Impact play is a sexual kink that involves hitting someone with hands or instruments like flogs, whips, or paddles to cause consensual pain or sensation. Although this is a well-known form of BDSM, representations of this kink often leave out the complex energy exchange that takes place between participants and the mental and emotional health benefits. 

In this episode, we talk with a professional domme who has provided impact for years to participants coming to her for a safe and cathartic experience. Hazel Havoc describes the heady, consuming experience of “topspace” and “subspace”, the energy exchange that occurs in these altered headspaces, and the effect that going into top and subspace can have on both participants. She shares perspectives on the role of the top in observing and responding with care to the energy of the sub, as well as guidance for how both can take care of themselves afterwards. With the right approach, this form of kink play can be a profound and healing experience.