I had a friend reach out to me on Facebook yesterday with a question that prompted this podcast episode. And bear with me here… I think with this transition and move some of the upcoming podcast episodes are going to have more of a ‘life theme’ to them, but I’ll do my best to share how it relates to my business and where I’m taking things, and more importantly, how that can help you. Here was the question I received: “Hey Kim! Hope you’re doing well! I just read your email about the clean slate and it honestly got me thinking about my future on a lot of things. Things aren’t going well with my current job and I haven’t been happy in a while. My boss offered to pay me for one more month so I can find something else if my heart isn’t completely in it, and I don’t think that it is anymore. I know you have a lot going on and I’m sorry to bombard you with that, but after your email it seemed like maybe you had some insight that I don’t on things! Hope you’re well.” I’m going to give you my response, and then we’ll dig deeper into what I mean by it and how you might be able to implement this in your own life and business. My response: “Hey (his name)! You’re not bombarding me. My insight comes from lots of trial, error, and tenacity (hence the podcast title). From my understanding, you want to have your own business. If you’re not sure exactly what that looks like, that’s perfectly fine. And I get needing a job while you figure that out. However, if you’re enjoying the job, I’d start looking ASAP for something else that feels better in terms of a means to an end. When you focus on where you want to be as opposed to where you are, you’d be surprised at what shows up!” We went back and forth a bit more, I sent him a link to a Dr. Joe Dispenza video on YouTube, and it really got me thinking. I don’t know about you, but I used to put so much pressure on myself to be somewhere else, do more, have more, accomplish more, etc., that I’ve robbed myself of much of the journey and the joy that can only come from being present in the moment. Obviously, with my decision to move to Costa Rica, I’m not doing that anymore (or at least if I do I can tell you that it’s a conscious decision), but it’s been through life experiences that I’ve figured that out. I talk to both of my kids about this stuff a lot. I’ve told them both that they are so far ahead of the game if they can “get” this stuff now… the world is their oyster. One thing I want to share that I originally shared with my son and also with my friend on FB yesterday (he’s about 20 yrs younger than me) is this: “What I do for a living didn’t exist when I was his age.” My son is only 20, and my daughter is 24. I want them both to follow their hearts, do what they love, and make the most of their lives, whatever that looks like to them. I think it’s safe to say that my life is nothing like I thought it would be (when I said that to my therapist one time she was like “ya think?” Meaning… that’s the case for most people). When I was 24 I was dating my husband, we knew we’d get married, have kids, and thought we’d live the typical, traditional, suburban life. When all that was taken from me I did a lot of soul-searching. It’s taken years (and a lot of courage & conscious work), to really own that I want something different. The same can be said for running an online business. When we’re starting an online business (and/or growing it), we all do the same thing (which makes sense). We do some research, we dig in, we study, we find some sort of mentor/guru/guide that helps us get started. That could be in the form of finding someone you resonate with via a podcast or hiring an actual coach. For the sake of this podcast episode, let’s focus on an online business in terms of being a coach, author, course creator, or e-commerce store owner. When I first started back in 2008 I hired a coach and signed up for a social media course (which was pretty much in its infancy)....
It's been a while since I've started a post or podcast with a quote (and I guess technically I'm not since I'm explaining it before I share it... 🤣), but this feels appropriate for this episode. Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come.- Victor HugoHopefully, you're not tired of hearing this (yet), but I shared last week that I am officially moving to Costa Rica! Of course, I'm scared... but I'm doing it anyway (and much more excited than I am scared).This has been something I've been thinking about for probably close to 10 years (not necessarily Costa Rica, but moving out of the country). It started from a place of curiosity and wonder, pivoted to other reasons over the years (let's face it, the United States has had some serious challenges), and now my reasons have shifted again. Of course, the curiosity and wonder are still there, but now it's because I have a massive desire to experience something different. I've never really been someone who wanted to live in a city (I do appreciate visiting a city from time to time), and have spent my entire life in suburbia. I honestly never wanted anything else until 2002. In 2002 I was a best friend's wedding in Italy (her husband is Italian, my daughter was the flower girl and I was a bridesmaid). That trip changed everything for me. I hadn't even been that interested in traveling, to be honest. Once you get outside of your comfort zone and realize how much more there is to experience in the world you see things differently. Even if you don't want to live out of the country or travel much, having those experiences are invaluable. Once I went to Italy I craved those experiences and I knew I wanted that for my kids. I took them to Scotland in 2013, then my daughter and I went to the South of France in 2015 (she's since traveled with friends to Paris and London). They have plenty of time for travel and both have a desire to see and experience things outside of their day-to-day (my job here is done). Back to Costa Rica... Costa Rica wasn't really on my radar until my therapist told me she had property there. Every now and then I would ask her a little bit about her experiences there, why she liked it so much, etc., which then made me look a little deeper into the country itself. When I first started thinking about it I wasn't sure if I really could do it... but over the years, like anything else in life, you start to realize what you really want. I started my business because I wanted FREEDOM. Freedom to be home for my kids, not have to commute, and create the quality of life I wanted. I have always felt like there was something else I was supposed to do with my life (outside of having a job and work for someone else), I never really knew what that was, I simply kept pursuing it. And side note: I say this to my son all the time (he's 20). What I do for a living didn't even exist when I was his age! There is something to be said for having the tenacity and simply continuing to move forward. I've decided I'm going to do a separate site for my journey to and in Costa Rica. I've got the domain name and will be sharing that soonish. I'll do some updates here as well, but if you want to follow that journey in more depth I'll let you know where to subscribe. I'm even toying with the idea of doing a podcast so I can interview other entrepreneurs and business owners in the local area... which feels like it would be a great way to connect with people (so yea, it's a little self-serving). Being scared and doing it anyway You might be wondering what all this has to do with my business. Or better yet, YOUR business. It has everything to do with it. So often I see people waiting to have everything perfect or they have a preconceived idea of what they need in place before they launch something, make an offer, or publish. With instant access to compare ourselves, it's hard not to feel like we should be doing more, be more, have more... the "more" never...
Kyle Van Deusen joined me on the podcast again (it's been a long while) and we went deep into Facebook groups, newsletters, and email marketing. Kyle is the founder of OGAL Web Design, The Admin Bar Facebook group, and the new WordPress plugin, Docket WP.
Inspiration can come from so many places if you keep your mind open.I can remember back to being a little kid and making plans with my friends. You had big ideas and big dreams… you didn’t let the “outrageousness” of the dream hinder you from making the plans, right? This cracks me up as I think about it… in the 4th grade, one of my best friends and I talked about how we were going to be rock stars. I was really into music when I was a child, I played piano and was in a children’s choir. We spent so much time drawing our outfits and planning our performances (I don’t remember what we were going to call ourselves). I wish I could remember when we pivoted to the next great idea, but that’s not the point. The point is how we felt while we were “in it.” You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? As entrepreneurs we connect with the excitement of the idea and the planning phases on a regular basis (if we’re lucky). The novelty and excitement can wear off once you start digging in and doing the work, but if it’s right, you keep going. Finding Inspiration I’ll admit it… I can be a bit of a nut when it comes to information. I jokingly said to my therapist that I wish I could get paid to read. Her response? Spot on as always, “well, you do. You take what you’ve read and learned, implement it, and apply that knowledge to what you’re doing.” That being said, there does come a point where you have to consume much less than you create. For me, I have routines for consumption. I allow myself time in the morning when I’m having my first coffee, or when I’m having lunch, or even after my work day is over (I tend to leave my office in the late afternoon, and then pick up my laptop again after dinner). Now that I have two newsletters (https://kimdoyal.com/fthehustle (#FtheHustle )here and https://contentcreatorsplanner.com/category/creativity-published/ (Creativity Published) with Jodi on Content Creators Planner), my consumption has a more direct impact on what I’m doing (can I get an Amen?). I’ve started creating a little bit more structured process for note taking and gathering. There are things I gather to share and there are things I gather for myself. All of this has led me to discovering new people and places that inspire me. What a gift! For the sake of keeping this somewhat focused, I’m going to use the internet marketing/online marketing space as my example here. There is no shortage of experts, influencers, or guru’s to follow in this space. And let’s remove all judgment about how we feel about any of those people… let’s just look at the facts (because I have no doubt some of the people that come to mind when I use those terms may trigger something in you, that’s O.K.). Like you I’m sure, I have my “go to” people that I follow, read, or listen to. On one hand, this is great. You know who inspires you, who you resonate with, and what you like about them. On the other hand, it can lead to challenges that create that feeling of being “stuck” in your business. There are a lot of “names” I’ve followed or listened to in the past that I don’t follow or listen to anymore. And it’s for one simple reason. I’ve outgrown them. When we change and grow the people who brought us to a certain level aren’t necessarily going to be the same ones who take us to the “next level” (that poor saying is so overused and annoying, but it is what it is). Even when these people have significantly scaled and grown their businesses, what they’re doing may no longer relevant to what you’re doing OR… they’re still serving the same audience (which is smart because they know who they serve and how to help them) and you’re beyond that. Here’s the challenge with this. It might be hard to put your finger on it, but as you grow and learn in your business you need to be challenged. Often what happens is people simply move from tactic to tactic as opposed to going deeper (i.e, they go wider). I was listening to a podcast...
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