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org. Hello
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everyone, and welcome to another episode of One D
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Words or Less the podcast. I'm your host,
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Ray Harkins, Thank you for joining us.
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Today is a very special day, very special
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episode. A lot of specialness going on here.
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The guest this week is Brittany Drake, the
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vocalist and guitarists from the band Pity
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Sex, who are incredible. More unheard
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a minute. I want to get this announcement out of the
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way. So, oh, something
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I've been working on for quite some time, and I
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got clued into this website via my
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good friend Corey, who also does some cool
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podcasts. If you're a baseball fan, go
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check out his Ivy Envy
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podcast. It's uh, it's specifically
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focuses on the Chicago Cubs,
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but if you like baseball you'll enjoy it. So
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anyways, that plug out of the way. So there's
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this website. It's called Patreon p
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A T R e O N,
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which is basically a patron some
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some version of that. So anyways, I've always
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thought of a way or I've always been searching
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for a way to be like, Okay, clearly,
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this show takes a lot of time for
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me and my editor
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Tom. It just there's a lot of time putting
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this together. And since I don't do this as my
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full time profession, sometimes it's hard
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because I'm like, Okay, I'm spending some of my own
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cash in order to keep this going. And that's
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fine. I don't care because I was going to do it regardless.
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But there has to be a creative way in which
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you the listener that are a fan of
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the show. Because I've interacted with
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a lot of you, a lot of you email me on a regular basis
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and we become friendly either on
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social networks or like I said, via email,
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and it's something that's super special to me
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because there are people that have just blown
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my mind in regards to what they've shared with
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me, what they get out
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of the show, and it's just awesome. And anyways,
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I didn't want to do a kickstarter, didn't want to
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do this whole like okay, we got thirty days. Otherwise,
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the show is going to go away. The show is not going
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away, no matter what you do. From
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this point on, you will always get a
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free podcast a week. That's
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just a reality. But for those of you that feel
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invested and feel this is worth your time
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and what I'm coming to you for money
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investing in That's what I'm looking for in
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order to for one, help
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the show sound better. For two, to get
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my editor and producer Tom paid,
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because he puts so much time into this
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and he works a full time job. He basically
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fits us in between like the hours
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of probably one am and three am,
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and I just I am so thankful
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for him for doing that. So as much as is I would
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like to make this my career, which you know, if
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you guys are crazy and decided to start
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giving a lot of money, then so be it. I'll do this full
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time. I'll hang out with a bunch of people, I'll fly
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all over the place. I'll be a journalist. But
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I don't foresee that happening. But what I do
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foresee happening is some of you being like, hey,
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I'll give a few dollars a month to this
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show, and that's all I'm looking for.
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So basically, if you visit this page
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patreon dot com, backslash
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the letter X purpose X,
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which for those of you that pay attention to be
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online. That is like every single
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online avatar that I've ever had, some stages
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of probably about fifteen Patreon dot
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com, backslash x, purpose X. And
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what you will be able to do is you will be able to
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contribute a monthly fee
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to the show. And what does that mean. It's
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like, okay, for two dollars a month,
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I'm just gonna support this show. I'm
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gonna be like, yo, this is worth this much
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money and I want to give this to them them
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A K A me. Keep in mind, I have to pay
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taxes on this stuff. I'm not like walking away
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being like all right, sweet act free money
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like awesome. No, this is a legit
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above the board operation. Basically, it's
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a combination Kickstarter slash fund drive
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is this will have no end date. But what's
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awesome about it is it does have a lot of cool rewards.
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So, like, the biggest reward is like you
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contribute a large amount of when I
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say large, you contribute a decent
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chunk size of money a month, I'll interview
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you. That's it, and it'll be awesome and I'll publish it
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down the line as a as an actual episode
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of the show, and then there's also stickers,
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there's buttons, there is
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exclusive newsletters, there's a bunch
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of fun stuff that I've worked really hard
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to put together. There's a video on the page
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Patreon dot com, backslash
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ex purpose x, and you will be able
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to contribute all of course publishers on
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my social network. So if you forget the website,
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it's totally fine. You can either email me
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or just look on any social network and
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you'll be able to find it. But anyways, that is
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what I want to do with you, guys. I
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want to help build this thing. I want to be able
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to make the show sound awesome.
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I would love to be able to fly to places to interview
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people, like just stuff that's
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hard for me to do right now because obviously
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I just don't have the resources to do it. So
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there you are, my hat in hand. I'm
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coming to you being like, hey, if you feel this is worth
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something, pay something that's awesome. I
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would really appreciate it. And even if you don't,
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that's fine. Let me put it this way. If the amount
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of people that download this show on a weekly basis
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decide to give like one dollar
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a month, that will be murdering
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goals that I have set for this thing, you
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know, honestly thousands and thousands of dollars,
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and it would be like, holy crap, I
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don't know what to do with all this. But that's not true, because
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I do know what to do with all this. I would put it right
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back into the show because I have
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a full time job. Everything's fine. From that perspective.
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All I want to do is make this show better
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for you. Enough of me rambling. Let's talk
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about Brittany. So Pitty Sex
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came across my table desk whatever you
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like. Can call it a while back, just vi a run for Cover,
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because they have released an epin of full length
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on that label, and it was one of
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those things where it got described to me like, oh yeah,
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it's kind of like Joy Division, post Punky
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inter Pool, like all the stuff that just
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completely rings my bell. I I love
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all that stuff, and I was so excited to check it out. I
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listened to it, and while it didn't live
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up to those expectations, it was really
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really good, especially for
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a younger band, because there are all all
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the members of this band are essentially in their early to
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mid twenties, and so I immediately just kind of started
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looking around at the band and seeing what they were doing.
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And it was cool because the thing that struck
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me about them is that they don't take themselves seriously
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as far as their online persons are concerned.
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They don't try to be you know, this serious,
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dark, brooding band that comes out in
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their music and their lyrical content. And
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they also do this band on their own terms. Like you
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know, they all go to school, they all have lives outside
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of the band, and I just find it so
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cool that you can have these two
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polar opposite sides of your life that
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inform one another. Anyways, we talked about
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that. Brittany was awesome. She was She
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was a little nervous, but she killed it. She did
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such a good job. She she told me before
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we started the interview, She's like, I've never done anything
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like this before. I'm like, trust me, it'll be okay.
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So anyways, here's my conversation with Brittany, and I'll
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talk to you afterwards sort
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of entry points or introduction
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to kind of you know you and your your your
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music and stuff like that, because we
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we have a lot of mutual friends, but we've obviously
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never met each other. And yeah, I don't think we've
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been in the same room. But anyways, regardless,
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once once your bands kind of popped up into
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my own personal radar. It was one of those things
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where I mean, and I know this
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is a common reaction and you will
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probably explain yourself times
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moving forward, but it's like, there's no way
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to say your band's name not awkward,
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Like that's impossible. Like yeah,
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even in putting this in my calendar, it
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was like, uh, Brittany Pretty Sex,
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Like, clearly I have I have Pretty
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Sex scheduled with you at one o'clock this afternoon.
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It's like, yes, so I'm sure,
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I'm sure. I mean, obviously, I presume the
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intention is to make it extremely awkward
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for people to to say your band name
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in any in any context. Am
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I allowed to talk about it? Right now? We're
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recording, we're recording, we're in we're going, okay,
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I just want to make sure we're in the mix right now. Okay.
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Actually the name was already
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a name before I joined the band. I moved
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here from Grand Rapids and moved
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in with the rest of the Pitty Sexers,
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and they had already I was like a fan,
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Like, I mean, they were my friends, but I was like, I really
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like your band, guys, and
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they were like, you know, we really want to like
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change things up a little bit and have some keemale
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vocals and stuff, So do you want to join? And I was like,
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yeah, sure, And I didn't
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really think much as a name because it
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was already so ingrained in my brain, like it's
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just like a band. But when I
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told my parents about it, I was kind of like, yeah,
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so I joined a new band UM called
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Pity Sex uh. And
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now I mean, like now
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I am used to how um
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people react to it and kind of just say,
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yeah, they chose the name before I was in the band,
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but it was actually their friend who is now
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a model, and he
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was the one who came up with the name, as
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I think, like kind of a joke, and
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then it just kind of stuck and now it's
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it's worked out beneficially for us.
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I would say, oh yeah, there's
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definitely an element of controversy
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and baggage that immediately goes into the
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band name. So it's like people, you know, people
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will undoubtedly judge your band solely
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off of the name. They'll be like, oh yeah, oh,
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I see where they're coming. From yeah, But at
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the same time, at least it inspires
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that discussion with people being like, yo,
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what's up with that band? Like what why? Why would they
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even name themselves that? That's crazy? Yeah,
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well you yourself like walking into it.
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What's been the most awkward situation that
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you've obviously had to I mean, is it the conversation
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you had with your parents where it's like, yeah, so I'm in
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this band or what are the random
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context it's been like, oh, really, that's
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what you're doing. My parents they're just kind
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of like whatever, you know, like Brittany's
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in a band again. I would say in school
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it happens a lot like I'll like have
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to take time or not take time
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off, but like have to fis a
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section of a class or something to do
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something related to the band, and
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I'll tell my professor and uh,
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They're usually just like, oh, cool, what's
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your band's name? And I'm either
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lie or just like come up
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with something off the top of my head because I just don't want
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to have that conversation. But there's been a few
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instances where I have not had anything
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else to come up, you know, to like lie
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with, and just
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told them the band names, and and that
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was just mostly with students, and they usually
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react actually pretty pretty well.
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I don't think anybody has like judged me
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too much based on that. Sure,
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sure, I imagine too, because it's like it's
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it's a different story if it's in the context
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like obviously you being female, that's
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loaded already totally, and so it's
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like, you know, a guy to say that is kind of
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like, you know, there's that sort of like not
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saying that the rest of your band members have a
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macho attitude, but there's that like, oh, yeah,
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we're called pitty sex, like what of it? But
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you as a female, it's like kind of like, yeah,
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there's it's called this. That's
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exactly how I say it too, and like we're called
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pitty sex. It's like a
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question mark at the end. Yeah, Like I
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don't though if I am allowed to tell you this
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in public. It's definitely
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not a comfortable um conversation
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for the most part. And people also I'm like worried
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that people won't take it seriously and
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like, you know, oh, I'm doing this thing, I have to
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take time to time off from this, um
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what's your man called pitty sex? And then they're like Okay,
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well no you're not. You're not going to take
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time after that. Yeah,
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no, that's that's definitely true. And I don't
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mean to belabor the point. It's I just wanted
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to highlight the fact that you obviously have to
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you know, struggle with that and figure out
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how that relates to the
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outside world and you, like you said,
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just having to kind of step into this and be, you
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know, be a part of it with being like, well, I
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have to figure out how to do this. It
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could have been worse. That's like, that's just how
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I've kind of thought about it, Like it could have been something really
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offensive or something. It's at least
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something that people most of the time, like we've had
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to cross borders and stuff, and when
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they ask a start name, they just laugh and
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they're like, all right, go go ahead. That's
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incredible. It's like you're almost diffusing
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the situation with with humor that It's
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like, there's that soh you
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mentioned like you said you moved to because
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you're in ann Arbor right now, correct, And
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you so you moved there from from
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Grand Rapids you said there
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before you were born in Grand
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Rapids. I was born in Lansing Michigan,
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but moved to Grand Rapids when
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I was like eighteen or something. I think so,
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but your your formative years you were in Lansing, right,
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yes, near Landing, Grand
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Ledge, Michigan. It's like an un nowhere,
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Okay. And so because
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that that is an area that I haven't spent very
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much time and personally like that because
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in northern Michigan is you know,
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not many bands too or through there. I mean, I think I
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it's like the only times I played in Michigan were like Detroit
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and like Yippsilanti, which was terrifying
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in and of itself. Yes, yeah, so I would like it's
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a very rural area. I imagine that you you
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grew up in. It was suburban
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more so than rural. U there was like
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farms and stuff, but there was like definitely
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kids that lived in the what
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I would consider the city.
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Granted it was a really small city
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and we were right next to East Lansing which
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is Michigan State University, so there
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was like I guess, more urban areas
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around. It wasn't like completely rural.
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I definitely had I had a backyard
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though, like I like hung out in the woods and
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stuff. So it wasn't like, you know, downtown
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anywhere, right you strike
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me, you know, just I'm just
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placing I wouldn't even call it judgment, but I'm
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I'm inferring from how you you know, you
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present yourself that you were very artistically
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inclined a little girl, and you were spending
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a lot of time out in the woods rather than you
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know, hanging out with your barbies. You know, not
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not to say there's anything wrong with hanging out with barbies, because
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that's that's you know, that's okay. Actually that's
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funny because I I just never owned
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a barbie. I never really wanted one,
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and I loved like that's like what I used
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to pride, not pride myself out, but I would be like,
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you know, like I never I was such a tomboy
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that barbies were. I also
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thought that they smelled weird for some reason,
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and like just really didn't even want to touch
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them. So you're correct in that aspect.
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But at the same time, I um,
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like I said, I was a I was like a tomboy,
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and I just wanted to hang out with my brother who
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was like two years He's two years older
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than me, and so we just kinda got
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along for most of our childhood and
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kind of want he was like my role model,
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Like I want to be like him, and
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um, he is not
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artistic whatsoever, so I
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would and I kind of
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my parents wanted me to be
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the artistic child because of
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he is a cheat. He's actually a
15:24
genius. So they were kind of like, well,
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we need to give you something too, like he's
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good at this, but you're really artistic.
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Um, but I actually have not like very
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good at anything you know that is
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traditionally associated with art. Um,
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I'm good at crafting, but I'm not good
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at anything like artistically.
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Sure you can repurpose things,
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but maybe it's difficult for you
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to create something completely out of nothing,
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so to speak. Yes, I have no depth
15:54
perception or like mostly the visual
15:56
arts, I just don't get it. And I was like, I
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appreciate other people can do it, I
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just can't do it myself. But they kind of
16:03
pushed that on me a little bit, and so I was like,
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oh, I'm not that's not me. M
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M. That's so that's interesting. So you said your
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brother is two years older than you, and
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so so did you kind of just
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basically be like you said that sort of tomboy
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girl trying to, um, you know,
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just play play the play the sports
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your brother was playing and just kind of following his
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foot, didn't I probably
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didn't play sports, okay or
16:28
be active. Um yeah, we
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were like I mean, my brother was straight up
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he still is a nerd, and
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um like that's what I associated
16:37
with being a tomboy. Kind of interesting,
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yeah, because I I, yeah, I immediately
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connected the tomboyishness with you
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know, I mean girls that I was in like elementary school
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with that would you know, play tether ball with me
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and kind of kick my ass. So like that's what I equate
16:51
to a tomboy rabbit. So that's funny that you
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look at this sort of nerd archetype
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and or like, oh, yeah, that's like a tomboy.
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Uh. I mean, let's
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to say I was sporty spice, like whenever
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we picked, like, I was definitely sporty spice.
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But I wasn't good at sports either,
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So it wasn't it definitely wasn't my forte.
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It wasn't his either, got it? Got it? So
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he would buy all definitions of the term kind
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of more of a more of an indoor
17:18
kid and was was playing with his
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uh, you know, computer so to speak. Oh,
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yeah, he was. He loved those computers.
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He builds them now, it's crazy.
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He's always been very much into
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them. And that was he was an indoor kid.
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But we would like, like I said, we would like hang
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out in the woods and stuff. So,
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yeah, I'm trying to paint the picture where like you would be,
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you are sensitive to the world around you.
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But yeah, but not not to the point where you know, you're climbing
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trees and swinging off of you know, ropes
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into lakes and stuff like that. Not
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in the lakes. No, we did have We did have
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actually like a rope swing
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like thing that we made, and there was a
17:56
few times that we tried to build forts out there,
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but we never we
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we didn't really do anything too dangerous. I think my
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mom kind of instilled less it if we did anything
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even remotely adventurous, but we would just die
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or something. So we just kind of kept by
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the rules. Sure, sure, yeah,
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you kept thinking safe and so so
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your your family structure was your mom and dad
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and you and your brother and what did your what'd your parents do
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for a living as they were you were growing up. My mom
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was an actuary. I don't know, like nobody
18:24
knows what that is. I still have
18:26
like a hard time understanding what it is, even though she
18:28
did that forever. She uh
18:31
something to do with worsk analysis and insurance.
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Yeah, I think, I
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think, if I'm not mistaken, you are an
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actuary. Is the person that
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isn't necessarily like going out in the
18:42
field and and you know, looking at
18:44
something that happened. But those are
18:46
the people that are you know, taking
18:49
the you know, one billion scenarios
18:51
that happens when something, you know, something
18:54
goes wrong and putting like some sort
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of value on it from an insurance standpoint.
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Yeah, that was basically that
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was basically what she did. But she also did
19:04
she had spreadsheets
19:07
for just like she wasn't very
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much a number's job. That's
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that's all I really know. Um, And
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my dad was the computer programmer.
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Um, but I like, I don't
19:19
think that he ever did any computer programming
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at his job. I think that was just his title. It
19:24
was just like a dude that in another
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insurance company, So that's
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all he did. So, yeah, you you were
19:30
surrounded by people who were very analytical
19:33
and very deliberate about what they were doing. Oh,
19:35
yeah, Oh definitely. I think my my
19:37
dad is not so much. UM
19:40
he like hated his job, so
19:43
I wouldn't really associate him too much with that.
19:46
He but he he is in some respectful
19:48
a lot my brother and mom definitely,
19:51
I would say that describe
19:53
them being in that kind of environment. And like
19:55
you said, your parents were trying to foster the sort
19:57
of you know, they
20:00
wanted to encourage you to fill a role that
20:02
you didn't particularly identify with. UM,
20:04
you know, was that you know, was that difficult
20:07
for you kind of like trying to navigate those waters
20:09
to be like, well, I don't I don't identify
20:11
with this, but I don't necessarily know where
20:13
I want to kind of point myself towards. Absolutely,
20:16
I something that like I've talked to them about, So
20:18
it's not like coming out of nowhere or anything.
20:21
UM, And I was able, Like, I think it's
20:23
kind of something that not most people of
20:25
a lot of people don't really consider how
20:27
their parents might have tried
20:29
to shape them as you were growing as they were
20:31
growing up. But I was always kind of just trying to
20:33
figure out what was going on. If that
20:36
was difficult for you to obviously try to
20:38
um, you know, because especially if at an early age,
20:40
if they are kind of setting you on a
20:42
path and you don't identify
20:44
with that path. So I presume that was difficult
20:47
for you to kind of try to find your own way
20:49
from that perspective. Oh
20:52
yeah, no it was. But in the same
20:54
respect, like I
20:56
I in some instances,
20:59
I some times wish that they would have like pushed
21:01
me in a more academic kind of um
21:04
direction because I think that I
21:07
had like I would be in
21:09
a different place now if they had.
21:12
Nonetheless, I'm very happy with where I actually
21:14
did end up, and I don't
21:16
think that I would have as good as a grasp
21:19
on who I actually am and what I
21:21
actually enjoy if they hadn't
21:23
pushed me in kind of false directions. So
21:26
it really wasn't something that was like traumatizing
21:29
or anything like that. It was just kind of something
21:31
that I would recognized later on in life.
21:34
I mean, in hearing you speak and seeing
21:36
how you kind of present yourself. You know you're because
21:38
you're in your early twenties, right, Yes, I know,
21:40
I'm not. I'm not going to do the typical you're not supposed
21:42
to ask a girl her age, but I'll just I'll give you the ballpark
21:45
though, but yeah, you see, you strike me, you know,
21:47
as as a more mature person than
21:49
um. You know, some people are like you know, I look
21:52
at other people who I've met, and even
21:54
when I was in my early twenties, you don't
21:56
think of yourself. All you are is you're kind
21:58
of existing. You know, you're just like in the fast
22:00
paced motion thing, especially when
22:02
you're obviously involved in like music
22:04
and being creative. You know, you don't have
22:07
it, you don't have an opportunity to like reflect
22:09
on yourself. And it sounds like you've obviously
22:11
done a lot of that introspection already,
22:14
um, which, like you said, it helps
22:17
you set up for knowing yourself
22:19
better earlier on in life. Oh absolutely,
22:21
I'm like in the psych field so,
22:24
and I think that's what pushed me towards it. I've always
22:26
had like a meta cognition about myself
22:28
that has like pushed
22:31
me towards it. Um, And
22:33
it's always interested me. I've always like more
22:36
mar so myself and other people just kind
22:38
of tried to understand why I feel the
22:40
way that I feel and things like that. Um.
22:43
So, I would say that I have spent a
22:45
decent amount of time, um, kind
22:48
of doing that introspection you're
22:50
looking to you know, enter a field in which you
22:53
you obviously have to do that from a professional
22:55
standpoint. Yeah, it's actually it's
22:57
funny because like you actually learned not to
22:59
do that at all because
23:02
in two of the vances are usually wrong.
23:05
Um, and wasn't like
23:07
dis your own I
23:09
guess hunches. So
23:12
it's kind of me was like
23:15
combo of of um, you
23:17
know, like what led me into the field. I'll
23:19
have to not kind of like some room. And
23:22
so as you you know, as you were you were growing
23:24
up, and obviously as you started to you know in her high
23:26
school and those those formative years when
23:28
didn't like independent music in general, kind
23:30
of start to you know percolate um.
23:33
And you know, you you self
23:35
self describe in other you know, interviews
23:38
that you've done in regards to, you know, reference
23:40
yourself as a goth with you
23:42
or or maybe referencing yourself going through a
23:44
goth phase. So was that was that kind
23:47
of your first entry point as far as independent
23:49
music is concerned. Oh? No,
23:51
I like metal core, Like I was like really
23:53
into like the Christian metal
23:56
core. Did did you come from a
23:58
religious household, not part
24:00
particularly my dad is
24:02
now like they're like they're religious,
24:05
Um, but we didn't go to church or anything,
24:08
Okay, not really. It
24:10
was like an independent thing. I still
24:13
am pretty religious and like
24:16
in a loose sense of the word, but
24:20
yeah, I don't it was it
24:22
was a lot to do with like the
24:25
the people as well as
24:27
like that that drove me into the Christian
24:30
mel car Yeah, well because
24:32
I think, I mean, it's funny because so many people,
24:34
um, you know, have such a negative
24:36
opinion of that, you know, that that
24:39
specific style of music. But it's like i
24:41
mean, even in my formative years, like that was
24:43
still because this is like you know, like late nineties,
24:45
so it's like you know, I mean that's when Tooth
24:48
and Nail and Solid State started to absolutely
24:50
explode and it was like almost unavoidable.
24:52
But then, like you know, I presume a lot
24:54
of the bands that you know you were intro too, were
24:58
you know, under Oath, Devil, DOUV,
25:00
Worse Product, and like that's sort of like you know, second or
25:02
third generation but still just
25:05
as pervasive. And you know, it's it's
25:07
it's identifying as as a kid where you're
25:09
just like okay, there's this awesome band or being
25:12
loud and you know, doing this, doing
25:14
this cool thing. But then there's kind of, you know, there's an
25:16
additional layer to it of like their convictions
25:18
and you know, faith and everything else that's mixed up
25:20
in it. So is that what was kind of you know, pulling
25:23
you towards that? Oh yeah, I mean that was part
25:25
of it. I didn't really realize
25:27
that a lot of the bands were Christian, to be
25:29
honest, I just kind of got
25:31
into them because they were all on the same label, and
25:34
you know, like you get you find
25:36
one and then it kind of back in those days,
25:38
you couldn't just do it internet search like you
25:41
kind of just had to do an actual like
25:44
some research or you order. I
25:46
remember I would like order a like
25:48
a c D and get one
25:51
of those booklets that has like all
25:53
the labels other releases that you could
25:55
order from the phone.
25:57
Sure, and
26:00
that's how I was actually introduced to like
26:02
to like nineties emo and stuff like
26:04
that that I like really fell into
26:06
after that was because of like I
26:09
don't I'm trying to remember. I have no idea
26:11
what band it would have been, but it's something that you would never associate
26:14
with that um, and
26:16
I just was flipping through the catalog
26:18
and I was like, Oh, that's really cool to like,
26:20
this sounds interesting. How I'll check
26:23
out cap and Jazz. You have
26:25
a weird name. Uh.
26:28
She just kind of spirals from there. Wasn't
26:31
introduced primarily by the people you were
26:33
hanging out with a high school and stuff like that kind
26:35
of there was. I mean, we didn't
26:38
live in a cool place, like a hit cool place.
26:40
So there was like three or
26:42
four people who I was
26:44
who I was friends with there, who um,
26:47
We're like interested in the same thing and like had a
26:49
band and stuff, and they
26:52
would like introduce me to a couple of
26:54
things. But I
26:56
mean I was like I actually
26:59
was expelled right like
27:02
a little after I got interested
27:04
in that type of music, and
27:06
so I just didn't really have that connection
27:09
with anybody from the school. It was more like
27:11
internet connections. I feel like that I got
27:13
um introduced to more music
27:16
from you expelled your junior year. It
27:18
was my sophomore year. It was like the beginning
27:20
of a sophomore year, I think, right. And that
27:23
I mean for anybody that that
27:25
you know, can do a small amount of research,
27:27
can find out about that, so I won't. I
27:29
won't bother you for the story because it's it's
27:32
it is pretty funny. I'm sure it was traumatic at the time.
27:34
Yeah, is it one of those things you look
27:36
back on that time and are bummed
27:38
that it played out like that because you didn't have that sort
27:41
of connectivity. I'm so happy.
27:43
I am so grateful. I wrote
27:45
a letter to the person who like
27:48
basically made me, you know,
27:51
be expelled, and I was like, I'm
27:53
so grateful because I first
27:56
of all, I got a way better education
27:58
because I was homeschooled and and I have
28:00
like teachers who were a tuned
28:02
to my like specific needs
28:05
and they were like pushing more than
28:07
the regular high school curriculum.
28:10
But also I basically graduated
28:13
really early and was able to start my I
28:15
don't know, I'm not not adult life,
28:18
but my like post high school life
28:20
really early, and I feel like that's really shaped
28:23
who I am and changed my perspective.
28:26
And I also was able to kind
28:29
of branch out to see, well other
28:31
people are like like people who aren't
28:33
just from my school. Um,
28:35
because that's kind of like you have a core group at
28:38
high school and then that's all
28:40
you need. That's all it really matters. But because I
28:42
didn't have that I had, I think pushed way more
28:44
into music because that was my
28:46
friend group. That was like who I hung out with,
28:48
and that was the only social life that I really
28:50
had because I wasn't going to a
28:53
a school and being like corralled in with a bunch
28:55
of people every day. R. So I'm
28:57
definitely really grateful. I'm really really
28:59
grateful. At that point, you're forced
29:01
to look for an additional, well
29:03
not an additional, a primary community
29:06
for you to to kind of latch onto and rather
29:08
than you know, like you said, being like, oh, I
29:11
guess I'll go to prom or whatever, you
29:13
know, whatever you have to do because you're a part of high
29:15
school. You hit on an important thing that I think a
29:17
lot of people, um, you know, struggle
29:20
with, is the idea you know, when you're
29:22
in high school, Like there's obviously that feeling of you
29:24
know, being trapped and like when does my life start?
29:26
And like oh man, like there's
29:28
the pull and push of like, okay, when does my life start?
29:30
But at the same time, it's kind of terrifying to graduate
29:33
because you're removed from your comfort
29:35
zone. But the thing that I you
29:37
know, that's that's unique about your story is the
29:39
fact that I feel that people that
29:41
start stuff in high school or are forced
29:44
to do not force, but decide
29:46
to do things differently, whether
29:48
it is like you know, playing a band, or whether it is
29:50
like be expelled. Like having
29:53
having those those outside experiences
29:55
helps you start early quote unquote
29:58
like you're like exactly like you said, Yeah,
30:00
I definitely feel like I got ahead start, even
30:02
though like now I'm still in college and I'm
30:04
totally four, I did get
30:06
ahead start. I just had a couple
30:08
of pauses in between. But even just like in
30:10
my like forming my personality
30:13
and my values and things that I
30:15
enjoy and don't enjoying, like kind of like we
30:18
talked about earlier, getting a feel for who
30:20
I am, those are all things that
30:22
I dealt with because I had Hey, I had
30:24
so much more time and
30:26
be because I like I was kind
30:28
of forced to decide what I wanted to
30:30
do with my time. Nobody was telling me what
30:33
to do. It was just kind of you
30:35
have to figure it out yourself. And
30:37
so did you you know, as you were you know, started
30:39
to go to shows and started to experience
30:42
like that stuff, did
30:44
you immediately have the notion that
30:46
you wanted to, you know, playing bands
30:48
and and kind of do that or was that something that just
30:50
kind of by by default started
30:53
to kind of seep into your life always.
30:56
Well, I've always okay, I I
30:59
was not really I wouldn't
31:01
have ever like consider myself a musician
31:03
or anything like that. Um, but I've always
31:06
been like super into
31:08
singing. Like I was in singing
31:10
lessons when I was little, and it
31:13
was something that I just wanted
31:15
to do all the time. I would like
31:17
put on Tony Braxton and
31:19
like Seline Dian in my room and
31:22
just sting along. I have like karaoke tapes
31:24
that I would just sting along too. I
31:26
really really loved it, and like I mean obviously
31:29
still do. So that was actually what
31:31
pushed me into it. It's not like I ever wanted
31:33
to be like a you know, you know, a band
31:35
or a performer or anything like that. I
31:37
just like I really enjoyed doing
31:39
it. Yeah,
31:42
you like singing, You like the actual act of
31:44
it? Yeah? Like I still
31:46
I get so mad when I'm
31:49
in a car or something and somebody doesn't
31:51
turn it up loud enough to sing along. I'm like, come
31:53
on, why wouldn't you want to It's so much fun.
31:56
It's just something I always wanted to do.
31:59
And my dad has a video tapes of me when
32:01
we're when we were a little and just
32:03
like yelling in the background, I want to sing.
32:07
I guess I always wanted to do it. Yeah,
32:09
that's amazing. Yeah, that was that
32:12
was what pushed me into it. It wasn't like I wanted
32:14
to do it, but it was just an avenue
32:16
for me to do it. And did you know the
32:19
kind of you know, backtracking for a second, but did
32:21
with the you know, with the expulsion and all
32:24
that sort of stuff, Like I presume that
32:26
did that cause huge fraction within your your
32:29
household as far as like the relationship with your parents
32:31
or was that something you were able to kind of, you
32:34
know, navigate without too much
32:36
strife. No, it was really it was really
32:38
bad at the time. I'm really
32:41
fortunate that my parents
32:43
were able to like homeschool me, because I just
32:45
would have not ever finished
32:48
high school otherwise because I was at house arrest
32:50
so I can't go to a different school. And
32:53
it was really bad because my mom had cancer
32:55
and my brother had cancer at the time,
32:58
and so they were like going in and out of chemo
33:01
and I'm sitting there like, oh,
33:03
I staid, minding mean to my teacher,
33:06
and now you have to deal with all this stuff
33:08
and my you know, like
33:10
just even court gates and things like. It was it
33:12
was really really bad. It was traumatic
33:14
for everyone involved. It sounds I mean in
33:17
what you're describing it. I mean that's
33:19
like a million moving parts. So there's
33:21
no way that that wouldn't be stressful
33:23
for not only yourself but everybody else.
33:26
Oh. Absolutely, I mean it was more so everybody
33:28
else. I was like very depressed
33:31
because I couldn't talk to my friends and stuff
33:33
like that, or couldn't see my friends
33:35
and just whatever. Like now
33:37
I look back on it, and I realized that it
33:39
was actually way, way, way worse for it
33:43
wasn't It wasn't all about you, Brittany. That's kind
33:45
of strange, right, I Mean it's
33:48
teenagers, man. When you're a teenager,
33:51
it really is all about you. And
33:53
now I look back, I feel so bad, and I've
33:56
I've made that clear. So
33:58
I presume both your mother
34:00
and your brother have have got through that. Are they still
34:02
battling cancer? Oh? Actually my mom passed
34:05
away from from cancer like two
34:07
years ago. Yeah,
34:09
but she had she had cancer my like
34:12
since I can remember, and she actually
34:14
was very much a fighter. And
34:17
then my brother is fine now he had them
34:19
filma and um, like,
34:21
that's the kind of cancer that would once you
34:23
get rid of it, it stays away, so it's not
34:25
really any danger anymore. So I presume
34:28
I presume that with your your mother passing,
34:30
you're just like acutely aware
34:33
of what, um, you know, how devastating
34:35
that diseases. And obviously everybody
34:38
that surrounds you, I'm sure knows that the
34:40
tragedy that you went through yourself. My mom
34:43
was like a perfect human,
34:45
I would say, Um, anybody
34:47
who knew her would would probably say
34:49
that. So it's you
34:52
know, obviously it was really really really
34:55
bad and difficult. Um,
34:57
but she I
35:00
just like when I I looked at it in a
35:02
positive way, and I still do kind of that.
35:04
Some people don't even get parents that they
35:07
love, and I at least have a
35:09
parents that I was able to, you
35:12
know, mourn for, and you know, I don't
35:14
want to be too dreary or anything, but no, yeah,
35:16
that's your statement is absolutely true. Yeah,
35:19
I feel lucky. I mean, two of my best friends
35:21
are are both adopted and they
35:23
had like traumatic childhood
35:26
because they didn't have like a
35:28
mom for a while, you know, part part
35:30
of their life. They appos we found a family
35:32
with their adopted parents. But I think
35:34
that's kind of framed how I look at it um
35:36
from people don't even get
35:38
that, Like some people don't have a mom. So
35:41
I'm really fortunate that I have one that I
35:43
can miss so much that yeah,
35:45
you can actually you can take solace
35:47
and comfort and the fact that you had
35:50
a relationship with her. You have these existing
35:52
bonds that will never be torn apart, even
35:54
you know, through death. She's in your head. That's it. There's
35:57
no one can take it away from you. Oh absolutely,
35:59
I steel s. I feel like I'm growing up to you
36:01
know, you see your mother and yourself or your father
36:04
and yourself, and every time I, you
36:06
know, I do something that would remind
36:08
me of her, I'm just like, oh, there,
36:11
there, it is turning into her. You're
36:13
like, she well, she's she's still Yeah,
36:15
she's lived on through me. And so then so
36:18
as you as you graduated, like you said,
36:20
early through you know, your high school experience,
36:22
did you immediately start trying to figure
36:25
out what you wanted to do? Was like psychology
36:27
part of your your plan at that point or was it
36:30
once you kind of graduated, we're eighteen and can kind
36:32
of move out. Is that what you wanted to do
36:34
immediately? No, I it
36:37
was something that was interesting to me. I
36:39
wouldn't say that it was like a plan yet. Um,
36:42
I really didn't know what I wanted to do. It was, which
36:44
was difficult because my brother was kind
36:46
of like as soon as he graduated
36:49
high school, he went to college and then
36:52
finished early with a four point
36:54
oh at like a really difficult
36:57
school with a really difficult programs, and
36:59
then immediately was given an
37:01
internship and they paid for
37:03
him to go to grad school and
37:06
all this. Like he just wasn't a really big success
37:08
and just kind of went straight straight ahead.
37:10
And I definitely took some time
37:12
to like to figure out what
37:14
I was doing and and just like relaxed
37:17
and took my you know, I definitely
37:20
didn't know for a long time. I knew that I
37:22
wanted to just do something to like make
37:24
my parents proud. You
37:26
know, everybody kind of has best feeling, like I want to
37:29
like they put a lot of effort into my into
37:31
my future, so I just kind of want to make
37:34
sure that it's not a complete failure.
37:37
Um. So I went to a community college
37:39
and just took a bunch of classes
37:41
all over the place and eventually
37:44
took a slight class and loved
37:46
it, loved my professor, and
37:49
it just kind of seemed right then. I after,
37:51
you know, I actually had a lot of times
37:53
where I was looking to change
37:56
my major, change my mind, and I
37:58
was just kind of like, well, my as well, go with psych
38:01
because that's what I have going
38:04
on right now. And it's a little you
38:06
know, it's a good problem to have to have. Like too
38:08
many options, is how I kind of look
38:10
at it. But I'm actually doing um
38:13
English as well that even
38:16
until this day, I'm having a really hard time to
38:18
you know, like splitting what I want
38:20
to do and like putting all my effort into one because
38:23
I just want to do too many different things.
38:25
So I luckily I didn't
38:27
have to compromise. I just doing as
38:30
much as I want. Yeah. Well, yeah,
38:32
you're those are two completely different
38:34
disciplines. But cool you have the ability to obviously
38:36
explore both of those and be like, well, let's see, let's
38:38
see where each of these takes me. I'm definitely planning
38:40
on going to grad school for psych. So I'm
38:43
not going to really pursue the
38:46
the English, but this is a great thing to
38:48
have, you know, like knowledge wise, definitely,
38:50
That's not That was more of a I have
38:52
to finish some other like
38:55
requirements and I have a lot of time
38:57
at at school still, so I might as
38:59
well, yeah, go ahead do that, sure,
39:02
Sure, And so then we did playing
39:04
in your first band kind of you know, pop
39:06
up in your life. Was that obviously after after
39:09
high school ended? Yeah, I don't know how old
39:11
I was. I probably was like nineteen.
39:13
I would say, I think I'm really
39:15
bad with like gauging hold I was when things happened
39:17
for how many years ago because I still think it's two
39:20
thousand twelves for some reason. But we
39:23
I had a one of my friends, Graham Um.
39:26
I texted him and I was like, I really want to start
39:28
a band that sounds like New Order or something.
39:30
And he was like, okay, yeah, like I have
39:32
a bunch of ideas and gave
39:35
me this tape that he already had kind
39:37
of like I had, you know, my whole
39:39
life. I'm like, I want to be a band. I want to do this, I want
39:41
to do this. I want to do this and then you know, talking
39:44
about it with people and never following through, and
39:46
he kind of like forced me to follow through because we found
39:48
a basis. And then they were like, okay,
39:50
so our first practices Wednesday
39:52
and you're going to be there, and I was like, okay,
39:55
sounds great, and so I kind of just fell
39:57
into that one and it's great.
40:00
Was that was that procession?
40:02
Okay, that's Those are the only two
40:05
that I've ever done anything notable or
40:07
anything. Um, I presume
40:09
you played your first show with that. Yeah, that
40:11
was my first show. Because
40:14
because you you you strike me
40:16
too as a type of person where there
40:19
are there there are people who
40:21
it's like obviously like kind of you know, enjoy
40:23
being the center of attention, enjoy being in the spotlight,
40:25
and there are people who I like to call like, you
40:27
know, reluctant frontman. You
40:29
know. Um, And you strike me as a person
40:32
who's like, you know, I like
40:34
playing in a band, but I really hate getting in front
40:36
of people and doing it. And I am I correcting
40:38
that assumption absolutely. Um.
40:40
Yes, And I actually, like,
40:43
you know, I've always wanted to be a singer
40:46
of some sort. Um.
40:48
I actually started playing guitar
40:50
so that I could have something to do with
40:52
my hands while I'm on stage
40:55
and singing, because otherwise I would just feel
40:57
too uncomfortable to even do
40:59
it right. So it's it's
41:02
been a barrier to me. Yeah, No, I love
41:04
that because, yeah, there's definitely people you
41:06
know, I I used to sing in all the
41:08
bands I played in and there,
41:10
but there definitely is that element
41:13
of like if I ever you
41:15
know, like ticked around on on like my guitarists
41:18
guitar, there was that feeling of just like all
41:20
this kind of does feel like a shield in a way. Absolutely.
41:23
Yeah, great, Yeah, I love
41:27
I love that you were like, out of sheer
41:29
necessity, I am going to play guitar.
41:32
I learned how to play guitar, and literally
41:35
like two months before our first show,
41:37
I was like, I think I'm gonna play guitar in this
41:39
band. And then I
41:42
was going to play keyboard at first, and I'm terrible at
41:44
it, so I'm like, well, I guess I'll try guitar. I've always
41:46
wanted to um and
41:48
I had like, you know, learned covers and
41:51
things like that, but I had never played in a
41:53
hand or anything, you know, like I done
41:55
anything with love their people. So
41:58
I just kind of picked it up and I was like, otherwise
42:00
I'm gonna feel really uncomfortable. So I kind of forced
42:03
myself to just learn it. And it was
42:05
actually like the first show was horrible for
42:07
for I'm sure um
42:09
because of that, but eventually it became
42:12
it got better. Sure, yeah, you got
42:14
a little more comfortable up there. I mean, I don't
42:16
know why. It's always funny when you you know,
42:19
you playing your your first band or whatever, you always
42:21
feel like it's such a good idea to film your first
42:23
show, and it's like, nothing
42:25
could It's such a terrible idea. I just don't
42:27
do that. It is a terrible idea. It's
42:30
so I mean, I still am really
42:32
really uncomfortable and need
42:35
the guitar, and I only will do stuff
42:37
from like the side of the stage. Neither.
42:40
It's funny because Brennan is the same way. You
42:42
know, neither of us want to be in the middle. We're
42:45
like fighting for who can be farthest
42:47
to this side, and
42:49
You're like, can we go ahead put the drums up front
42:51
and we'll just go ahead and be behind him exactly.
42:54
That's that's basically that would be our
42:56
ideal situation, but unfortunately
42:59
that doesn't happen. Yeah, people, people
43:01
may find that that stage set up a little strange.
43:04
Yeah, Um,
43:07
I have to bring it up just because it's it's
43:09
something that I found interesting where it's like, you know, I mean I've done
43:11
a hundred some odd episodes of this show and
43:13
it's like I've had you are literally my
43:16
a third female that I've had on and
43:18
so you know, it's such I mean,
43:20
it's painfully obvious. But obviously, you
43:22
know, independent music in general, whether you talk
43:25
about punk, hardcore, indie rock, whatever,
43:27
it's you know, completely male dominated.
43:30
Um, how how is that navigated
43:32
in your own head in regards to like once you
43:34
first started to go to shows and are like, hey,
43:37
so I'm kind of one of the only females here,
43:39
Like, you know, how how how has your journey been
43:41
with that? Because it's something that, um, it
43:44
has to wear on you. I'm sure. Yeah,
43:46
it's definitely, definitely, I
43:48
know it's a very large question.
43:50
I apologize, but I mean I guess,
43:52
like, you know, maybe maybe a good way to
43:54
start it off is like when you first started to you
43:56
know, realize that it's like, oh wow,
43:59
like I am the not only
44:01
am I going to you know, a hardcore
44:04
show, which is a minority of a minority
44:06
as far as you know music is concerned,
44:08
but then at an additional layer, like I
44:10
am one of only five girls at the show,
44:13
like, you know, how did w did you first start to notice
44:15
that? Well, as I said, I've always kind of
44:17
gravitated towards things that are or
44:19
like been friends with boys,
44:21
like, um, you know, my best friend
44:23
growing up was a boy, and my brother
44:26
you know, was also my best friend, so I
44:29
I have I'm used to being one
44:31
of the only girls and and or
44:34
I was at the time used to being
44:36
like, um, one of the only girls in our situation.
44:39
So that didn't strike me really
44:42
at least not not too obviously, Like
44:44
I like noticed it, but it didn't really
44:46
affects me too much. I
44:48
don't think. I also had like a
44:50
one girl friend who would always be
44:53
with me, like we would go to shows together,
44:56
and I think that that kind of like I
44:58
didn't ever feel like complete we alone or anything
45:01
like that because of it. I've noticed
45:03
in you know, my years of going to shows where it's like,
45:05
you know, you definitely always find
45:08
you know, girls bonding together
45:10
for obvious reasons because of the
45:13
you know, the aggressive nature in the music.
45:15
It's just like the fact that like, you know, there's
45:17
we like to go to shows, but we also
45:20
like to be in a community as well, and not
45:22
just like like you said, the only girl in the room
45:24
where it's kind of like, oh, what's which, what's she doing
45:26
here? Um? And then I'm sure as you started
45:28
to go to shows and start to become more involved
45:30
in music in general, and you know the quote
45:33
unquote scene so to speak, the judgments
45:36
that get placed on girls in general,
45:39
as far as like like oh, you
45:41
know, she's she's here to obviously make out with band dudes,
45:43
and like you know, start to you know that
45:45
starts to that starts to play into it as
45:47
well. Um, you know when did how
45:50
how have you tried to? Uh?
45:52
I guess gracefully navigate that without
45:54
you know, you know, falling into the the the stereotypical
45:57
tradition of just like a girl that obviously is trying to
45:59
make with band dudes. Right. I'm really
46:01
lucky because in Grand Rapids, where
46:04
I like really honed that
46:06
whole scene or whatever, I would really
46:08
into it. Um,
46:10
there were more girls in the scene
46:12
than there were guys. I
46:15
don't know really why, but I
46:17
mean every almost every show
46:19
that I would go to there was multiple female
46:21
members in every band, And I
46:24
don't know what was unique about it.
46:26
UM. I've and very lucky
46:28
that I grew up in that or like came up
46:30
in that, you know environment, I noticed
46:33
it a lot more and like hardcore shows obviously,
46:35
but this was like more of like a punk kind of community
46:38
in Grand Rapid. I definitely do notice
46:41
it more like on this side of the state because
46:43
the you know, the composing side, there's
46:45
more. It's definitely male dominated.
46:48
It's like male
46:50
dominated. It's not too
46:52
much of an issue because by the time
46:54
I had moved here, first of all, people at least
46:56
like somewhat respected respected
46:58
me as a human being because they I'd like known
47:01
them through like doing shows for them
47:04
or whatever. Like It's
47:06
it's it's not like I was just like a h
47:09
new face to a lot of the
47:11
people in the in the more male dominated
47:13
scene. Um. There's definitely
47:15
been a number of times that
47:17
I've come across the like
47:20
just general disrespect um
47:22
or stereotyping UM.
47:25
But for for the most part, like those
47:28
the people who do that are
47:31
I don't. I just want to try carefully. The
47:33
people who do that like don't really matter.
47:36
People who do that are just shipheads,
47:39
you know, no, you're I'll
47:41
feel in the words for you where it's like the the
47:43
notion that it's like people that do have that sort of attitude
47:46
are usually quickly weeded out where
47:48
it's like okay, yeah, nobody really,
47:50
I mean, they don't stick around those.
47:53
The people who I'm like good friends with are
47:56
too smart to fall into that
47:58
that kind of stereotype, and they
48:00
already know who I am anyway. So
48:03
I think also just like having there, it's
48:06
kind of sad because I do think that like kind of having
48:08
their friendships validates
48:10
my my existence
48:13
as within the scene or whatever because
48:16
of their respectable people. I think
48:18
there's a notion to like the the idea
48:20
that you probably, you know, relatively
48:23
speaking, you probably had to work harder
48:25
to quote unquote build your credibility
48:27
because of simply because
48:30
of of you know, you being a female, Like
48:32
you had to work you know, you had to book whatever.
48:34
Using a shoddy example,
48:36
but it's like, you know, you had to book fifteen
48:39
shows before people are like, oh yo,
48:41
Brittany's like she's on the level like she's not she's
48:43
not one of those girls, quote unquote. And then
48:45
a guy, a guy us to book two shows and they're
48:47
like, oh yeah, that dude's cool, Like oh yeah,
48:49
absolutely. I mean, like I said, I'm
48:51
super lucky that I came up in
48:53
Grand Weapons and people were
48:57
they didn't have that attitude as much.
49:00
I mean, there's definitely like a couple of people who
49:03
did. But you know, I
49:05
can't even remember like booking my
49:07
first show or being a thing because
49:09
it was so people there were
49:12
just very accepting and and kind of wanted
49:14
people to get interested invested,
49:16
so they were more excited than like trying
49:19
to figure out who the poser is, like
49:21
they don't. They just didn't care about that, So,
49:24
um, I didn't. I luckily didn't really have to deal
49:26
with it as much as I know that a lot of other people
49:28
do. That's good, yeah, I mean, it's yeah, that's awesome
49:30
that you got to have a more you know,
49:33
for lack of better term, like natural experience,
49:35
you know, a a a gender neutral
49:37
experience as it were, um,
49:40
rather than you know, a highly charged atmosphere
49:43
of when I was going to show, well not was
49:45
like I'm like I'm retired. But when when I
49:47
was going to show, when I was going to shows, you
49:49
know, in the nineties, when I first started to kind of witness
49:52
you know, this is like and
49:54
it was definitely one of those things where being
49:57
in southern California, it was that's when you
49:59
know, a hard or more specifically metal cores
50:01
started to just really rise. And
50:03
it was definitely one of those things where it's like you just saw
50:06
the influx of girls
50:09
that were just just just interested in
50:12
being a part of this as
50:14
a way to meet dudes. And it was
50:17
just like, so it was so apparent
50:19
that it's just it was difficult for the
50:21
girls that I was friends with who I knew,
50:24
like yourself at you know, lack of
50:26
a re term build credibility that they're like,
50:28
yo, they're on the level, like they're not. You know, they made
50:30
data guy in a band, but that doesn't necessarily
50:32
make them one of those girls. You know. So it
50:34
was it's cool that you, like you said,
50:36
you got to have more of a natural experience
50:39
rather than being kind of you know, throw to the wolves,
50:41
and you know sometimes that being a
50:43
very negative experience. Yeah, I
50:46
mean, I like I said, i
50:48
I'm very fortunate because I now
50:50
look back on and we looked a lot of bondness, and
50:53
I don't have to look back on it and think like, oh man,
50:55
those people were bullying me or something
50:57
like that. Yeah, no, no, that's huge. Thing
51:00
I also find interesting, especially with you know, the
51:02
music that you guys are creating with with pitty
51:04
sex, is the fact that, um,
51:06
you know, are most of most of the
51:08
people that you play with in petty sex like in their early twenties.
51:11
Um. Yeah, I'm I'm the youngest, um
51:14
uh, Brandon's
51:20
and Brennan is my age, but he's
51:22
a little older. Sure. The notion that
51:24
it's like, you know, for all intent purposes,
51:26
you guys are making you know, more mature
51:29
music for um, your
51:31
age bracket. Um, because
51:34
you know a lot of people, especially when you see it's
51:36
like, you know, more so in the early twenties,
51:38
um, where you're just kind of you know,
51:40
you're creating basic music like late
51:42
teens, early twenties, you're just trying to figure out
51:44
how to even like create a song in
51:46
general. And so it's interesting when you're you
51:49
know, you guys are being able to create
51:51
you know, nuance and atmosphere and stuff
51:54
that is more you know, fleshed
51:56
out the older you get. Um,
51:58
do you do you notice people like being
52:00
able to not really uh either maybe
52:03
immediately identify with you guys because
52:05
of the fact that it's like, oh wow, like this
52:07
is more you know, mature music.
52:10
Um, but you are playing in front of a predominantly
52:13
younger audience. Like how is that kind of you know? Have
52:15
you noticed any sort of friction from that or
52:17
or kids generally being like, oh, I immediately
52:20
get where you're coming from. I honestly think
52:22
that kids immediately get it. I
52:24
I don't. I think it's hard
52:26
to say because I don't think that. I mean,
52:28
I certainly don't look at it as something
52:30
only Okay, I'm gonna like sit down
52:32
and make some you know, like really make this complex
52:34
or anything, and are are like,
52:37
you know, my favorite parts are like
52:39
super simple too, and so
52:42
yeah, I don't really think it's It's
52:44
never been brought up as an issue. I've never noticed
52:47
it. Yeah. I know, well that that's good because
52:49
I think too, just because kids, because
52:51
of the accessibility of music, uh,
52:53
kids are able to uh you know,
52:56
have a really really wide musical palette
52:58
where it's like yeah, yeah,
53:00
I like joy division. And I also really
53:02
really like data, remember, and it's like those
53:05
you know, those things couldn't be farther apart sonically,
53:08
you at least have, like I said, a palette in which
53:10
to understand where bands are coming from. So
53:12
it's cool that you guys are seeing the positive
53:15
you know, attributes of that, whether that you
53:17
know, the the iPod generation as it were, where
53:19
it's like kids don't listen to records, they just listen to songs.
53:21
So it's good. It's good that they immediately
53:23
get you guys, as opposed to like, oh yeah,
53:25
what is what is that weird dark stuff
53:27
that they're doing over there? Yeah, I mean I'm sure
53:30
that somebody met a
53:32
lot of you know, like people out there would
53:35
listen to it and they like but
53:37
um or just like that hate it or
53:39
whatever. But I'm just glad then like
53:42
a couple of people like it right right
53:44
right, And then uh, you know kind of to you
53:46
know, hit on the last point. You know the fact
53:48
that it seems to me that it's like you
53:51
you know, you're obviously balancing playing in a band
53:54
and pursuing your your school work
53:56
and stuff like that, where I think that there's there's
53:58
such a distinct pressure for people
54:00
that play in bands to kind of
54:03
be so singularly
54:05
focused on one aspect of their life
54:07
and not be able to really explore anything else.
54:10
Like, did you see that not only around
54:12
you? But are you grateful for the position
54:14
that you're kind of in to be able to kind of do a little
54:16
bit of both so to speak? Yeah, Well, like I
54:18
see that at school too. I see
54:21
it in the people that I go to school
54:23
with. Them They're all a little bit younger than
54:25
me and have like I
54:27
don't be all kind of I didn't
54:29
go straight to a university where they like
54:31
pushed you into a career
54:34
path or something like that, so I have a
54:36
completely different notion of what I'm doing in
54:38
at school. That can work for some people
54:41
definitely would never work for me because I enjoy
54:44
both aspects so much. Any toy inform
54:46
each other, there's like they can't
54:48
necessarily be discreet.
54:51
I mean, some of the lyrics that I have written started
54:53
out as like English products, Um
54:56
I bring, you know, like I don't know
54:58
things things from the music
55:01
world into things
55:03
that I do in school as well, And I'm
55:06
really really happy that I
55:08
have the ability and that the
55:11
rest of my bandmates are like respectful
55:13
of what I want to do in school because it's definitely
55:16
posed problems for us, Like there's been
55:18
opportunity, huge opportunities that we've
55:20
had turned down because of me being
55:22
in school. But they are
55:25
thankfully really um understanding
55:27
and respectful that it's important
55:29
to me. And I really I still
55:31
think, like I don't think that anything that I
55:33
would do would be as
55:36
um fruitful if
55:39
I didn't have the other Does
55:41
that make sense? Oh yeah, yeah, no, I totally
55:43
I get that because I think that there's such
55:46
I mean, there's such, like I said, such importance
55:48
placed on especially from a band perspective
55:51
of like, Okay, you have to two or three our days out
55:53
of the year in order to like really quote unquote make
55:55
it and then for you
55:57
know, you and your bandmates to make the distinct
55:59
decision. It's like we
56:01
can do stuff during these time
56:03
frames and and
56:06
it's you know, they can coexist
56:08
and the quality if
56:10
if there wasn't you know, if if you didn't have school,
56:13
the quality of what you're doing musically
56:16
could be potentially diminished because
56:18
of the lack of it being there. So yeah, I
56:20
totally I don't think a lot of people view it
56:22
that way. But but I think
56:24
that there's there's there's validity in that because
56:27
you're, yeah, like you said, you're not just
56:29
so focused on this one thing and you don't
56:32
have you know, you can't look at
56:34
any other influence bearing
56:36
down on it besides oh, just the people
56:38
I've just toured with in the records I'm currently listening to.
56:41
I do feel like I have like a different perspective
56:44
than a lot of people who are, you
56:46
know, like making it a career. I've none
56:49
of us, and in pity sex ever
56:52
intended to even do anything
56:54
within the realm of what we've done so far. It's
56:57
kind of just like a thing, a fun thing that we
56:59
did. Um never really
57:01
even expected to like record a full length
57:03
or anything like that. That wasn't within our I
57:06
guess our scope. So we
57:08
just kind of look at it at it as like, wow,
57:12
we're here, so we wanted to keep
57:14
on going, and um, luckily
57:16
I've been able to continue. You
57:19
know, if I had to choose between the two, I don't think that
57:21
I could choose between the two. That would
57:23
be like that would be I
57:25
probably have to choose school because
57:28
I just feel like, you know, I feel like I would
57:30
be really letting my dad down if I didn't.
57:32
But um, I I really
57:35
yeah. I just think that, uh. I
57:37
wish that more people, especially young people,
57:39
viewed them as uh
57:42
not as mutually exclusive. I wish
57:44
that more people saw that you could do
57:46
both, and you can be both art d and
57:49
and smart or whatever like
57:51
intellectual, and that they can
57:53
co exist and inform each other. It's
57:55
funny, I have to mention it because you you've brought
57:57
up in more than one occasion, the you know, the idea
58:00
of obviously making your parents proud like that
58:02
in and of itself is a very common feeling.
58:04
But I don't think that the sentiment
58:07
is prevalent as as I guess it
58:09
once was. Like I honestly, I can't recall the
58:11
last time a person's actually physically said those words
58:13
to me, like you just did. Um.
58:15
So it is it something that you,
58:18
um, you know, you're doing just based
58:20
out of respect and love,
58:22
or is it that sort of like external
58:25
pressure that's put on you, you know, by by
58:27
him at this point, Oh, it's definitely
58:30
respect and love. I
58:32
think that my parents would have been
58:36
they would have been thrilled if I
58:38
was a starving artist, or
58:40
if I was a brain surgeon, Like
58:43
since I was little, just have always
58:45
said, do what makes you happy, don't
58:47
worry about money, don't worry about
58:50
like things whatever, Uh,
58:52
do what you love to do. And they've
58:54
always pushed me towards that. They've always been super
58:56
supportive, and if I ever had
58:58
some crazy des I or to pursue
59:01
something that whatever, they
59:03
would back me up
59:05
in. That always backed me up
59:07
with music. It's it's definitely respect
59:09
him of But I also
59:12
just like, I feel like you put
59:14
so much effort into me. You know, I look back
59:17
at it now and I'm just like, oh my god, I can't
59:19
even imagine putting that much effort into something
59:21
and then just having it like fail or do
59:24
you know what I mean, like or not be not be as
59:26
successful as it could have been, or
59:28
or on the flip side, just actually
59:31
be appreciative, because I think that's the Yeah,
59:33
I think that's probably the key point. Like I
59:35
mean, I'm like, I have a you
59:37
know, an almost three year old child, and it's like it's
59:40
one of those it's almost it's one of those things where
59:42
I look at it, especially in the context of
59:44
what I've been raised which is, you know, not too dissimilar
59:46
from your experience. The notion
59:49
of my kid being able to,
59:51
you know, basically do whatever the hell he wants
59:53
under the context of the fact that like,
59:55
I will support it, and I will as long as
59:57
I remotely understand it, I'll
1:00:00
I'll be happy for him and he can pursue that
1:00:03
as long as there's that level of like you like,
1:00:05
which it sounds like you've arrived at. It's like that respect,
1:00:07
or it's like, you know, you put time
1:00:10
into me, like I I
1:00:12
love you and I appreciate that from you. And
1:00:14
sometimes yeah, sometimes it doesn't. It takes
1:00:16
people, you know, to be on their deathbed before they
1:00:19
realize that like their parents
1:00:21
did stuff for me. Yeah, And I mean
1:00:23
to be honest, my parents did like
1:00:25
way of love and beyond what what
1:00:28
what I feel like the average parent does.
1:00:30
Um so I might have arrived at that early because
1:00:33
of because I just had that unique
1:00:35
experience, but um
1:00:38
yeah, I feel like it's a it's a little underappreciated.
1:00:40
Sometimes some people don't realize
1:00:43
how much their parents do until
1:00:45
it's a little bit too late, right right, or
1:00:47
just just the notion too or it's like the like
1:00:51
saying, you know, saying you actually love your parents,
1:00:53
or like the you know, actually making effort
1:00:55
to hang out with your parents. It's like, you know, I'll
1:00:58
honestly never identify or understand people
1:01:00
that like see their parents like twice
1:01:02
a year, like and don't really
1:01:05
hold no effort to like hang out
1:01:07
with them, like be like, oh, I'm gonna go I'm gonna
1:01:09
go see my parents this weekend or whatever. And it's like
1:01:12
that's just such a it sounds like for
1:01:14
you too, or it's like it's such an ingrained thing of what I
1:01:16
do. It's like I don't I don't understand that.
1:01:19
It sounds like you're also very lucky and
1:01:21
I haven't had haven't had you
1:01:23
know, parents that you can do that with it.
1:01:26
Just yeah, I enjoy
1:01:28
it. I I love my family
1:01:30
and I feel really lucky, and I you
1:01:32
know, I know that a lot of people don't have that, and
1:01:34
it's I'm gonna enjoy it while
1:01:36
I can and make sure that they know that that
1:01:39
I appreciate it because I know that
1:01:41
I was given like kind of a rare upbringing,
1:01:44
because I do feel like my parents
1:01:46
went you know, above and beyond um.
1:01:49
But I just I feel like I
1:01:51
would be failing. I feel like I would be failing
1:01:53
them to not give them like the type of like
1:01:55
love and devotion that they gave me. Um.
1:01:59
But that being said, like I would do it anyway.
1:02:01
Yeah, no, for sure. And it sounds like
1:02:03
too, you've you've obviously been
1:02:05
able to foster a very positive attitude
1:02:07
about like not only your relationship with him,
1:02:10
but you know, life in general. And I think that, Yeah,
1:02:13
it's easy, especially in the context of independent
1:02:15
music, to you know, dwell on the negative and dwell on
1:02:17
the dark. And while it's while it's
1:02:20
awesome to enjoy art that is created from
1:02:22
that place, um, it's
1:02:24
it's nice to be able to be like, no, like
1:02:26
I'm I'm positive and I like life like this is
1:02:28
good. Yeah. Yeah, I mean
1:02:31
I have definitely not
1:02:34
recently, but um like within the
1:02:36
past couple of years kind of like taken a
1:02:38
turn philosophically,
1:02:40
I guess, um, towards towards
1:02:42
that ideology, just from
1:02:45
realizing that it's you know, everybody
1:02:47
thinks that that artists or whatever creative person
1:02:50
has to be bummed out all
1:02:52
the time and depressed, and it actually makes
1:02:55
I mean neurologically, it makes
1:02:57
you less creative and less interesting.
1:03:00
So I have taken
1:03:02
a turn to things like, Okay, I can actually
1:03:04
be happy. I can write about happy things and people can
1:03:06
come to that and appreciate that. Uh
1:03:08
And how much better is it to appreciate
1:03:10
something that's positive and it is to appreciate
1:03:13
something that's it's It's fine. I don't
1:03:15
I'm not, um, I'm not devaluing
1:03:18
like art that comes from that that perspective,
1:03:20
I've definitely I've definitely been there. But
1:03:22
I think it's cool to be able to appreciate
1:03:24
it from both aspects. Yeah, well,
1:03:27
I also too, It's like some of the
1:03:29
the most you know whatever hate
1:03:31
field negative lyrics that I've ever heard,
1:03:33
if I ever have, you know, if I have the
1:03:35
opportunity to actually like meet and know the
1:03:37
people that have created that are usually
1:03:40
the nicest, most positive people in general.
1:03:43
Where you're just like, it's such a juxtaposition,
1:03:46
but you do feel like, yeah, I think
1:03:48
you hit on the point, or you hit the nail
1:03:50
on the head exactly where. You know, when when
1:03:52
you dwell on the negative too long, completely
1:03:55
de incentivizes any reason for you
1:03:57
to do anything. Yeah, I
1:03:59
mean, d presses your brain literally
1:04:01
by far the most you know, in depth
1:04:04
philosophical discussion and I felt like you
1:04:06
we've been able to keep up with one another, so good job,
1:04:09
thank you. So
1:04:11
there you have it. That was Brittany cool,
1:04:14
right down to earth, very thoughtful, very
1:04:16
insightful, very deep. I'd say that it
1:04:18
wasn't expecting that. But anytime I'm able
1:04:20
to engage with a person on that level and talk
1:04:23
about philosophical issues, spiritual
1:04:25
issues, you know, the big life stuff, I
1:04:28
love to engage like that. And it was just
1:04:30
awesome that Brittany not only did what I
1:04:32
feel she was able to keep up with me, but
1:04:34
completely surpassed me as well, and be like, Okay,
1:04:36
she has a good head on her shoulder, so yeah,
1:04:39
check out her band, Pitty Sex. It's great and
1:04:41
U yeah, they'll be on tour whenever they feel like it. Obviously
1:04:44
as you listen to the interview. Uh so yeah, like I said,
1:04:46
go visit the Patreon page. I would
1:04:48
be pumping this for a good month or so and
1:04:51
then I'll kind of let it, let it quietly fade in the background,
1:04:53
and then a few months later I'll kind of be like, hey, check
1:04:55
it out again. So for those of you that check out the show
1:04:57
in on a weekly basis. Bear with me, you'll
1:05:00
you'll see the ebbs and flows of it. But I just
1:05:02
I want to get it out there. I want to spread the word.
1:05:04
I want to make this show as awesome as possible
1:05:06
for you, because ultimately that's the reason
1:05:08
why I do it. It's selfish because I
1:05:11
like to do it, but then also as
1:05:13
a byproduct, if you enjoy it, that's even
1:05:15
better. Anyway. So patreon dot
1:05:17
com backslash x purpose x. The
1:05:19
producer of the show as always is Tom Richfield.
1:05:22
I want to get that guy paid. Let's visit
1:05:24
that Patreon page and then on
1:05:26
the show. The upcoming guests next
1:05:28
week is Matt Miller, a professional photographer
1:05:31
and he's also a member of Most Precious Blood
1:05:33
and he's been an active member in the hardcore community,
1:05:36
especially from a live photography standpoint
1:05:38
as well. And after that we have Robbed Brand
1:05:40
from Unbroken, over My Dead Body
1:05:42
and currently Narrows And yeah,
1:05:45
that's all. That's all I'm gonna tease. There'll be some more people,
1:05:47
but I just don't want to don't want to blow
1:05:49
my load, so to speak, even though that's pretty gross,
1:05:51
but you get you get the point. Anyways, until
1:05:54
next week. Thank you so much, everybody
1:05:56
at S
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