Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor, and has published articles in the New York Times and many professional journals. She runs a full-time practice on the Upper West Side of Manhattan and was the Mental Health Consultant for the Emmy and Golden Globe-winning show Mad Men.
Depression and anxiety are not what you think they are, according to my guest. Often thought of as presenting problems in their own right, it might make more sense to think of them as clusters of symptoms deriving from underlying problems knowing and working with our core emotions. In her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self (2018, Random House), Hilary Jacobs Hendel debunks common myths about what it means to be ‘depressed’ or ‘anxious’ and offers a fresh approach for working through these symptoms, using the Change Triangle. In our interview, we discuss how anyone can put the Change Triangle to work in order to relieve suffering and improve emotional awareness. We also address the key role trauma plays in the development of depression and anxiety symptoms, and how such trauma can be healed. This episode is for anyone wishing to gain lasting relief from long-standing emotional difficulties and become more connection with their emotional lives. Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a licensed clinical social worker who received her B.A. in biochemistry from Wesleyan University and an MSW from Fordham University. She is a certified psychoanalyst and AEDP psychotherapist and supervisor. She has published articles in The New York Times and professional journals. She also consulted on the psychological development of characters on AMC’s Mad Men. She lives in New York City. Eugenio Duarte, Ph.D. is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, and Psychology in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm
So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and…That anger is a natural and normal responseUtilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize usHow anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over timeFinding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertaintyMindfully noticing and naming our angerAnger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fightThe danger of blocking our angerThat we feel anger as energy that wants to get outUsing fantasy to release the energy of anger When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourselfNoticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t controlThe critical choice of what to do with the energy of angerBeing informed by our anger instead of reacting out of itChanneling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging waysGetting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other peopleGetting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our angerWhen we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodiesSetting the intention of doing no harm That fear is often underneath angerNot acting out of anger because it can be abusiveLinks to Other Episodes:Rick HansonHilary Jacobs HendelRuth KingDavid Richo
The certified psychoanalyst, author of It's Not Always Depression:Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self and AEDP psychotherapist opens up about her struggles with perfectionism and equating value with achievements, mistakes she has made as a parent, listening to our bodies, discovering our core emotions, how depression can misdiagnosed and advice on bringing about change in our lives using the change triangle. More About Our Guest  For more information, free resources for mental health, and Hilary's blog visit: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ Facebook.com/AuthorHilaryJacobsHendel: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorHilaryJacobsHendel/ Twitter: @HilaryJHendel Instagram: Hilary Jacobs Hendel The Change Triangle YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxRHckyznerWhoSkPBozgfA Support Our Sponsors!  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling.  To get a free week go to www.BetterHelp.com/mental  Must be 18.  This episode is sponsored by HoneyBook.  For 50% off your first year use promo code MENTAL This episode is sponsored by Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered, the audiobook by Karen Kilgariff & Georgia Hardstark.  Find it wherever you buy your audiobooks. This episode is sponsored by NewChapter Vitamins.  Find them at the Vitamin Shoppe, Whole Foods or your local health food store. This episode is sponsored by the Jordan Harbinger Show podcast.  To subscribe go to www.JordanHarbinger.com/subscribe   WAYS TO HELP THE PODCAST ______________________ Subscribe via iTunes and leave a review.  It costs nothing. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2 ————————————————————————— Spread the word via social media.   It costs nothing. Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod  -------------------------------------------------------- Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod    Become a one-time or monthly donor via Paypal  or Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Try Our Sponsor’s Products/Services ---------------------------------------------------  
Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others. RxBar & RxNut Butter wants to build delicious food the right way – with transparency on their simple, real ingredients. Get 25% off your first order of their best seller variety pack. Use URL http://www.rxbar.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF at checkout (the US only)Ancestry DNA- unlock your family story – the perfect holiday gift. To get it for the special price of $59 use URL http://www.ancestry.com/wolfIn This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic SelfThe 7 C’s of our authentic selfThe science and biology of emotionsThe change triangleThe Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual ExcitementThe 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and ShameHow core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressedInhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotionsHow to work The Change TriangleTrauma vs traumaThe power of naming your emotionsOur open-hearted stateWhen our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process themGrounding and breathingThe role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerveAll core emotions have impulses associated with themHow harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can beRelating to ourselves as a small childHealthy shame vs toxic shameHilary Jacobs Hendel LinksHomepageTwitter
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