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Hey everybody . This is Michelle
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and this is Julie . Welcome
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to a blonde , a brunette and a mic
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podcast . What is our
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podcast all about , you ask ?
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Well , we're 250 something , women with
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life experience and oh , plenty
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to say which is exactly
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what we're going to do right now
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. We
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are here today with some
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more fun stuff involving weddings
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, because we had a wedding segment
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that was related to
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wedding etiquette , related to
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kind of do's and don'ts , you know , with
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weddings and then the cost associated
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who does what ?
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Why ? Who does what ?
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Who , what , where , why , when , and we came to
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the conclusion that there are a variety
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of ways that people like to
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do their nuptials , I guess , and
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it really is dependent upon I don't like
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that word , nuptials , it sounds
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weird what does it sound like ?
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Reminds , I think of nipples . Only
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you Nuptials , yeah
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.
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Yeah , anyway , well , we were
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talking before about the weddings
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and the cost of weddings and it's interesting
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. I
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was having a conversation with my sister about this and she actually brought up a really
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good point . She said a lot of the things that are tradition . Even though they don't
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really hold the same meaning
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today that they would have a couple
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hundred years ago , having a little
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bit of that tradition in there is
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still special . It kind of makes the
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event special at least that's her thought process
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. And so they would be individuals
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who have children that would be getting
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married . You know they went through the big
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to-do wedding just like we did Mark and Angie
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. Mark and Angie . Yeah they had a big
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, beautiful wedding and stuff as well , but you know we're
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going to have their two children coming up , and
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so it'll be interesting to see if
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their daughter is not
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wanting to do something like that .
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Like I already am prepared .
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I already know Zoe is not going to want to do
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something like that .
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So all eyes on her . You don't
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think she'll like that .
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Girlfriend does not like that and
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frankly it's like if Andrew ever
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gets married and Amelia's in the picture , which
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I think she will be , she's
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not one that likes big crowds and all eyes on her either . So it'll just be kind of you know . I
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think what it boils down to is people
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need to do what makes them feel most comfortable
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. Yeah , and if they have the resources in
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parents if they're , you know , at
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that age where their parents might be helping them , or
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they have the resources as older
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adults then you do what makes you happy
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.
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You know it's your day .
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It just feels like there's a lot of just
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in doing the research and the discussions
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that we've been having and everything . There's so much
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opinion surrounding what happens
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.
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Well , there's opinions and
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a lot of different family
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dynamics now than there used to be
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. To your point , you know
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to have some of the tradition in there . So
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some of these stories I
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think our listeners will get the
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gist of what we're talking about as
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we go through some of these and
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they're not scenarios , these are like things
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that are- real stories , yeah
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, or , and some of them are .
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You know what we're here's what we're wanting
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to do , you guys . We want to go through some of these . Some of them are from Reddit , some of them
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are . You know what we're here's what we're wanting to do , you guys , we want to go through some of these
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. Some of them are from Reddit , some of them are from Quora , both sites
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that people post on kind of I
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don't know what you would even say similar to maybe Twitter
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or something I don't know . But there you know
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lots of different stuff on these sites . I
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actually kind of get lost in the minutiae of
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scrolling through , kind of like people do with TikTok
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, yeah , but there's all kinds of cool stuff
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on Quora in particular that has
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to do with , you know , a lot of World War II stuff
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and things that are just like horrible pictures
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that you would never see anywhere else that make you realize
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how awful , like if someone said that the
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Holocaust didn't exist . They're smoking crack
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, seriously , just whatever . Total
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side note , but anyway . So we have a few stories
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here and a few scenarios Smoking
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something man . They're smoking something I don't know
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what , or they're in a huge
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denial .
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I'm actually impressed that you know that that's out
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there . People out
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there say that that the . Holocaust didn't exist
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. Yeah , they're smoking crack , anyways
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. Yeah , I was going to go into some other things on that , but
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that's for a whole other episode .
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Well , maybe we'll do that with our next one , because
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we have a lot of other things that we're going to talk about in our next
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one . So , in this regard
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, here are some scenarios . We're just going to read a
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couple of these and then comment
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on them , and really would love to get your feedback
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on them as well , because everything is really dependent
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right on someone's family .
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Well and it might , as we do , go through
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these . It might give people some good ideas on
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some of the situations that they might be facing
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with scenarios within their
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own wedding that
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they have coming up and that they need to prepare for
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Example , I have a stepdad
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and a dad that's not me . I'm
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talking about this first scenario we're going to get into . Why
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don't you go ahead and read the rules ?
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In this scenario , the daughter has multiple dads because parents have
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both remarried . The question was has there been any drama with both
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dads when you had to determine who was going to be walking the bride down the aisle and there
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was actually a lot of stuff out there about
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this and in
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varying degrees , you would see what people
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were like well , why is
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that big of a deal ? Because
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it's a patriarchal thing
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, and this is what I ran into . It's like you
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know , women are not cat , are not cattle , they're
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not chattel , they're not property . And
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when this originated if you dial back
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to when you know weddings were
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started , I guess know the
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daughter was given away to
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the husband . There was a dowry that
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was provided and that dowry was
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kind of like payment , and so they
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would take the daughter , I guess , off
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their hands . So now this is transitioned
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into things that have to do with modern day weddings
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, and it's just nobody really knows how
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they originated . But I think when
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you are a 23 , 25
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year old , you know , bride , you don't necessarily care
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right , you just know that it's
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an emotional thing if you
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have a father to walk you down the aisle . And
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in this scenario there's a gentleman
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who says , and I quote my
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ex-wife married a man who was very good to our kids
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, always there when they need
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them . I didn't like him and my daughter
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was getting married and she wanted her stepdad
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me to walk her down the aisle . So I did what any
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mature adult would do I whined to my older
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sister how could my daughter do
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this to me ? She knows I hate him . This
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is so disrespectful . And on and on and on
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, until my sister , a wise and
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wonderful woman who does not mince
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words , said shut up
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, this is her day , not your day . You
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will show up , shut up , wear what you're told
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and walk wherever and with whomever . She
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tells you Got it and what
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it boiled down to was . It
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was probably a really big deal for this
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girl to try to figure out how
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not to hurt people's feelings , and
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perhaps she was closer to her
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stepdad than she was to her real
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dad . But like we were talking off
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camera about this and
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you were asking me what would happen if
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Zoe did that , or if
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someone in my family who said I
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don't want my dad to walk me down the aisle , I want you mom
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to walk me down the aisle or something like that . I
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know it would be a big
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, there would be a lot of drama around that
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and I personally am like , whatever
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that bride wants to do , I
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would be probably just fine with it . I
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mean , she wants to walk by herself If
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she wants her dad to walk her down the aisle , if
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she wants her stepdad to
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walk her down the aisle not my daughter because she doesn't-
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have a stepdad .
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As you're saying this , I 100%
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agree . You just think of all the family dynamics
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that can go along with these situations
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. But to this sister's
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point that told her brother it's
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her day and she
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needs to be able to do with
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it however she wants and
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whatever she feels she needs to do with it .
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Okay , in this scenario , let me ask you this so
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this dad , he's paying for the wedding . Yeah
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, do you look at it any different ? No , the
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stepdad's not paying for the wedding , no
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different . So is it
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she owes him ? Well
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, that's what I'm asking you . It's like would she feel-
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.
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Putting myself in that daughter's situation would
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. I wouldn't want to feel indebted to my
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dad by , say , by having
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him walk me down the aisle , even though that's
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not what I wanted . Yeah , and
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I have to say , if well
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, who knows financially who took care of what
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? But but yeah , she should be able
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to do whatever she wants and that's
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that .
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I had this scenario with one of my friends a couple
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of years ago whose daughter was getting married and
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the woman has remarried and
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the stepdad is not like a
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dad dad , you know . I mean it's not like he
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. These are grown children now , but he's
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in their life and he spends time with them , but they
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don't call him dad , it's not like that , but their real
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dad bailed on them on
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all , all three of these kids when they
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were young . I think she was in her teens when
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he bailed and actually she ended up . She
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got pregnant when she was , uh , 18 or
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19 years old and her dad kicked her out and then
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he moved away and he's kind of a deadbeat
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, honestly . Yeah so , but she invites
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him to the wedding and the question
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is does her dad ?
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oh , I would not have him walk me down the aisle
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, okay , well and that's not being her
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, but I mean totally up
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to her Exactly , but do ?
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you see what I'm talking about here . It's like here's
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this guy who's a total deadbeat , doesn't
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pay for shit for this wedding , doesn't help with anything
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, basically just shows up and this mom
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has been taking care of those kids
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, you know , almost lost the house
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a couple times , got these kids through
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school , supported her daughter when she
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had this child and gave it up for adoption , all
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this stuff . And this guy , this dad , wasn't even
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there , but my friend was so incredibly
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gracious about it because
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, to the point of what we're talking
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about here , the dad walked her down the aisle
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, oh wow , and the mom
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was probably not super
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happy about it , but her daughter never would
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have known and I thought that was pretty gracious
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of her . It's got goosebumps . Yeah
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it is , you know , she , so the daughter to
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her , to her , you know credit . She
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included her father . She's perhaps
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forgiven him , who knows , there's other circumstances
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and things that have come up , but at the end
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of the day he took that role and
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, you know , walked her down the aisle when he really hadn't
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been in her life .
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And this is actually wherein we almost
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I'm thinking of the episode
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we did on Minding your Own Business because I'm
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sure there were plenty of whispers going
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with her dad walking her down the aisle
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and people you know
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, placing judgment and saying
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things , which
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was another part of etiquette that you shouldn't do .
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Well , I'm honestly none of nobody really knew him , so
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it was kind of . I mean
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, people had been around this family a
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lot probably did , but people that
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were in the last 10 years or even the even
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the groom didn't really know
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him . But she made that decision
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and it probably was a tough decision for her to
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make because her mom was really the one that
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had kind of carried her through most everything . But
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what I also learned is that as adults
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, as this woman had become an adult
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, she had learned to
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forgive and put
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some of those things aside and I was really
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proud of her just because it was
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her day . Yeah
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, she did it the way she wanted to do . Now , had she not done that , he
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really wouldn't have had a leg to stand on , but I wonder if he would have even
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shown up honestly , yeah , if he wasn't playing that role
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. So they were able to avoid a
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lot of drama because
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the mom was gracious
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in that scenario ? Yeah , so
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if the scenario is reversed and you
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know it was like I
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was saying before one of our kids or something , it's like
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I don't know how , because the parents
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have been involved more , you know they're around
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more , so it might've been more of an issue .
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You know , there's a Swedish tradition
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where the couple walks down
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the aisle together , so hand
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in hand . I kind of like that actually , so
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you don't even have to worry about any of that shit
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.
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And I think you know , when you look at traditional weddings and
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in churches , it might be a
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little bit different than if you have a wedding in
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a venue that's a non-religious venue . You know
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, you might be able to do it a little bit differently , but I can
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recall the guys you like you
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were saying before . The guys walked down
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the aisle with their mom and then their mom
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sits down and the guy stands up at the altar and waits
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for his bride . It's kind of a big deal you know
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the big reveal and all the everybody stands
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up when the bride comes in . You know , and all that kind
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of stuff .
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It's kind of such grandeur .
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I did it all . I did it all . So it's like I'm not
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throwing shade at all , I'm just more like wow
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when . I look at it now . We just did
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what we thought we were supposed
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to do . You don't even question it . You just this
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is how it is , which I think is a
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little weird . But now that I'm an adult I
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look at it a little bit differently . One gal , when we were looking through some
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of these scenarios , solved that problem by having her dad
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and her stepdad both walk her down the
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aisle . Where she walked in with her stepdad
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and then halfway through her
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dad was waiting , shook the stepdad's hand , took his daughter and then went up to
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the altar that way , that seems like a really good way to pretty cool .
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Yeah , it's a great way to solve the problem .
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But when you've got young people getting married , they're
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not they really are not necessarily doing
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a lot of this thought process
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. They're not trying to solve these problems
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. They don't even know that these problems potentially even
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exist . So as you get older , I think
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you kind of will understand a little bit more of those
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things .
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Well , and I would imagine that there's
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more of this that goes on now , because
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families , there's a lot more
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blended families than there used to be , there's
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a lot more divorces and remarries
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and things of that nature . So the
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up and coming generations
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they've had to deal with that a lot more , whereas
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yours and mine our
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generation . Typically , we
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still had our dads to walk us down the aisle .
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Yeah Well , one story I was looking
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at or when I was reading through , the girl had
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three dads her real dad and two
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stepdads . Yeah , and she's like , and she
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was close with all of them , she didn't know
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what to do , so she just walked herself down the aisle
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. She didn't have any of them . You
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know , that seems like a really logical way to
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do it to me . I don't know .
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That's probably what I would do , Well
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, I mean nothing like getting all the attention . Yeah
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, right , yeah .
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Yeah , okay , do you want to read one of these
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other ones ?
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Yes , I will . There
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was one where it talks about
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her fiance and she wanted
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a wedding with only close friends and family
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and she
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has a very large family and she
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only wanted to ask 10 people and
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her question she was actually kind of questioning
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and looking for comments and
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how to prevent the drama of
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that from unfolding
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and choosing or determining
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who does what . So what
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they were talking about essentially was to avoid
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posting . These are just things
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that we never had to think about . Avoid posting
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on social media very
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much of your plans or what you're intending
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to do , because that will reduce
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the amount of people knowing , even if
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you're trying to keep it small and intimate , and
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from people asking if they're invited , things
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like that . I have noticed that with other
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things . Sometimes I'll put something and then somebody
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will say , well , why wasn't I
15:31
? invited or something , and I was like , oh
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shit , like yeah , so
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yeah , not putting pre-posting too many
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of your plans if you're wanting to keep it .
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You think some of this has to do with the personality
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of the bride and of the groom . We're
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only talking about bride for a sec , but really the groom
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as well , and if they're
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like as adults , to me
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that's like no big deal , that's like well
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, we kept it small .
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Yeah , I wouldn't get butthurt about that . Yeah
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, and social media was a big one because
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, just like I was talking about , you know
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other
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things where people after the fact are like and this is what happened . You know why people
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are going to wonder why they weren't invited to the wedding , and she
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was surprised too that they had people
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make comments about how they weren't invited to
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our wedding and she said well , I understand they
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may have been disappointed . It wasn't a slight against
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them in any way . We chose to invite our closest
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family members . Those that we didn't invite
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who spoke up , were family members
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that never really had anything to do with us
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. We had them as friends on social media
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and maybe saw them once a year , for Thanksgiving
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Maybe . So
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I get that , I do . I do
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too . I do get that . Especially , you know
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, there's probably things that come into play , like
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with finances and things like that
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and when , if you really have to be thoughtful
16:47
about that part of
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it , you're going to have to be really thoughtful
16:51
about who you're going to have in your
16:53
circle there for that special day .
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I would agree with you 100%
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on that . I feel like , as you kind
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of mature , you don't feel like you
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have so much angst . This is my feeling about
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it so much angst around , worrying
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about upsetting somebody . And
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we had , I guess would be my cousin's daughter
17:12
, get married this last year and
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my mom was invited . So
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the seniors were all invited , right , but none
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of the kids , and I'm I
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mean , I'm calling myself a kid , but you know what I mean . None
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of the kid or our kids , or anything like that
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so she's the same age as Andrew , like
17:27
my kids and I
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was not I mean , I was fine with it . It's
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like I understand they're trying to
17:34
keep the wedding small and I'm not close with this
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girl . I mean , she's darling and
17:38
I see her at family functions once a
17:40
year kind of a thing .
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She's a great kid .
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But I mean , it didn't hurt my feelings that she
17:44
was not inviting me . But now she's pregnant
17:46
and we just got an invitation for the
17:49
baby shower . So I was kind
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of like okay , I wasn't even quite
17:53
sure what to do with that Cause I'm like
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I'm okay to go to the baby
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shower , but I'm not I don't know . I just felt kind of
17:59
weird , I'm not able to go . As it turns out it's
18:01
not even on a day when I can go . So
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my regrets will be going out to the , to
18:06
the new mom . But I just thought that
18:08
was kind of interesting , that . I was invited
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to one and not the other .
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Is that weird . I totally get why you would
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have that thought . But , I don't
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think it's necessarily weird that not
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the wedding , but yes to the shower . I
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think the shower's being put on by somebody
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else , probably , and so it's
18:25
not necessarily her guest
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list . It is , but do you know what I'm saying
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you ?
18:29
know how showers You've got to make your guest list , I assume , yeah
18:31
.
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I mean to a certain degree . But you know like
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somebody else is pretty much doing all that planning
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, not like when you're getting married
18:38
, the bride pretty much is doing a lot of that planning
18:40
and knows specifically what she's
18:42
wanting . I think it's a little different for a baby shower
18:44
.
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You know what I'm saying ? I'm not offended or anything
18:47
by it . It's more just kind of
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like scratch my head on it a little bit .
18:51
I get why you do . Yeah , that's what I say . I
18:53
totally get why .
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I mean , I'm going to send a gift and I
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have no , there's no ill will or anything , I just am not
18:58
able to go so
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, and . I would love to see a lot of my extended family
19:07
. It's just it's far and I'm sure the baby will be darling
19:09
, and I'll probably see the baby when he or she
19:11
is a year old .
19:12
Because I mean , you know , when kids graduate
19:14
they send like announcements
19:16
to as many people as possible .
19:19
I wonder why they do that .
19:20
I know right , get that get that all
19:22
the Benjamins in .
19:23
Yeah , all the Benjamins , it's
19:26
all about the Benjamins .
19:27
It's like oh , my fifth cousin
19:30
, twice removed , or whatever
19:32
, their second cousin is graduating
19:34
from high school .
19:36
Okay , hey , do you want to read this one
19:38
? That's the wedding drama
19:40
one , the family drama . Yeah , it's a little
19:42
long , but I think it's kind of an interesting
19:45
story , because these are the things
19:47
that you might run across
19:49
actually .
19:50
Yes , I just got married and it was a
19:52
destination wedding in Florida . My
19:54
brother was an important part in my wedding
19:56
and it was important for me for
19:58
him to come . He also was going
20:01
to walk my mom down the aisle . My
20:03
mom paid for his expenses plane , hotel
20:05
suite or , excuse me , suit
20:07
, etc . And was going to pay
20:09
for all expenses in Florida . He promised
20:12
and swore up and down that he wouldn't miss
20:14
it for the world . Well , the day before
20:16
my wedding , as I was putting together
20:18
stuff for my coordinator , my dad
20:21
told me he missed his flight on purpose
20:23
and will no longer be coming . His
20:25
first excuse was that he was
20:27
sick . The next was he lost his wallet
20:29
. I cried and basically had a mental breakdown
20:32
that he wasn't coming . The thing
20:34
that hurt the most . He never actually
20:36
told me until my husband text
20:38
him to talk to me . He told me to
20:41
go F myself and that I
20:43
don't need him there . I told him he's
20:45
dead to me and blocked him . Haven't
20:47
contacted him ever since . After
20:50
the wedding was over I found out that
20:52
the real reason he didn't come because
20:54
of his girlfriend needed him home
20:56
. Yes , his girlfriend was invited
20:58
and also promised to come , then
21:00
canceled two days before His girlfriend
21:03
told him to miss his own sister's wedding for
21:05
her , and he listened . They
21:07
have only been together a couple of months
21:09
and I just felt like what he
21:11
did was unforgivable . He
21:13
didn't even try to congratulate us after
21:16
he could have texted my husband or
21:18
my mom , but it took him a whole week to do
21:20
that , and it's because my mom told him
21:22
to . He's 37 , by
21:24
the way and now I'm getting a bunch
21:26
of crap from my mom about how
21:28
I'm wrong and being a brat and need
21:30
to make up with my brother because he really
21:32
didn't do anything that bad . I guess
21:34
what I'm asking is how would you go
21:37
about this ? Would you ever speak to your sibling
21:39
again , or would this be something unforgivable
21:42
?
21:42
Let's just start out by saying her sibling is
21:44
kind of a D-bag . Yeah , I
21:46
was thinking a dick 37
21:50
years old and he is being led around
21:52
by his girlfriend by his nose him
21:54
and not her .
21:56
All of those things that he did , the
21:58
lying , the promising and then breaking the promises
22:13
, the staying home with her , all
22:15
of it that is all him and
22:17
not her . So she needs to just let
22:19
that shit go . Not easy
22:21
, I know that's an easy say , hard do
22:24
, but at the same time it's
22:27
just going to cause her continual
22:30
heartache and , yes
22:32
, that will always be there in her brain when
22:35
she sees her brother , like if she were to
22:37
forgive and move on . It will always
22:39
be there . She'll always think about it . That's
22:41
something that , yes , you can forgive
22:43
but probably not forget , you
22:46
know but for her own sanity .
22:48
Over the course of time , you time , it'll feel better
22:50
.
22:50
Yeah , and her own well-being , she just
22:52
needs to yeah .
22:53
Well , he's not remorseful , and I think that's part
22:55
of the issue . That
23:00
is a hard yeah , and what we don't know here is if they had a really good relationship or if he's
23:02
kind of a flaky dude to begin with , because he sounds pretty flaky
23:04
to me and I mean , maybe that's
23:07
not how he is normally , but
23:09
she obviously was counting on him
23:11
and it's her day and all of this . But to
23:13
your point , I believe that something like that
23:15
is forgivable . Now , does
23:17
it ? Is it compounded by other
23:19
issues that have come up ? Who knows
23:22
? You know , but dealing with
23:24
it head on and just saying I'm not
23:26
going to let this ruin anything else
23:28
, or family gatherings or what have you , is
23:30
probably the most adult thing
23:32
to do . But , one thing I've learned
23:35
is that sometimes
23:37
, all the time , really , you can not
23:39
pick your family , but you can pick your friends
23:41
. You can't pick your brother and you
23:43
can't choose how he's going to behave , and
23:46
so you might make the decision
23:48
down the road that you just don't want to have a close relationship
23:50
with them , because there's multiple things
23:52
that have happened , you know , and that's totally
23:55
fine . If you're looking out for your own
23:57
mental well-being and
23:59
you don't want to be around people that are toxic
24:01
or what appear to be toxic like this , then I
24:03
say knock yourself out . But forgiving
24:05
is really important , not ? for him but
24:08
for you .
24:09
Yeah , forgiving , letting
24:11
it go . And to your point , I think that's perfect
24:14
. She can choose to , not , it doesn't
24:16
have to be a close relationship going forward . She
24:19
can forgive it , we can move on , but
24:21
it's not like she has to invite him over for Christmas
24:23
Eve and to their child's
24:25
baptism or whatever . It's
24:28
just interesting to me . It says my brother was an
24:30
important part in my wedding and
24:32
it was important for her that he
24:34
come . So , uh , it's
24:37
, it's unfortunate . You know , obviously
24:39
I would . From the sounds of that , I would think
24:41
that they were close in some way , shape or form
24:43
as siblings . So you
24:45
know for him , maybe he was having a midlife crisis
24:48
, even though he's just got a girlfriend I mean
24:50
, who knows , whatever that
24:55
she's getting married and he's not and whatever .
24:57
Who knows , there may be a variety . What I was going to say is
24:59
that his behavior is kind of the symptom of
25:01
a much bigger issue , whatever that issue
25:03
is .
25:04
Yeah , for sure .
25:05
Perhaps he would have not been a great addition
25:07
to the wedding had he been there . So let's
25:09
just call it what it is and say the
25:12
way it happened is probably the best
25:14
At least that's my thought Okay
25:16
, I have one from Cora that
25:18
I wanted to share . This
25:20
is kind of an interesting one . So we
25:22
were invited to a wedding a month ago and
25:24
we send in our RSVPs on time . Today
25:27
we were asked if we could only come to the ceremony
25:29
because they went over the limit for
25:32
the reception . Would it be rude to decline
25:34
the wedding ceremony ? Like , first of all
25:36
, who does that ? Who
25:38
says sorry , can you not come to the reception ? That's
25:40
so tacky .
25:41
So , so tacky , Agree , agree
25:43
.
25:48
Even if they went over it . It's like figure that shit out if you
25:50
invited . One of the things that I had run across is that people sometimes
25:53
will over invite because there's fallout there's
25:55
a ton of fallout you know I think they say it's like 50
25:57
to 70 percent fallout . You know , and
26:00
when you're planning for uh
26:02
, food and all of those things , usually you have
26:04
an rsvp count that's in advance
26:06
, a a couple of weeks or so in advance , so catering
26:08
can get set . But in this particular case
26:10
it's like I guess too many people
26:13
were going to show up and there wasn't going to be enough food
26:15
. So a you
26:17
come up with more money or you come up
26:19
with another way to be able to manage this
26:21
. That's my thought process and absolutely
26:24
unequivocally , do not reach
26:26
out to people and say , ooh , can you only
26:28
?
26:28
come to the ceremony , can you imagine ? I
26:31
just don't know that that's even the right , like
26:33
an okay thing to do . I mean , were
26:35
you born in a barn ? Well
26:37
, okay , so to the question
26:39
I probably wouldn't go
26:41
at all . I wouldn't either . I mean , I
26:43
would just like graciously decline
26:46
. Yeah , I wouldn't go at all . So I'd
26:48
say , yeah , no problem , we don't have
26:50
to go to the reception or the ceremony
26:52
, would you ?
26:52
send a gift .
26:54
I don't know .
26:55
Would you Well , at this point I probably already would
26:57
have put the gift in the mail .
26:58
Yeah , or had it , and yes
27:00
, I'm thinking I probably would . Yeah
27:02
, I probably would , because I'm not
27:04
that much of a drama queen
27:07
. Yeah , to do . You know what I mean .
27:09
To really make a point that way yeah .
27:12
But yeah , so I would , yeah , I'm sure I would send something
27:14
.
27:14
This makes me think of not this , but it's like I
27:16
was thinking about when I worked at Nordstrom . There
27:18
was a group of
27:21
women that we spent a lot of time
27:23
with , and one of them was getting married . Well
27:30
, this happened with two different people , but she was so secretive about it so I don't know it was
27:33
her first wedding and everything . I don't know what it was . She didn't want us invited . We
27:35
actually had like a little get together at a restaurant
27:37
to have our bridal shower . We were just going to do something
27:39
really casual for her . She didn't show
27:41
up , she declined coming
27:43
, so we had this , yeah , and
27:46
so I ended up sending a gift . She
27:48
was like a really good friend of ours , so it was very
27:50
odd she didn't tell anybody that she wasn't going
27:52
to come , she declined . No , she just declined
27:54
she just said okay , yeah , she , she regrets
27:56
, didn't come to whatever the I don't remember where it
27:58
was .
27:59
It was at a restaurant or something .
28:00
This is a long time ago but my feelings
28:02
were really hurt and I and I recall
28:05
thinking , you know , I wish
28:07
she would have just said hey , this is going to be just
28:09
close family . But it felt like we got , it
28:11
was kind of avoided . It just was really uncomfortable
28:13
and not discussed
28:16
at all . And so here
28:18
I am , being as boisterous as I can be , and
28:20
we're like , let's just have a little thing for her
28:22
, like , so she knows , we think she's special . It
28:24
wasn't like a big old bridal shower or
28:26
anything like that . It was just like we would normally get
28:28
together and all of us had little gifts and stuff
28:30
.
28:30
Yeah , that has to do with your generosity
28:33
, jules .
28:33
You're always thinking of other people .
28:35
No , you're always thinking of other people and
28:37
I can just say that you
28:39
know , just like , she does things for me , like
28:41
because she wants to make memories and it's important
28:43
, and then I have to set the boundaries
28:46
I've gotten really good at setting boundaries with
28:48
Julie and I'm like nope , I can't do
28:50
that .
28:51
She sets boundaries with me , sorry . Push
28:53
push , push . No , it was . It
28:56
was more just kind of like I just
28:58
felt , kind of my feelings were hurt
29:00
, I'm sure , and I can see I don't
29:02
think it really had anything to do with the fact that all
29:04
of us were not her close friends . But then
29:06
I saw some pictures from the wedding and there were a lot of people
29:08
there . So I was like , huh , okay
29:11
, let's just let that one go . We're just
29:13
gonna let that one go .
29:15
But see , it just goes back to .
29:17
It's like I'm not gonna say anything
29:19
because she's my friend and I don't want to ruin
29:21
our friendship or anything , but I was like
29:24
fuck yeah , I felt kind of bad
29:26
yeah , let it go we have another
29:28
one also also with nordstrom
29:30
. She uh was the second wedding for both of
29:32
them and they were so low-key about
29:34
it . They didn't even tell anybody what they were doing
29:37
, they just basically bailed and went to
29:39
mexico and we all found out about
29:41
it a different group of people , they kind of eloped
29:43
, they kind of eloped , yeah , but I mean they were
29:45
just so quiet about it , just so quiet
29:47
. So we all got together and put a gift together and
29:49
sent a gift you know , and
29:52
maybe to their house or left it on
29:54
her desk , I don't even remember , but it was
29:56
like she just did not want any attention
29:59
surrounding it . So after going through a lot
30:01
of these things here , I'm kind of like let it be
30:03
, julie , just let it be . Yeah , I
30:05
want to celebrate the people that I love . And
30:07
so you can see how , when you're looking
30:09
at some of these things , how people might get upset
30:11
. I don't get upset that easy
30:13
. I'm kind of like , well , got my afternoon back whatever
30:16
, I don't have to go , yeah , but
30:18
you know we were never included to begin with . So
30:20
stop trying to include yourself in something you're not
30:22
included in .
30:23
It's what that boils down to Inserting yourself
30:25
. Yeah , yeah , you know
30:27
, it's I don't know . Well , there's plenty
30:29
of stories though . There really is
30:31
in regard to it . It's
30:34
been kind of eye-opening actually , you
30:36
know , looking into , like we did last
30:38
week , all the things that were talked
30:40
about reflecting on our own
30:42
weddings and you know the circumstances
30:45
that were surrounding that and those
30:47
, and then , yeah , just like
30:50
the family , family friends
30:52
, family friends all the possibilities
30:55
of , yeah , feelings and emotions
30:57
and hurt feelings and undisclosed
31:01
whatever . Yeah , there's a lot
31:03
. So , and I think with a
31:05
wedding it's even more so with , because
31:07
your friends in that situation almost
31:09
seem like family in regard
31:11
to the way scenarios can turn
31:13
out Like some of the ones
31:15
you were just talking about and we were adults
31:18
.
31:18
It wasn't like we were younger or anything . So
31:20
let me ask you this it's like I don't even know if you know
31:22
anybody who's been married several times . I
31:24
think that I know people maybe have been married three times
31:26
or something and they're going into their
31:28
fourth wedding . Do you look at it differently
31:30
? Do you say , I mean like , if you're not invited , if
31:33
I was invited to , not invited to someone's fourth
31:35
wedding , I wouldn't care . I wouldn't care .
31:37
No .
31:37
And I'm like if you have a big old dress
31:39
on your fourth wedding and a big old to do
31:41
.
31:41
that seems like a lot to me . I do
31:44
, I agree .
31:45
And gifts . It's like they're all pretty established
31:47
at that point .
31:47
Yeah , it would need to be really
31:50
different . You know , the
31:52
third and fourth time around , I would say
31:54
or the fifth time
31:56
. Or the fifth . Yeah , it's like Elizabeth
31:58
Taylor . How many times was she married ? I think she was like
32:00
seven or something .
32:02
Yeah , okay , I've got one more that I
32:04
wanted to read . Well , here we have one that I
32:06
think is kind of an interesting question
32:08
that was posed . Is it transphobic
32:10
to ask my trans brother , only
32:13
out to me and my parents , to
32:15
wear a dress to my wedding ? He wants to wear
32:17
a tuxedo , but doesn't want to tell anyone about
32:19
him being trans . I'm worried about it causing
32:21
drama . So initially , what I'm seeing
32:24
here is that his trans
32:26
brother was born a female , has
32:28
not come out to anybody but the mom and
32:30
to the sister , but wants to come to the wedding
32:33
in male , attire a tuxedo
32:35
.
32:36
As she has transitioned to a
32:38
male now and she just wants to live
32:40
.
32:40
He wants to be able to live authentically
32:42
, but it's not like a known
32:45
, so nobody's going to really know who
32:47
this ? Person is . So how would you handle
32:49
something like that ?
32:51
Honestly , I would want my
32:54
brother or sister , if they've transitioned
32:56
, however , they're living their life I would
32:58
include them and I would want them to show up
33:01
the way that they need to show up .
33:01
The way that they are .
33:02
I would want them to show up authentically .
33:03
Do you think by having that person show up yeah , you know the way that they are Do
33:05
you feel like something like that Show up authentically , Would
33:08
they ? Do you think by having that person show
33:10
up that nobody knows about , would that cause drama
33:12
at your wedding ?
33:14
It's , it's possible , of course
33:16
it's . It's going to be possible and
33:19
it's . I mean , that's a really tough
33:21
situation , understandably
33:23
so
33:32
, understandably so , and it could the bride is probably trying to avoid anything
33:34
being detracted away from her day , which is the possibility if
33:36
her now sister is now a brother and
33:39
shows up in a tuxedo and if nobody
33:41
knows about it and it depends on
33:43
how they handle that .
33:45
Well , there's a reason why he hasn't come out
33:47
to other people besides his sister and his
33:49
mom , and that seems like this
33:51
seems like not the appropriate
33:53
time to have that happen . But I mean , it is what
33:56
it is . It's like she's getting married and if it hasn't
33:58
happened before , that one thought
34:00
is why not talk to your fiance
34:02
and have him as a groomsman ? Yeah , because
34:04
then he'd be wearing the tuxedo He'd
34:06
be a part of the wedding and yes
34:08
, might there still be drama when people realize
34:11
that this individual has been transitioned to
34:13
a male ? Maybe , but it's kind
34:15
of their problem is the way I look at it Again
34:17
there's so many circumstances surrounding
34:20
what the outcome of that could be .
34:22
Where's the wedding ? Is it in a church ? Is
34:24
it in a backyard ? Is it
34:26
all of those things the family
34:28
, the extensions of the families , the
34:30
crowd , the other people
34:33
and what that is
34:35
all associated with ? If it's deep-rooted
34:37
religion and this is what my
34:39
family is , and these are the guests that are going to be
34:41
there that's going to be a lot to handle
34:44
. That will be a lot different and a lot
34:46
more to handle , but at the same time , it
34:48
would be setting an example if this family
34:51
were to have their
34:53
sibling and child there
34:55
, authentically transitioned
34:58
, wearing a tuxedo , as they are wanting
35:00
to , and showing their support for
35:02
their son and not making
35:04
it an issue .
35:05
Do you know what I'm saying . Do you feel like , okay
35:08
, I don't have an answer to this , really
35:10
, but do you feel like it's selfish of that individual
35:12
to expect to show up in the transitioned
35:15
way when nobody else
35:17
knows about it ? No , okay .
35:19
I don't ?
35:20
I mean and I'm saying selfish to the sister
35:23
, the one that's the bride- Right Selfish
35:25
, just to do it in that setting
35:27
.
35:27
Right , like not do it otherwise
35:30
, yeah , I mean , that's
35:32
a tough one , that is
35:34
you know , the setting it's you know
35:36
because it is a wedding you know , but at the
35:38
same time , it's not like he or
35:41
she is coming out at that time and
35:43
announcing Well , they kind
35:45
of are just , they're kind of coming out without
35:47
announcing . Yeah , they're just
35:50
, and so to be able to do that
35:52
, you know , is , for whatever
35:54
reason , important , and
35:56
maybe even somewhat
35:58
. That can never be easy , but
36:00
maybe it is helpful , like I said
36:03
, to have your family all there surrounding
36:05
you , supporting in that
36:07
way , just being able to allow
36:10
that person to show up how
36:12
they now are .
36:13
I think a lot of the drama might relate to the
36:15
other members of the family .
36:17
Yeah , for sure .
36:18
What if the dad is just not cool with any
36:20
of it ? Like has disowned this
36:22
person .
36:23
I mean , there's just so much drama that
36:25
could potentially be having .
36:26
That would actually , if it were me , might
36:28
even prompt me to do something completely different
36:31
, because I wouldn't want to be involved
36:33
in all this drama or my dad's , I'm not going
36:36
to show up . if your
36:38
sister or brother shows up
36:40
, you know that kind of a thing , so I'm
36:42
with you . I believe that it's the
36:44
bride and groom need to be the ones , obviously
36:46
, that are making those decisions . But
36:48
under those circumstances , in the scenario
36:50
that we have here , I would do exactly what
36:53
you're saying . Yes , it might create
36:55
some little ruffles or a little
36:57
bit of controversy and , honestly
36:59
, probably some whispering , like you're talking about
37:01
, because people can be really ignorant
37:04
or they're not exposed to things on
37:06
a regular basis , and so they don't know how to handle
37:08
them . But I would honor my brother
37:10
as well .
37:12
Yeah , that's definitely a
37:14
very difficult situation
37:17
, and I'm sure that the
37:20
brother himself probably
37:23
had some decisions to make as well
37:25
. Like , if they didn't , if
37:27
they weren't going for him coming in
37:29
the tuxedo and being authentic , then
37:31
maybe he would make the decision to not
37:33
go to his sister's wedding . Yeah , as
37:35
opposed to showing up in a dress and being
37:37
the sister that he's really not .
37:39
To me that would be humiliating
37:42
, probably for him .
37:43
Oh , yeah , absolutely .
37:44
I mean the fact that you didn't even put your that's what I'm saying . Oh yeah , absolutely .
37:46
I mean the fact that you would even put your . I would never
37:48
ask , I could never like , if I , whatever
37:50
. If my sister had transitioned
37:53
and was a male and I was getting married
37:55
, I would never ask him
37:57
to wear a dress and pretend to still
37:59
be my sister for
38:01
the sake of everybody else , I would never
38:04
ask that . No , I couldn't . So
38:06
anyways .
38:07
Okay , well , I think we're on the same page with that one . Yeah
38:09
, there's this other one that I had
38:12
pulled up . That is someone who just needed
38:14
to vent . Do you want to read this one ?
38:16
So I asked my friends last May to be my
38:18
bridesmaids and I asked
38:20
my maid of honor to be my maid of honor two
38:22
years ago when my fiance asked me to
38:24
get married . Well , now my wedding is
38:26
200 days away . I think it's funny that she
38:28
knows . Now my wedding is 200 days away . I think it's funny that
38:30
she knows . I mean that's a long time 200 days
38:33
.
38:33
But two years ago she got engaged
38:35
and asked her maid of honor . And
38:38
then within half
38:40
a year or whatever , she's asking her friends
38:42
.
38:44
Some of the girls aren't responding to her text messages
38:46
. I asked them all to have their dresses
38:48
by March 13th and while some girls
38:50
do have them , some don't , including
38:53
my maid of honor . I text the
38:55
girls who didn't have their dresses yet
38:57
and to see if they've gotten them and
38:59
I haven't heard from anyone in five
39:01
days . I've had to resort to planning
39:03
my bachelorette trip myself because my
39:05
maid of honor is MIA
39:07
. My mom is also pressuring me to kick
39:10
the girls out , but I don't want to
39:12
do that . I love all of them so much , but
39:14
I'm afraid they're wanting out and not telling
39:16
me . It's putting a lot of pressure on me
39:18
and causing me to feel the most insignificant
39:21
part of my wedding . This isn't
39:23
what I expected and I feel so hurt .
39:25
I think she got a little overzealous on the
39:28
invites way in advance
39:30
.
39:30
first of all , Way in advance , a lot can change
39:33
in that length of time , over the course
39:35
of two years , you could have a falling
39:37
out with your best friend . Who knows why
39:39
.
39:40
My hunch is that everything surrounding
39:43
this person is wedding-related
39:46
topics , like if they go out
39:48
to dinner . They're talking about the wedding . You know what I mean . Let's go out tonight .
39:50
They're talking about the wedding . They go out . You know what I mean .
39:51
Let's go out tonight we talk about the wedding . It's all about the wedding
39:53
, and so people are probably getting kind of tired of that
39:56
, and I don't think there's anything there that
39:58
really talks about the cost
40:00
associated with the things that she's asking
40:02
them to do , but if she's planning
40:05
her own bachelorette party , I mean that's
40:07
kind of sad .
40:08
She might be the only one .
40:09
That's what I'm saying . It's like nobody's answering
40:11
. So what are you going to do ? Are you going to have the party of
40:14
one ?
40:15
Do you have a bachelorette party ?
40:16
Yeah , I didn't , it
40:19
was pretty low-key .
40:20
I mean , I went out with some of my girlfriends
40:22
, but it was really nothing .
40:24
Yeah , we went , I don't know dancing or something , I don't remember
40:26
what it was . People really do it up now . I know , I
40:28
know we talked about that already they take trips
40:30
to different places . Bachelor
40:32
parties same thing .
40:33
This gal yeah , I think she like you
40:35
know if I'm already asking maids of honor
40:37
two years prior , that's
40:39
a long time . A lot can happen .
40:42
So if I were this gal , what
40:44
I would probably do is , first
40:46
of all , I wouldn't be texting people because
40:48
they're not responding to your text messages , maybe
40:50
this is something that warrants you picking up the phone
40:52
and actually having a conversation with
40:55
somebody .
40:55
These are the things that seem weird to me in some of
40:57
these stories , Like
41:00
the brother one he seemed an important
41:02
part , but then it was like that didn't work
41:04
out . These are like she loves
41:06
them and they mean a lot to her , because I can see her
41:08
mom's point Like just tell them they don't
41:10
have to be in it .
41:11
Well , they're blowing her off . That's what I mean , just like . But
41:13
see , this is what it goes back to . It's like nobody's talking
41:15
to each other , and how are they ?
41:18
Well , this is a whole other topic , because this is how the
41:20
world is now . We
41:22
don't have to talk to each other , we
41:25
don't have have to be face to face .
41:27
Well , and they might not feel like the people
41:29
that are involved really might not feel like they're
41:31
being valued . It's more like it's a job
41:33
. Yeah , is the impression that I'm getting . So
41:36
, as that bride , I would pull that
41:38
group together , maybe take them all for a nice
41:40
dinner , just you know kind of regroup
41:43
, get everybody more excited , maybe
41:45
clarify what the roles are
41:47
, who's doing what , what's being provided
41:49
, you know all of those kinds of things and then just
41:51
let it go . It's like you don't have to have
41:54
a conversation about your wedding every single
41:56
time you talk to your friends , they'll
41:58
bring it up if they want to ask yeah , but
42:00
it's how . I will venture a guess that a lot
42:02
of the conversation over the last couple
42:05
of years has been directly related to this
42:07
, yeah , and people are just tired of
42:09
it . Over it . They're of it Over it .
42:13
They're over it yeah .
42:18
It's kind of too bad because she's probably going to be kind of disappointed with how the
42:20
wedding comes out unless she regroups and thinks about how to approach it differently , or
42:22
she's going to have a different type of wedding Get some new friends
42:24
. Get some new friends yeah . So
42:26
these are just a few of the things that we ran
42:29
across and we wanted to add to
42:31
this episode or add
42:33
on from the last episode with some
42:35
of these stories , because we just thought it
42:37
would be kind of fun to do that .
42:39
Yeah , prepare yourselves , all those
42:41
of you getting married . There's a lot of different things
42:43
that can come up , so , and it's
42:45
very fun to plan .
42:46
I think it's fun to plan Michelle's like . I
42:49
can't even imagine planning something like that . I mean
42:51
, like I would totally be planning that . That would be so fun
42:53
.
42:53
I thought at one point when
42:56
I was helping my friend Stephanie plan her
42:58
wedding yes , yeah , so I
43:00
was . I was helping to plan a wedding and
43:02
it was . There was a lot of things and it was really fun
43:04
. But when I was doing that I thought , oh , it might
43:07
be kind of fun to start a business
43:09
called Take Two , Like
43:12
for people getting married the second time around
43:14
, because there's not . Well , you just gave your idea up
43:16
on . I know Well , there's not as much that goes
43:18
into it , we'll add that to the speakeasy . I
43:21
know all the other things , right yeah .
43:24
Anyways , okay . So if you're getting
43:26
married and you don't want to have drama
43:28
, just elope .
43:30
Yeah , yeah , there you go . That's
43:32
what we got out of this , yeah .
43:38
And if it's more , if it's a second wedding , just chill for a hot minute
43:40
, and if it's third or fourth wedding , elope , just
43:42
keep it low key . And if it's beyond that
43:44
, don't tell anybody .
43:46
There you go . Well , I think that's pretty good
43:48
advice .
43:49
That's pretty good . Yeah , or live in
43:51
sin that's the other one . There's that too
43:53
, yeah .
43:54
It's kind of appealing , doesn't it ? Yeah , a little
43:56
bit of everything , avoid all this stuff , so
43:59
where can people find us ? Michelle , they
44:01
can find us all over the place . I'm
44:04
talking TikTok it's . You
44:06
know they haven't sold it yet or gotten rid of it yet
44:08
, so you know , we can find us on TikTok
44:10
, you can find us on Instagram , you can find us
44:12
on Facebook and you
44:14
can listen to us on Spotify , apple
44:17
, all your favorite .
44:18
You're missing , like the most important one
44:21
that just started just
44:27
launched Places .
44:28
I was getting to it , I was saving the best for last . They can listen to us on all the
44:30
places , but if you want to watch us , head
44:32
on over to YouTube to a Blonde Brunette
44:34
and a Mike podcast , because you can
44:36
watch our episodes there .
44:38
Yeah , and it's kind of hilarious , and
44:41
there's all . I think we have four
44:43
, maybe five episodes that are on there
44:45
. Nobody's looked at them yet . Yeah
44:47
, because we haven't even told anybody they're out there , we
44:49
haven't .
44:50
We've just kind of been silently secret
44:52
, squirreling them up there and just kind of
44:55
figuring it all out .
44:56
Like it took us a half an hour to figure out our microphones
44:59
and headphones today . We
45:01
never said we were really good at all this like techie
45:04
stuff , right , but we keep doing it
45:06
.
45:06
That's right , right , yeah , I like it , that's
45:08
right .
45:09
Right , yeah , I like it Well . I appreciate you , michelle
45:11
.
45:12
And if I ever get married again .
45:14
I'll invite you .
45:15
Oh you , better girl I'm , because she's
45:17
going to show up anyway , yeah .
45:19
Don't worry , I'm not getting married again and
45:21
on that note everybody . Have
45:23
a good one . People , we'll talk with
45:25
you soon . Peace out , peace out
45:28
, bye .
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