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Welcome to the Achieve Your Goal podcast.

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This is host How L Rod in

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Today This is a really important episode.

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I am talking with Jamie currently my

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author of the brand new book were

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the How To Believe You are enough

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and transform your life and I want

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to just read this from the book.

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She says in life you don't sort

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the level of your hopes and dreams.

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You stay stuck at the level of

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your self worth. In your career, relationships,

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friendships and ambitions, you don't rise to

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what you believe. It's possible you fall

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to what you believe you're. Worthy of.

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When. You build yourself worth, you, change

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your entire life and that's what today's

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episode is about. We're diving into concepts

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from her new book worthy and I

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want to tell you a little brother,

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Jamie before you listen to this episode.

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See, you know who she is and

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she's pretty extraordinary. She is a American

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entrepreneur, billion dollar business success story, champion

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of women philanthropists, culture shifter, and highly

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sought after keynote speaker Jamie. As a

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New York Times bestselling author of Believe

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It How To Go from under estimated

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to unstoppable. She's a guest teacher

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of the Life You Want class live

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with Oprah Winfrey and founder of I

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T Cause Metics a company she started

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in her living room and groups the

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largest luxury make a brand in the

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country. She sold the company the Lori

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L. Free Billion Dollar deal and became

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the first female Ceo of a brand

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in it's One Hundred Plus Your History.

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I met her a few months back,

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maybe six months ago at a Mastermind

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for authors. And she told me

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that she had read me a local morning

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and we hit it off and I was

2:05

really inspired by her story. And I'll tell

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you, I received an early copy of Jamie's

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Bookworthy, as I'm often fortunate to receive from

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other authors. I had the interview with her

2:13

that you're about to listen to. And that

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really got me excited for this concept. Because

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I do believe what she says that like

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self worth is the foundation of our success,

2:22

our fulfillment, our happiness, what we accomplish in

2:24

life and how we feel about our

2:26

life and ourselves. And this is actually after

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I've started the book, I've decided this is

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the first book that I'm going to be

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reading with my daughter this summer. I may

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have told you all that I'm doing an

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epic summer of growth, work and transformation with

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my daughter Sophia, who's 14 this summer. And

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this is the first book that we are

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going to read together. I already have two

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copies. She'll read one, I'll read one, and

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then we'll discuss it chapter by chapter. So

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I'm telling you today's episode is going to

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within, Worthy, How to Believe You Are Enough

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and Transform Your Life, because y'all, we deserve

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it. All right, enjoy. Jamie

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Kern Lima, it is so good to see you.

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HAL, it's so great to see you. I'm

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excited to be here, excited for this episode. Thank

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you for having me. We were just talking about, you and I

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got to actually meet, it was called the

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Author for Author Mastermind at

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Donald Miller's house just a couple of months ago, and

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I've watched you on social media, like many of

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your followers and fans, that we feel like we

5:42

know you because you do show up very authentically

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and very vulnerably, and there's a lot of people

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that are like, oh, I'm a fan of you, and you show

5:49

up very authentically and very vulnerably, and then when you

5:51

came up to me and you said, Miracle Morning, I don't

5:54

remember exact words, but I read Miracle Morning, it changed

5:56

my life, or it helped me or something, and I

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was like, oh my gosh, that's incredible. Credible. So

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ugh, it's just it's cool because the you're

6:02

already New York Times bestselling author, a body

6:04

that's the pinnacle of any author, right? Like

6:06

being in New York Times bestselling author. But

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now you have a brand new book and

6:10

I'm seeing this book everywhere. But what I

6:12

love about the book is the title is

6:14

worthy. I'm an ass your question. but I'm

6:16

gonna make a statement first. Affirmations are one

6:18

of my favorite. Parts. Of life

6:20

right? Like affirming, Optimizing my mindset by

6:23

affirming what I really know I need

6:25

to think and believe. And my favorite

6:27

affirmation is that I am just as

6:29

worthy, deserving and t full of everything

6:31

and want in my life as any

6:33

other person on earth. That is my

6:36

foundational in practice in the New. The

6:38

Miracle Morning bucks. That's my foundation for

6:40

me. Sick to me. that is where

6:42

it starts. So. With that said,

6:44

being that I do believe that your feeling of

6:46

self worth is weird, everything starts in your book

6:49

is called Worthy. You say the best work of

6:51

your life? Tell me why you wrote it. Will

6:54

make a mess. I wrote it became exactly

6:56

what you just said. I could.

6:58

Not be more aligned with our and I

7:00

have had such huge lessons in my life.

7:02

Must be a lot of people. Baker will

7:04

my story in a see. Or Danny later.

7:06

So billion Dollar Company and all the

7:09

things and and my real and war.

7:11

That's true. a real story of most

7:13

of my life not believing I'm enough

7:15

and right now and eighty percent of

7:18

women don't believe there and that seventy

7:20

three percent on man struggling during an

7:22

adequate the not enough. it's a real

7:25

thing and I think you know for

7:27

me for all I got for this

7:29

kind of many wild plate my life

7:31

where I started when I had seen

7:34

and mass an ominous feeling. That rates

7:36

like I, I kind of, I, sex

7:38

and the messina can not quite enough.

7:40

And so I believed what are called

7:42

the lie that so many of us

7:44

deal with your rank when I finally

7:46

get that goal, whether it's getting married,

7:49

having kids, are getting a certain level

7:51

of my company, or some type of

7:53

external level and achievement. And in my

7:55

case, you know I. I've worked so

7:57

hard building this the company to really

7:59

like. The company and and even got to

8:01

the point where I felt like I had

8:03

achieved. So much more than

8:06

I could have ever imagined that

8:08

the world probably success looks like

8:10

and I hustled. Well tied

8:12

for it and still when I arrived

8:14

at it, Was like why don't

8:16

I still feel a net. And

8:19

I became obsessed with studying self worth.

8:21

And. I realized that for every single one

8:23

about whether it is in our businesses

8:25

or our relationship or add a whole

8:28

thing goals and dreams that you know

8:30

we don't in life we don't become

8:32

what we want, we become what we

8:34

believe were worried years and when it

8:36

comes to our level of the film

8:38

in July and even what we think

8:40

it's possible for our lives that we

8:42

don't rise to what we believe is

8:44

possibly father what we believe a worthy

8:46

of. We don't sword swam level goals

8:48

and dreams. We. Fish Desk. At.

8:51

The level of our Southworth. In

8:53

so many ways and. I have

8:55

been obsessed the past few years

8:57

and understanding that I have had

8:59

a lot of self confidence in

9:01

my life and a lot of

9:03

us think we need more self

9:05

confidence or lot to really important

9:07

if is very different than self

9:09

worth and we so often strive

9:11

for thing that build confidence which

9:14

is great. So. What We really

9:16

need A self worth Because it out

9:18

strong self worth that. Believe him, we are

9:20

worthy of Levin blogging exactly as we are.

9:22

We can see the everything in the

9:24

world that will still never fill a national

9:26

self. you know, not. enjoy it, not

9:29

have fulfilled and always feel like something messy.

9:31

And so it's kind of been a

9:33

huge obsession and I'm really excited because when

9:35

I realized that most people in my life

9:37

even really really really smart people. Think.

9:41

They're unhappy. Because they just haven't

9:43

achieved enough or done enough works,

9:45

works hard enough and it's a

9:47

never ending cycle to know where

9:49

if you don't. Also learned that

9:52

foundation the he so eloquently shared

9:54

an open at a show which

9:56

is yourself worth any bad? Is

9:58

the Foundation padded everything? I'm from

10:00

the so passionate about this black. it's my

10:02

first book when you in my story of

10:04

Move On and my journey desperate. Very

10:06

be a. Pact with Twenty Two Or

10:09

and how do you truly bill? Self.

10:11

Worth in your life and and how it

10:13

so that when when I have confidence now

10:16

the other thing but you have low self

10:18

worth it I think it's just gonna be

10:20

a need for me. It was such a

10:22

huge ah life changing moment, understanding the different

10:25

and then learning how to build myself Worth.

10:27

To actually feel to enjoy. My

10:29

life and and even serve at a

10:31

higher level cel. Yeah, Does it

10:33

mean it's such a fundamental truth and

10:36

principal and I think the proof of

10:38

it is coming to your points. You've

10:40

achieved levels of external success beyond what

10:42

Ninety Nine Point Nine Nine Nine for

10:44

some people ever will, right? And we

10:46

see with so many celebrities right or

10:48

really any. Anyone. Who achieved success?

10:50

But they're not House because they thought

10:53

that happiness and love and joy and

10:55

the internal feelings that they were chasing,

10:57

they thought it would be found in

10:59

the external accomplishment. And. In in on

11:01

and you achieve all your goals and dreams. You're like oh

11:03

wait, I'm. Still me, I'm still

11:05

don't feel good enough. I still feel

11:08

like an imposter. Say the more for

11:10

people since you that highly successful people

11:12

sometimes have the biggest struggled with self

11:15

worth and that's why they become so

11:17

successful because the needed to feel worthy.

11:19

So bad. That. They were willing to

11:22

work it tirelessly and a hustle and grinded.

11:24

Do whatever it took and then yells you

11:26

put the got there in the like. Oh.

11:29

I. Didn't work on the inside. I'm

11:31

just an unworthy millionaire. Or I'm

11:33

an unworthy. It's celebrity. I'm an

11:35

unworthy world champion. Right now, you

11:37

just talked about self confidence and

11:40

self worth. How would you define

11:42

the difference between the two? Yeah,

11:44

This is oh my gosh. thank you

11:46

for asking that because this mind thing

11:48

to understand the difference in your life

11:51

and and because so bad for everyone

11:53

lessening the matter what really matters see

11:55

most in your personal and professional out

11:57

the matter where you're at your own

11:59

journey. No self confidence and walks

12:01

or confidence isn't earn internal tree. it's

12:04

kind of thing we sure most about

12:06

out in the world like I just

12:08

need more self complex so communist or

12:10

an internal three it. Matched

12:12

based on be external and what's happening

12:14

around you. It's based on your assessment

12:17

and your own skills and abilities and

12:19

and how you feel you stack up

12:21

and compare to others. It's a reflection

12:24

of your willingness to try and go

12:26

for it. How much of the world

12:28

definition of success you feel like you

12:31

had? If you're winning or losing at

12:33

any moment and your self confidence is

12:35

volatile, it's fragile a can fluctuate right

12:38

beach. The study showed a boxer that

12:40

when besides is automatically thirty. Percent

12:42

more confident. And it

12:44

fluctuates and are. Self worth

12:46

On the other hand, in the

12:49

deep internal know league at an

12:51

identity level that you are worthy

12:53

of love and belonging exactly as

12:56

you are, Not as you achieve

12:58

not and your Windsor law School

13:00

not as your past mistakes that

13:03

exactly as you are and. And.

13:05

So many ways it's like. Self. Confidence

13:07

in this house we're building in

13:09

our line. But but Southworth is

13:11

the foundation that shouted on line

13:14

and I think one way that

13:16

maybe everyone missing trust, concern and

13:18

apply the difference in their life

13:20

right now and that we're sought

13:22

can have to your point where

13:24

we learn and we can learn

13:26

through just society through. Television

13:28

commercial to Abbey and we ever seen a

13:31

magazine that it would suck like if we.

13:33

Can we get be staying? In

13:35

a bar will be happy and so

13:37

prevalent a kind of imagine maybe something

13:40

bad news times you know I finally

13:42

get the thing. Maybe it's like I

13:44

finally put my book and the world

13:47

I spy me get that certain job

13:49

title as finally find a partner and

13:51

get married or have changed or would

13:54

get a six pack and sixty know

13:56

the dream car whatever it is a

13:58

certain bank account number. The when I

14:00

finally did that thing I'm when be

14:03

happy and the be fulfilled amateur feel

14:05

enough and for so many honestly were

14:07

really really high. A person with

14:09

decade he can get. That seeing him and

14:11

when we arrive at it for most

14:13

of us right where have a really

14:16

happy for like maybe a month or

14:18

a week or a few hours before

14:20

we know it or back. that feeling

14:22

about to sell sell enough reflects a

14:24

big nothing in my life and what

14:26

people than often do they think long.

14:28

And kind of work harder. I just got

14:30

it when she more than the issue and

14:33

maiming recruiter harder. And harder Hutch and We

14:35

rioted the next thing. And then

14:37

the same thing happened. And for

14:39

anybody who's a perfectionist or an

14:41

achiever, this can be like. A

14:44

never ending cycle to nowhere

14:46

for adverse and. While

14:48

in that process and going

14:50

after the things. We are

14:52

building three things. That are really important we're

14:54

building self confident. Doing. All that

14:56

were often growing which is so important

14:59

for a lot of a spirit were

15:01

contributing Texas and degraded as soundlessly things

15:03

are really important. But. While.

15:06

Rebuilding all the confidence in the world

15:08

doing this being none of them, Build

15:10

software and that is why we arrive

15:12

and and we don't We still don't

15:14

feel like we're enough and then the

15:16

way that that can manifest in in

15:18

our lives and a lie people thinking

15:20

make. I just don't feel fulfilled And

15:22

I don't know why. I think it's

15:25

my job. From. They quit that

15:27

job or I don't feel fulfilled

15:29

in my marriage. I don't know

15:31

why the the me that partners

15:33

and really they don't realize like

15:35

a week. First deep down inside

15:37

it at an identity level do

15:39

I have shown to self worth

15:41

and when we don't. What?

15:43

It can look like. Eating be it should be. Reading

15:46

in the outside world. Man, I've had

15:48

this happen. To me, feel lucky time with

15:50

you can be cheating on it but then.

15:53

Whether you're winning a meeting or whatever. If.

15:55

You have low self worth. Really low self

15:57

worth a look like. Staying. Stuck.

16:00

You don't know why you're stuck. Like

16:02

why you're not putting your idea that

16:04

they're in the world by you're not

16:06

sharing. A bullet wound to

16:08

the idea at work. Why? you're not

16:10

me now. getting back. And the dating

16:12

app. A can be any number

16:14

of things that most affordable cause us to

16:16

say that if we have like a load

16:18

and meeting him self worth we might go

16:20

for the things. But. Then in the

16:23

process that only makes sabotage and gloomy a

16:25

medium to high self worth breaks the best

16:27

case possible as you go after all the

16:29

things you hope and dream frame life and

16:31

you may even achieve them but when you

16:33

arrive with them. You don't feel fulfilled.

16:36

You still feel like it's not enough.

16:38

And. You stuff like something's missing south

16:40

self work as like the one. Thing.

16:43

That changes everything and it's

16:45

really. Why I wrote worry be an

16:47

issue with a huge problem I realized

16:49

I had my wife and I didn't

16:51

understand but so far this is different

16:53

than self confidence. I didn't understand that

16:56

no matter how much a cheaper, how

16:58

many other people I p the make

17:00

happy when I don't believe I'm enough

17:02

as I am I'm never filled with

17:04

a helmet. And I know that the Chiefs

17:06

were having. An Lcs. I'm really, really excited

17:09

about. This ya and I I can see

17:11

like the self confidence as you're talking about

17:13

his and I'm reading this and I forgot

17:15

what because read recently. But you do. You

17:17

build self confidence by doing things right meaning

17:19

that if you do something you attempt, you

17:21

pursue a goal and you get a result.

17:23

Now you have confidence that you can now

17:26

get results when you proceed goals right and

17:28

the different from what I'm hearing is what

17:30

you know where his self worth, that's an

17:32

inside out job and the beauty of it

17:34

is And and that's why I'm excited. I'm

17:36

excited. Read your book because I struggle with

17:38

just like. Anybody does. The beauty of it

17:41

is you don't have to like on my

17:43

self confidence were yeah you gotta go achieves

17:45

and goals and then build that confidence up

17:47

You literally I'm imagining this. Twenty practices are

17:49

solutions that you teach like this is. you

17:52

literally get to sit at home. On.

17:54

Your couch right and build yourself

17:56

worth zoo simply sifting through or

17:59

paradigm and your mindset of who

18:01

you really are and that we

18:03

are all. Just. As worthy

18:06

as any other human being on the

18:08

planet. Of self, love,

18:10

of. Self worth of so

18:12

and so forth. One of the things that

18:15

you mentioned earlier about sabotaging. And. Or

18:17

and being stuck you to things you

18:19

said about. you know that we get

18:21

stuck with sabotaged Three to the reasons

18:23

that people do that, or fear of

18:25

failure and fear of rejection. And I

18:27

know that you have some solutions for

18:29

both of those. Fear of failure? Fear

18:31

rejection. How we can overcome those so

18:33

that we can get unstuck. You talk

18:35

about that. Yeah, absolutely. it's a

18:37

land Egypt called. The Thought To Resist

18:39

Seven four inch you. Can do self

18:41

worth literally like the get on

18:43

illegal drugs. As

18:46

seen through the everything and likely to

18:48

mention that the when you end up

18:51

learning to truly. Believe you are not

18:53

exactly as you are different. How sad. It's

18:55

a as worthy of every other human beings.

18:58

It doesn't like hinder your. Ambition.

19:00

You know all the sudden discuss a cast.

19:02

you actually to speak from experience about going

19:04

out to the thing because you're not afraid

19:06

to fail anymore. It gets the fall flat

19:08

on your face. You know that if you

19:10

do about like Julia confidence. For a little

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bit but it is not cut your software

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that have been set them off for you

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actually can become much more ambitious. Just

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I sit nine your cats learned how to

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build them software and our the can do

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that and will listen. Here's the truth or

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share with you can Hello Arthur. I.

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Wrote this insider. Other black carbon

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Huge seems your relationship with rejects

19:31

and you change your entire life.

19:34

And for me, you. Know

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in building this company and my Adam your

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living room and few years and years near

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the projects and than spell yours. And

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figuring. Out few things at by the way

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many hot that i will before but the

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island which have to wait. Two more years

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to come out after Worthy. So

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we put it. I mean, it's

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chapter few and worry these cells

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inside. Many The Gravy is a

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chapter two. Cats When you see in

20:00

your relationship with rejection you change your

20:02

entire life. System. One day,

20:04

Even not one in twenty two of this one

20:06

thing. Is so huge Can

20:08

fear plate? So many a that fear

20:11

we stay stuck army sabotage thing that

20:13

were afraid of rejection, afraid of the

20:15

pain of failure and he announces that

20:17

are confident the here right goes to

20:19

a self worth level. So.

20:21

Many of them. Have had

20:23

some mistakes, failure you know

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rejection things we rugrats and

20:27

instead of going since I

20:29

been rejected some eight hundred

20:31

failed to many times. We.

20:34

Actually can let it take real. an

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assault rifle, ammo, an identity level where

20:38

we say to ourselves and as without

20:40

even realizing it, I'm a failure. I.

20:43

Am a region. And. That

20:45

can be where it starts to really chip

20:47

away at your self worth. And Wow! So

20:49

in an inward you the at Shepard's you

20:51

can't. Change your relationship with rejection, Change

20:53

your life I don't keep in

20:55

see. Like how sleep and there's a

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free ride A for effort partnering rec

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and called the four Hours where I

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p three the not only how to

21:04

you. Shouldn't. Become aware.

21:07

Of what your current. Definition.

21:09

Of Rejection Failure as in your life. Sometimes

21:11

we don't realize that we associate them. It's

21:14

pain of rejection and failure. And as as

21:16

human beings are wired here you know blade

21:18

pina a cough and will stay stuck. We

21:20

won't go for things but then how to

21:23

redefine. Rejection. And failure and your

21:25

life in a way that. Each truly

21:27

believe. The. New definition of it.

21:29

From one that can be empowering. And

21:32

and also how to read, Know that.

21:34

Pastor Jackson been failures can a lot of

21:37

us have had so many of them and

21:39

they can be from someone few in our

21:41

personal lives with her as. And

21:43

as family who didn't atlanta the way

21:46

we needed it can be friend, professional.

21:48

Rejection. Their failures are in a personal

21:50

line, but a lot of like hang on

21:52

to them, let them honor that on as

21:54

like a label and kind of define who

21:56

we are in. It can feel like. We're.

21:59

Trying to. I would lead balloon

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detached to I mean when it comes

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to our software and felt really. Quickly.

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The beach. Adidas and in real time.

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That and behind his in your audience

22:10

is if you just imagine yourself right

22:12

now. Okay, we're going to do that.

22:14

Foreigners really quickly as okay send email

22:16

I wrote this. Entire litter we

22:19

saw, an entire book and

22:21

carbs. When you change the

22:23

relationship. With her Jackson you change your entire

22:25

life and but he would have had the

22:27

weekend warriors were to come out. They put

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it inside worthy. And is it's

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own standard chartered few and ready am

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it com You change your relationship with

22:36

rejection You change your entire as on

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day. One to either there's

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winning and winning tournament, This one

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to off. I'm. So excited Can

22:44

now after you said he said i'm

22:47

imagining everyone's the on the cats and

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when you literally learned so in chapter

22:51

eight and start when it sees a

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tie for this idea in my living

22:56

room endured hundred and one hundred hundred

22:58

jackson and failures. And. Didn't let

23:00

he grew at an identity or Southworth

23:03

level to the line and by three

23:05

average actions with failures different are confident.

23:07

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23:10

and reject or we're as failure and

23:12

I could take root. Identity level that hurts

23:14

our self. Worth a lot of a.

23:17

Mistake. Failures

23:19

past and grab. Past.

23:21

Rejection, their people, maybe even in

23:24

our family. Worth our experiences. In

23:26

life who had her ass and

23:28

make it feel like that painful

23:30

rejection? or. Perhaps. The people failure we

23:32

been. Hanging on t for years. And.

23:36

A. Lot about kinda cause us to

23:38

safe dark. Can. Cause F t

23:40

sabotage things and think are unworthy and then

23:42

fill. I go deep into this chapter com

23:44

and you change your relationship with rejection you

23:47

change your entire life and a going to

23:49

frame my club for ours and I'll just

23:51

do like a real. Quick overview.

23:53

Admits he was so many awesome. Many like when

23:56

you get the look at home and you go

23:58

through this in your life. No.

24:00

Powerful and and not only that

24:03

powerful for how you are going

24:05

in dream and embrace. Anything

24:07

that might bring rejection a failure

24:09

in the future. but it helps

24:11

to literally restraint have projections and

24:14

failures the they're no longer like.

24:16

Be the label. Dot Com you like

24:18

lead balloon on your we've been your

24:20

china fly and side go through hundred

24:23

yet so we'll do this together Mill

24:25

fast though. Everyone listening to I have

24:27

you been listening neitner you just become

24:30

more. Many remedies. Perry honest with yourself.

24:32

A lot of don't even realize we're

24:34

doing their best. Real honest with yourself

24:37

when you imagine yourself getting rejected or

24:39

feeling it and thing with the first

24:41

thought that you. Without. Thinking

24:44

about first thought you had when you get

24:46

rejected. Are you failed? Something. I. Suck.

24:49

I. Sat he asked her name most to

24:51

my life. it's yeah I'm not a math

24:53

is proof again and not enough time you

24:56

know, groups of people making some and then

24:58

finally based on any are as I sat

25:00

seminal are a lot more brutal like I'm

25:02

stupid, I don't have what it takes us

25:05

to the never even tried. So.

25:07

Everyone was the right now that first

25:10

thought you just sat. Down

25:12

and your current

25:14

definition. Of rejection.

25:16

For. Failure and if human being of

25:18

them were lives is my pain all

25:21

costs. And when we. Have

25:23

a dozen destroyed where the meaning we

25:25

had fear rejection and failure and won

25:27

a. Super people. Like. It's

25:30

a big reason we're not gonna go for. Things

25:32

are not going to put ourselves out there

25:34

were not gonna. We're gonna say that I

25:36

have because of blink that are com and

25:38

so. There's. A season and avenue

25:40

building my been kind of my living

25:42

room in a few years and to

25:45

legislate. Hundred and hundred and

25:47

rejection my just gotten wind. Really

25:49

painful rejection. From T V C

25:51

and a new and my got a new

25:53

Every Sunday we get still and meditator free

25:56

about it. I just. Knew this was

25:58

would be on Qb feet and. When

26:00

we have been pretend like in this

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case Qvc sesame you're not the right

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fit. For act or our

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customers and it would know after

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noted not eventually. House. We got

26:11

the biggest be burning Qvc sister.

26:13

It's at this point in time.

26:16

It. Had then you know a few years of

26:18

them thing know what? I did that this

26:20

one time I thought it's time we didn't

26:22

happen with most painful now and I didn't

26:24

know how the difference is gonna stay alive

26:27

and i enter a planning and or makes

26:29

hovers crying and i just decided to start

26:31

googling. Every. Single person admired

26:33

and business or who has helped

26:35

me of humanity forward or incredible

26:37

thought leaders and every single one

26:39

of them a trench. How many rejection

26:41

and sell years in their. Journey.

26:45

Of Greenland really to keep going? Anyways,

26:47

and dealing with the star and

26:49

these two are ours for me,

26:51

I rode out oh, rejection and

26:53

failure to that means and not

26:55

enough. Which is what I always

26:57

tell myself. it. Mean them or the

26:59

green line. Moon. He'd go to

27:02

the i'm Not, I'm in my life

27:04

on the sidelines and regret that I

27:06

mean just and eliminate the I decided

27:08

every rejection green yet like it'd be

27:10

Juliet means I'm one of the brave

27:12

ones wounded of which and I started

27:14

dick simulating the new definition them rejection

27:16

failure another one I use all the

27:18

time. It's ejections. God's protection if I'm

27:20

a cafe rejection, the universe with protection.

27:22

another one you could say rejection and

27:24

and put in the racks. Eight I

27:26

scan very rough and put in the

27:28

raps and one step closer and so

27:30

I. Started doing the toolbox new definition

27:32

that every time I have been and

27:34

experience another in Jackson or failure of

27:37

course my neural pathways in our brain

27:39

or deep I would be sent his

27:41

instantly to go back to. Yet I'm

27:43

not enough. But I would succeed in

27:45

fact that replace it with this new definition.

27:47

A new and will need him I thought to

27:49

be true. When you do not a

27:52

cheeky three like hundred beautifully deep lunch and

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worthy the book. but when when you write

27:56

you new definitions they have to fill true

27:58

to you. Corey level

28:00

and then you literally learn to replace

28:03

damaged arms to the first are a

28:05

to reveal right after reading that current

28:07

definition of rejection. the second ice to

28:10

redefine its I'd show me example of

28:12

invest in the black and rejection been

28:14

how I define them and how you

28:17

can in all the different areas of

28:19

your life and different style years. this

28:21

bird ours my favorite Go in and

28:23

cannot read visit ambitions where you. Really

28:26

to become aware of when it has

28:28

passed. Rejection. The spell

28:30

yours and that you're hanging on

28:32

florida and identity level. And is

28:34

to share the someone. With. And

28:37

the someone who needs to hear me like

28:39

if primates. Favorite line but I you

28:41

the most is you know if either

28:43

side somebody. Just. Oh my

28:45

gosh them a painful rejection someone who just

28:48

love the the way you need or didn't

28:50

feel value or broke your heart many I

28:52

sprang dress Holly that big part in I

28:54

pull the rug out from underneath. Either

28:56

betraying your media it's recently.

28:58

Applied for a job and right

29:00

so bad and you didn't damage

29:03

when this happens to meet. This

29:05

is my favorite look at things

29:07

in my life. is my favorite

29:09

definition. The third: I remember his

29:11

I literally imagine, but I imagine

29:13

God saying. To me oh you

29:16

rejected like I tunes eur.

29:18

Value from them because they're not

29:20

sound for your destiny. Wow.

29:23

That's cool. Don't need it, I believe.

29:26

That an extra level of the. Even to

29:28

this day with every. One. Of us

29:30

watch will want to be invited to Coffee

29:32

in the Not. We don't know why are

29:34

we didn't get invited to the pilots matter

29:36

what it is or maybe son in law

29:38

or a new friend in the you just

29:40

another on them and they do not like

29:42

you and you don't know why the matter

29:44

what you do a good can be a

29:46

kind With example I will literally apply this

29:48

definition for that the I don't let it

29:50

take root at like I'm rejected Something's wrong

29:52

with me. I'm not a nice and like

29:54

oh god time he may value from them

29:56

to the not assigned my destiny. I

29:58

believe that makes my. I

30:01

can look back at all deterrent them and didn't

30:03

see my barrel youths and asking that can be

30:05

like oh bank i mean anything and i'm kinda

30:07

if i ended up with him my life would

30:09

be a hot mess or whatever it is the

30:11

i have any hi good the for know how

30:13

to do that and where the with the for

30:15

our than it. When. It's when it's

30:18

warm bed and never heard that before. How?

30:20

and I'm I'm obsessed with your idea. You

30:22

can sit on the chance. To my

30:24

I have. Yet

30:26

to me assume it's aligned with mural the

30:28

morning right? because it's like this isn't a

30:30

book where it's like hey here's what you

30:32

gotta go do and how you're gonna through

30:35

the strategy to get out as a year

30:37

do. The thing is like no no literally

30:39

bizarre going to transform how you experience every

30:41

moment of your life and the Lynn's You

30:43

see your failures or challenges and I love

30:45

that you go into the revisit words like

30:47

not just the ones from now on. But.

30:50

You literally can go read, frame

30:52

your entire life in a way

30:54

that gives you peace, makes you

30:56

feel worthy and a whole and

30:58

deserving and from that place of

31:01

worthiness and homeless. Now you're like

31:03

oh, I. Can do anything So I

31:05

am so excited for this book out. Where

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is the best place for people to go

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to get get a copy? Seen the enter

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you get lots of free to think you'd get

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pressing the glittery i just. And so

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passionate about this presented feel

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like it's the windscreen and

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seen in any form, an

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it. I just think about the idea

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that will be brought in shared with

31:41

the world and bad. I'm healthy relationships

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that and the business or that will

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be lines the dream, the people after

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x and just and so excited about

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this is. So. Year and. A

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guest at about worthy with year and a

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leg. How close the express. Your feedback

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from he said selby some laughs.

32:00

Awesome! Will thank you and every listening.

32:02

I'd definitely go get a copy of Worthy.

32:04

I've already preordered my copy. I'm excited to

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receive it when it comes out which is

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this week I believe. And dogs Yeah Jamie

32:10

thank you for taking your struggles, your challenges,

32:12

how you overcame them paying of Forward and

32:14

Syria with the world because I think this

32:16

book syllabus a lot of lives and you

32:18

bless one lives and you bless mine. I

32:20

love you. I appreciate you think you so

32:23

much for doing this interview. Thank. You

32:25

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