Today, Jared and Stefanie had the privilege to do our first interview with the amazing Dr. Valerie Shayman Southerland. She has such an enjoyable spirit and has extensive experience with mental health.Today we talked about Vicarious trauma. What it is? How to recognize it and how to seek treatment? It is a very interesting topic that most people probably don't consider or talk about enough.I hope you enjoy and as always be kind to one another!About Valarie:Dr. Valerie Shayman Southerland has been privileged to carry out a career in diverse fields but with the common threads of crisis management and serving those struggling with the effects of trauma. Dr. Shayman Southerland has developed threat assessment teams for educational institutions and participated in efforts for mass shooting recovery, worked in crisis management in colleges and universities, served as a suicide interventionist and responder to survivors of sexual assault, and designed and launched a family-centered treatment program for CPS-involved families struggling with addiction. Currently, Dr. Shayman Southerland is the program manager for the Spokane Regional Mental Health Court, which aims to break the cycle of untreated mental illness and criminal behavior. Dr. Shayman Southerland holds a bachelor’s degree in electronic media, a master’s degree in higher education administration, and a Ph.D. in leadership studies. Resources from this episode: Stewardship: An Everyday Guide To Caring For Self While Caring For Others to our Spotify playlist:MindCruisers.comorMind Cruisers MusicAs always get in contact with us @: don't forget to review us on apple or podchaser.Lastly, thank you so much for listening.
In this episode, Stefanie and Jared talk about what effects covid- 19 (corona virus) has had on their lives and give our thoughts on what it all means. We also wanted to hold space for all of the people out there struggling in these times. We are all in this together and its important to us that everyone knows that. We give thanks to the hard working people still out there working in these times and play a wonderful song from Keith Eastwood. As always please reach out for help if you need it. We are willing to help or guide you to the help you need. Thanks for listening and we will see you again soon. MCPlease contact us @
In this show, we talk about the latest news in mental health and dive into seasonal affective disorder. We talk about what it is? What are the symptoms? and potential treatments. The conversation then morphs into many other things regarding the mind and mental health. Lastly, we showcase Mike Love's music and play his song No Regrets with permission. This show was a lot of fun and we hope you enjoy. As always contact the show at Theme music: Keith Easwood Showcase artist- Mike Love, also on Instagram @Mikelovemusic  and Facebook @  MikeLove808.
Codependency - We have talked about trauma and addiction and how it effects your relationships including any codependent relationships you may have in your life in the moment. We discussed the signs of codependency including trying to change or control others, having little to no boundaries, not knowing who you are and what you like to do to make you happy, thinking about if you can function alone or if you feel that you "need" someone to be there every step of the way through your life. Now, these aspects in relationships are not always a bad thing, we understand that people who have any type of relationship can have blurred lines in regards to their own boundaries. Interdependency is a concept that I am working hard to understand and enact in my own life. Interdependency is taking responsibility for your own actions, knowing your own interests, not overextending yourself in relationships....but still being able to respect the wants and needs of others while maintaining your own healthy boundaries that keep you feeling whole. Now if you are feeling that you have any of the signs of codependency...or any of the other traits that we have talked about and you want to is possible. You just have to do the work to get there. Think about reading books about codependency versus interdependency, learn to love yourself and figure out what your hobbies are. Ask yourself...what do I want for my life? What are my individual goals? What do I like to do, to make me happy? I will always mention and recommend talking to a therapist about your concerns and learn coping skills if you are lacking those traits. And remember...think about how hard it is to change yourself....and you will understand how little of a chance you have to change others.   Source: Book-“You're Not Crazy - You're Codependent” by Jeanette Elisabeth Menter Music by: Keith Eastwood - Mind Cruisers resources: *Disclaimer This podcast in meant to bring awareness and hope to those in the mental health struggle. It should not be used as a substitute for seeking professional help. There are many resources listed below:
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Aug 22nd, 1986
Seattle, Washington, United States of America
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18 hours, 29 minutes