side experiences.   A lot of the times what happens with someone who takes on the bully role is that the people they are surrounded by don’t see them as who they could be but instead see them as some small element of who they are right now — and they become trapped. When someone is around people who are constantly pointing out a particular weakness to them, they start believing it too. And as our guest today, Jodie Patterson, says, “The world is unkind to people it doesn’t understand.”   Jodie Patterson is a mother of five, an activist, an author, and a speaker. As an active LGBTQAI advocate, her activism has been recognized by the likes of Hillary Clinton, GLAAD, Family Circle magazine, Cosmopolitan magazine, Yahoo, Refinery29, and numerous other outlets. She also holds the position of Board Director with the Human Rights Campaign and works closely with HRC’s Parents for Transgender Equality Council.   In today’s episode, Jodie brings an incredible story about her son who was born biologically female. At just the age of three, he was able to articulate to her that he was not a girl. But before this moment, he often lashed out and was misunderstood because he was misunderstood. Jodie breaks down the notion that “Bullies are bullies because they are bullied,” explains the importance of encouraging your children to do what they love regardless of the labels the world may put on them, and what having “family values” actually means. We also share some of our own experiences with our children around the themes of bullying, labels, and embracing ‘weird.’   “Having children is the fastest and most direct way to understanding yourself. Through my kids, I’m able to see my flaws and my strengths, and ultimately get closer to my true and most beautiful spirit. There’s no hiding with kids. They force you to either succumb or rise above.” — Jodie Patterson   Topics Discussed: [:29] About today’s episode. [:59] Reading our review of the week. [1:36] Sophie reads a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson and we talk about how it relates to bullying. [6:10] We need to believe in ourselves in order to become who we want to be and taking space from others in order to grow. [9:55] More about today’s episode and how this topic deeply relates to our conversation today with, Jodie Patterson. [13:53] We’d love your feedback on this episode! Leave a review or tag us on social media and let us know what resonated with you. [14:20] About our IGNTD Glow Event! [18:26] The conversation portion of our podcast! [18:45] Reading an important quote from Jodie. [19:15] Jodie shares an important story that really illustrates this idea that we need to grow with our children. [23:50] How language minimizes the human experience and how we constantly have to redefine our understanding around words and labels. [25:38] Jodie explains discovering the flexibility of language and thought with her trans son. [28:00] Speaking about the negative affect from the constraints of labels and how this deeply impacted Jodie’s trans son for the first three years of his life. [32:22] Why Jodie’s son was a bully in a world that didn’t understand him. [32:25] Breaking down the notion that “Bullies are bullies because they are bullied,” and exploring why it isn’t always the case. [38:38] The importance of encouraging your children to do what they love and are interested in — regardless of societal norms. [43:00] Why “Weird is good!” [44:47] Sharing our own experience with our son, Leo, bullying others. [47:00] What changed after Jodie’s son vocalized that he was in fact a boy, not a girl? What did she do to help him find his place in the world? [50:45] Jodie gives her advice for trans children as well as their family and parents. [52:31] Talking about or journeys as parents and adjusting for our children. [56:33] The importance of diversifying the people you surround yourself with to broaden your language and experience. [1:00:00] Talking about bullying in today’s society, the concept of “othering,” and Jodie's approach: “mothering: a social architecture.” [1:02:45] What does having “family values” actually mean for your family? [1:09:25] What is the best advice Jodie has ever received? [1:12:02] What has been Jodie’s proudest moment to-date? [1:14:06] What has been Jodie’s most difficult moment to-date? [1:16:42] What are some of Jodie’s self-care rituals? [1:18:56] What gets Jodie ignited?   Mentioned in this Episode: IGNTD Glow Event 2019 Jodie Patterson James Baldwin   Find out more about IGNTD: IGNTD.com IGNTD.libysn.com   Subscribe to the Podcast iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify   Follow us on Social Media! Facebook: IGNTD Instagram: @IGNTD.me Sophie’s Instagram: @Sophie.Jaffe Adi’s Instagram: @DrAdiJaffe   If you enjoyed this podcast… Please let us know what you want to hear about! Tell us in the comments or send us an email at info@igntd.com.   About Our Sponsor: Philosophie Superfoods The Philosophie offers cleanses and other nutritional products that are unlike any of the other supplements and detoxification programs on the market. Why? Because they actually nourish the body with whole, live, nutrient-rich foods. Each of the Philosophie superfoods and protein blends is vegan, raw, gluten-free, and has absolutely no filler ingredients.
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