Esther Perel is a psychotherapist, international advisor on sex and relationships, a TED talk speaker, and a New York Time bestselling author. She is also the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin?.
Check out our Sponsors Caveday: Try a FREE 3 hour cave at with promo code IMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at for a free trial of Premium Membership. Indeed: Get a FREE $75 CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Can you say with absolutely certainty that you are bringing your best self to all the important relationships in your life? Are you afraid you and your partner are slowly becoming more and more disconnected and aren’t sure how to identify the key problems that could be killing the relationship? Whether it’s at home or at work, we need to be mindful of what makes our relationships thrive and what poses a threat to them. On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by Psychotherapist, New York Times Bestselling Author, and host of the emotionally raw and tell-all podcasts ’How’s Work?’ and ‘Where Should We Begin?’ Esther Perelto discuss such matters and more as they explore the pitfalls you need to be on the lookout for that might be killing your relationships, connections, or marriage. They discuss the downfalls you need to be on the lookout for that pose a threat to your relationships, what complacency looks like, why so many couples get it wrong when trying to solve their differences, the power of words and the meaning behind them, how culture comes into play in your relationship, how to understand other’s perspectives, and the tools you need to have a healthy and thriving relationship with anyone in your life.   Order Esther’s book, ‘Mating in Captivity’:   Order Esther’s book, ‘The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity’:   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘Where Should We Begin?’:   Listen to Esther’s Podcast, ‘How’s Work?’:   SHOW NOTES:   Downfalls | Esther reveals the things that kill relationships. [0:17] Complacency | Esther reveals the step-by-step process of how complacency creeps in. [2:36] Blind | Esther reveals why so many people in a relationship fail to see their mistakes. [6:14] Combativeness | Esther reveals the many dynamics of how couples blame each other. [7:33] Words | Esther reveals the power of your words and how you frame your problems. [10:03] Culture | Esther reveals how culture comes into play with relationships. [12:56] Contextualize Yourself | Esther reveals how we can value things differently. [13:58] Meaning | Esther discusses the importance of the meaning behind what you say. [17:47] Business | Esther reveals why so many business relationships fail. [19:54] Perspectives | Esther discusses how you can begin to see other’s perspectives. [21:47] Tea | Tom shares a story where he and his wife, Lisa, argued over a cup of tea. [26:06] Fighting | Esther reveals how we fight over lack of respect and recognition. [28:18] Roles | Esther discusses roles, expectations, and flexibility in a relationship. [30:27] Tools | Esther reveals the key tools you can use to get the most out of your relationship. [31:28] Connect | Esther shares how you can engage with her and continue to learn from her. [33:28]   QUOTES:   “So, you really want to make sure that you don’t assume. “I know what you’re saying.” Ask, remain curious at all times. “What does that mean for you and who told you that?”” [13:55]   “The very thing people often come in fighting over is what was once originally very attractive to each other.” [24:13]   “…people fight over three things primarily: power and control, trust and closeness, respect and integrity.” [25:35]   FOLLOW ESTHER: Website: Podcast: How’s Work: Twitter: Facebook: Instagram: YouTube:
In this best-of episode, originally published in March 2018, Kara Swisher talks to sex and relationship therapist Esther Perel, the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin? Perel discusses her then-new book about infidelity, The State of Affairs, and how dating apps like Tinder discourage their users from pursuing committed relationships. This interview was recorded live in Austin, Texas at South by Southwest 2018.Featuring:Esther Perel (@EstherPerel), host, Where Should We Begin?Host:Kara Swisher (@karaswisher), Recode co-founder and editor-at-largeMore to explore:On Recode Media, Peter Kafka interviews business titans, journalists, comedians and podcasters about the collision of tech and media.On Pivot, Kara Swisher and Scott Galloway talk about the big tech news stories of the week, who's winning, who's failing, and what comes next.And on Season 1 of Land of the Giants, Jason Del Rey chronicled the rise of Amazon. On Season 2, Peter Kafka and Rani Molla examined "the Netflix effect."About Recode by Vox:Recode by Vox helps you understand how tech is changing the world — and changing us.Follow Us:Newsletter: Recode DailyTwitter: @Recode and @voxdotcom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Esther Perel — The Relationship Episode: Sex, Love, Polyamory, Marriage, and More (Repost) | Brought to you by ButcherBox and Laird Superfood. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel (@EstherPerelOfficial) is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Esther is an acclaimed TED speaker and the host of the hit podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work?.In this episode, Esther and I explore:How to find (and convince) mentors who can change your life.What she’s learned from Holocaust survivors.Polyamory and close cousins.Is there such a thing as too much honesty in relationships?Can we want what we already have?Why do happy people cheat?And much, much more.This episode originally aired in 2017. You can find the show notes here: This episode is brought to you by ButcherBox! ButcherBox makes it easy for you to get high-quality, humanely raised meat that you can trust. They deliver delicious, 100% grass-fed, grass-finished beef; free-range organic chicken; heritage-breed pork, and wild-caught seafood directly to your door.For a limited time, new members can get 2 lbs of free ground beef in every ButcherBox order by signing up today at That’s up to $180 in savings per year.*This episode is also brought to you by Laird Superfood. Founded by big-wave surfer Laird Hamilton and volleyball champion Gabby Reece, Laird Superfood promises to deliver high-impact fuel to help you get through your busiest days. Laird Superfood offers a line of plant-based products designed to optimize your daily rituals, from sunrise to sunset.My favorite two products are their Turmeric Superfood Creamer and Unsweetened Superfood Creamer. I put one of them in practically everything. Both can really optimize your daily coffee or tea ritual, and a $10 bag will last you a long time. For a limited time, Laird Superfood is offering you guys 20% off your order when you use code TIM at checkout. Check out to see my favorite products and learn more.***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews!For show notes and past guests, please visit up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at transcripts of episodes, go to Tim’s books: Tim:Twitter: Instagram: YouTube:
They've been on and off for almost 20 years. While she takes cares of his and their child, she wants to know that he's also there for her. He's been battling depression for years. And the shame that comes with it.
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