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The following podcast is a dear media
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production. Welcome
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to the Absolutely Not Podcast, where we do
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the most and the least at the same
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damn time. I'm your host, Heather
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McMahon. Hello
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ladies and gentlemen, and welcome to another
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episode of the Absolutely Not Podcast. I'm
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your host, Heather McMahon. How the hell
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are ya? Oh
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yes, it's Valentine's week. Gets
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a made up holiday so people
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who are single feel bad about
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themselves. How we doing?
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Wanted to do a little Valentine's
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Day episode. Listen, you know me.
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I'm not for the Hallmark holidays.
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I think it's a little asinine. And
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I'll tell you right now, I
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don't go to dinner on Valentine's Day. No,
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absolutely not. There's two days you never go out
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to eat. It's Mother's Day and Valentine's Day. And
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I'll tell you why. Because as
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somebody who used to work in the service industry, I
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know everyone who's in that restaurant
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is pissed to be there. I
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mean, they like working the holidays. If you're
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working in the service industry, you don't mind working a
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Christmas Eve and I'll tell you why. Because
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that place is going to be packed and you're walking
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away with cash money. You're
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walking away with cash money.
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People tit better on the holidays. If
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you're working at Thanksgiving at like a Ritz
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Carlton in DC, you're
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getting pommed a couple hundo. Wait,
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real quick. Shout out to Three Peach. Three
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Peaches? Three Peaches in Atlanta. I'm
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having a mushroom latte, which
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is going to get me zip zap
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zoppin. Delicious. They're
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all gluten-free vegan. A little bakery that
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we found here in Atlanta. It's frickin'
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fantastic. But anyways, back to Valentine's Day.
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I mean, listen, everybody knows that iconic scene
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from Sex and the City movie, right? Miranda's
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trying to tell Carrie. that
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big cult, right? Isn't that the scene?
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That big cult? And
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she talks to him on the phone and
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they're sitting at that restaurant and there's the
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balloons everywhere and they're trying to have this
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like girlfriend dinner and Carrie's like, I can't
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believe you didn't tell me, reach it out.
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And it's this dramatic scene. Alright,
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we've all been there. Whether you're on a,
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you know, a girl date, a guy date
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with your friend, you're doing a little Galentine's
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Day, whatever. We've all, we all know that
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that week, this week particularly, is a little
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bit hairy. Whether you're in a relationship or
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not, just like this forced week of
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love and of kind of
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bullshit, you know, I love
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when people say, well Valentine's Day is every day if
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you wish, show and special, sure. You
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know, you can also be married to
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a narcissist. So it's just,
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I don't even know why I'm labeling
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this Valentine's episode, but
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I thought we could go through some absolutely not,
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absolutely yeses about love, about Valentine's Day. I had
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you guys call into the the hotline and as
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always, you can call in the hotline, 800-213-7503. But
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it's just funny because I
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think my mom always hated going
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out on Mother's Day. So I was like, I'm not going
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out to a Mother's Day brunch. The kitchen's
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stressed. The hostess is being a bitch.
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You gotta make a reservation eight months
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in advance. The food is shit. So
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my mom, people thought we were
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nuts when my mom would cook on Valentine's or
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on Mother's Day. People thought we were insane. They're
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like, you don't love your mother. How could you
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let her be slaving away in the kitchen? And
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my mom was like, cause I got the best
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restaurant in town. Lay
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off me. She's like, I want to eat my own
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chicken piccata cause that chicken piccata down the street's garbage.
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So I think the best way to show somebody love
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is to let them do whatever the fuck they want
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to do. You know, I'm not going
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to force Jeff to take me to a cheesy
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restaurant for a prefix. You
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know where we want to go? I'll tell you Outback. You
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know what's sexy to me? A blooming onion
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with that good Outback ranch. You know Outback
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has the best ranch. You
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know, get an extra one to go. You know,
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post lovemaking session. You know, I think
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there's a lot of holidays where we're forced
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to do things, forced to
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celebrate and if it's gonna cause you more stress
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don't do it. Make your own traditions.
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I mean Jeff and I do
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like to particularly celebrate. Okay, our
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dating anniversary is February
4:20
4th and the way
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Jeff asked me to be his girlfriend. Okay,
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let me back up. The reason he chose February
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4th is because he's
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good with numbers. I'm actually dyslexic with numbers so
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I was surprised that he made this like correlation.
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He did February 4th because he knew it was
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10 days before Valentine's Day so he thought he
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could kind of like kill two birds with one
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stone. He's like I'll never forget it because it's
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10 days before Valentine's Day. We
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went to this restaurant speaking of prefix.
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It was restaurant week in New York City
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so we're like 22 years old and
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it's restaurant week which used to be the thing.
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Now it feels very group honey. Back in the
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day if you lived in New York you went
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to restaurant week and restaurant week was a when
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restaurants of you know
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high class, high quality, high caliber
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would do a prefix for like a hundred dollar flat
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fee, booze
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included and you got to
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go try a nice prefix. Some of their
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hot, their hottest dishes. So
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we went to this Italian place on the Upper East Side and
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we were not Upper East Side girly so I remember being like
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why the fuck are we going to the Upper East Side? Went
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to this Italian place and we sat down at dinner and
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the way Jeff asked me to be his girlfriend he's
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so nervous. So this is
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exactly what he said. He goes so I was
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just curious you know we've been dating a couple
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weeks now what are you telling
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your friends and I looked at him deadass in the
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eyes and I go I'm telling them you're my boyfriend.
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I mean because you are my boyfriend. I mean
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we've exclusively been together for the
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last you know six weeks.
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I mean are you telling people I'm your girlfriend
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because you should be like just I don't know
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what came over me. I don't know why I
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had such a sense of confidence to be like
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yeah I'm your girlfriend you dumbass. He was like
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absolutely absolutely you're my girlfriend. Okay Okay,
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he goes well, you know, my buddy Sean said that it's
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not official till it's Facebook official And
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I was like, so are you asking me to be your girlfriend? And he
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was like, yes Gerson another glass
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of key on teeth like was just such
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a nerd so nervous so cute when
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I look back So we
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went home to our apartment that night
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and Tina Christina tea who basically set
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us up We asked her how
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to how to connect it on Facebook again I'm showing
6:25
my age here and we couldn't figure out we
6:27
laid in bed and we giggled and we
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were drunk off red wine and the fact that we
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you know got to eat at a fancy restaurant and
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the Upper East Side for Only $100 and
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then Christina came in super annoyed. She was
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like, oh god, you guys are so fucking
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annoying here Give me your computer. I'll help
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you figure out how to connect it on
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Facebook That's one of
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my favorite little memories, but also guys
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just you know, they're always they make it easy
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on themselves I mean, I guess as you should
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but I remember I was like, why did you ask that specific
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day? And Jeff's like well, I didn't want to take you
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out on Valentine's Day because I knew it'd be uber expensive
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But if I did ten days earlier, I'd kill two birds
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with one stone. I'm like, yeah, cuz
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you know, you know You know the
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people who are running restaurant week. We're not about to
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have restaurant week have a prefix hundo
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deal on Valentine's Day
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no, no, no, no, no, no Jeff still
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had to ask me to be his
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girlfriend and set an intention for an anniversary While
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the deal and discount was still going on when
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I Favorite
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memory When Jeff and I went
7:28
on our first trip, okay, you know I didn't want to talk about love
7:30
but I am gonna talk about love when Jeff and I went on one
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of our first trips We went to
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Miami Jeff was making good money at the
7:37
time, but he had just quit one job
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I mean Jeff had this like banging
7:42
job right out of college where he was making more money
7:44
than a lot of us I was waiting tables, but I
7:46
was still making great money And again when you're 22 and
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the only thing you're spending money on is
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you know Coors light and a trip to
7:53
Lord and Taylor every two weeks. You're cruising
7:55
even with my New York City rent I
7:57
was doing good. So we went on
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this trip Jeff took me down to Miami. We
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had a, you know, it was our first
8:03
little trip away. And you always
8:05
can tell if you're with the right person, when you
8:08
travel with them, if it's easy. Yes, and
8:10
stand up to talk about how fucking annoying it is
8:12
with my husband on the road. Yes. But we really
8:14
are good travel buddies and we have a great time.
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So we go down to Miami and we're staying
8:18
on South Beach. We're at the Hilton. I
8:21
think it was a Conrad. It was the
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Hilton that Chloe and Courtney lived in. It's
8:25
like the Hilton Bentley, I think that was
8:27
the name of it right on South Beach
8:29
that Courtney and Chloe had their whole TV
8:32
show about. That's when Courtney got pregnant with
8:34
Scott, you know, the first baby Mason, like
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that's where we were staying. Okay. It was
8:38
vibes. We're on the beach and
8:40
you know, on South Beach, you got to, I
8:42
mean, to get to the water from the hotel,
8:44
even on being on the beach, it's like a
8:46
four mile walk. We had this German woman
8:48
who was like our server,
8:51
our beach side server gal.
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And we're laying on the beach. She
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gets Jeff's credit card. Again, he's making plenty of money
8:57
at the time. I guess he was late on a
8:59
bill. She gets his credit card. She runs
9:01
back to the beach hut. That's at the front of the
9:03
hotel. And I just hear
9:05
her. So we ordered, I don't know,
9:08
fucking pina coladas, margaritas or something. I
9:10
hear this large German woman
9:12
screaming from four miles behind
9:14
us. Mr. Daniels,
9:16
the credit cards declined. Mr. Daniels,
9:19
your credit cards declined. She must've said, Mr.
9:21
Daniels, your credit card has declined 16 fucking
9:25
times as she ran through the sand
9:27
at a hundred miles an hour. Now
9:29
this was a six, three woman, large,
9:32
broad shoulders. We could have been related, screaming,
9:34
yelling. And you know, when you say something on
9:36
the beach, it's like, if you want to talk
9:38
shit about somebody, you don't talk shit about somebody
9:40
on the balcony of
9:43
your condo overlooking the
9:45
ocean. That noise travels. Everybody
9:47
knows that you want to talk shit about
9:49
somebody or gossip. You can't do it on
9:52
the balcony. You got to go inside. If
9:54
you're, if you say something for beach chairs
9:56
over, they're going to hear it because that
9:58
sound is just moving. downwind
10:01
with the waves of the ocean, baby. So
10:03
everybody that is sitting in their
10:06
beach chairs turns around and just
10:08
sees this giant German woman barreling
10:10
towards us and before
10:12
she gets about 10 feet away from us,
10:14
I just grab Jeff by his shoulders and
10:17
I go, Mr. Daniels, your credit
10:19
card's been declined. He was so
10:21
fucking embarrassed, so embarrassed. I think
10:23
I had to put down my debit card. He's like,
10:25
I just paid the bill. I'm like, well, it didn't
10:27
go through and I put down my debit card, which
10:30
I was like, I got $1,300 on
10:32
this debit card. Let's fucking go, dog.
10:35
And that was one of our first trips together. That
10:37
was a trip that Jeff said, I love you. We
10:39
went to Prime 112, which was like
10:41
the hot spot. We sat next to Amari Stademire,
10:44
who played on the New York Knicks at the time and
10:46
that was like a big deal that I knew who he
10:48
was. I mean, listen, I mean, when
10:50
in doubt, you know what I mean? It's not that
10:52
hard to figure out basketball players. If they're like
10:54
six, seven good-looking black guys,
10:56
you're like, he probably plays on the Knicks. I mean,
10:58
I'm just gonna go ahead and tell you that right
11:00
now. You know what I mean? Pretty easy to figure
11:02
out who's running point
11:05
guard. Yeah, the point guard, that's, I'm looking for a
11:07
basketball term there. So
11:10
my dad, I texted my dad and I was like, yeah,
11:12
Jeff's taking me at Prime 112. And my dad
11:14
was like, okay, fuck yes, son. We
11:17
were sitting, having dirty martinis. And
11:20
I asked Jeff, I said something.
11:22
I was like, yeah, so, you know, like,
11:24
this is just the best trip ever, even though your credit
11:26
card got declined all day on the beach. I'm having the
11:28
best time ever. And Jeff was kind of dragging, he's like,
11:30
you know, I love you right? I was like, I love
11:32
you too. I love you so much. I love you so
11:34
much. And I just kind of like took a sniff
11:37
at the back of his neck. And he
11:39
was like, okay, just fucking relax. But we
11:41
came home from that trip. And
11:44
Tina had warned me, she said, you'll know if it's
11:47
the right one if you go on a trip and
11:49
you want to fucking kill him at the end. So
11:51
we just devised this whole plan. I was like, we're
11:53
gonna fuck with Tina. We're gonna scare her, make her
11:55
think that, you know, two of her best friends, fucking
11:57
hate each other. It's gonna make life chaotic because we
12:00
You know, she can't hang out with old homies if
12:02
I was dating Jeff because then I'll be like,
12:04
it's not going to work out. Like Jeff and
12:06
I are unfortunately locked in for life together because
12:08
it's just going to cripple Christina's social
12:10
life too much. You know what I mean? She's
12:13
going to want to hang out with the boys,
12:15
but I'm going to feel hurt as one of
12:17
her girls. So that's what happens
12:19
when two best friends from two different sides get together.
12:21
There's always one person in the middle. And
12:25
we ran in the door and I was
12:27
like, fuck you. That was the worst trip ever. I
12:29
don't want everyone to talk to you again. Like Jeff threw
12:31
in my suitcase and I shut the door and Christina was
12:33
sitting on the couch like, what the fuck
12:36
happened? And then Jeff popped
12:38
his little head and he's like, we had a great time. We're
12:41
in love. And then she was like, okay, now I got
12:43
to deal with this the rest of my life. So really
12:45
it's not been a win-win for Christina because now she has
12:47
to deal with our fucking asses. And
12:49
you know, but it's nice that I get to bitch
12:51
with somebody about Jeff because she's known him since she
12:53
was six. But regardless, when I
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was going through some of these voicemails, it's
12:57
made me very nostalgic just about, you know,
12:59
the dumb shit that you do when you
13:01
first start dating somebody. But I
13:03
will say, people always ask me, how'd you know
13:06
Jeff was the one I said, because it was
13:08
easy. If it is hard, I said, it's on
13:10
other people's podcast. Y'all, if you're in a relationship
13:12
right now and it's hard and you're always going
13:14
to be stressed out, if you think marriage is
13:16
going to make it easier, it's not. Marriage is
13:18
hard. It's hard. Period. Being in a relationship with
13:20
somebody is stressful. Period. You got to have patience.
13:24
You know, you got, you got to have patience with people.
13:26
You're there to make each other's lives better. And if you're
13:28
not doing that, then you got to come back to the
13:30
drawing board and say, what are we doing here? You
13:33
know, if you're with somebody and you're doing stuff to be
13:35
spiteful, that's not the right person. That's all I'm
13:37
going to tell you. I dated guys
13:39
before and I knew they were bad people or
13:41
I knew they weren't being faithful. And I would
13:43
do stuff to be spiteful. I'll
13:45
do stuff to piss Jeff off just because
13:47
he's annoying me, but it's never spiteful. You
13:50
know what I mean? Like it's just because I know it's
13:52
going to get him revved up, but I know it's going to make
13:54
me laugh in the end. It's never to be spiteful. Like what are
13:56
we the fuck are we doing here? So
13:59
you're driving. around and you're being obligated to go to
14:01
a Valentine's date and you don't know this guy or
14:03
gal is going to ask you to be there, you
14:05
know, are you going to DTF it, determine
14:07
the relation, DTR it, not DTF, determine the
14:10
fuck, determine the relationship and it is
14:12
stressful and the relationship is hard right
14:14
now. It's not going to get easier.
14:16
Cut the cord, cut the cord
14:18
and let the restaurant not have
14:20
to serve your assets. Okay. But
14:23
regardless, I look back at all these little things
14:25
that Jeff used to do and I'm like, Oh,
14:27
you know what I mean? Just these little funny
14:29
memories. We built our lives together. We had nothing.
14:31
We're still trying to figure out life and
14:34
it's just really funny. These old memories. So
14:36
I was listening to Lottie. All's voicemails of
14:38
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14:41
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14:43
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17:53
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17:55
legally married at the courthouse, which was just
17:57
such a chaotic and insane unhinged day that.
18:00
It will always be burned in my memory and but Jeff
18:02
says we can't he got pissed because I brought it up
18:04
I was like, do you know what today is and I
18:06
wasn't trying to corner him? I wasn't like I need a
18:08
gift. I'm not that kind of gal But
18:11
he got pissed into seminary was like you can't
18:13
you can't have 16 fucking anniversaries Heather god damn
18:15
it I thought we said that June 24th when
18:18
we got married Italy is our anniversary I was
18:20
like, but it's technically we can have
18:22
a couple Jeff and he's like you can't just pick and
18:24
choose I'm like, I didn't pick and choose these are the
18:26
fucking days that we had memorable things happen You're just feeling
18:28
like I'm trying to make you feel guilty. I'm not trying
18:30
to make you feel guilty Anyways, long
18:33
story short. I like to celebrate
18:35
all the memories I celebrate the
18:37
day that Jeff sliced his finger in
18:40
our kitchen and there was blood everywhere because he
18:42
was trying to impress my other Three roommates
18:44
by making us lamb ragu None of us
18:47
wanted to eat lamb ragu But
18:49
Jeff wanted to flex his muscles in front
18:51
of the roommate and get all the girlies
18:53
on his side and he he
18:55
Literally so cute though. He went
18:57
grocery shopping in the pouring rain in Manhattan. It was
18:59
a Sunday night we had a tiny kitchen that was
19:01
no bigger than this fucking laptop and He
19:04
decided he had ripped out out of
19:06
a GQ magazine this number one like
19:08
lamb bolognese sauce and
19:11
he made it in our kitchen and he was cutting an
19:13
onion and he sliced her his finger and he
19:15
Like in shock lifted his finger
19:17
up and it splattered blood all the way
19:19
across our white ceiling and when we moved
19:21
out there was still blood everywhere and I
19:25
bandaged Jeff's finger up and he continued to
19:27
cook the lamb ragu There was so much
19:29
blood and so much of his DNA in
19:31
that ragu none of us fucking ate a
19:33
bite He felt so cool
19:35
to impress my girlfriends
19:37
because he was trying to get brownie points And
19:39
nowadays the only person that Jeff tries to
19:42
impress is my
19:44
girlfriend Olivia Shout
19:46
out to Olivia Who
19:49
Jeff will absolutely have as a second wife
19:51
and I'm not upset about it Olivia is
19:53
a great golfer and Jeff and her play
19:56
golf together and I always say like Olivia
19:58
Can you you know? I don't even You can't
20:00
have sex with him if you want to. Great, go for it.
20:03
She has told me repeatedly, she does not want to
20:05
have sex with him. But I said,
20:07
Olivia, like you're the only other woman, if God
20:09
forbid something happens to me, Jeff
20:11
can live with Olivia. I'm just gonna go ahead and I'm gonna
20:13
say it now, they can hit by us tomorrow, Jeff
20:16
and Liz can do their thing. And I
20:18
have told him specifically, okay, I need
20:20
to put this in some sort of legal document. Here's
20:23
the thing, I know, God forbid,
20:25
knock on wood. You
20:27
know what I mean? I'm gonna have chicken dinner tomorrow. I
20:30
know. Jeff has laid in bed the
20:32
other night and doubled down. He's like, Heather, I
20:34
gotta be honest with you. If something happens to
20:36
me, babe, it's gonna be really hard for you
20:38
to find a date because you're a very niche
20:40
type of men. You know what I mean? A
20:42
lot of guys don't really find female comedians attractive,
20:44
even though I think you're an absolute babe. He's
20:46
like, you know, it's gonna be hard to replace
20:48
me. I said, for sure. He said,
20:50
but then if you pass, I'm gonna have all
20:53
of these female fans of yours who are just
20:55
mourning and want, you know, and they're gonna be
20:57
worried about me. And
20:59
so therefore they're gonna come to my aid
21:01
and be right, you know, a shoulder to cry
21:04
on, a shoulder to lean on, maybe a bosom
21:06
to rest my head at night. So I just
21:08
want you to know, you're really gonna have to
21:10
let me know now your intentions and your boundaries
21:12
with your fans, because I'm probably gonna be getting laid
21:14
left and right. And I said, you motherfucker.
21:18
And he was laughing so hard at this. I said, this is what
21:20
you're allowed to do. You get, you have
21:22
to mourn me at least a year, one
21:25
year. And I'm talking in the streets, wearing
21:28
all black, on the golf course, sobbing
21:30
next to the lake, looking up to
21:32
the sky, just going, why? You
21:34
know what I mean? I need steel magnolias. I
21:36
need that scene at the funeral
21:39
in the cemetery, you know, where Sally
21:41
Field is just screaming. Is it at
21:43
Shirley Maclean? I think it's at
21:45
Shirley Maclean. I think so. It's
21:48
just a scene where they're screaming, right?
21:50
Because Julia Roberts' character has died. Like
21:52
Shelby died. I need that scene. I need Jeff
21:55
to reenact that scene at the country club every
21:57
fucking weekend. And then after one year, you're allowed
21:59
to sleep. with three hands, okay? And
22:01
that's it. And I have to
22:04
pre-pick them. So if you've ever
22:06
wanted to sleep with Jeff, go ahead call
22:08
my attorney because I'll put you on the short list.
22:11
Anyways, that's what romance is all about,
22:13
right? All romance is about is
22:15
eventually being with somebody whose credit card got
22:17
declined on Miami Beach on your first getaway.
22:20
And then later on, 13 years later, laying in
22:22
bed and looking at that person and saying, you
22:24
have to wait one year to sleep with a
22:26
woman of my choosing. So I just want y'all
22:29
to know that is, that's
22:31
full circle for me. But anyways, enough
22:33
about my shit. I never really tell
22:36
you guys the old stories about good old
22:38
Jeffrey and I, but anyways, we're gonna get
22:40
to the voicemails. I'm sorry I'm rambling. I'm just kind of like,
22:42
I don't know, going down memory lane.
22:45
Let's get to the voicemail. These are
22:47
absolutely not, absolutely yeses of, you
22:50
know, of V day, whatever's
22:52
pissing you off. Whatever's bringing
22:54
you joy. I figure let's bring
22:56
in the love or fucking reject it
22:58
all. Here we go. Oh my gosh,
23:01
Heather, I have the best. Absolutely not. Wait,
23:04
let me take my retainer off for Valentine's
23:06
day. Yeah. A
23:09
couple years now, six, seven years
23:12
ago, I had two ex-boyfriends get
23:14
engaged on Valentine's day in, no,
23:18
at Mount Rushmore. They didn't know
23:20
each other. They were from completely
23:22
different towns, different states. And I
23:24
saw on Facebook that they both
23:27
got engaged on February 14th at
23:29
Mount Rushmore. Really
23:31
weird. Um, I don't know what
23:33
that says about me and my day and habits,
23:36
but my mom told me to stop dating Republicans.
23:38
I don't know if that's
23:40
engaged at Mount Rushmore men. That's
23:43
a dumb idea. And
23:45
I don't think they're happy to this day. So
23:48
there's your tip, men. Okay.
23:50
That is a fantastic tip.
23:53
Listen, I know there's a lot of single guys
23:55
who listen to this podcast because you're trying to
23:57
have something to talk to the girlies about, but
24:00
do not propose that. to a woman or ask
24:02
her to be your girlfriend or you know do
24:04
anything at Mount Rushmore. Isn't Mount Rushmore in like
24:06
South Dakota? Yeah, Rapid City, South Dakota. What
24:09
the fuck would ever compel somebody to
24:11
propose at Mount Rushmore? I do
24:14
definitely think it's right leaning. You know what
24:17
I mean? That is definitely a Republican kind
24:19
of move. Also, who is on the face?
24:21
Mount Rushmore Face President. I don't even know
24:23
who's on the face. It
24:25
is George Washington,
24:28
John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, James
24:31
Madison and James Monroe. There's
24:33
five. Okay, what
24:36
about those five people make shohorny? What
24:39
about it? What about that says
24:41
look at our founding fathers? Because I
24:43
don't know if you know this but they were all
24:45
at each other's throats. Have you not seen Hamilton? He
24:47
was not a part of it
24:49
was he? He was not a part of it but
24:51
either way Madison and Jefferson were
24:54
a part of Hamilton weren't they? I
24:56
think so. They were in the Hamiltons
24:58
regardless. George Washington was in the Hamiltons.
25:00
Why? What about that?
25:03
What about that says oh
25:06
yeah let's spend our lives together. I don't
25:08
know if you know this but
25:12
they were all dueling out
25:16
there in the swamp about
25:18
every other Tuesday. I mean
25:22
that's very niche to have two
25:24
exes propose at Mount Rushmore and
25:26
also I don't think it from South
25:28
Dakota and I'm going
25:30
to throw this out there and there's no hey
25:32
no shade to South Dakota but I think any
25:34
gala in South Dakota is just craving like
25:37
a Sarasota, Florida engagement. They're
25:39
craving anywhere but South Dakota.
25:41
You know they're like oh
25:44
maybe he'll take me somewhere warm on
25:46
Valentine's Day. I mean it's South Dakota.
25:48
What's the temperature right now? Let's do
25:50
South Dakota weather. Right
25:52
now in Sioux Falls it's
25:55
like 30 degrees. Come
25:58
on guys do better. These
26:01
ladies want to be in Key Largo, Montego,
26:04
Baby Why Don't We Go Anywhere
26:06
Else But Fucking Mount Rushmore. You
26:11
know I had when I got engaged, I told
26:13
Jeff two things. I said whatever
26:15
you do, do not do some sort
26:17
of like, and listen, I'm a
26:19
lady who loves the cameras on me but I was like don't
26:21
do like a baseball game. Alright, if
26:23
you do something sports related, I'll fucking kill you.
26:27
Don't do, you know, don't
26:29
do it just the, okay
26:32
here's the thing, these are my parameters.
26:34
I didn't want to be on the jumbotron in a
26:37
sports arena but I would, but
26:39
I also did not want to just be alone
26:41
in like my living room with Jeff, okay. I would
26:43
have been like, ugh, this is it. So
26:46
I still wanted cameras there, like I needed to
26:48
feel like, you know, the lights were hitting me
26:50
just right but it could have been like a
26:52
Cardi B concert. Oh
26:54
my god. You know, people
26:57
want to say that they don't have types.
26:59
You clearly have a type. A Republican man
27:01
who thinks that Mount Rushmore is romantic.
27:06
If any of these other girls who got engaged, if
27:08
you've ever been engaged at Mount Rushmore, please call into
27:10
the podcast. I would love to know second
27:12
by second, minute by minute details
27:15
about the romance that was laid out for you at
27:18
the dam, Mount Rushmore. Unbelievable.
27:21
Unbelievable. Jeff and
27:24
I got engaged at the Waimarra pool
27:26
in Turks and Caicos and
27:29
I knew what was happening that weekend. Like,
27:31
yes, most girls, there's just like an energy
27:33
shift. Like, you know it's coming. But
27:36
I had also been with Jeff about eight, 10 years
27:38
and I threatened him the weekend before and I knew
27:40
he was working really hard to get the money for
27:42
the ring I wanted. He did a great job. And
27:45
I told him, I said, if you don't propose to me on this
27:47
weekend, yes, because it was it our 10 year
27:50
anniversary or our eight year anniversary? I
27:52
said, if you don't propose to me this weekend, you will
27:54
not be coming back to the United States. I
27:57
will sit in a Turks and Caicos jail happily.
28:00
And when the judge says, why are you
28:02
here? I'll go. He waited eight
28:04
years and one day too long. And I
28:06
had a feeling. I had a weird feeling that something
28:08
was happening. So I actually, Jeff thinks that
28:11
my mom told me what was about to happen, but
28:13
really they totally threw me off. I said, mom, I
28:15
know Jeff's proposing. I lied to her. I said, I
28:17
found the ring. She's like, he's not doing it. You
28:19
don't know what he's doing it. And
28:21
I was like, mom, I know what's happening. I hadn't found
28:23
the ring. I was just, my mom is so easy to
28:25
twist and turn. I said, I know he's doing
28:29
it this weekend. She's like, he's not, you know what happened? You're
28:31
such a bitch. You can't ever just enjoy a surprise. You're such
28:33
a bitch. That's what you were saying to me. And
28:37
I said, well, just tell me what day she's like, well, it's
28:39
not happening till Sunday. So relax, it's not happening till Sunday. So
28:42
I texted my sister then, because I was like, I know my
28:44
mom's throwing me off. And I said, Ashley,
28:46
mom just told me I'm getting engaged Sunday
28:48
and Ash, mom and Ashley are freaking the
28:50
fuck out going back and forth. And
28:52
Ashley's like, no, it's not happening Sunday. I don't think
28:54
it's even happening till Monday. You know, mom's confused. She
28:57
doesn't know what day it is. And then it happened.
28:59
So then it happened like 24 hours later on
29:02
a Friday. Because Jeff knows what's my favorite day of
29:04
the week for Friday. And
29:06
we're in the pool. It's five o'clock.
29:09
It's like this sun was just about to
29:11
start setting. And being
29:14
in the pool at this particular place
29:16
in the Turks and Caicos, it,
29:18
one of my favorite photos is of my whole family
29:20
and my dad's in the pool. And we would just
29:22
soak in that pool. We would start at the beach
29:24
and then work our way up to watch the beautiful
29:26
sunset from this infinity pool. And we would get drunk.
29:29
And then we would, you know, Jeff would smoke a cigar with
29:31
my dad and then we'd go up to the room, change and
29:33
go to a fabulous dinner. So Jeff knew that this like one
29:35
place was very particular to me. It was very
29:37
close to home. I just love one of my
29:40
favorite family photos is all of us in this
29:42
pool. So all
29:44
of a sudden, it's like 5 30. I'm having
29:46
a margarita and I felt an energy shift. And
29:48
then I noticed one of our favorite cabana boys was
29:50
telling everybody to get out of the pool. They
29:53
were slowly, it was all of a sudden, everyone was
29:55
just kind of migrating back towards their little cabanas. And
29:58
it all happened in slow motion. turn around
30:00
and there's this giant float with
30:03
flowers on it, with my initials. Jeff
30:05
had shipped all the materials down to the
30:07
Turks and Caicos and while I was going
30:09
and getting a massage one day, he put
30:11
the thing together. And as this
30:13
giant float is floating towards me, it had my
30:15
initials HM in it. There was a box
30:17
in the middle and I'm in the pool and then out
30:19
of the corner of my right eye, I see the photographer,
30:22
snappin' photos. We never got any of the photos
30:24
printed. That is our one thing. We still haven't
30:26
even gotten our wedding photos printed. Shout out to
30:28
Brooke Johnson. I'm gonna email you this afternoon because
30:30
I need to get some of those. And I
30:33
just see this float coming towards me and Jeff,
30:35
the float stops in front of me and
30:37
I'm like, it's happening. And I, all
30:40
I remember is, right? Like my tits are sitting at
30:42
the top of the water, just like two buoys
30:44
just hanging out there. And Jeff
30:46
pulls out a ring out of the water,
30:48
right? He pulls it out of the water
30:51
and he cracks it open. And I'm
30:53
like, that was in your fucking swim
30:55
trunks. I could, I thought
30:57
the box in the middle was
30:59
going to have the ring in it. It
31:01
had a flower. It had a magnolia flower,
31:03
which is just like a, one of my
31:05
favorite flowers had a magnolia in it. Jeff
31:07
said something sweet about something my dad said
31:10
to him. And he was like, you're gonna
31:12
be dating my daughter. This is what's important.
31:14
Yeti, yeti, yah. I blacked out. When, as
31:16
soon as he opened that box and I
31:18
saw the pool water from the Waimarra resort
31:20
falling over my gorgeous ring, I screamed, I'm
31:22
a falcon's wife. Cause all I told Jeff,
31:25
I was like, Jeff, I waited eight years.
31:27
If you don't give me some sort of
31:29
NFL ring where people wonder when I'm, you
31:31
know, when I walk around and they're like,
31:34
does her husband play in the NFL? That's all
31:36
I wanted. And I screamed. I'm an
31:38
NFL wife. Everybody on the
31:41
pool deck cheered. Everybody came out. All of our
31:43
friends who are also like co-owners of the resort
31:45
came out. Everyone's, they're snapping photos. And I pushed
31:47
Jeff out of the way and I stood there
31:49
at the edge of the infinity pool. And I
31:51
did my own photo shoot. It was about me
31:53
now. Okay, great. He had his moment. He built
31:56
his float. He bought the ring. Yeti, yeti, yah. I
31:58
think I got one photo with him. I said
32:00
it's about me now bitch and I love
32:02
that he made sure I was in my favorite blue bathing
32:04
suit I didn't have a stitch makeup on and that's
32:06
how I got engaged So did I want it was I
32:08
on a jumbotron at a Braves game? I was not but
32:11
was I still you know was the
32:13
lens hitting me? You know what
32:15
did I already have like three? I was three days into like
32:18
a little bit of a sunburn so I had some rouge on
32:20
my cheeks He knew exactly what he was doing but
32:22
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32:24
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32:26
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32:28
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32:30
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36:02
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36:07
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36:09
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36:16
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36:19
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36:22
laughing our asses off and had a great night.
36:24
Yeah. So anyways, fast forward
36:26
two weeks, I find out that I'm
36:28
pregnant. And my first ultrasound appointment is
36:30
scheduled for Valentine's Day. So Valentine's Day
36:32
2022, I go in for my first
36:36
ultrasound and I'm, you know, nervous.
36:38
I just want to hear a heartbeat. I want
36:40
a healthy baby, you know, all the things. Suddenly,
36:43
and they're getting the ultrasound done. And
36:45
the ultrasound text, she stops what she's
36:47
doing. And she looks at the monitor.
36:50
And then she looks back at me, and
36:52
she just pauses. And so I'm thinking the
36:54
worst, like, I've lost the baby, you know,
36:56
I'm just so upset. And
36:59
then she looks back at me and she says, well,
37:01
what do you think about twins? Oh,
37:04
Valentine's Day 2022. I found out
37:06
that I'm having twin babies that
37:08
I conceived the night of your
37:10
show in Lexington, Kentucky. So
37:13
do you are a
37:15
little fertility godmother, I guess. But now
37:17
I have 16 month
37:19
old twin boys. So happy
37:21
Valentine's Day, Heather. Love and light. Thanks.
37:24
Let's go doggy. That's
37:26
what I like to hear. Can't fix my own
37:29
fertility. But damn it, if you don't come to
37:31
a show and get knocked up, then I ain't
37:33
doing it right. Wait, this is so, oh,
37:36
what an absolute yes. Also,
37:38
I love it. See, guys, this is also
37:40
the thing. For Valentine's Day,
37:42
you know what all women want? They
37:44
just want to feel like you want
37:47
to do something that they want to
37:49
do. They don't need all the gifts. Okay,
37:51
and I hate to speak for everybody. Get them
37:53
tickets to my show. It will show
37:55
them that you want to do something that they want
37:57
to do. To me, that is one Things
38:00
girls will go to football games like I'll
38:02
go to hockey games with Jeff I enjoy
38:04
hockey now, but when I didn't originally I
38:07
would go and I would just
38:09
say yeah This is fantastic now They're super fun
38:11
to me because I know what the fuck's going
38:13
on But it always made Jeff feel good because
38:15
he I wasn't sitting around bitching complaining Buy
38:17
tickets to my show take your lady and you
38:19
will get laid so hard you want to know
38:22
why because it's minimal effort They're gonna go Wow
38:24
He's going out of his comfort zone to do
38:27
something that I want to do which then in
38:29
return makes me feel Important and special and
38:31
that he's willing to do things for me.
38:33
That is great So first of all right
38:35
out the gate that your husband knew exactly
38:37
what was good. Also. I love it You
38:39
know what I mean? I I think that
38:41
I have I'm giving off solid joyful energy
38:44
and that's why you got pregnant with two That's
38:46
a beautiful thing Oh, I love that
38:49
and the amount of people that will message me after a
38:51
show or before a show You know we got away for
38:53
the weekend or we got away from the kids I
38:56
mean obviously a lot of girls do a girl trip
38:58
to my show But when
39:00
there's couples that come I'll always get DMS.
39:02
I love getting DMS from the guys Yo
39:04
had a great time last night. Laughs my
39:06
ass off also had sex 16 times
39:09
with my girlfriend I'm like that's what's
39:11
up Tyler. That's what's up. You're welcome
39:14
You know what I mean and these guys were like my
39:16
wife dragged me to your show But I ended
39:18
up having a good time and I got my
39:20
dick sucked I'm like that's what I was telling
39:22
you Connor. That's what I was saying That's
39:26
a beautiful thing. Oh my god. I love
39:28
it. Hmm. I freaking
39:30
love it You know that just
39:32
makes me happy Listen all I want
39:34
to do is make people happy okay. I could be
39:36
dead inside. I could be absolutely rock-bottom Zero
39:39
energy nothing left to give have cried my
39:41
eyes out in my Audi But if once
39:43
I hit that stage I'm bringing happiness and
39:45
joy and we're giggling and then all the
39:47
rest of the shit goes away Life
39:50
is too short to be upset move
39:52
on and get pregnant That's
39:54
great. Oh, I love that see when y'all share stuff
39:56
with me. That just makes me so happy So
39:59
happy Happy. What a beautiful thing. What
40:03
a beautiful thing. Let's get to the next voicemail. Hello,
40:05
Heather. Jodi from Cleveland, long
40:07
time listener, first time caller, long time
40:10
showgoer, yada, yada, yada. Yeah, girl.
40:12
Absolutely not to high school dating. When
40:16
I was in high school, like a junior,
40:18
I think I brought my boyfriend
40:21
who I lost my virginity
40:23
to, to this Valentine's Day
40:25
dance. He decided
40:27
to leave in the middle of it to
40:29
go with all these cool guys, to cool
40:31
party games. I didn't go.
40:34
It was a big pussy, whatever. I
40:37
get to call it 2am. I
40:39
don't answer. I get a voicemail and
40:42
all I hear in the voicemail is, oh,
40:46
oh, oh shit. And it hangs up. His
40:49
fan boy butt dialed me in
40:52
the middle of having sex with another girl.
40:55
I screamed my head off. My
40:57
mom thought, like King Master's thought
41:00
I witnessed a murder, but like
41:02
she basically excited about the murder
41:04
this night. So absolutely
41:06
not to just those
41:09
trying times and absolutely not to those
41:11
old like first touch phones,
41:13
phones that people had that were
41:15
so easily butt dialed, like pocket
41:18
dialed or whatever. I'm
41:20
the fool. I stayed with him for a little bit,
41:22
but as a 15 year old does, you don't know
41:24
any better. But I don't know.
41:27
It makes me laugh so hard and I'm
41:29
like having an absolute phobia of
41:31
butt dialing to this day. Not
41:34
that I would do anything that nefarious, but you know. Anyway,
41:36
love and like. Come back to Cleveland. I
41:39
know you probably won't for a while, but love
41:41
to have you. Listen,
41:44
honey. Love you. Love Cleveland. Shout
41:46
out to the good people of Ohio. First of all, if you had
41:48
an OKEA, I mean, if you had a flip phone, you were kind
41:50
of safe. Like I had a razor. I remember it was hard
41:52
to butt dial when I had a razor because that thing
41:55
kind of closed like a little clamshell. But
41:57
man, if you had the original Nokia that had snake
41:59
on. it, forget it. You were butt
42:01
dialing your fucking principal. You called 911
42:03
every 13 minutes.
42:06
It was what it was. My
42:08
mom pretty recently, we were in
42:10
CVS and she just kept yelling across CVS,
42:12
have I keep getting a booty call? A
42:14
booty call. I'm like, mom, it's a butt
42:16
dial. A booty call and a butt dial.
42:18
Two very different things. Oh
42:21
God. High school love. First
42:23
of all, and I know I've said this before,
42:25
okay, I apologize. I've only had like 600
42:28
episodes of this podcast. Remember in like,
42:30
we did this thing in junior high
42:32
when you could send a carnation or
42:34
it was in high school, you could
42:36
send a carnation to somebody's class around
42:38
Valentine's. And let me tell you, there
42:40
was always one girl, you know what
42:43
I mean? Who had 400 carnations
42:45
from dudes who were just puppy
42:47
dog and her. And of course I'd
42:49
send carnations to my girlfriends. I,
42:51
and I would always get one carnation from
42:53
like, you know, the foreign exchange
42:56
student who I was super kind to, cause
42:58
I'm a nice person and I
43:00
wanted to learn more about Korea, you know,
43:02
so he would always send me nice carnations.
43:06
But I was like, listen, I don't know how
43:08
to tell you, you know, you're half my size. I
43:10
don't think it's going to work out romantically, but yes,
43:12
I thank you for that beautiful flower arrangement. But I
43:15
would always send carnations to my friends because I never
43:17
wanted them because it was always that one bitch named
43:20
Lauren who was just, you
43:23
know, she developed early, she
43:25
had juicy titties, good for her. And the
43:27
rest of us were just raw dog in it
43:29
and our little bralettes. Now, if I try to
43:31
put a bralette on these days, it wouldn't even
43:34
cover her back fat, one back fat, and I
43:36
have multiple back fats, but dating
43:38
in high school, it's just so
43:40
volatile, right? So volatile.
43:42
These guys, they would have 16 girls
43:44
lined up and actually is exactly what it's
43:47
like to date nowadays. But back
43:49
in the days, you get away with it. Here's the thing.
43:51
Yes, this online dating is insane because
43:54
guys can have an online profile. They can even catfish,
43:56
they cannot be who they say they are and they
43:58
can at strengths 25. women
44:00
along but eventually you will get found
44:02
out because there's only so much you
44:05
can do while leaving a I guess
44:07
an online footprint if you will right
44:09
like there's only so much you
44:11
can get away with until a woman's gonna DM
44:13
another woman or see something on tik-tok or
44:16
you're gonna get exposed so yes the
44:18
truth eventually comes out when these guys
44:20
are stringing a bunch of women along
44:22
but back in high school dude it
44:24
took one butt dial on the Nokia
44:26
to know that you were getting a hand
44:28
job outside of the regal cinemas in
44:30
front of the Cold Stone Creamery you
44:32
couldn't get away with much all
44:35
right one but that one
44:37
but that now you got away with it
44:39
for longer I will say
44:41
that but then all it took was
44:43
that one but dial outside of a
44:45
Cold Stone Creamery and you got got nowadays
44:49
these guys they're able to you
44:51
know what I mean have a bunch of different personas
44:53
a bunch of different things going on and then when
44:55
they get got its public you know
44:57
I mean back in the day when you got got
44:59
it was just like six year girlfriends when toilet paper
45:02
in his house and I tell you
45:04
this right now if you get cut if somebody's
45:06
cheating on you I will also still in the
45:08
year 2024 go into a little paper someone's house
45:11
probably one of the highlights of my life there's
45:13
no better rush than in high school when
45:15
you would wear all black you get your
45:18
outfit from Express you'd wear all black you're
45:20
crazy and you get you like borrow somebody's
45:22
mom suburban and you would drive around in
45:24
toilet paper people's houses and you were like fuck you
45:26
Terry fuck you I didn't know a single guy named
45:28
Terry in my high school but you know what I'm
45:31
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and you will be deal. Now back to the podcast.
48:40
Dating in high school is broken heart. All
48:42
t y to the winter. The same school from. Kindergarten through
48:45
twelfth grade. So. I wasn't dating any of the
48:47
guys in my high school. None of the girls
48:49
were because we'd already dated them. Like you know
48:51
from your fourth grade boyfriend, your six creep wave,
48:53
read your eighth grade, then you get a junior
48:55
year in you're like a thoughts and then they
48:57
were all like two feet tall. So after in
48:59
a once we are all the girls had freshman
49:01
year. we were all. Five. Ten and
49:03
above and these guys had pizza. It was
49:05
like they'll step. it's I. six. Another thing
49:07
with all of a shortcut. we love issue
49:10
working but at the time to sort of
49:12
guys didn't understand what being short king was
49:14
so there wasn't that kind of sexy sorkin
49:16
energy. It was napoleon complex. We both know
49:18
this, but man oh dude I would you
49:21
little high school Thirty did. He.
49:23
Go to high school party dishonest out. And
49:26
you're like I'm going to the party's his own
49:28
to see Justin Unity mean and then as he
49:30
just sending I'm a new Alpha from Abercrombie and
49:32
Fitch. Fuckin slay yes bitch and you would show
49:34
up to the party and there be another girl
49:36
like sitting on his lap and you they they
49:38
what does. But just in. What?
49:41
Outside outside and then your girls would like
49:43
tag team buner to me and as I
49:45
am an avid a fucking fight this girl.
49:48
And then you'd be outside with the other girl
49:50
and she they do i need out which as
49:52
and have halitosis like of guy these guys are
49:54
gross We all come together the and we always
49:57
did. But. There were a all these guys
49:59
you'd always lot. into a party and they're like
50:01
taking shots with another girl and you're like you
50:03
only take shots with me Justin but
50:05
you don't tell anybody about it because you've
50:07
never told anybody I'm your girlfriend I
50:10
definitely think I probably had a boyfriend at
50:13
one point like eighth grade and nobody knew
50:15
I was his boyfriend and then it also
50:17
happened in college I
50:19
don't know were people ashamed that I was their girlfriend
50:22
maybe because I was loud never forget that
50:24
still bitter about that comment Heather was
50:26
loud was I loud or did I just have
50:29
something poignant to say we
50:31
went to a high school party once shout out to my boy
50:34
Dave I'm not gonna say his last name
50:36
because I don't know his wife might be
50:38
listening and two guys got in a fight but a hole
50:40
in his wall and I
50:42
remember I was being a slut I was wearing
50:44
my Hollister short skirt dancing on the coffee table
50:46
surprised I didn't you know go right through the
50:48
table and as soon as two guys there's
50:51
a guy named Brendan and a guy named Matt they got in
50:53
a fight hole goes through the wall Dave's
50:55
parents from running down the stairs and
50:58
Dave's dad just goes I am absolutely
51:00
flabbergasted at what assholes you
51:02
children are being and Mary Beth Annie Katie
51:04
and I busted out the back door
51:06
and we were hiding in the bushes
51:08
and I called my mom for my no key and
51:10
I said mom come pick us up she said where
51:12
are you I said don't even come down to the
51:14
cul-de-sac we will meet you at the end of the
51:16
street in the bushes and we waited in the bushes
51:18
for 20 minutes and my mom pulled up and her
51:21
red jaguar vandon applause and I literally jumped on the
51:23
hood of the car we got
51:25
in the car and she took us to Sonic and
51:27
she picked us up and we went to Sonic that
51:29
night she's like what happened I'm like
51:31
the boys got in a fight there's a hole
51:33
in the wall Dave's dad is making us all
51:35
pay $25 to fix the wall and my mom's
51:37
like over my dead body he couldn't control the
51:39
body and we skied it on the sonic
51:42
dude
51:44
there was nothing worse though than when you thought you were
51:46
like talking to somebody and then you walked into a party
51:49
and the guy you know innocent times though
51:52
innocent times are taking ribbing a shot with another
51:54
gal She's sitting on the lap and
51:56
you were just like I Can't fucking believe it I
51:58
give you a hand job outside of. The Cold Stone
52:00
Creamery right next to the Regal Cinema. After
52:03
the Transformer movie at, this is what I
52:05
get. You. Know to mean
52:07
in the girl that I had no a d,
52:10
they are even talking Wednesday, my boyfriend for like
52:12
six months and I might another. Who. Didn't
52:14
tell anybody he's dating me. I
52:17
was also very cute. So. A
52:19
lotta you guys really missed opportunities. And
52:22
guy was nice and kyoto so go fuck
52:24
yourself. I ended up dating a guy
52:26
that went to the rival. Private high school
52:28
and. That did not end well.
52:30
Okay, great let's go the next voicemail. Had
52:33
are Here is an absolutely
52:36
fucking Not forth and episode.
52:38
At me. As mid twenties
52:40
and home with my has been I've
52:42
been married to about five years. Two.
52:46
Kids under four years old with
52:48
at the time as Redbox he
52:50
did. He. Paused.
52:52
So my husband. I
52:55
take my brother. To the gas
52:57
station to get cigarettes balances. Story
52:59
did it is paused. Personally
53:02
thirty minutes after they left I
53:04
became calling them. Know.
53:07
He answers. About two hours
53:09
after the last day. So how to
53:11
returned? That's what. I
53:14
went to bed approximately five hours
53:16
later, never finish the movie and.
53:18
Found out the next morning and they've
53:21
been at a strip club and skyn
53:23
about eight hundred dollars? no absolutely not
53:25
too skinny melons and stay alone with
53:27
two kids under the age of four.
53:30
Or your husband to to brother to
53:32
his shirt caught on Valentine's Day. From.
53:34
Happy to say, have been divorced
53:36
for almost six years and I
53:38
kicked my brother out of the house
53:41
about two years after I got
53:43
it. So. Absolutely
53:46
as to regime was wrong
53:49
women. Yeah. To to be strong
53:51
women don't ever swimming around since the like
53:53
that yeah, love each other. So
53:55
happy to see others success in your life!
53:58
Love you! Honey, I love you. If
54:00
I love you well we will dirty on
54:02
that voicemail. First of all all gals now
54:04
or I you we go to the strip
54:07
club on fucking President's Day a you know
54:09
afford to July and President's they are The
54:11
two days of the girls go to the
54:13
strip club. Don't ask me why, we just
54:16
all get it. The girls get it. Get
54:18
it. Also right now my eyes twitching that
54:20
voicemail may. My eye twitch and maybe throw
54:22
canal but we're gonna roll through. It's okay,
54:25
says. The thing to you know the
54:27
Valentine's Day you when you get the
54:29
right back C B D you are
54:31
bad to watch. Sleepless in Seattle have
54:33
romantic moment than all beside your husband
54:36
and your brother. Just get up to
54:38
go get cigarettes. Dude. And then
54:40
he spends eight hundred dollars and just doesn't
54:42
come back from the strip club Now I'm
54:44
so glad he divorces guy on said rob
54:46
also you know was the last place I
54:48
want to be share and share the my
54:50
sister in law. Love her dearly but I don't
54:53
want to. That was strip club on hell, died there,
54:55
was miserable. You know, just kind of an
54:57
odd place and odd vibe and on energy. and
54:59
then I'm glad that they are close. With that
55:01
she's an odd thing to do. You.
55:04
Know just get up in the middle of
55:06
a pause. the movie You think you run
55:08
an alford jade arrayed baby. You know? some
55:10
sour patch kids? And a pack
55:12
of zags and then you just spend. Eight
55:15
hundred dollars. At
55:17
a strip club with your brother
55:20
in law? Nana Nana Nana. Immediate
55:22
immediately, no immediate divorce. I
55:24
do love that the brother hung around for
55:26
an extra two years because listen, You.
55:28
Know keep your friends close but your family.
55:31
Definitely. Still on the on the pay roll.
55:33
I mean business? Yeah to do Chad deal. I
55:36
would like to. I have a couple follow up
55:38
questions you know to the brother comeback was like
55:40
these wasn't my idea. He. Was
55:42
a mod is it was Robs rob on
55:44
the get your eyes and said fuck this
55:46
bitch let's go to the strip clubs. I
55:48
didn't tell him no. And I didn't
55:50
tell him you weren't a bitch. But. Next thing
55:52
you know my hands are tied. He's going. I
55:54
mean I love when guide whatever they get
55:56
caught weather's are you know your brother. watches,
55:59
Your has a decently. The the best thing is when
56:01
guys at my hands are tied. You.
56:03
Know. It's. Like they know that some one
56:05
of their buddies is doing so. The babbling my
56:07
hands are tied. That's my boy. My as are
56:09
tied. I can't I couldn't tell
56:11
us. Marks. Wife that he was
56:14
being an adulterer. My hands are tied to
56:16
your hands are tied. We're. Hands are
56:18
going to be tied when you're in handcuffs. Given
56:21
by the call the authorities on your lion
56:23
as. As loved to say
56:25
that my hands are tied. Me:
56:27
And your put me in a bad spot. I also
56:30
love that one, right? Oh my. I could put me
56:32
in a bad spot. Like.
56:34
Bill. You for buying.
56:36
So. Jane. On
56:39
Christmas morning which your
56:41
bullies. Instead of opening
56:43
presents with your kids, you put me in
56:45
a bad spot. You could is said no.
56:48
You. Also could have said
56:50
no. To walking
56:52
out on your family and doing. A drug
56:54
run on Christmas morning. Guys. Love
56:57
these antics! He is my answer to. You.
56:59
Put me to bad spot. Your. Brother
57:01
could have easily his I he came home.
57:03
Sick, weird the fuck were you guys. Dude,
57:06
I want to get the middle of this. I don't.
57:08
You put me in a bad spot. Because.
57:11
I technically live here because I kiki all done
57:13
a. Job and your husband's and him for maniac
57:15
and isn't sleeping with a lot of other women
57:17
like I know exactly. Had a conversation with them.
57:20
I'm glad you're out of it. Listen, Valentine's Day
57:22
should also feel liberated. You know to me an
57:24
elite out whatever. it's a made up holiday about
57:26
loves but it's single fucking thrive in the fact
57:29
that you don't have to deal with bullshit and
57:31
if you're in a bad marriage or it a
57:33
bad relationship let this be the moment where that
57:35
are saw that like goes off the you're like
57:37
i'm get out of this shit. Let.
57:39
That be an eye opening moment and not
57:42
that you know again. Depicted.
57:44
as abby show but a bunch of gifts
57:46
but it there in the middle of sleepless
57:48
in seattle pausing and then go and to
57:51
leaving for three hours with wonder your family
57:53
members to go look at other tidies shaken
57:55
the when he remains. The. Last
57:57
rap. Light. Let
58:00
Valentine's Day be a check-in with yourself. What are
58:02
your priorities? What do you need? What's filling up
58:04
your love cup? If you're in a relationship and
58:07
you get to Valentine's Day and you're like, I'm
58:09
not even feeling this anymore, it may not even
58:11
be tumultuous. But if you're just like, listen, you
58:14
like things, I don't like, your family
58:16
sucks, I gotta go. Then go
58:18
to Portugal for the weekend and figure yourself out.
58:20
I'm just letting you know, it doesn't have to
58:23
be a do or die, doom and gloom. Sometimes
58:25
it can be a light check-in. You
58:27
know what I mean? A light little pap smear
58:29
on the strings of
58:32
your conscious and your heart. I don't know what
58:34
I was trying to say there. Let it be a check-in. But
58:37
my God, it just disappears. The
58:40
only day you're allowed to disappear and go see
58:42
some titty shake is when you come to my
58:44
shows and on President's Day and
58:46
Fortune's July. We all know this. Let's get to
58:48
the last voicemail. Heather, hey,
58:50
this is Nikki Smith from South
58:52
Carolina. Hey, Nikki. And I am sending
58:54
what I hope you're going to think is an absolutely
58:56
yes. My
58:59
25-year-old son Tanner was
59:01
recently a cast member on season two
59:03
of Love on the Spectrum on Netflix.
59:06
Tanner is autistic. I love Tanner. And
59:08
the show is about young adults who
59:10
are on the spectrum that are trying
59:12
to navigate dating for the first time.
59:15
And you are absolutely one of my favorite people
59:17
in the world. I live for your podcast every
59:19
week. And I was thinking how cool it would
59:22
be for you to interview him. He
59:24
lives independently with roommates and Clemson, so he's
59:26
not that far from you. And
59:29
you guys just have so many things in common.
59:31
You're two of the most awesome people that I
59:33
know. You're two of the most authentic people that
59:35
I know. Tanner could not give
59:37
a rat's ass what anyone thinks about him.
59:39
And I would describe you the exact same
59:41
way. You're both hilarious without even
59:44
trying to be. Tanner
59:46
is joyful and funny. And
59:49
just, you have to be around him to get it, but
59:51
he's a riot. You're both on
59:53
Netflix. He's on a reality show. You've got a special.
59:55
So that's another thing you guys have in common. He
59:58
absolutely loves to ask people questions. And obviously
1:00:00
you do too, because you've got a podcast. That
1:00:02
was one of the funniest parts that the
1:00:05
show aired of him with him firing questions on
1:00:07
his date. And it
1:00:09
was just really hilarious. But his
1:00:11
big theme is spread joy. And I
1:00:14
think that you are an incredible joy spreader. And
1:00:16
I think the two of you together would just
1:00:19
be a force for raising awareness for differently abled
1:00:21
young adults who are out trying to make
1:00:23
their way in the world. So I just thought it would be a
1:00:25
really cool idea. And we'd love to hear
1:00:27
back from you. If this is something that you think
1:00:29
is an absolutely yes. Have a great day. Are
1:00:32
you kidding me? This is the greatest gift. Absolutely. Nikki,
1:00:34
thank you for calling into the podcast. Tanner,
1:00:36
absolutely. As soon as I get back from
1:00:38
Australia, you were on the podcast, buddy. First
1:00:41
of all, if you have, this is such
1:00:43
a sweet voicemail. Thank you for calling in.
1:00:45
Also, I've seen the show and Nikki, this
1:00:47
mom, oh, Tanner's mom is hot. She's a
1:00:49
strikingly gorgeous woman. So it's literally just said
1:00:51
out loud. We were watching the show last night.
1:00:53
Jeff goes, wow, Tanner's mom's so hot. Okay, so
1:00:55
let's talk about this real quick. If you have
1:00:58
not seen Love on the Spectrum, this is a
1:01:00
great segue. It's a great show. So
1:01:03
just endearing, sweet, funny, refreshing.
1:01:05
And I think such a great
1:01:07
reminder for folks to just like
1:01:09
get out of your head about
1:01:11
shit. Here's the deal. Tanner,
1:01:14
absolutely. Please come on the podcast. We would
1:01:16
love to have you open invitation. I'll have
1:01:18
my team reach out to your team. Let's
1:01:20
coordinate it and let's talk about love. Let's
1:01:22
talk about any questions that you've ever wanted
1:01:24
to ask. Love on the Spectrum, if
1:01:26
you haven't seen it, it's an incredible show on Netflix.
1:01:29
And it's where folks who are on
1:01:31
the autism spectrum are neurodivergent buddies are
1:01:33
out there finding love. First of all,
1:01:35
Jeff had never seen the show and we
1:01:38
watched it last night and Jeff was like,
1:01:40
this is so refreshing. A, because
1:01:42
I think a lot of people, and
1:01:44
I don't wanna speak for our friends on the spectrum, but
1:01:46
a lot of people think that like, if
1:01:49
you're neurodivergent that you may not have the
1:01:51
skills or the desire or the want to
1:01:53
seek out a relationship. And
1:01:56
you see the friends from the show, they
1:01:58
do speed dating. They're out there looking
1:02:00
for love, just like the rest of us are. I mean,
1:02:03
it's our human nature to wanna have a
1:02:05
connection with another person. And Tanner is fricking
1:02:07
great. I cannot believe you called in. I
1:02:09
am on a high right now. This is
1:02:11
an absolute yes. Tanner on the
1:02:13
show is so incredibly funny and adorable.
1:02:15
I've never met him, sorry, I haven't
1:02:18
even met him yet. I'm obviously a huge fan.
1:02:20
I've never seen somebody who has truly
1:02:22
has like a spark of joy behind
1:02:24
their eyes, the way Tanner does. And
1:02:26
I don't wanna give too much of
1:02:28
the show away, I'm only on
1:02:30
episode four right now. So I've seen Tanner
1:02:32
start his dating journey. And as you said,
1:02:35
mom, when he went on his first date,
1:02:37
he was just peppering this girl with questions.
1:02:40
I could tell they weren't a match because the
1:02:42
energy was not matching, but Tanner
1:02:44
would just showed up. He had flowers
1:02:46
for his date. He was just asking
1:02:49
her honestly straightforward questions. And this
1:02:51
is, can I tell you, this is
1:02:53
what I find really refreshing about
1:02:55
watching people who are neurodivergent or
1:02:57
on the autism spectrum dating. They
1:02:59
cut to the chase, dude. Literally Tanner's asking
1:03:01
her questions like, do you like nature? Do
1:03:03
you have allergies? Do you like barnyard animals?
1:03:06
And if she says no, he's like next.
1:03:08
Like there's no fucking around.
1:03:10
There is no like, okay, let's try and
1:03:12
like work this out or let me waste
1:03:14
my time with somebody for two years. If
1:03:16
I'm so obsessed with nature and barnyard animals,
1:03:18
and that's what I want my main hobby
1:03:20
to be, why am I gonna hang out
1:03:23
with this chick who ain't into the stuff
1:03:25
I'm into? There was another guy on the
1:03:27
show who went out on a date and
1:03:29
I really thought they were hitting it off on
1:03:31
the date. And they're immediately talking about like, I'm
1:03:33
into anime, I'm into, I like these TV shows.
1:03:36
I like this movie. These are the sports I
1:03:38
like to play, yada, yada, yada. And then they
1:03:40
sit down. They're having a lemonade and a cranberry
1:03:42
juice. And the girl goes, I wanna have a
1:03:44
family and kids. And the gentleman is
1:03:46
immediately like, that's not gonna work. It's not gonna
1:03:48
work. And I love the way he said it.
1:03:50
This is not Tanner. This is another gentleman on
1:03:52
the show. He just said, well, this
1:03:55
has been a lovely date, but I
1:03:57
don't think this is gonna work out because I don't want to be a dad. And
1:03:59
she's like, thank you. you for your honesty." And she's
1:04:01
like, thank you for being transparent. And then he
1:04:03
was like, have a lovely day. I'd love
1:04:05
to remain friends. That's it. I'm
1:04:07
like, how fucking refreshing is that kind of
1:04:10
dating? And Jeff in the moment said, he's
1:04:13
like, you know, what's so wild with people who
1:04:15
are not neurodivergent. Can you imagine this poor girl,
1:04:17
if she's dating just a regular old Joe Schmo,
1:04:19
who's a finance bro from New York, and he
1:04:21
drags her out in like a three year relationship.
1:04:23
And then she's like, but I want to settle
1:04:25
down and have kids. She's like, I told you
1:04:28
this on like our fifth date. And he's like,
1:04:30
well, whatever. I just thought I would like keep
1:04:32
stringing you along for three years. And now she's
1:04:34
wasted three years of her life for a guy
1:04:36
who doesn't want to have kids and wants to
1:04:38
keep doing cocaine on the weekends. And she's like,
1:04:40
I'm ready to settle down. Listen, our
1:04:43
buddies over here on Love on the Spectrum got that out of
1:04:45
the way on the first date. Like, do
1:04:47
you like these following things? No, you
1:04:49
don't. Next. It is the
1:04:51
most refreshing style of dating I've ever seen. So
1:04:54
I think everybody needs to watch Love on
1:04:56
the Spectrum. And maybe if we were a
1:04:58
little kinder, more patient and a little bit
1:05:00
more straightforward on these first dates, instead of
1:05:02
baiting around the bush, you wouldn't end up
1:05:04
dating a guy who's a loser for six
1:05:06
months. If you get down the road and
1:05:08
you're like, this guy doesn't like
1:05:11
science. The way I like science. This guy
1:05:13
doesn't like vacationing in,
1:05:16
you know, on a ski trip, the way I
1:05:18
like to ski, like you gotta
1:05:20
have basic, you know, yeah, opposites attract, but
1:05:22
you can have basic things that you're both
1:05:24
into. Like if I,
1:05:26
if I dated a guy who on the, you
1:05:28
know, two weeks in was like, Oh, I don't
1:05:30
like Italian food. I'm allergic to garlic. It ain't
1:05:33
gonna work. There's
1:05:35
another guy on the show named Connor who's
1:05:37
out of Atlanta and he is the
1:05:39
fricking best. He goes on a speed
1:05:41
dating. He does speed dating
1:05:43
with fellow autistic guys and gals,
1:05:46
and he has a little chart. And maybe this is,
1:05:48
maybe we need to do this. Bumble has like a
1:05:51
printout or hinge has a printout and he went on
1:05:53
the date and you're sitting across, you got five minutes
1:05:55
on the speed date. You
1:05:57
know, he's talking to a girl named Emily. She doesn't.
1:06:00
like three things he doesn't like, he would
1:06:02
just check out no. And then the next
1:06:04
role will come out no. And so finally
1:06:06
the producers pull him aside, this guy Connor,
1:06:08
and they're just like, Hey, Connor,
1:06:10
can you wait to scratch out their names before they
1:06:12
get up from the table? Like, just wait. And he
1:06:14
was like, Oh, it didn't even think about
1:06:17
that. I mean, savage, just like next, next.
1:06:19
So I, all of this
1:06:21
to be said, Tanner, we would love to have
1:06:23
you on the podcast. I think it would be
1:06:26
such a breath of fresh air. And please ask
1:06:28
me anything you want, like, let's be a guiding
1:06:30
light for each other on how to navigate this
1:06:32
world. You know, we've got two different mindsets right
1:06:34
now. But I think this is a fantastic way
1:06:36
to, you know, learn something about each other. And
1:06:39
honestly, I want to, if I can impart any
1:06:41
wisdom on Tanner about dating, he can also impart
1:06:43
some wisdom on to me about life in
1:06:45
general. You know, that's what we're trying
1:06:48
to do out here is just make
1:06:50
it work. But Tanner is
1:06:53
the sweetest. Oh my God. I think
1:06:55
everybody that's Valentine's Day should watch Love
1:06:57
on the Spectrum. It is so heartwarming.
1:06:59
And it's so funny. And I gotta
1:07:01
say Tanner's mom who's listening, you
1:07:04
were such a great mom. And I literally
1:07:06
shed a tear when you said it was
1:07:08
difficult when you were trying to, you
1:07:11
know, when you realize that your
1:07:13
son was different, and you were trying to, like you said,
1:07:15
and I don't want to misquote you, you're like, I was
1:07:17
trying to get all the right therapy for Tanner, I
1:07:19
was trying to make sure that he had all the
1:07:21
right tools in his toolbox to
1:07:23
help him navigate the world. And I believe
1:07:25
you said, and then finally we took a
1:07:27
step back and let Tanner be Tanner and
1:07:30
this beautiful personality came out. And he is
1:07:32
just such a joy. And I thought that
1:07:34
was such a beautiful parenting moment too. I'm
1:07:36
like, wow, what a great lesson and reminder.
1:07:38
And obviously, like, you know, I'm not in
1:07:41
the same situation. But I was just like,
1:07:43
what a beautiful mom to like, just
1:07:45
let Tanner be the best. I mean, you guys
1:07:47
have to watch the show, you're going to immediately
1:07:49
fall in love with him. And listen, I don't
1:07:52
give me any spoilers. I don't know if he's
1:07:54
found love yet. But Tanner, if you are single
1:07:56
and you're listening, honey, we will, we will find
1:07:58
you a gal as soon as You get
1:08:00
on this podcast, but yeah, everybody needs
1:08:02
to watch Love on the Spectrum. It is so great.
1:08:04
They just get to the point. There's no riffraff. You're
1:08:07
not going to be drug into a relationship for six years
1:08:09
with somebody who's not, doesn't have the same interests,
1:08:12
thoughts, you know,
1:08:14
characteristics. At the end of
1:08:16
the day, you got to have the same character. If you
1:08:18
don't, it's not going to work out. Yeah, you could both
1:08:20
love football, but if you don't have the same shades in
1:08:22
your heart, it's not going to work out point blank period.
1:08:25
But what an absolute yes. Oh my God, I just got
1:08:27
so excited. Tanner, please come on the show. You
1:08:29
guys, if you're listening to this and you're driving around
1:08:31
or maybe you're sitting on your couch and you're like,
1:08:33
eh, I was going to be bummed out about Valentine's
1:08:36
Day. Don't. All right.
1:08:38
You got somebody you love, love of me more.
1:08:40
But if you got to break up with somebody,
1:08:42
also pull the ripcord. And if you're single and
1:08:44
ready to mingle, put on some love on the
1:08:46
spectrum, get a giggle and just remember,
1:08:48
you know what I mean? We're all just trying to
1:08:50
figure it out. Nothing's perfect and
1:08:53
celebrate the wins when you get them because that's what we're all
1:08:55
trying to do. All right. I
1:08:57
love you. I'm in Australia. So
1:09:00
come see my shows, get your tickets at
1:09:02
heatherandtour.com and we'll be back stateside in
1:09:04
a week and we'll see you there. Love you mean
1:09:06
it. Ciao Bella. Arrivederci.
1:09:09
See you in the next episode. Thanks so much for listening to today's episode. Please
1:09:48
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